Nadim Bashir – Don’t Judge Me

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The speakers discuss the importance of understanding one's position and holding to their standards, as judge's authority is based on their level of authority. They stress the need for continuous reflection and avoiding judgments. The discussion also touches on the Muslim community's negative promotion of the Olympics and the importance of avoiding judgments and showing mercy towards others. The segment ends with a message to stop the Muslim culture and fulfill the Muslim obligation to promote good and prevent evil.

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			He have lived here from the day 1
		
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			of this masjid. We know him.
		
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			Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala have tested,
		
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			him and his entire family.
		
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			All of his children
		
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			requires
		
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			kidney
		
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			transplant, and
		
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			this is something that
		
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			it's not in anybody's control. I mean, there's
		
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			if if it was money, it was something
		
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			that
		
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			there will be many people that will step
		
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			forward to do this, but
		
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			they require O positive.
		
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			Their blood group is O positive.
		
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			If anyone you have the O positive and
		
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			you're willing to take
		
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			this opportunity,
		
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			please reach out to me or any of
		
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			the board member or our imam,
		
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			then I'm gonna connect you, inshallah, with the
		
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			family.
		
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			It's o positive. Anybody listening online,
		
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			this is East Plano Islamic Center Masjid here
		
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			in Plano, Texas.
		
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			We are looking for
		
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			a donor, a kidney donor with the o
		
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			positive.
		
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			There's a family, they're young
		
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			son
		
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			and daughters. They're very young. They're all requires
		
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			the kidney transplant. Zazaqqalakaer. Assalamualaikum.
		
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			There's a lot of request for duas. So
		
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			I'm just gonna make a one general du'a.
		
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			We ask Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
		
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			that all those who are sick in our
		
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			community. May Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala give them
		
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			Also,
		
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			everyone who has passed away, may Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa ta'ala have mercy upon them. There is
		
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			one sister who has just texted me right
		
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			now. Her name is Sarah Sayed. She's requesting
		
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			dua for her father who just passed away.
		
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			His name is Sayed Ahmed. We ask Allah
		
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			to have mercy upon him and all those
		
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			who have passed away. May Allah
		
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			have mercy upon them, enlighten their grave, and
		
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			give the family.
		
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			I ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala that just
		
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			as he has gathered us here today on
		
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			this day of jama'ah, may Allah subhanahu wa
		
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			ta'ala gather us along with our families in
		
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			the companionship of Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam and
		
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			his sahaba Aminirubalalamin.
		
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			Brothers and sisters,
		
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			as a Muslim community,
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala wants us to thrive.
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala wants us to thrive
		
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			externally
		
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			and internally.
		
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			In order for us to thrive internally,
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has given us
		
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			a set of standards.
		
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			A set of laws.
		
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			A set of practices
		
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			that are highlighted
		
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			throughout the entire Quran.
		
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			That these are the things that you must
		
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			observe in your community
		
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			in order to keep the hearts united.
		
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			And these are the things you must stay
		
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			away from
		
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			because these are the things that are the
		
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			sources of destructions
		
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			in your community.
		
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			It does not matter how big of a
		
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			community we have, but if the hearts are
		
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			united,
		
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			then we will be able to move forward.
		
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			We will work in unison.
		
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			We will we will work in, as a
		
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			collective unit, and we can do much for
		
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			our community.
		
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			But if there's a lot of people in
		
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			the community,
		
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			but there is no heart, their hearts are
		
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			divided,
		
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			Then no matter how big of a community
		
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			we have,
		
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			our impact will be very very less.
		
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			Amongst the many things that Allah subhanahu wa
		
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			ta'ala has mentioned in the Quran,
		
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			things that we should do and things we
		
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			should not do, today in this khutbah, I
		
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			want to highlight only one particular thing, insha'Allah,
		
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			and really expand on this one issue that
		
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			we have today in our Muslim community, and
		
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			that is the topic in the subject is
		
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			judging each other.
		
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			Passing a verdict
		
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			regarding each other.
		
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			First of all, is that when we talk
		
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			about the concept of judgment,
		
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			why is a judge called a judge?
		
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			Because first of all, the judge has a
		
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			certain level of authority,
		
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			And I want you to keep this word
		
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			in mind, authority. Because I'm gonna come back
		
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			to this. But the judge has a certain
		
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			level of authority, and what they do is
		
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			that they listen to both sides of the
		
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			story. They reflect on the situation,
		
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			and then they pass a verdict.
		
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			If there's only one,
		
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			only one who has
		
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			the true authority to be judgmental,
		
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			it is only and only Allah
		
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			Allah
		
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			has that authority
		
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			to be a judge, and that is why
		
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			we all know, and I've said this before
		
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			in my khutbas,
		
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			that on the day of judgment, Allah will
		
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			not just only be the judge, but he
		
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			is judge, he is jury, and he is
		
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			executioner.
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is everything in this
		
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			dunya and in the akhirah.
		
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			So when we talk about interacting with each
		
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			other, and often we are always judging each
		
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			other. First of all, we have to understand
		
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			that this is a right.
		
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			Listen to me very carefully when I say
		
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			this. Judging each other
		
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			is a right that belongs
		
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			only to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. Yes, we're
		
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			human beings. Yes, we might judge each other
		
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			here and there. But that is when we
		
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			need to understand our position, and we need
		
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			to realize that what we have done, or
		
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			what we have probably thought about others may
		
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			not be the right thing. So today, quickly
		
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			inshallah, I want to talk about 4 things.
		
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			Four things that can lead us to being
		
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			judgmental towards others.
		
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			First of all is that a person who
		
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			is judgmental towards each,
		
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			to someone else is because usually of their
		
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			ego.
		
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			Ego is called takabbur. Takabbur is a component
		
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			of 2 things. Number 1 is,
		
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			as the prophet alaihi sallam says. One is
		
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			to belittle someone else. To think that they
		
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			are inferior
		
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			to you.
		
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			Why? Because you look at them, they may
		
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			not have a beard. You look at them,
		
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			they may be wearing different clothes. You look
		
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			at them, they might be living a certain
		
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			lifestyle,
		
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			and right away you pass a judgment regarding
		
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			them. Why? Because you think, we might think,
		
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			that we're more righteous than them. We might
		
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			think that if I was in their position,
		
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			I would not be doing what they're doing
		
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			today. And so that is why we think
		
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			that often we are better than them. And
		
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			often,
		
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			these kind of people who have an ego
		
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			in their heart, their hearts are filled with
		
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			takabbur.
		
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			Often,
		
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			they don't even look at their own flaws,
		
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			but they are focused on the flaws of
		
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			others.
		
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			Or
		
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			what they may do is,
		
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			something that someone may have done a long
		
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			time ago,
		
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			they will usually recall that situation,
		
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			and they will hold them to that standard.
		
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			Let me give you an example.
		
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			When Musa alaihis salam was in
		
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			in in Misra,
		
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			he was a young man. He went outside.
		
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			He saw 2 people fighting,
		
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			and unintentionally
		
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			unintentionally,
		
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			he tried to simply push that person. He
		
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			tried to shove the other person. What happened
		
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			is that as Allah
		
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			recalls in the Quran,
		
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			Musa alayhis salam either pushed him, shoved him,
		
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			something happened, but Allah
		
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			decreed that this person would die because of
		
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			that one hard push.
		
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			And Fir'aun sent all of his army, all
		
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			of his police officers,
		
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			his secret intelligence, and so forth, to go
		
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			and capture Musa alaihis salam. Musa alaihis salam
		
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			is approached by a young man who tells
		
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			him that you need to leave these these
		
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			people, and go to a different land. That
		
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			is when he went to Madyan. There's a
		
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			story that takes place in Madyan, which I'm
		
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			not gonna get into right now. But on
		
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			his way back,
		
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			on his way back, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
		
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			he gives
		
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			Musa alayhi salam
		
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			He makes them a Prophet, and then he
		
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			sends them to, Bani Israel. And he sends
		
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			them to Firaun. And Musa alaihis salam knows
		
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			very well. He's very scared of going and
		
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			approaching,
		
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			Firaun.
		
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			But when Musa alaihis salam actually went to
		
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			Firaun,
		
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			think about the judgmental
		
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			nature of Firaun.
		
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			Look at how sarcastic he is in judging
		
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			Musa alaihis salam. Musa alaihis salam accidentally
		
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			took the life of 1 person.
		
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			But on the other hand, this tyrant
		
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			had killed so many babies,
		
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			so many children, and yet he had the
		
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			audacity
		
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			to sit there and question Musa alaihis salam.
		
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			And look at the words
		
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			he used that is highlighted in the Quran.
		
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			Quran. A very sarcastic remark made by, made
		
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			by Firaoun. And look at the way he's
		
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			trying to call out Musa alaihis salam.
		
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			This is a sign of judging someone else.
		
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			A person who overlooks their flaws,
		
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			and is focused on the flaws of others,
		
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			or like in the case of Musa alaihis
		
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			salam, something that happened so many years ago.
		
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			Now Fir'aun is bringing that back up, and
		
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			he's trying to judge him.
		
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			Musa, when that happened, when the when this
		
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			incident happened,
		
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			That Musa, and now this Musa, are 2
		
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			different people. But you see, the nature of
		
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			a judgmental person is that you want to
		
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			recall the past, not understanding that this person
		
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			may have changed by now, but you wanna
		
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			talk about the past, and hold them to
		
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			that standard. This is something that often happens
		
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			in our community. How often I have heard
		
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			that, Oh yeah, this person, he did something
		
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			a long time ago. Who knows? Yes, today
		
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			the society knows about that one person. They
		
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			may not They may know about the sin
		
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			of that one person, but that person who's
		
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			being judgmental,
		
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			should be thankful to Allah
		
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			Because they have skeletons hanging in their closet
		
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			too. They have done things too, that they
		
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			are so ashamed of, that if the community
		
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			found about them But Allah
		
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			has hidden that sin of theirs. So instead
		
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			of being judgmental towards others,
		
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			rather we should make dua for them. Rather
		
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			we should make dua to make everything easy
		
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			for them, and we should not judge them
		
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			or their character for what they have done.
		
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			And this is a sign of ego, and
		
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			a sign of takabur.
		
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			The second thing that often happens is, when
		
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			it comes to being judgmental towards others,
		
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			is that we often
		
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			are in a state of comparison.
		
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			We always are trying to compare ourselves with
		
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			others, and the reality is, brothers and sisters,
		
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			whenever
		
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			you go into comparison mode,
		
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			every other person is wrong, and you are
		
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			always right.
		
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			This is what happens when you When we
		
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			began to compare with each other. When Iblis
		
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			rejected the order of Allah,
		
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			And Allah asked him,
		
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			Why did you not fulfill my order? He
		
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			says,
		
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			I am better than him. See,
		
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			Iblis here, shaitan here is comparing.
		
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			Not reflecting on the order of Allah, but
		
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			he's trying to compare himself to Adam alaihis
		
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			salam, and he says,
		
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			Brothers and sisters, the reality is that when
		
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			we begin to compare ourselves to others,
		
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			shaitan will always
		
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			make us blind to our own flaws.
		
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			We will forget about ourselves. As Allah says
		
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			in the Quran,
		
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			You are so obsessed about giving advice to
		
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			others, Passing Or you might passing You might
		
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			be passing a judgment towards others,
		
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			but you have forgotten about yourself,
		
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			and you read the Quran. Allah
		
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			is telling us, This is what This is
		
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			the nature of Bani Israel, and this is
		
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			the nature of every single mutakabit.
		
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			So this is why. When it comes to
		
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			comparison, there's nothing wrong in comparing ourselves to
		
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			others, but we compare ourselves to others. When
		
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			it comes to dunya, we look at the
		
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			people who are inferior to us. When it
		
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			comes to our deen, we look at the
		
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			people who are superior to us, and we
		
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			always ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala for tawfiq.
		
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			The third thing,
		
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			when it comes to being judgmental is that
		
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			we always are looking for perfection.
		
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			Think about this for a moment. We beg
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala often for his mercy,
		
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			but we are very quick in passing judgments
		
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			regarding others.
		
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			We beg Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala for his
		
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			leniency,
		
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			but we are very quick in being harsh
		
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			towards others.
		
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			While Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala demands
		
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			our very best,
		
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			we demand perfection from others.
		
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			What When Allah
		
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			gives us time
		
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			to transform ourselves, to get better,
		
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			we as a people, we don't give people
		
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			a second chance.
		
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			You see what the problem is?
		
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			How we are, and what we demand from
		
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			Allah
		
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			What we ask from Allah. If we are
		
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			asking Allah for mercy, I need to show
		
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			mercy towards others. If I am asking Allah
		
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			for leniency, I need to show leniency towards
		
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			others. If Allah is demanding our best, we
		
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			should be demanding from others their level best.
		
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			And if Allah
		
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			is giving us a chance to reform ourselves,
		
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			then we need to give other people a
		
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			second chance.
		
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			This is what makes a person humble. Today,
		
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			it is the complete opposite.
		
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			Brothers and sisters, we have to understand
		
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			that just like we as Muslims, we are
		
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			diverse
		
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			in the way we are. Our language, as
		
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			Allah says in the Quran,
		
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			Allah has created us different ethnicities,
		
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			different backgrounds,
		
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			different cultures,
		
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			different foods that we like, different cuisines, and
		
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			so forth.
		
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			Likewise, just like we are spiritually
		
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			Just like we are different in terms of
		
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			our culture,
		
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			likewise, spiritually we are different from each other.
		
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			We all are on a different journey to
		
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			Allah
		
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			Some of us are going fast when it
		
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			comes to their spirituality.
		
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			Some are going very slow. Some are going
		
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			at a moderate pace, but we cannot demand
		
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			perfection from everyone.
		
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			Because at the same time, when we are
		
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			demanding perfection,
		
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			then we are gonna eventually become judgemental towards
		
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			others. Judging others does not help anyone.
		
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			Instead, it instead of bringing us closer, it
		
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			will divide us as a community.
		
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			Judging a person makes a person selfish.
		
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			It is for our own personal satisfaction
		
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			in a way that we feel good about
		
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			ourselves,
		
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			while completely blind to our own flaws. So
		
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			this is number 3 is that often we
		
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			are judgmental
		
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			because we are demanding perfection from others. And
		
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			number 4, why are we judgmental towards others
		
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			is because we are too quick and jumping
		
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			to conclusions.
		
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			I wanna share with you a story. I
		
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			read in a book. This is not something
		
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			that happened to me, but I read in
		
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			a book. There was an author, he was
		
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			writing about his own personal experience.
		
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			He says that one day I was sitting
		
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			in a train,
		
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			and all of a sudden, everyone is quiet.
		
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			As you all know, when you talk about
		
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			trains, everyone minds their own business.
		
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			Everyone is their own is in their own
		
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			thing. Even if you see something very strange
		
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			and very,
		
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			you have this nature that you just simply
		
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			ignore it and you mind your own business.
		
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			A person came inside the train and he
		
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			brought few children with him.
		
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			And these children
		
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			were creating a very chaotic situation.
		
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			Running around, causing a lot of noises.
		
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			And the father, he was just sitting down
		
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			there with his head on his head,
		
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			his hand on his head, and he was
		
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			in a deep state of thought.
		
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			So now imagine if you saw the same
		
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			situation,
		
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			you would
		
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			immediately We would immediately jump to the conclusion
		
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			that this father is a terrible father. This
		
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			father has not taught his children about public
		
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			mannerisms,
		
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			public,
		
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			you know, public, etiquettes and so forth. This
		
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			is what we would think about that person.
		
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			So few people left that train. They were
		
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			very disgusted.
		
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			Of course, they were judgmental towards that person.
		
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			So this person who was sitting next to
		
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			that father,
		
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			he told him
		
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			that, sir, I think you need to really
		
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			calm your children down. Your children are creating,
		
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			like, you know, a chaotic situation over here.
		
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			And this man says, he replied,
		
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			you're right. You are absolutely
		
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			right. My children aren't making noise. But he
		
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			says that you have to understand what I'm
		
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			going through right now. He goes, just right
		
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			now, before I came I came onto this
		
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			train, I found out
		
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			that my wife,
		
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			the mother to my children, has just died.
		
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			And I have no idea
		
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			how to handle that situation.
		
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			I don't know what's the future ahead for
		
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			me. And my children, they were crying.
		
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			But they don't know how to deal and
		
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			handle their negative emotions. So this is why
		
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			they are doing what they are doing. And
		
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			this author, he was he was an author.
		
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			He writes that as soon as this man
		
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			told me what this What he is going
		
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			through personally,
		
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			immediately,
		
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			I change and I change my paradigm.
		
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			I change my way of thinking regarding this
		
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			person. At one moment, I was very critical
		
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			of him. But now, I'm very sympathetic towards
		
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			him. Brothers and sisters, we often see so
		
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			much going on in our community, and we're
		
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			very quick in passing judgments,
		
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			not realizing,
		
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			and we don't know what is the situation
		
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			of that person. We have no idea what's
		
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			going on in that life's
		
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			In the life of that person. What is
		
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			their circumstances?
		
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			What's going on in their personal life? What's
		
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			going on in their financial life? Their social
		
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			life? Their family life? But we are very
		
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			quick in passing judgements. Brothers and sisters,
		
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			this is where we learn. When it came
		
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			to Rasulullah
		
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			sallahu alaihi wasallam,
		
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			never would he look at a situation, and
		
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			he would make a judgement regarding someone. But
		
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			he would always go to them, talk to
		
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			them, ask them,
		
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			you know, communicate with them. He would learn
		
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			the situation,
		
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			and then he would provide his own input.
		
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			Brothers and sisters, this often happens in our
		
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			community, and we need to stop this. So
		
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			I ask Allah
		
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			that he makes us from amongst those whose
		
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			hearts are clean. And we ask Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa ta'ala to make us from amongst those
		
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			that we are not judgmental towards others, but
		
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			rather may Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala make our
		
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			community
		
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			a one that is a judge free zone,
		
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			one that is based on compassion and harmony.
		
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			And I ask Allah
		
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			to continuously keep our hearts united as a
		
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			community.
		
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			There's another issue that I really want to
		
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			highlight and talk about, which has become a
		
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			very major problem in our community.
		
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			So recently, I was scrolling on social media,
		
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			and I came across,
		
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			you know, as you all know, the Olympics
		
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			have come and they are gone.
		
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			But all of us know
		
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			the opening to the Olympics.
		
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			It was a very
		
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			it was disrespectful on so many different levels.
		
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			And not only that, but it was a
		
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			clear promotion
		
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			of the woke culture.
		
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			So one Muslim brother
		
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			went on social media and simply said
		
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			that these are things that are outright wrong.
		
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			Is that brother right? Absolutely. He's right.
		
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			And he wrote that this is a promotion
		
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			of the woke culture and the LBGT culture
		
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			and and so forth. And is he right
		
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			in his assessment? He's absolutely right in his
		
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			assessment.
		
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			And then you have a Muslim woman
		
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			who then said,
		
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			brother,
		
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			you should not judge anyone.
		
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			Allah has created everyone differently.
		
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			We need to understand when We got a
		
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			major problem today in our community.
		
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			If someone is doing something that is wrong
		
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			or you see something that is wrong,
		
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			the prophet
		
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			says, you stop it. Either you stop it
		
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			physically, you stop it verbally, and if you
		
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			cannot even do those things, then at least
		
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			make sure you know that in your heart
		
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			it is absolutely wrong. Your heart cannot accept
		
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			that it is right.
		
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			When a Muslim stands up and says,
		
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			this is wrong.
		
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			And the very first reaction
		
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			is,
		
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			don't judge me.
		
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			Let me make this very clear. That person
		
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			who's saying, don't judge me,
		
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			they don't care about being judged.
		
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			What that what what that is, it's a
		
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			defense mechanism.
		
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			Basically, that person is saying, I don't want
		
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			you to tell me what wrong and right
		
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			I'm doing. You need to leave me alone,
		
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			what I'm doing, and you need to mind
		
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			your own business.
		
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			Yes, the person who's making the remark
		
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			should not feel in their heart that they
		
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			are superior than them, or they are gonna
		
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			go to jahannam for example, and so forth.
		
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			They should not pass that kind of judgment.
		
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			But if a Muslim comes forward, and they
		
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			are fulfilling
		
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			their responsibility
		
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			as a Muslim
		
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			of promoting good and preventing
		
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			evil,
		
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			then they That person should not be should
		
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			not be given the response,
		
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			don't be judgmental.
		
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			This often happens. You see someone doing something
		
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			that is wrong, you call out the wrong.
		
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			All you're doing is, you're calling out the
		
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			wrong. And the reaction is, brother, sister, don't
		
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			be judgmental.
		
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			Let me make this very clear. The person
		
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			who's saying that don't be judgmental,
		
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			they are the ones who are committing the
		
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			major wrong. Because when you say, imagine I'm
		
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			the one who's doing something that is wrong.
		
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			Someone comes to me and tells me, Yeah,
		
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			imam. You're doing something that is wrong. And
		
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			I say, Don't be judgmental.
		
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			I don't know what's in their heart. Only
		
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			Allah knows what's in their heart. But me,
		
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			clearly, shaitan has made me feel that I've
		
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			pushed a person away, and I have the
		
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			authority and the liberty to do keep on
		
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			doing the wrong that I'm doing. But not
		
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			realizing that if there's anyone who's a clear
		
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			if there's anyone clearly who has
		
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			in their heart, it becomes me. Why?
		
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			Because that person was telling me something that
		
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			was right, and I was suppressing the truth,
		
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			which is a characteristic
		
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			of
		
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			We need to stop this.
		
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			This happens so often
		
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			that when you look at something that is
		
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			wrong, and someone says, don't be judgmental. You
		
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			see someone is doing something that's wrong, right
		
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			away someone will write on social media, you
		
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			should not be judgmental. No one is being
		
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			judgmental here. But we need to have the
		
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			liberty
		
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			to fulfill our Muslim obligation
		
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			which is promoting good and preventing evil. And
		
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			this is By the way, it goes everywhere
		
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			all the time on social media. And I'm
		
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			sorry for my language, this is the most
		
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			stupidest thing that I've ever heard.
		
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			It goes everywhere all the time. And guess
		
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			what? If you keep on using this sentence,
		
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			don't judge, don't judge. You see someone that
		
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			is criticizing someone else, and rightfully they're criticizing,
		
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			and they're saying don't judge. That person is
		
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			part of the problem too.
		
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			So this is why we need to stop
		
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			this.
		
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			Otherwise, guess what? No one will be allowed
		
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			to tell anyone what is right and what
		
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			is wrong. Khalas, we stay quiet and we
		
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			don't fulfill our Muslim obligation because this one
		
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			sentence that brother and sister, don't judge me.
		
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			You have no right to judge anyone else.
		
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			This is
		
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			a problem, a major problem today in our
		
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			community, and it needs to stop. If someone
		
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			is gonna come to you, if you're doing
		
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			something that is wrong,
		
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			wallahi, it happened to me here in the
		
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			masjid.
		
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			I was doing one thing wrong one time.
		
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			And a brother came to me. I'm not
		
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			gonna be judgmental about it. I'm not gonna
		
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			become defensive about it. I was one time
		
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			talking to a brother,
		
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			when I sometimes I tell people, Go outside.
		
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			One time, I was talking to a person
		
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			very quietly, and a person came to me
		
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			and said, Can you, you know, can you
		
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			please step outside? Wallahi that person was right.
		
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			I'm not gonna defend myself if I'm doing
		
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			something that is right. Just because I'm the
		
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			imam, it doesn't mean that I don't have
		
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			fallacies. We all are humans. We all have
		
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			weaknesses. But if someone's gonna come and tell
		
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			me, I'm not gonna tell that person, don't
		
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			be judgmental. I need to listen to what
		
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			they're trying to say. And if they are
		
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			right, they are right. And if they're wrong,
		
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			you simply handle it, the situation
		
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			accordingly.
		
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			But we need to stop this. And if
		
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			we see this, we need to reprimand this
		
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			immediately.
		
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			I ask
		
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			Allah
		
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			that first of all, he does not make
		
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			us from amongst those who are judgmental,
		
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			but at the same time we ask Allah
		
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			to not make make our hearts like the
		
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			hearts of the mutakabileen and those who have
		
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			the kabur amirubalalamin.
		
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			Straight lines fill in the gaps.
		
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			Brothers in the back, in the back, please
		
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			come inside.
		
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			In the back two rooms, please make sure
		
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			the rows are straight. Sisters, please make sure
		
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			the rows are straight. If there's any sisters
		
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			inside the multirubus hall, please come inside the
		
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			main hall.