Nadim Bashir – Muhammad the Best Example #02 Consoling the Family of the Deceased

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			Salam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh Bismillah Herman or Haman hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa
Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah Muhammad. While he was so happy he married about Welcome to another
segment of Padova tuna our role model Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. One of the most
important things about this series inshallah will be is that we understand many things in this dunya
but at the same time, we don't understand at times, how would Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam do
certain things, and this is the real purpose of this entire series, that how word Rasulullah
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he would deal with different situations, many times we have a certain
		

			level of awareness, but a lot of times we are put in situations and we think that there is something
that is prescribed from the Sunnah of the Prophet because our of our cultures that we come from, but
in fact, the reality is that sometimes they are not from the Sunnah of the Prophet SAW Salem, and
when we say the life of the prophet, we learned that he would do things slightly differently. Today,
Inshallah, I want to talk about something that many of us are dealing with today. Subhanallah during
this whole COVID situation, this pandemic situation, one of the things that we have seen abundantly
is the loss of lives in our own community. Subhanallah nearly every single day, you hear that
		

			someone has passed away somewhere, and you know, subhanAllah there are normal deaths and then there
are COVID related deaths. And first of all, I pray to ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada that anyone who has
passed away, whether it's COVID, related, non COVID, related May Allah subhana wa Tada, forgive
them, may Allah have mercy upon them, and may Allah enlightened their graves and make their graves
that garden of paradise and mutable Alameen. So now when we are going through the situation, that
where there are so many losses of lives in our community, and as a good person, as you know, having
a good heart, we always want to go and help someone else out. The question is that what is the right
		

			way of doing that? And how do we learn that from Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has taught us that how he would go and how he would console those people
who have lost loved ones. A very well known story that we find in the theater of the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is a story of xenophobia, Latina, unhappy, that when her child was
passing away the province, Assam he went, and the child was breathing. It's last the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he has tears, you know, coming from his eyes rolling down his face, and
the Sahaba they're sitting there and they're asking, yeah, rasool Allah is this against Saba, like
		

			you are shedding tears, and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he clearly tells them that this
is not against a sober sober is that you don't say something you don't utter something that will be
considered as disrespectful to Allah subhanho wa taala. Whereas showing your emotional side is not
against our deen showing our emotional side shedding tears, there is absolutely nothing wrong with
it. So here we learn that the prophet has some how he was there at the moment when someone is about
to pass away. But then we also learn in the story of Jaffa polypro the ultra on that when he had
come back from Abyssinia, he has just come back from Abyssinia, not long after that there's a battle
		

			that takes place and he goes there and he passes away in that in that battle. And this was of course
very difficult upon Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam very difficult upon his own family. And it is
mentioned that when the Prophet saw La Jolla, some he appeared when he heard he dropped everything
that he was doing. And he went to go and console the family of Java API ABI Taalib, or the Ultra and
so what we learned from this is that number one, to console someone is absolutely and it is, in fact
highly recommended. But then here's the problem that we have is that many times we don't know how to
console someone else. So what do we learn from the Prophet SAW Selim, the Prophet alayhi salam went
		

			to their home and the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam, he he gathered the children and the
Prophet SAW son while the children were sitting around him there was in fact one or two children
sitting on his lap. You know, this was the way the problem some of you some he will show affection
and he began to cry. The wife she immediately realize that Jaffa has perhaps passed away and he has
he has become a Shaheed
		

			And he she asked has Jaffa died is Jaffa gone? And when the Prophet SAW sent him, he nodded his head
in the affirmative, she began to cry, she began to, you know, raise her voice. And the Prophet saw
some he had to ask her to be patient doesn't mean that he the prophet is not saying not to cry, the
primary, some saying that, you know, when she's getting upset, and she's saying things, perhaps
something may come out of her mouth, which is not right. So there probably is some is telling the
other woman folk that calm her down and try to be there on her side. So the province has some is
there to console the family. Because when someone passes away in someone's family, what we need to
		

			do is that we need to make the situation easy for them. What did the Prophet sallallahu alayhi
wasallam do, He then ordered his own daughter, father, mother, the Elata, on how to arrange food for
their family. So what we learned from this is that when someone passes away in our community, when
when the family is going through the loss of a deceased one, then what we need to do is that we need
to be there for that family. That means that if we need to set up a meal train, and set up a system
where people can bring food to their home, this is something that we learn from the Sunnah of the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and this is very, very highly recommended. The next thing that
		

			we also learn for the Prophet SAW Salem is that he never would send a many people to their homes.
Subhanallah one of the things that we find very common, and many of us have actually believed that
this is actual part of deen is that people would go and they go to their homes. And then you know,
what happens is that this becomes very burdensome upon the families think about it, the family, the
people are coming, and the family feels obligated that we need to serve tea, we need to serve
snacks. So here the family is, you know, they're they're grieving over the death of their loved one.
But at the same time, they have to meet the expectations of their guests and so forth. And the
		

			guests are coming in. So there are a few things that we have to keep in mind regarding this number
one is that it is not right, that when people go abundantly to their homes, and then they you know,
they feel that they feel obligated, they have to serve something. So first of all, is that for
everyone in the community, please make it a point that you should not just go and like you know,
make it a point to go and put this pressure on the family and so forth. They need time to heal, they
need time to get through this difficult time. So as a community member, as a Muslim, as an
ambassador of Islam as a follower of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, rather, we should call
		

			that family and ask Is there anything that we can do? Many times a family may say, out of
humbleness, they may say no deductible, okay, we don't need anything. But you go out of your way to
do something for that family, you know, arrange for some food for that family, take care of their
groceries, find out do they have any children, the children need to be taken to school, for example,
you know, help them go to school, if someone needs to be taken somewhere, sometimes Subhanallah
there might be even a person of disability in that family, reach out to them find out do they need
anything, as a community, we have to make this burden easy for them. So that's the first thing is
		

			that we should not just go in flocks to their homes, and just you know, occupy their homes. And then
here on one side, they're trying to get over the laws. And then on the other hand, they feel the
need to entertain their guests. Another thing that we learned also is that many times I've seen that
people just come unannounced. If the family is saying that you can come at this certain time, then
you should you should respect their time. If they say that there's a two hour window, people need to
respect that. And so this is something that we learned even from our Alma Imam Shafi Rahmatullah
Allah Allah is mentioned by Imam nawawi. The Imam Shafi Rahmatullah Ali and his students, they would
		

			dislike going to people's homes, especially the families who have who have just lost their loved
ones, because he would understand what people are going through. So this is how Rasulullah salAllahu
alayhi wa sallam he would treat the situation and this is how you will deal with a situation. And
this is what we need to do. Also, reach out to the family, see if they need anything, do something
for them in sha Allah, see what other things that they haven't take care of, and be there for them
not just be there for a short moment of time find out you know, subhanAllah I've seen that there are
families that go out of their way to help the children sometimes a father passes away and the mother
		

			is by herself and she has, you know, three or four children. You know, it is our responsibility to
reach out find out what their children need, you know, be there for them. Send sometimes our
children over there, bring their children over to your place make this difficult time an easy one. I
asked Allah Subhan
		

			What Allah to make us like our, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam May Allah make us truly our
May Allah make him truly our codeword tuna our role model and may Allah give us ability to follow
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