Nadim Bashir – Siblings Relationships

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Wakulla garden for now my bad. I ask Allah subhana wa Taala that just as he has gathered us here
today on this day of GEMA May Allah subhanho wa Taala gather as with our families, in general for
those of Allah in the companionship of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, I mean eurobodalla
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			brothers sisters, when we think about Islam, what exactly is Islam? Islam is not only praying Saud
five times a day, Islam is not only fasting in the month of Ramadan. Islam is not only reading Quran
when we get a chance. Islam is not only making Vica to Allah subhanho wa Taala the reason why
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he talked about family. And he said that the best amongst you
are those who are good to their family is because what we show outside to the entire world is our
Quran. When we showed you the entire world is our solid. We show the entire world our fasting and
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			All colors, and the true love of a human being is exhibited and how they behave at home. This is why
today Inshallah, in this football, I want to talk about a very serious issue. You know how many
times people have called me and they have talked to me about their issues, they have talked to me
about their family issues, their family dynamics, and SubhanAllah. One thing that I hear constantly,
and I felt like that enough was enough. And there is, you know, time has come that, you know, we
have to talk about this in the hotbar. And that is the importance of keeping family ties. When we
talk about family ties. Of course, this is a very broad subjects, a very broad subject, we can talk
		

			about maintaining a relationship with our family when it comes to our relatives, but I'm not going
to talk about even relatives today. I'm talking about your own blood family. Today. I've heard some
I mean, today, you hear so many cases, so many stories. When you ask people about their family. I
hear this so many times, we are 10 siblings, 10 Brothers and sisters, and none of us talk to each
other. We are eight siblings, none of us talk to each other. Brothers and sisters. What's so mind
boggling about this even more, is that when we talk about this disconnection, this severing a
relationship between siblings, it doesn't happen in other families, but it happens in the most
		

			religious families. It happens in the families that pride themselves on the we are religious. This
happens in families that pride themselves on that we are great supporters of Dawa, we do this. And
we do that these are people who recognize themselves, they see themselves as religious families, and
the most amount of severing of relationships is happening within the religious families. Think about
this for a moment, brothers and sisters. I know that every single parent wants their kids to remain
connected. We have three four kids, we always talk to our kids to support each other. We always talk
to our kids to look after each other. Today, mom and Bob are here tomorrow, Mama Bob are gonna are
		

			gonna be gone. You three, four are gonna have to look after each other. But don't you think it is
hypocritical, that when our kids when they see that my parents aren't telling me to remain
connected, but when I look at my own parents, and I look at my own uncles and my own aunts and so
forth, none of them are talking to each other. And is this the case not just for weeks, but for
years on end? Brothers and sisters it is part of our deen just like we believe in the importance of
the Quran. We believe in the importance of the Sunnah we believe in the importance of solid is the
cut and height and so forth. There is a great importance in our deen. There's a lot of emphasis upon
		

			keeping the relationship with the family. First of all is the prophets of Allah Almighty He was
sending him he says in a hadith Narrated by Abu Roylott or the Allah one in Allah to Allah Hello,
hello, hello. Hello. I'm in Hong Kong Matthew Ron, the Prophet saw some says that will Allah
subhanaw taala had created all the creatures and when he finished from creation from the task of
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			the ties of relationships stood up and he said he yeah Allah. Paul had Pamela EV becoming
		

			Paul and a matter of Lena and also an Ursula man was so lucky. Well up. Mankato, Rocky, Paulette
Bella call for that for that. Lucky. The problem is that Allah why are you someone says that at that
time, this concept of kith and kin stood up and said to Allah subhanho wa Taala Oh Allah at this
place, I seek refuge with you against severing my ties. Allah subhanho wa Taala said at that time,
that or that I treat with kindness, those who treat you with kindness, and I severed ties with those
who severed ties with you. And then it said it myself I am satisfied mean that Rahim said I am
satisfied Allah Subhana Allah Allah says this is for you. This is a Hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu
		

			alayhi wa salam and what we learned from this hadith in a nutshell is that our quality Listen to me
very carefully when I say this, our quality of the relationship between us and Allah subhanho wa
Taala is contingent upon our quality of relationship between our families. If I make it a point to
sever my ties with others, Allah will sever his ties with us. And if I keep my relationship and I
make a making an effort to remain connected with my family, Allah subhanho wa Taala remains with
that person. Another Hadith Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he talks about that those who
maintain a relationship, Allah subhanho wa Taala will increase in their wealth
		

			Allah subhanho wa Taala will increase in their lifespan on the Allahu Anhu called to Allah moment
and Sir become Matheson will be he or her Macomb for inner ciliata Rahim Maha button fill. Messiah
attune fill man, Mensa tune fill acid Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he is telling us that
teach your children learn about your lineage to facilitate this kith and kin. And this ties of
kinship. And then he's Anakin salaam says For indeed keeping the ties of relationship and kinship
encourages affection and love within the families and increases your wealth and it will increase
your lifespan. Today. Subhanallah I've whenever you meet families, they will tell you, especially
		

			the families, even though they have so much materialistic, you know, opportunities and they have so
much in their life, but with Allah He a family that is closely connected with each other siblings
are working with each other and they have a good heart within each other and they are around each
other with Allah He brings happiness to your life. We also find that in the Quran, Allah subhanho wa
Taala says for manda alpha alpha for ajuda. Who aren't Allah, think about this brother and sister
This is a very powerful verse, Allah subhanaw taala is telling us that those who make it a point
even though someone has done wrong to you, but if you make it a point to do solar, if you make it a
		

			point to reconcile that relationship, Allah subhanho wa Taala is telling us for a Jew who Allah
Allah mean that it is such an amazing reward that will be given to us by Allah subhanho wa Taala
that Allah did not even explain or he not even mentioned what reward it is. He just said it's an
amazing reward from Allah subhanho wa taala. On the other hand, we find also in the hadith of
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the punishment, the consequences regarding those who sever
relationships, the very first thing is Allah subhanahu wa taala will send his curse upon the person
who severs relationships. Allah says in the Quran, for HANA I say to him interval Latham and tuxedo
		

			fill out what to call to our Hi Macomb hola II can Edina La Nina whom Allah not only will Allah
subhana wa Taala send his curse upon them, Allah subhanho wa Taala will make them death and Allah
subhanho wa Taala will make them blind. What that means is it may not be in the physical sense, but
in the spiritual sense. Allah subhanho wa Taala will take away their ability to listen to what is
heard, and how many times you see in families, especially families are always cutting each other off
and families are always ruining relationships. When you sit there and you tell them brother sister,
this Avila Allah Allah says in the Quran, they don't want to hear it. For them, their ego is bigger
		

			than Allah subhanho wa Taala for them, their pride is bigger than Allah subhanho wa taala. For them
they would rather be the recipients of Allah's curse, and they would rather be made deaf and and
blind by Allah subhanho wa taala. But their egos are bigger than that. This is why Allah subhanho wa
Taala he mentioned this in the Quran, we also find the hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam, that a person who suffers relationships, their punishment is in this dunya and in the HERA
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he says in a hadith, that there is no wrong action, more
likely to bring punishment in this dunya in addition to what is in the ACULA than oppression, and
		

			severing ties of relationship heroes was salam in the Hadith, and he talks about volume and the
Hadith that he talks about lon he has connected a severing of relationships with the concept of one
brother and sisters, let's, let's open up our eyes. If there is issues in our family, if there's an
issue between ours between the siblings, let's try to come together and repair that relationship and
more than anything else. Think about this for a moment. You and I we pray we give sadaqa we do so
much. Why? Because we we want the ultimate price. We want Jana, we want the ultimate goal, we want
to reach our ultimate goal, but Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he tells us in a hadith and
		

			listen to this hadith, the Prophet alayhi salam says let your the whole janitor call Tehran do all
you want. We can strive our entire life. But think about this. If we are part of the problem, where
we are staying quiet in the face of the problem remember when you stay quiet in a family that is
your approval that shows that you are okay with people not talking to each other. The problem is are
some is telling us that a person who severs relationships, they will not enter into Jannah
		

			think about this once again, as I said earlier, how many religious families we talked about being
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			And yet we have this problem. This is a wake up call for all of us. And the last Hadith of the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the prophet Allah you Psalm says that the Amal, of the person
who suffers relationships, or who's a Messiah and who has these kinds of issues in their heart.
There are mine when people don't talk to each other in the family, their family are not present to
Allah subhanho wa taala. Your aamra is going to Allah subhanho wa Taala our hunch is going to Allah,
our Quran is not going to Allah, praise Allah as much as you want. None of that is going to Allah
subhanho wa Taala because we have an issue within our families, and we're not talking to each other.
		

			And when this happens, then our Arman ours are restricted, and they are they are in they are
suspended in the air, and they are not going to Allah subhanho wa taala. Brothers and sisters, we
might think we're doing so much but if we are part of the problem, remember that none of the hay
that we are doing is going to Allah subhanho wa taala. So then the question is that how do we fix
the problem? We don't have a lot of time I want to quickly run through this. How do you fix the
sibling rivalry problem within families? First of all, the advice for parents I have is do not play
favoritism favoritism amongst our kids. The minute you play favoritism amongst our kids, the minute
		

			you appreciate one over the other, the minute you demean one in front of the other, the minute you
are unfair to one compared to the other Wallah, you will lose your kids. They may not see something
today, but the minute they become 18 The minute they become 21 They're not going to want to do
anything with you and they're not going to want to do anything with their sibling. Most families
that have sibling issues. It's not because there was some other there are some other issues. The
main issue is the key issue is their parents were unfair between them. How often do we see that when
it comes to our boys we can let them go out to three o'clock in the morning four o'clock in the
		

			morning but when it comes to our girls, they have to be home by subtle McRib. I mean this disparity,
this unfairness. Why? Because they are girls and they have to get married and so forth. What about
our boys?
		

			They don't have to get married one day. You think they are just so you know, pious at times? Yes. If
you know your kids are at the masjid, for example. There's the Malay program that is taking place.
You understand the girls at the masjid, they are protected. The boys at the masjid they are
protected. But brothers and sisters, I mean, when we do this as parents, we will lose our kids and
our kids when they grow up. They're not going to want to be around each other. We also learn from
the hadith of us who also Allahu alayhi wa sallam the father of normal living machinery Hola, Juan.
He is coming to the salt Solomon saying that I want to give my son a gift Rasulullah saw someone's
		

			asking him, are you going to give everyone else a gift? He says no, I'm gonna give only one child.
Only one child of mine a gift. Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, I'm sorry, I don't want
to be part of this process. This man came asking for the blessings of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam when Rasul Allah says, Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam saw that this is going to
cause an issue and this is not right, what the father is doing. Rasulullah saw some he clearly he
backed away from that situation for the siblings. What do we learn from this? And how can we
maintain a relationship? Number one is do not ever cross the boundaries with your sibling, do our
		

			boundaries, boundaries of respect, especially when it comes to families learn how to be respectful
to each other. One the most. One of the things that breaks the families apart, especially when they
grow up is when they are comparing one child against the other. My child is this and their child is
this and when you create a sense of competition, clear competition, this will sever the hearts
because any mother and father they care about their child but when they see that their sibling is
coming around and they're always comparing and so forth. This becomes very very problematic down the
road. Also, we learned that just like how to not only get Salam and Musala you some is a story that
		

			we find of siblings Musa you some had a stuttering issue, he cannot you cannot communicate very
clearly. Yet when Allah subhanho wa Taala he gave this MACOM this this de Raja this honor to Musa
alayhis salam Musala you Sam He's telling Allah subhanho wa Taala Haruna he was due to be here as
the that he's telling Allah subhanho wa Taala that I need support send my brother Harun Harun was
older than Musa alayhis salam, but never did Haruna overstep his boundaries never did Harun say to
Musa you cannot communicate clearly. Let me communicate on your part on your behalf. What we learned
from this is when it comes to siblings do not create cross the boundaries of respect with each
		

			other. Also, what we learn from the Quran is especially from the story of use of our youth Salaam
and his brothers, clearly there was sibling rivalry in their rivalry there. But what we learned from
this is the importance of making sure you let go brothers and sisters do
		

			We're always going to be some people in the family who have to let go, who have to have their vision
and their goal in their eye on the bigger prize of Allah subhanho wa Taala use of Allah is some
sees. He's now the financial minister of Egypt. He sees his brothers, he has flashbacks, a person
cannot run away from the memories, he has those memories he remembers. But at that time, he never
held that against them, he remembered and he realized that they are a need and they are in support.
And even after they were made aware that this is the same person that they harmed, and they threw
into the well real use of out of use and did not use that against his own brothers. So what we
		

			learned from this is that sometimes we have to put aside our ego for the bigger goal and anyone as a
Prophet sallallahu it was somebody who says that a hadith Montoya Allah Rafa hula, whoever lowers
themselves, Allah will elevate them, Allah will elevate them. Today we have a belief in our
families, that the one who says sorry, first, he is the weak one, you may think that he's the weak
one. But according to Allah subhanho wa taala. He is the one who has the most amount of strength
according to Allah, He is the one who is the most beloved in the family. So that is why let's lower
the solar ego and let's try to bring our families together. Ask Allah subhana wa Taala to make us
		

			we're amongst those who who have a connected family may Allah subhanho wa Taala make us amongst
those who bring people together who reconcile between people and not several people and several
relationships I mean noble Allah mean but Allah Allah Anna welcome Phillip Quran Alim whenever I
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			Bismillah Rahman Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa Salatu was someone that also the Muhammad
wa ala alihi wa sahbihi. Marine about last thing I will saying is people come and they say I've done
my part. Yeah, sure. I reached out to my family. They want nothing to do with me. If that is the
case, you've done your job, but you have to do a sincere, sincere job about it. You have to reach
out to them sincerely not just call them one time and say you know what, I've done my job No, go out
of your way. Once again, lower your ego and Allah subhanho wa Taala will elevate you. I ask Allah
subhana wa Taala to make to grant us families that will bring peace and happiness to our lives. We
		

			ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to rectify our relationships. We ask Allah subhana what that to bring
our hearts together as a family and as a community. I mean eurobodalla Mean, Aloha Muslim Islam.
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