Nadim Bashir – The Best and the Worst #04 – Private Matters

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The Prophet sallama is discussed, including two stories about the woman named Fatima and the man named Amran. The importance of protecting one's secret during a legal argument and being seen as volatile and dangerous is emphasized. Visiting a wedding can result in a violation of privacy, causing couples to be seen as volatile and dangerous. Sharing secret is not a complete waste of time.

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			Santa Monica Welcome to liberal care to Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah
while early he was a big marine about once Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was sitting with
all his wives, Father model the Allah on her walked in. I should have the yellow turned on her being
the most beloved wife of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, she's watching Fatima coming to
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam and the Prophet is saying something in her ear. And it says
that she he said something and she began to cry. After a while, he said something to her again in
her ear and she began to smile. Now this was really you know, I showed you Lagonda. She was very
		
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			curious as to what did was Allah Allahu Allah He was to them say, But father model the youth and on
how she never divulge the secrets of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, after the death of the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, I show the Allah to unhei went to Fatima or the Allah Allah and
said that can you please tell me exactly what did was Allah so Allah how are you? So I'm telling
you, I am so curious to know. Now since the Prophet saw some has already passed away, Father model
the love that I had on her decided to tell her exactly what the Prophet Abraham said to her. He said
she says that the Prophet sallallahu is some initially told me that every year Jabra er comes to me
		
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			and he reads the entire Quran to me once this year he came and he read the Quran to me twice, which
means is that my time leaving this world my time that I'm that is coming to leave this world has
come very close, and I'll be gone very soon. This brought tears to my eyes. And then he says that
Oh, Fatima, you will be a leader of a women or a group of women and Jana. And then she said that she
smiled. Even 100 Rahmatullah Allah he says, that the reason why Fatima did not divulge the secrets
of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is because number one, you can just imagine how sad she
was. Just imagine if she had told the eyeshadow, the yellow Tirana. And she would have told the
		
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			other wives of the Prophet SAW Salem, how upset they would be. So it'd been 100 explains that it was
wise for Fatima not to expose the secrets of the Prophet sallallahu sallam. Let me share something
else with you.
		
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			Once Amina Mahato, the Allah and this is the time when Hafsa his own daughter, her husband had
passed away. And now he was looking for another suitable spouse for his own daughter. What do you
do? You went to Albuquerque alota on and he offered his own daughter's hand in marriage to
Albuquerque Vilalta and Albuquerque alotta and he simply said, I need some time to think about it.
And he very kindly he just he, you know, he put the matter to rest a few days later, Rasulullah
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he's the one who proposed the dot the houses hand and marriage and
amaro the Allah and of course he accepted because there is no one better than us, Allah Allahu
		
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			alayhi wa sallam. But a few days later, when he met obika, again, he said that you had put the
matter to rest, you know, and he told oh, look at all the yellow time. In fact, obika is telling
Omar all the time, that I know you were upset and he says yes, I was upset over the whole time and
says that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had confided in me, he told me his desire to
propose to have sought or the EULA to Lionheart. And therefore me knowing that I cannot divulge his
secrets. The reason I shared these two stories is because these two tell us something very
interesting. The very first one is about a father and a daughter. The daughter is not exposing the
		
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			secrets and what her father had told her. In the other case, you have two people very close friends,
the Prophet sallallahu wasallam, and Albuquerque the yellow line. Albuquerque is not divulging the
secrets of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. The reason I share this is because today one of
the biggest issues that today we have in our families, and in our communities is that we are
exposing and we are informing other people about their secrets. Someone confides in us and we are
telling other people about what we know. In fact, what we find is there on the day of judgment to
there will be many people who will be in a state of pleasure, there will be in a state of good and
		
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			there'll be people who will be in a very distressing situation, and the Hadith of the Prophet
		
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			Something I want to share with you next tells us that of all the people who will be in a very
distressful situation. There are some who are going to be in extreme situation and the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he says in a hadith that mean in a shabby nurse in the law humanzee. The
attorney yarmulke Yama that the worst the most wicked and the most evil amongst the people in the
eyes of Allah subhanho wa Taala on the day of judgment is that man he says a Rajan youth the Emirati
worth of the NA he threw my yen shuru say Raha the Prophet sallahu wa salam says, that a man to
divulge and to expose and to tell other people about the intimate secrets between he and his spouse.
		
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			And when a person does this a person becomes very wicked, and a person is becomes very, a person is
very, in a very bad situation on the day of judgment, and He is despised by Allah subhanho wa taala.
And what we need to understand from this is that between a husband and a wife, there are certain
matters that we should not be sharing with anyone else. This is in fact, an Amana go and study the
books of Hadith and the shadow and the shadow of the Hadith. And the explanation of this, these are
Hadith and the Allah ma have mentioned that when a person goes and he tells other people about the
intimate secrets between he and his spouse, then this is a a Jana, this is a betrayal of the Amana
		
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			and a trust between a husband and wife. And it does not have to only be the intimate situations. But
in fact, if there are even situations or there are conversations between a husband and wife, and
they are understandably, between the two, they are to be kept a secret, and we go and we expose
those secrets and we divulge those secrets, then this person also is going to be despised on the day
of judgment in the eyes of Allah subhanho wa taala. So number one is that we have to understand that
this is truly an Amana, this relationship between a husband and wife. And what takes place takes
place between them is truly an Amana. And it is Subhanallah very sad. And I'm going to be very
		
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			honest here, that there are cultures around the world within our own Muslim countries, that somehow
while the day after a man gets married, or day after a woman gets married, you know, subhanAllah
family members, they surround the man or the woman, and they will they will try to push them. And
they'll try to you know, put pressure on them to divulge the secrets. You know what happened, you
know, last night and it was your first time Subhan Allah, and this is something that's completely
despised by Allah subhanho wa taala. Once again, what happens between a husband and a wife should be
always kept between a husband and wife. And you know, subhanAllah we find even in the case of
		
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			Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, that he is the best example for all of us. And what we learn
is that he had not one wife, he had multiple wives, but Subhanallah, you will see and you know, you
can study the books of a hadith, that no wife knew what is going on in the house of the other wife,
Rasulullah sallallahu, ala was someone never informed another wife, that yesterday I went to her
house, and this is what she said and this is what she did. The Prophet SAW Allah who is some kept
these matters very, very private, what happens at home stays at home, what happens at one particular
wife's house should remain over there and no one else needs to know it, the other wives do not need
		
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			to know it. So this is why it is very important that even within a family, even within a family, if
there is no need to divulge other secrets, then please do not. This is you know this is a violation
that is despised by Allah subhanaw taala. And not only that, but just think about this. Imagine if
you told someone a secret and you want them to keep it to themselves, and then they divulge that
secret how hurt would unite we feel likewise when we know something about someone in our family, we
should keep it absolutely to ourselves. I ask Allah subhana wa Taala to make us from amongst those
who are the best of the people I ask Allah subhana wa Tada to keep us away from those people who
		
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			will be considered as the most vile and the most wicked people on the Day of Judgment in this dunya
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