Nadim Bashir – Khatira – How To Ask Forgiveness From Someone Who Has PassedAway

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The importance of apologizing for past mistakes and weaknesses is emphasized, as it can be difficult to do so. The rules of the Muslim community are based on actions and anyone making up for someone should be made aware of their actions. It is important to show history and avoid forgiveness in a situation where they become angry, as it can lead to forgiveness. The speaker emphasizes the need to show parents' history and avoid forgiveness in a situation where they become angry.

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			Today in sha Allah, this, we've hearted up, I want to address a question that often people they
asked me. And once again, it is a question that really is a very valid question. But many people do
not usually address these kinds of questions. And that is that what can I do for someone who has
passed away? You know, people have told me that I got into an argument with someone. And we got a
very bitter argument, we didn't want to talk to each other, and Subhanallah and the next day after I
did not want to talk to this person, I told him, I don't want to talk to him, he passed away. Some
people have come and asked me that they got into a an argument with their parents. And they were so
		
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			you know, they were under a lot of, you know, emotional pressure. And then in a day or two, their,
their, their parents, one of their parents passed away. So the question often comes up is that, is
there anything I can do for someone who I have perhaps wronged, and they have now passed away? Is
there anything I can do to make up for the wrongs that I have done, or even if we have done one upon
anyone else, first of all, is that while we are alive, we are human beings, we may do something
wrong to someone. And we have to always remember that though they may not be any kind of
consequences of this dunya though that made that person may come to us you may be upset. But if we
		
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			have truly wrong someone that remember that ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada will most certainly hold us
accountable on the Day of Judgment, there is nothing called a free rein, there is nothing called
actions without consequences. If I have done something that is wrong, and you know, a lot of times
shaytaan will come to us and say, You haven't done anything wrong. You ask yourself this one
question when that whenever you ask that question to yourself, or whenever you have this thought
that I probably have not done anything wrong to this person, ask yourself this one question that
what if you were on the wrong end of this? What if someone did the same thing to you? Would you like
		
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			it? So this is why you will have the answer. If you know that if someone else did the same thing to
you, you will not like it, that if you did the same thing to someone else, there is no way that
other person is going to like it. So first of all, is we tried to keep all of our accounts clear.
And once again, we're human beings, there might be some error on our part, we may not even realize
it and that is why we always ask ALLAH SubhanA wa Taala for forgiveness, but at the same time, what
if I know I have wronged someone, perhaps years later, Allah subhanaw taala has given me a better
understanding of Deen I've become more spiritual in my life. And I realize there's something wrong
		
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			that has gone on and I need to make it right so the question is, what can we do? First of all, the
hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam found in Sahih Muslim Narrated by Abu Huraira or
the Allah one where the Prophet salallahu arte he was somebody who says when a person dies, all of
his good deeds, they come to a pause, except for three number one is a continuous charity sadaqa
jariya number two is our in one unit effort will be knowledge that people are benefiting from and
number three the prophesy some says a righteous child whose supplicates and make dua to Allah
subhanho wa taala. Now, the Almighty say that all these three things, in fact, even the third one,
		
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			though Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has said that a righteous child mean that person was
passed away their child this was the property some as mentioned there, Allah ma are pretty much
unanimous on this idea that this is not only restricted to the child, but is expands upon everyone
it's a general idea and a general instruction meaning that if anyone makes dua for someone else,
then inshallah they'll benefit from that dua. We also find those who also Allahu alayhi wa sallam
making dua so many times for the deceased, if that dua was of no avail, if there was no benefit
behind that dua, why would Rasul Allah so Allah Azza make dua for others when Abu Salah Pat was
		
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			passing away, and that's why someone's making dua for him. There are people who came whose Janaza
were brought before Rasul Allah, so Allah why do you send them the Prophet Allah you some made dua
for them. So once again, in this hadith, when we find that a child who makes dua for their parents,
it's this rule is not only restricted to the child, it's a very general very general instruction.
That means that you can make dua for anyone in general Inshallah, they will benefit from that drop.
In fact, we also find a hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that a man will be raised
on the day of judgment. And he will ask when he sees that there is so much hate, and there's so much
		
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			good behind his name. And on his skill, a person will ask on the Day of Judgment, yeah, Allah Where
did all this come from? And the person will say Allah subhanho wa Taala will respond by saying that
such and such person may do all for you as a result of his dua for you. This is why you see all this
good on your skill on the Day of Judgment. So this is why is always good that we make dua for
someone asking ALLAH SubhanA wa Taala for forgiveness for that person and
		
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			so forth. This is how we can benefit someone who has passed away. Now the question is that what if?
Because I've had this question before, what if there was an issue between me and another person, and
I accused this person of some wrongdoing? And I told everyone in their family have something wrong
that he did, or she did. Or I told people in the community have something wrong that he or she did.
How do I make up for that now that I realized that I was the one who was wrong? And they're the ones
who are right, how do you make up for that? The alumni have stated, if your accusation was a private
accusation, meaning that if you told the family members about the wrongdoing of him or her, although
		
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			first of all, is you don't need to spread anything wrong that you find with someone, there's no need
to spread that this is how problems occur in the community. Allah subhanho wa taala, he tells us a
certain note, in the story of if regarding our mother, I shall have the Allah Allah, Allah subhanho
wa taala. He says that when the rule of the community is, when you hear something, when you hear a
rumor, when you hear any kind of information, your first reaction should be a personal one, your
first reaction should be is that till I don't have all the facts, this person is clear in my books,
and I'm not, I'm not going to generate any kind of preconceived notions regarding this person. This
		
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			is what Allah subhanaw told us in the Quran. But once again, what if that situation happens, if once
again, if the family members, you told the founding members and their reputation took a hit, and was
damaged in their family, you need to own up, you want to make it better, you need to own up to that
family and say, I did something that is wrong. I'm the one who falsely accused this person, and this
person is in the free, he's clear. I'm the one who was wrong. And if you made a public accusation,
now, once again, you may feel that you know what, I only told one person, but you know, what happens
in our Muslim community, right? You tell one person, and you say, please do not tell someone, they
		
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			go to the next person. And they're saying, don't tell them, I'm telling you something, please not
tell someone, and it goes to three to four to 10 to 20. And then later on, the entire community
knows, it started from you. And so in that situation, when there is an accusation, or there's a
rumor that becomes public, and you were the very beginning, you were the beginning, the absolute
beginning, or you weren't, you were one of the very first people who knew about it, and you spread
it, the best way to make up for something like that, if they have passed away is you have to make a
public apology, you have to make a public apology, the fact that you ruin that person's reputation
		
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			in the society, now you have to stand up in front of the entire society and say that I did something
that is wrong, I did something that is wrong. So this is why these are the ways that if you have
done something that is wrong, this is how you make up for that. What if another question has been
asked, What if I have to loan someone something? Or I took money from someone and I did not pay
them? Now later on, I realize that this is an Amana now I realized that I need to pay this person
back. What do I do in that kind of situation? The general opinion is that go in take the money
you're supposed to owe them and put it into sadaqa. That's wrong. That's wrong. By the way, the very
		
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			first course of action is you give it to the family members. And that money that you give to the
founding members, they will spread it amongst their heirs, the heirs who do exist at that time. And
once if you cannot find the errors, and you have searched and searched and searched and you've
inquired, and yet you have not gone anywhere, you've not come up with any results. Only in that kind
of situation. Can you take that money you're about to give to someone and
		
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			give it in South Africa. Now, the next thing is that what about
		
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			even when you for example, you said something to someone, use you curse someone, you hurt someone
their feelings and so forth. The best thing that once again you can do is make dua for them do a
certain area on their behalf. Now, finally, parents, What if something happened? And while you were
young, you know, first of all, when it comes to parents, I do have to say this. Often I do
understand that it's not easy being a parent, so many times you get frustrated. Sometimes there
might be something that may come out of your mouth also, which is not the best thing. First of all
those who also large sums has taught us that when it comes to parents, do not make any kind of dua
		
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			against your child, no matter how upset you are, no matter how angry you are. Why? Because that
could be the moment of is to Jabu Dawa. That could be the moment where your eyes are accepted. And
by the way, I've seen examples of this, where someone said something against their child, and they
said that you know what either set it out of anger, but Subhanallah lo and behold, something very
tragic happened to their kids. Later on. They would say that my parents made this dua against me and
when
		
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			When their parents were approached about this about this later on, they would say that we only said
it in the moment of anger, we not actually mean it. But once again you have to understand as
parents, that if you say something about your child or to your child and you make dua against them,
and that is the moment of of where the dwarfs are accepted, then you are putting yourself in a very
difficult situation. So I understand if you get upset if you get angry, make dua for their guidance,
make dua for their hedaya Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam tells us in a hadith, that what to do as they
are not rejected by Allah subhanho wa Taala is when a father makes dua for their child so that is
		
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			why we make dua for our children rather than making dua against them we make dua for them in the in
the case of failure but I'm gonna dose God Allah when he came to us Lhasa Sammy says, get us to
Allah, my told my nation is not accepting your son, make dua against them. Rasulillah Salam, what
did he do when it came to strangers when it came to strangers to what do you do? He raised his hand
and what do you say? Allahu multidose Oh, Allah, give guidance to those, give guidance to those. And
guess what, who came from those later on in the life of the Roswaal salaam, Abu Huraira, the hola
Juan came from that tribe. The fact that he could make dua against them has never been destroyed.
		
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			The fact that prophets or somebody made dua for them, and from them came the man who near a V most a
Hadith from Allah salAllahu alayhi wa sallam. So that is why do not indulge in a moment of
frustration and anger. Do not make dua against your children. But the question is that what a first
of all is your parents, you and your parents get into a you know, sometimes, sometimes your
arguments sometimes are back and forth. But now you feel bad. In that situation, you go back to your
parents and you ask them for forgiveness. Our our Quran teaches us that in the case that when your
parents become elderly, you have to give them company and no matter what the situation is yesterday
		
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			may be unreasonable. The Quran does not say that if they're unreasonable, then you stay away from
them. If they're reasonable, then you say with them, no, the Quran says was Sahiba homomorphic
dunya, ma rufa that give them company and be good to them, no matter how unreasonable they are with
you. You don't have to agree to them necessarily, but you have to show them and respect so if your
parents are alive, then you go to them and you try to make amends. But what if your parents have
passed away? The Quran teaches us that you make dua for them rubbish I'll name okay masala to
Missoula Yeti Robina with Acaba, Roberto filly while you were here with me, Nina Yomi. I've always
		
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			make dua for your parents and always do some head for your parents. And once again, whenever we do
these kinds of things, because remember, if we've done something that is wrong to someone, that the
the story in the book is not the book is basically has not come to an end, the story has not come to
an end, we will have to see that person in the hereafter. Now if that person sees that because of
your DUA, because of your hierarchy, because of your sadaqa because of your forgiveness, are you
seeking forgiveness for that person? Allah subhanaw taala has elevated that person, perhaps when
when a person sees that in the Hereafter, they will say, I forgive you for the sake of Allah
		
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			subhanho wa Taala because once again, we will not be able to go into Jannah till our differences are
not reconciled that is a reality. So that is why perhaps we do something good for someone, ALLAH
SubhanA wa that will tell them all this good that you see is because of this person. And because of
that, remember, we will not forget also we will not forget who has done us wrong and so forth,
because the higher the profit of some tells us very clearly the hadith of bankruptcy so we will
remember, but if we see if someone else sees that you've done so much for them, perhaps they will
let you go and perhaps they will forgive you on the Day of Judgment. I ask Allah subhanho wa Taala
		
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			to make us amongst those whose records are cleaned May Allah subhanho wa Taala make us are amongst
those whose hearts are clean and we forgive others and Allah subhanaw puts mercy in the hearts of
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