Mustafa Umar – Islam and Feminism

Mustafa Umar
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The speakers discuss the complex issue of women's rights and the pressure on women to take their children and control their power. They also touch on the idea of differentiation and the idea of a larger social unit, which is not seen as equal. A workshop on difference feminism is offered to help people find it, and a seminar on difference feminism is suggested to provide insight into the need for women's rights workers.
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So let's begin with the dua. We ask

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Allah to

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help us to benefit from the things which

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are said, and to take that which is

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correct, and to

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benefit from it and to discard which is

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incorrect and to leave it. We ask Allah

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to open our hearts and minds to understand

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this topic

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and to be able to understand what the

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true perspective of Islam is on it. Amin.

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So

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let's begin.

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How many of you is your first time

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at IAOC, by the way? Anyone? First time?

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A few guys? Okay.

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It's good to see you guys. Welcome.

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Alright. So the the topic is Islam and

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feminism,

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Confrontation or Cooperation.

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And I've taken this title actually from an

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article,

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by doctor Lois Farooqi, which I'm gonna be

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talking about, in this in the course of

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this presentation.

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So we have about an hour.

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So I've actually presented I actually prepared about

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maybe 10 hours of material. So this should

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be a seminar, actually, but we're gonna have

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to restrict it to 1 hour. So just

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try to understand that there's not as much

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we can cover in 1 hour than we

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can cover in 10 hours, so just keep

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that in mind. Alright. So first of all,

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let me start with,

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why am I speaking?

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I got a lot of people inquiring and

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saying, but you're not a woman, so why

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are you speaking about feminism?

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And I guess I understand where that question

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is coming from, so let me give a

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little bit background.

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The way that our Friday family night programs

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work in the mosque

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is that they set a date for different

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people who are gonna be speaking on that

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date. So sheikh Mohammed Fakih has a date,

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I have a date, doctor Ahmad Bayouin has

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a date. And when it comes to myself

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and sheikh Fakih, we have to basically give

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a lecture on a topic that we choose

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on the date that we're assigned, either once

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a month or once every other month.

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So I was assigned a topic,

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and I've spoken on different topics, you know,

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in the past months. I've spoken about, you

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know, Thomas Jefferson and the Quran, and I've

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talked about cryptocurrency

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and

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just different topics. So I figured, you know,

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this would be, an an important topic which

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I've been asked to speak about,

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several times.

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And I don't think too many,

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people are actually addressing this issue in the

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Muslim community, at least specifically,

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you know, from the Muslim scholars,

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that exist. They don't really,

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tackle this topic head on.

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And there was one auntie in particular who

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regularly attends IAOC and one is one of

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our students, and she really encouraged me and

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she sent me an article,

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by Doctor. Lamia.

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And she said, You should read this article

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and you should really address this topic. So,

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alhamdulillah,

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unfortunately, she's not here today because she's on

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vacation,

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but I know she's gonna be watching this

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video afterwards.

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So she really motivated me to do that.

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So that's kind of how this topic was

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chosen.

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So they said, you know, well, why didn't

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you have a woman come and speak about

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it? Or why isn't there a woman on

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a panel and you why didn't you make

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a panel?

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Honestly,

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we don't

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put

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that much preparation or thought into how our

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Friday family night lectures are gonna go. We

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just simply we choose a date, we choose

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a topic, and we say, okay, someone should

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address this topic. You know, so, like, when

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I presented on cryptocurrency,

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it would have been nice if I had,

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like,

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an expert on cryptocurrency

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or a professor of economics, you know, there

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present with us reflecting on the economic aspects

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as well. But that's just

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difficult to organize, and it just takes extra

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effort. And that's pretty much the simple reason

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of of why we why we didn't really

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do that. Okay? So that's the simple reason.

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The second reason

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is because it's actually very difficult to find,

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women

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scholars

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who are scholars of Islam and then can

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give in a take

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on feminism from an Islamic perspective. And when

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I say scholars, I mean at least someone

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who has studied

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about a decade of Islamic studies and has

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a good, rounded, deep understanding of the religion

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of Islam and all its different sciences. It's

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kind of rare

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understanding of the religion of Islam and all

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its different sciences. It's kind of rare to

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find those people, in terms of the women

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who are there. And the ones who do

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exist, and there are some who exist,

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they're either extremely busy because they're traveling around

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the country giving lectures everywhere else because they're

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in high demand

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due to the fact that they're, you know,

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they're a rare asset,

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or they're unwilling to speak about this topic

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because they're actually afraid

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they could destroy

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their reputation,

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of speaking on a topic like this. Right?

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So I'm just conveying to you some of

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the realities that exist, in our community.

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And then lastly,

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I don't wanna keep going on for a

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long time, but,

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doctor Sherman Jackson is another reason why I

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was motivated to speak about this topic.

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So he mentioned in a program that we

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had I was at the ISNA conference 1

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year,

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and he mentioned something. He was talking about

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juridical empiricism and, you know, going into a

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detailed concept,

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and then he said there's a there's a

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trend, and I didn't understand this a decade

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ago. I was listening. I didn't fully grasp

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what he's saying, but I understand it now.

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He's saying there's a trend

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that exists in the intellectual

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milieu or the intellectual culture in which we

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live where

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you are not supposed to talk about a

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topic unless you have direct experience of it.

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So you're not supposed to speak about women's

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rights unless you're a woman because you don't

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know what it feels like to be a

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woman. You're not supposed to speak about the

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black community or the African American community unless

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you're African American because you don't have a

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direct experience of what that community is going

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through.

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And he critiqued this idea, and he said

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this idea,

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although it's nice, you know, it's nice to

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have someone, and it's important to have someone

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who's from that particular community, you know, representing

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what

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the sensibilities, the sensitivities, the feelings of, you

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know, those people are on the topic, he

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said imagine if we were to take that

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to its logical extreme.

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That means that someone who's talking about drug

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addiction

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should not be speaking about drug addiction

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unless they've been a crack addict in the

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past or unless they've been a heroin addict

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in the past.

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Someone who's talking about addiction to smoking or

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the harms of smoking should not be speaking

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about it unless they've been a smoker in

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the past. Someone who's talking about * should

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not do it unless they've been a *

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addict in the past, etcetera, etcetera. So that

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point really resonated with me and that gave

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me, you know, an understanding that, you know,

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I'm not claiming

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to know exactly what it feels like to

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be a woman, that's not what I'm trying

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to do here, but at the same time,

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you know, I've been studying Islam for a

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very long time

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and,

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my goal is not to talk about what

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it feels like to be a woman in

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this talk, but rather it's about analyzing the

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feminine discourse the feminist discourse that exists within

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our within our society

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and looking at that from from an Islamic

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lens and seeing how that kind of fits

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into Islam. Okay? So that's kind of one

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disclaimer.

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Disclaimer number 2

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is that, you know, I'm open to discussion

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on these topics. So if somebody doesn't agree

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with me, if somebody says, you know, you're

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you're way out there, you know, if you,

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you know,

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if you decide to leave, I'm gonna mention

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this in the beginning,

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in case you decide to leave in protest

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or something like that, just know that I'm

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open to discuss these topics. You can discuss

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it with me, you can make an appointment,

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you can meet me, you can meet somewhere,

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and we can continue to discuss these topics.

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Okay? So,

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if you don't agree, that's perfectly fine. I'm

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willing I'm open and I'm willing to talk

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about these issues more, further, inshallah. So let's

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begin with what is feminism.

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Okay? So

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who can who who thinks they know what

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feminism is? Who's pretty confident that they have

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an understanding of what feminism is? Just raise

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your hand.

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So there's nobody in the whole audience that

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knows what feminism is. No, just it's okay.

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Okay. So there's I'm just trying to see.

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So, like,

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20%

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of our audience

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feels comfortable in understanding what feminism is. Is

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that about accurate?

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Okay.

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Who would like to answer the question, what

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is feminism?

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Anybody?

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Yes.

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Okay. It's an aspect of bringing women's rights

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to be in equality with men, but not

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in competition with. Okay? Good. Anyone else have

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a different definition?

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Yes.

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Okay. Overall equality in general between men and

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women. Okay. Good. Anyone else?

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Okay. So that's those are pretty good definitions

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actually.

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So pretty much,

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feminism is an ideology,

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and there's different definitions about what it entails,

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but feminism is pretty much

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the idea of trying to achieve

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political,

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economic,

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personal,

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and social equality

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of the sexes, of male and female together.

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Okay? So that's pretty much what feminism is.

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And the term feminism itself was coined in

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18/37

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in France. It was called feminisseme or however

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you pronounce it. Sadly my French is not

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good even though I lived in France for

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3 years. Pardon me for that. So it's

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something that

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has really been coined. The term itself is

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fairly new in the past 2 centuries or

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so.

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And the feminist movement has focused primarily on

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trying to get women

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the right to vote,

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the right to hold public office, the right

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to work,

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the right to earn equal pay when they

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work, the right to own property, the right

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to receive education,

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the right to enter into contracts,

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the right to equal marriage rights.

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And in addition to that, different forms of

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feminism also try to

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legalize abortion so that women can decide whether

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they want to have a child or not,

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try to promote social integration so that there's

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no division between men and women in social

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spaces,

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try to promote change in dress and change

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in physical activity. This is kind of just

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in a nutshell

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what feminism is, and there's

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scholars of feminism or feminist theory. They classify

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the feminist movement into 3 different waves. Right?

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I'm not gonna get into all of that

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stuff to be honest with you because it's

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gonna get very theoretical and we wanna focus

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on something that's more practical in this talk.

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So let us talk briefly about,

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who are feminists or where are the feminists.

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So it was interesting that in 2015

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there was a poll

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done in different countries in the world, particularly

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developed countries,

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and they surveyed people and asked them whether

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you would define yourself

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as a feminist.

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And 18% of American women said that they

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would identify themselves as feminists.

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18%.

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Right? So that's kind of surprising to a

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lot of people because you would think it

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would have been at 50%

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or you'd think it'd be at, like, at

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70%.

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But instead there was another question.

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They said would you identify yourself as a

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feminist or would you identify

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that you believe in equality for women?

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So 85%

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of women, they said we believe in equality

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for women,

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but we would not define ourselves as feminists.

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Only 18%

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of women in America

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define themselves as feminists.

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The same survey was done

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in Sweden,

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36%,

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which was the highest rate that you find

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in any of the developed con quote unquote

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developed countries

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that define themselves as women define themselves as

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feminists. 36%

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in Sweden,

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31% in Italy,

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29% in Argentina. I'm giving you these statistics

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so that you understand

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where,

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the feminist movement is primarily active, where its

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ideological

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roots are, so it kinda gives you a

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perspective. Argentina, 29%,

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UK, 22%,

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Spain, 22%,

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Australia,

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18%,

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Belgium, 18%,

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France, 18%.

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The lowest countries that they surveyed

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that where women

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said that they are feminists, they would identify

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as feminists,

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was Japan, 8%,

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Germany,

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7%,

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and South Korea, 7%.

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Right? So that kinda gives you a little

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bit perspective on the background of where feminism

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is right now.

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At the same time, they surveyed men and

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they asked how many men

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identified

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themselves

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as being feminists.

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So the numbers were slightly lower but they

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were quite predictable. So if in America it

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was like 18% of women identify as feminists,

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it's like, you know, 10 to 15%

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of men would identify the same. If it's

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somewhere like 30%, the men would be like

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15, 20%.

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Fairly predictable. The only one country that was

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surveyed

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that found the situation flipped was Poland

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where 21%

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of men in Poland identified as feminists

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and only 17%

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of women identified as feminists. So more men

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identified themselves as feminists

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than women actually did. Alright? So

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that's just kind of a little bit demographic

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survey of, you know, who

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ascribes themselves,

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to feminism as a label

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even though most people are saying that they

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believe in the equality of women but they

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wouldn't define themselves as feminists,

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perhaps because they don't know what the term

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entails,

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like most of our audience or they're not

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sure, or perhaps for some other reasons.

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Now

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there are different forms of feminism and I'm

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aware of that. So one of the other

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critiques that I get whenever I mention feminism

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is that, you know, you're only talking about

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one particular type of feminism, and that is

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the,

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middle class,

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white,

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privileged feminism of women who live in the

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west. And there's different forms of feminism and

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there's different, you know, understandings of what feminism

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is and I understand that. There is feminism.

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There is black feminism.

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There is a new thing called Islamic feminism.

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How Islamic it is is debatable.

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And different, you know, forms of lat Latino

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or Latinx feminism and all sorts of different,

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you know, categories.

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So I'm aware of that.

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Alright? So

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but that's not what we're talking about tonight.

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And the reason why we're not talking about

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that tonight is because what I wanna focus

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on is I wanna focus on what feminism

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primarily is and not what it should be

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or what ideally it's supposed to be. And

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what that means

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is the most

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influential or the most powerful

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type of feminism that exists within the societies

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we're talking about, that's what I wanna focus

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on. So black feminism may be a thing

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and it may be a movement and it

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may be something that people are developing. Arab

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feminism may be something,

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but western,

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white, middle class feminism

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is the most powerful form of feminism that

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exists and has affected our society

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in which the society in which we live

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in, and much of the world in a

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particular way. So that's why we're specifically,

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focusing on that.

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So, we could

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talk about

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an academic review or an academic study of

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all different feminist ideas,

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but what's gonna happen? And I'm being very

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careful on this topic because I know it's

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a very sensitive topic. K? And, you know,

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a lot of people came and said, you

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know, you're basically putting your neck under the

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guillotine, you know, by talking about this topic.

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Another sheikh told me, you're walking into a

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landmine. You're gonna blow up. And I said,

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you know, may Allah consider me a martyr

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if that happens. You know, inshallah.

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No. But,

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and that sheikh just walked in the room.

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Anyways, so

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alright.

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Sorry, Shay. Alright. So, and and other people

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told me that, you know, you need to

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be really careful about this topic. I'm aware

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of that. Okay? But this topic is very

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important to me as well, and I want

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you to understand why. It's because

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this is a topic that I've been this

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is a topic that's affected me and I've

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been thinking about, you know, for the past

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20 years.

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My

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coming back into Islam and actually taking Islam

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seriously, one of the impediments

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that drove me away from Islam,

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even though I grew up in a Muslim

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family,

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was

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Islam status when it comes to women. It

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was something that bothered me, and it's something

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that bothers a lot of people, male and

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female, both.

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So for me,

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having an understanding of what Islam really says

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about women was a very important factor

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in my kind of having an appreciation and

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love and understanding of Islam. So this is

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a very important topic to me,

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and I just want I wanna clarify that.

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So that's why,

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I'm going to be very careful on this

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topic, but at the same time I'm talking

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about it. So what I'm gonna do instead

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of just mentioning a bunch of different points

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that the feminist movement has and look at

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it as a whole, instead because someone can

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come and critique and say, you know what?

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Oh, well, that's one form of feminism. You're

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not talking about the other form of feminism.

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Or why don't you talk about Arab feminism?

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Or why don't you talk about Keisha Ali?

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Or why don't you talk about what Amina

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Wadud is doing in her books? Or why

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don't you talk about, you know, Ayaan Hirsi

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Ali's critiques of, you know, Islam, or why

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don't you talk about all of these other

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things? I'm aware of these things. I read

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these things. This is my field. This is

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what I do. But instead

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of, you know, just to kind of avoid

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that,

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what I'm trying to focus on are books

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or ideas which have been influential

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in the minds of people in our society,

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and I wanna focus and limit my,

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restrict my subject to that specifically.

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That are popular in the feminist movement. I'm

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gonna give some summary of some of those

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points, and then I'm gonna take some responses

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by Muslims

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who had some critiques or some, you know,

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ideas on feminism and how it relates to

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Islam, and I'm gonna summarize that, and that's

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pretty much what our lecture is gonna be

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for tonight. Okay? And then we'll have a

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Q and A session.

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Alright. So let's start with,

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Mary

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Wolstoncraft. Alright. She wrote a book called A

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Vindication of the Rights of Women.

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Alright. Has anyone read this book?

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One person only? 2 people?

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3 people. In class? Was it required reading?

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Required reading. Alright. Have any guys heard this

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book?

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No. Okay.

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Alright. That's fine. So this was in 17/92.

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So the book was written in England in

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17/92.

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It's considered to be

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one of the very early,

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feminist texts. Technically, it's a proto feminist text

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because feminism wasn't considered to be a movement

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at the time, but it's a text which

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inspired people from the feminist movement

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and it was actually very well received

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when it was written, and there's some critique

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on that, but we can talk about that

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another day. So here is a summary of

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some of the points that she brings up,

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and I'm not gonna give a detailed commentary

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on it.

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I'm gonna allow our Muslim thinkers to give

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a commentary,

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on the principles of how to address those.

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I just want us to understand

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what are the ideas that exist

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in the books which are inspiring feminist thinkers.

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SubhanAllah.

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Alright. And, you know, what can we do

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about it?

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So, while,

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before I begin talking about that I want

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to explain something

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about computers to you. Okay? So, Dell,

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has made a new computer which is very

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small in its form factor. It has a

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very nice shape,

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it's very portable, it has a great screen

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and everything. But one of the problems with

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that computer

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is that if you have a document open,

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you're in the middle of a khutbah, you're

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in the middle of a lecture, it will

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just randomly shut down

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and completely ruin the train of thought of

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the speaker,

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eliminate all of his notes. So one of

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the things I did was, because I'm a

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computer science major, I thought I'm smart, so

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I downloaded a software called shutdown blocker, which

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basically

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prevents your computer from shutting down. It'll actually

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stop it from shutting down. But what's really

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interesting

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is that this shutdown blocker software

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is actually garbage because it doesn't work, you

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know, and,

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my computer just shut down. But the great

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thing about it is I know that this

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happens,

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so I know how to immediately load my

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notes back up and get right back into

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the subject. And And I've actually had to

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do this in a Khutba, where there was

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5,000 people in the audience, and the the

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the notes just decided to immediately the computer

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just shut itself down, but nobody noticed that

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I was restarting. The notes came back up,

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and alhamdulillah,

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everything was perfectly fine. You know? So this

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is,

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the result of some practice that I have.

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So let's get back to Mary Wollstonecraft.

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Okay? So in 17/92,

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she writes this book, and some of the

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points that she mentions are, first of all,

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that there's a difference in education between men

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and women. Now, understand she's writing about England

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in the early, you know, late 18th century.

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So she writes that there's a difference in

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education between men and women. And she says

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why,

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she talks about that this is unfair, it's

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unjust, and this is in England, and she

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says why do men and women have to

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have different characteristics in society?

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Why are they viewed differently? Why do they

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why why is there a differentiation

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between male and female in society? Then she

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talks about how women should be part of

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democracy in the sense that they should have

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a say in political affairs. They should be

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able to vote. Again, this is very early

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on, so, you know, this is prior to

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the form of democracies that, you know, we

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understand them to be, but she's kind of

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hinting at these ideas.

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Then she says that women should not be

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looked down as second class citizens and that

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they are looked down in England

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during her time as second class citizens. And

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she says one of the reasons why this

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is

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is because of the bible.

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She says the bible has said

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that there's Adam and Eve, and Eve was

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created from the rib of Adam,

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and that automatically

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puts her into a

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subservient state or a second class state.

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And there's no way to there's no work

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around this. If you accept the story of

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Adam and Eve according to the bible,

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from the

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perspective of Judaism and Christianity,

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you're stuck into this idea

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that women are somehow second class and they

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cannot get out of this. Then she says,

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on top of that, women need to have

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we need to kind of get beyond that.

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And women need to have a greater voice

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in literature,

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and the different standards that we have in

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society are unjust. So she starts talking about

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some of them. She says that if a

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woman expresses disagreement,

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it's considered unladylike

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in society.

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And therefore, this double standard needs to be

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eliminated. When she disagrees,

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she should she should be as potentially vocal

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or aggressive or whatever word you wanna use.

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She should be able to disagree

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or have certain characteristics that men have rather

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than having this false notion of being ladylike,

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which should not necessarily

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exist within society.

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And she says women deserve representation in government.

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Women

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she says women,

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unfortunately, according to her, are taught to focus

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on beauty

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and grace,

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and this focus limits them in society and

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prevents them from achieving

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their full potential.

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She says that women do not have access

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to the same education as boys, which was

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true in that society. And she says,

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why

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she

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and there's no reason why they shouldn't have

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exactly the same type of education.

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And she says boys

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are raised differently than girls when they're children.

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So boys are told by their parents to

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go and play outside,

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and girls are told to stay inside

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and play with their dolls.

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Right? So she says this is a double

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standard which needs to be eliminated.

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And she says one of the problems which

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it causes is that if women cannot go

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outside and play and get physical activity, they

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already have

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a physical weakness

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relative to man in terms of their body

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structure, in terms of their muscle development, muscle

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mass, and all of that. Now this will

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continue their physical weakness even more by not

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letting them go out and play while they're

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young and then going and being involved in

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more, you know, grueling physical activities.

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And then she says,

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the idea

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of giving

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girls

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dolls when they're young,

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what it does, it actually tells them that

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beauty

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is the only thing that is important in

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society,

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and it,

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you know, pushes them in that particular direction.

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And therefore, we need to change the way

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in which we actually raise our kids

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in terms of what whether we give dolls

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to our, you know, daughters or whether we

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give, you know, guns or, you know, action

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figures or something like that to our to

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our boys. Again, keep in mind, this is

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all 19, 1798.

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So then she writes that men want to

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keep women as * objects

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or they want to keep women in control.

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So this is the primary,

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mission or goal of many men in society.

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And she says this results in women being

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suppressed.

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She says getting a good husband in our

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society today

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means that you should be pretty

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and you should be docile. And if you

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have these two characteristics, you're gonna be able

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to get a good husband.

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Then she says that women can sometimes be

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very sneaky

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and deceitful.

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And the reason why they're sneaky and deceitful

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and they can gossip and everything is because

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they don't feel that they're equal.

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And if we make them equal,

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then they will stop this sneaking around and

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gossiping and stuff like that. So that's a

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solution to that problem. That's why that problem

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exists.

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Then she says men

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treat women as a fashionable accessory, as something

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just on the side.

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Right? And she said the solution to that

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problem is that men and women, when they're

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in a relationship,

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they need to have friendship.

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Friendship is the core

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or key to having a good relationship,

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and the only way they can ever be

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friends is if they're treated as being intellectual

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equals.

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And until that happens, they're not gonna be

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treated at that level. And then she says,

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one of the problems we have is prostitution.

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And if

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we have the intellectual development of women,

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there will actually be less prostitution

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because now they will have opportunities for better

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jobs and they will not end up in

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prostitution jobs.

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And she says that there are double standards

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in our society.

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Another one of the double standards is that

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men are allowed to sleep around

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while women must be faithful.

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So the standard

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should be removed. There should not be this

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double standard.

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She doesn't exactly clarify which side she wants

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it removed to,

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but, you know, I'm not gonna comment on

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that, but because there was a big controversy

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about her,

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what happened was is that after she died

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this is just a side note. I'm not

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making a point with this. But as a

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side note, after she died, her book was

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very popular when it was written, and you

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wouldn't think it was popular because many people

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have a perception that 17 nineties in England,

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they would not accept these ideas. Actually, they

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were accepting these ideas, and they were open

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to these ideas. The book was very popular

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at the time. But what happened was, after

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she died, her husband

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started

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write publishing a memoir about her and saying

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things like, you know, what type of woman

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she was, and he was not trying to

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insult her. He thought he was doing her

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some service by saying, you know, this is

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the type of woman she was. She was

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adventurous and this and that. But instead, he

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revealed some things about her that she had,

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you know, children out of wedlock, and she

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had a bunch of love affairs, and she

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had a bunch of these things. So what

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happened was

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that people who were respecting her, they lost

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respect for her because they thought that that's

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too radical of a thing that, you know,

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she was engaged in, so she was not

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a role model,

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for people. So for a long time, for

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about a 100 years,

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people did not really

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give so much weight,

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to her ideas once that information, you know,

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leaked out. But then after a 100 years,

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then people kind of said, okay, let's go

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beyond that. We we can go back to

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that idea. So anyways, side note. So then

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she says if women were equals

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this is a really interesting point. Okay?

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They're all interesting, but I find this to

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be really interesting.

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Just understand the mentality. Despite all of the

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ideas she's coming with, right, they seem pretty

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modern. We're like, yeah, we agree with all

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of that, but she's still living in a

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certain context. So she says, if women were

00:29:02 --> 00:29:03

equals,

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they could better raise their children,

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and that better raising of children would actually

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improve society.

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So she said that educated women could if

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women were educated,

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they could help children

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with their studies and with their homework so

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that you don't need tutors anymore. So one

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of the things that used to happen in

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English society at the time is that these

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middle class or upper class women, they would

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have to hire tutors to go and teach

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the subjects and the tutors are male because

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there's no female tutors because they're not studying.

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So she's saying if women would be more

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educated,

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then instead of hiring

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tutors we don't have to hire tutors at

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all because women actually have science, math, all

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of that knowledge, literature, and they could go

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and teach their own children so we don't

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have to

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hire tutors anymore. Then she says, and again,

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this society has servants in it. So she

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says that

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if women were more educated,

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then they would be kinder to their servants

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in the household,

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especially in front of their children.

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So what happens is she's saying that there's

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this rivalry between women in the household and

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their servants.

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And that's she's saying that's something natural, and

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it's a long explanation of that. But then

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she's saying that

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the women in the household feel that they

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need to exert their power over the servants

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to keep them in line.

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And she says if

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the women had better access to education,

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they would be kinder to their servants because

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they don't need to show their power over

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them because their education would be the power

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over them.

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And then she says, this is going to

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affect the children because the girls

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who are watching

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their mother treat servants bad and the servant

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is taking care of the girl as well,

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the girls start to imitate that bad behavior

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of their mothers when they grow up.

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She's saying, if we were to educate women,

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we would actually have this entire,

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you know, cycle or

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this this tangent of being able to

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solve this problem as well. And then the

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last thing she mentions, she has women,

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if they if they're educated so the focus

00:31:01 --> 00:31:03

is on education here. If women are educated,

00:31:04 --> 00:31:06

then they can start worrying about real issues.

00:31:07 --> 00:31:10

Right? Like, they can start discovering things. They

00:31:10 --> 00:31:12

can invent things. They can come up and

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discover new cures for diseases and illnesses, and

00:31:15 --> 00:31:17

they can do so many other things which

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could be a contribution to society.

00:31:20 --> 00:31:21

Instead,

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what they're doing, because they're not doing that,

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is all they do is just focus on

00:31:25 --> 00:31:27

what they wanna wear in the day, and

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they spend all of their time and energy

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and all of these other things,

00:31:30 --> 00:31:32

and they should be directed

00:31:32 --> 00:31:34

in this direction instead.

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So that's

00:31:36 --> 00:31:37

a very old book, but a book which

00:31:37 --> 00:31:40

kind of inspired many feminist thinkers. Okay? So

00:31:40 --> 00:31:42

that's the first book. The next book,

00:31:44 --> 00:31:44

to summarize,

00:31:45 --> 00:31:47

is a book called The Second * by

00:31:47 --> 00:31:48

Simone de Beauvoir.

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I don't know if I pronounced that right

00:31:50 --> 00:31:52

again. My French is not good, but this

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was written in 1949.

00:31:55 --> 00:31:56

K? So fast forward

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several years. Okay? But, technically,

00:32:00 --> 00:32:03

2nd wave feminism has not begun yet. So

00:32:03 --> 00:32:06

this we're still talking about 1st wave feminism

00:32:06 --> 00:32:08

until now. 2nd wave is something in America,

00:32:08 --> 00:32:10

19 sixties began.

00:32:10 --> 00:32:12

So some of the points that she mentions.

00:32:12 --> 00:32:15

Now, you're gonna see a very a radical

00:32:15 --> 00:32:16

departure

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from

00:32:17 --> 00:32:20

what our previous author was saying compared to

00:32:20 --> 00:32:22

what our current author is saying. So she

00:32:22 --> 00:32:23

says

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that the idea of womanhood

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is a product

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of

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cultural

00:32:29 --> 00:32:29

forces

00:32:30 --> 00:32:33

rather than an innate quality in people.

00:32:33 --> 00:32:36

What that basically means is that the idea

00:32:36 --> 00:32:37

of being a woman

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is something that is so people are socialized

00:32:40 --> 00:32:42

into becoming a woman. Woman is not something

00:32:42 --> 00:32:45

that exists just there in reality.

00:32:45 --> 00:32:46

So,

00:32:47 --> 00:32:49

you're gonna see where she's going with this.

00:32:49 --> 00:32:51

She's gonna say we need to modify that

00:32:51 --> 00:32:52

socializing,

00:32:53 --> 00:32:56

to be so that womanhood becomes something different.

00:32:56 --> 00:32:58

So she's gonna define what womanhood

00:32:58 --> 00:32:59

is

00:32:59 --> 00:33:00

according to her understanding

00:33:01 --> 00:33:04

in Western Europe, in particular in her area.

00:33:04 --> 00:33:07

So she says women have passive lives, and

00:33:07 --> 00:33:09

they live in the shadow of men, and

00:33:09 --> 00:33:10

she says this has been the case throughout

00:33:10 --> 00:33:13

history in most societies of the world. The

00:33:13 --> 00:33:15

women are given a secluded domain

00:33:16 --> 00:33:17

where they're passive

00:33:17 --> 00:33:19

and they're immersed in themselves. So the reason

00:33:19 --> 00:33:22

why they focus on themselves so much is

00:33:22 --> 00:33:24

because they've been secluded and they've not been

00:33:24 --> 00:33:26

allowed to go outside of this domain.

00:33:26 --> 00:33:27

And on the contrary,

00:33:28 --> 00:33:31

men are active. Men are creative, they're productive,

00:33:32 --> 00:33:32

their

00:33:33 --> 00:33:33

efforts

00:33:34 --> 00:33:36

exert out there into the world and they

00:33:36 --> 00:33:37

have some effect on the world and women

00:33:37 --> 00:33:39

don't have that same effect. And then she

00:33:39 --> 00:33:41

says, human males are stronger because of the

00:33:41 --> 00:33:44

muscle mass and everything that they have, but

00:33:44 --> 00:33:47

these traits are only important in a society

00:33:47 --> 00:33:48

where strength,

00:33:48 --> 00:33:51

physical strength, is valued above everything else. But

00:33:51 --> 00:33:53

she's basically saying we don't live in that

00:33:53 --> 00:33:55

society. The world has changed. And today the

00:33:55 --> 00:33:57

world has changed much more with technology and

00:33:57 --> 00:34:00

everything we have. Physical strength is not so

00:34:00 --> 00:34:02

much in just the muscle mass that you

00:34:02 --> 00:34:06

have as it was in some primitive society.

00:34:06 --> 00:34:08

She's saying that we the world has changed.

00:34:08 --> 00:34:09

We need to acknowledge that change.

00:34:10 --> 00:34:11

And then she talks about a patriarchal

00:34:12 --> 00:34:15

society, and she says, what patriarchy means

00:34:16 --> 00:34:17

is that men occupy

00:34:17 --> 00:34:20

most positions of power in that society.

00:34:21 --> 00:34:22

And she says, but

00:34:22 --> 00:34:25

it's not always been that way. And again,

00:34:25 --> 00:34:26

I'm just telling you what she's saying. Okay?

00:34:26 --> 00:34:29

I'm not commenting on it yet. She's saying,

00:34:29 --> 00:34:32

but in the past, women once wielded more

00:34:32 --> 00:34:33

power than men did

00:34:33 --> 00:34:35

in some societies.

00:34:35 --> 00:34:38

She says women could women are the only

00:34:38 --> 00:34:40

ones who could have children.

00:34:41 --> 00:34:42

And because of the fact that could have

00:34:42 --> 00:34:45

children, they were given a sacred status.

00:34:45 --> 00:34:47

So what happened was that there were some

00:34:47 --> 00:34:48

societies where

00:34:49 --> 00:34:50

you would actually take

00:34:50 --> 00:34:53

the mother's clan name instead of the father's

00:34:53 --> 00:34:55

clan name. And she's saying this is an

00:34:55 --> 00:34:57

example of where women were dominant in a

00:34:57 --> 00:35:00

society. She's saying there are societies where female

00:35:01 --> 00:35:03

gods or female idols were worshipped

00:35:03 --> 00:35:05

rather than male idols.

00:35:05 --> 00:35:07

And she says there are societies where men

00:35:07 --> 00:35:10

feared women rather than women fearing men. And

00:35:10 --> 00:35:13

then she says, but what happened was this

00:35:13 --> 00:35:15

patriarchy became established somewhere

00:35:15 --> 00:35:18

and the entire thing flipped, and it flipped

00:35:18 --> 00:35:21

so bad that male gods, male deities and

00:35:21 --> 00:35:24

idols like Zeus started overpowering

00:35:24 --> 00:35:25

or

00:35:25 --> 00:35:28

overshadowing even all the female deities. The entire

00:35:28 --> 00:35:30

thing just flipped around, and now we're in

00:35:30 --> 00:35:32

the situation that we're in.

00:35:33 --> 00:35:34

Then she says that patriarchy,

00:35:35 --> 00:35:37

this idea of men being dominant and in

00:35:37 --> 00:35:40

control of most positions of power, it is

00:35:40 --> 00:35:41

strengthened by 2 factors.

00:35:42 --> 00:35:43

1, by inheritance,

00:35:44 --> 00:35:46

and 2, by marriage.

00:35:46 --> 00:35:48

So these two factors keep women subservient.

00:35:49 --> 00:35:51

She says, why? Because in the past, in

00:35:51 --> 00:35:52

some societies,

00:35:53 --> 00:35:54

property was held communally.

00:35:54 --> 00:35:56

Meaning, it doesn't belong to anyone. It's like

00:35:56 --> 00:35:57

a communism

00:35:57 --> 00:35:59

type of thing. Everyone owns the same type

00:35:59 --> 00:36:00

of property.

00:36:00 --> 00:36:03

But then property became privatized.

00:36:03 --> 00:36:06

And this was the worst thing that ever

00:36:06 --> 00:36:07

happened for women, because

00:36:07 --> 00:36:10

women were excluded from property rights,

00:36:10 --> 00:36:12

and they were excluded from inheritance

00:36:13 --> 00:36:15

in many societies. Right? And she's talking about

00:36:15 --> 00:36:18

Western Europe in particular as well. She's saying

00:36:18 --> 00:36:21

not having property will alienate women from society

00:36:21 --> 00:36:22

as a whole,

00:36:22 --> 00:36:25

and marriage will continue to dehumanize a woman

00:36:26 --> 00:36:28

by simply making her an asset.

00:36:28 --> 00:36:30

So what happens is that a woman is

00:36:30 --> 00:36:32

controlled by her father,

00:36:32 --> 00:36:34

and if her father is not alive, she's

00:36:34 --> 00:36:37

controlled by her eldest male relative. And then

00:36:37 --> 00:36:38

after she gets married, she's passed on to

00:36:38 --> 00:36:40

her husband and then her husband will control

00:36:40 --> 00:36:43

her. And then she says, there was even

00:36:43 --> 00:36:44

a Greek custom called,

00:36:46 --> 00:36:47

epiklarate,

00:36:47 --> 00:36:50

or I can't pronounce it right, which basically

00:36:50 --> 00:36:53

forced women to marry the eldest male in

00:36:53 --> 00:36:55

the husband's family if their husband actually passes

00:36:55 --> 00:36:56

away and dies.

00:36:57 --> 00:36:59

She's saying this is an effort to keep

00:36:59 --> 00:37:02

women in absolute control, and this is what

00:37:02 --> 00:37:03

happened and something that evolved.

00:37:04 --> 00:37:06

So she's saying, look, today, we're looking in

00:37:06 --> 00:37:09

the, you know, almost the fifties, she's saying,

00:37:09 --> 00:37:11

look, there are improvements today.

00:37:11 --> 00:37:13

Women are better off than they were in

00:37:13 --> 00:37:15

the past in all of these civilizations. 1949,

00:37:16 --> 00:37:17

she's writing.

00:37:17 --> 00:37:19

She's there there are improvements,

00:37:19 --> 00:37:22

but the subjugation of women continues.

00:37:22 --> 00:37:25

Women are not allowed to go to, you

00:37:25 --> 00:37:27

know in the past, women were not allowed

00:37:27 --> 00:37:28

to go to university.

00:37:28 --> 00:37:30

Now they're allowed to go to university.

00:37:30 --> 00:37:31

Progress.

00:37:31 --> 00:37:34

Women who are not allowed into politics, women

00:37:34 --> 00:37:36

are not allowed into politics. Progress.

00:37:36 --> 00:37:38

But then she says,

00:37:39 --> 00:37:40

by remaining unmarried,

00:37:41 --> 00:37:43

the women who were able to be powerful,

00:37:43 --> 00:37:44

by remaining unmarried,

00:37:45 --> 00:37:47

they were not subjugated

00:37:47 --> 00:37:48

by men

00:37:48 --> 00:37:51

when their fathers died, when the male relatives

00:37:51 --> 00:37:53

died, and when either they didn't get married

00:37:53 --> 00:37:56

or their husbands died, that's when they were

00:37:56 --> 00:37:58

actually able to get their full freedom.

00:37:59 --> 00:38:01

Right? So then she says in 1918,

00:38:01 --> 00:38:02

another,

00:38:02 --> 00:38:04

example of,

00:38:04 --> 00:38:07

you know, where women are still subjugated or

00:38:07 --> 00:38:08

women are still treated unequally,

00:38:08 --> 00:38:09

in 1918

00:38:10 --> 00:38:11

in America,

00:38:11 --> 00:38:14

she says women earned half of what men

00:38:14 --> 00:38:14

earned

00:38:15 --> 00:38:17

even if they were performing the exact same

00:38:17 --> 00:38:19

job. So if they're collecting the exact same

00:38:19 --> 00:38:22

amount of coal from a mine, they would

00:38:22 --> 00:38:24

get half the amount of money that a

00:38:24 --> 00:38:26

man would actually get. And of course, we're

00:38:26 --> 00:38:28

gonna we can talk about how that still

00:38:28 --> 00:38:30

plays out today. And then she says housewives

00:38:31 --> 00:38:34

were seen as unable they were viewed housewives

00:38:35 --> 00:38:36

are viewed as being intellectually

00:38:37 --> 00:38:37

incapable

00:38:38 --> 00:38:39

of doing any work outside,

00:38:40 --> 00:38:42

and then they're unpaid and they sit at

00:38:42 --> 00:38:44

home and they get stuck, and they're viewed

00:38:44 --> 00:38:47

as being inferior beings as well. So then

00:38:47 --> 00:38:48

she comes back to the bible and she

00:38:48 --> 00:38:50

says, much of the problems

00:38:50 --> 00:38:53

are resulting from the bible. She says, once

00:38:53 --> 00:38:55

you accept the story of Adam and Eve,

00:38:55 --> 00:38:56

it degrades women.

00:38:57 --> 00:39:00

Eve is responsible for tempting man, tempting Adam

00:39:00 --> 00:39:02

in the first place, which resulted in the

00:39:02 --> 00:39:04

entire fall of human beings to this earth,

00:39:05 --> 00:39:07

and therefore, from the Christian perspective,

00:39:07 --> 00:39:10

people have what's called original sin. And she

00:39:10 --> 00:39:12

has the fact that people are born with

00:39:12 --> 00:39:15

sin is all the burden is actually placed

00:39:16 --> 00:39:18

on the woman because she's the one who's

00:39:18 --> 00:39:19

responsible, who tempted

00:39:20 --> 00:39:22

Adam in the first place. So you can

00:39:22 --> 00:39:25

see her religious perspective on that as well.

00:39:25 --> 00:39:26

And then she says, but it's not just

00:39:26 --> 00:39:27

Christianity.

00:39:27 --> 00:39:30

There's so many myths about women across so

00:39:30 --> 00:39:32

many different cultures. So, she said, even if

00:39:32 --> 00:39:33

you look at Greek mythology,

00:39:34 --> 00:39:34

not

00:39:35 --> 00:39:36

Christian, not Judaism,

00:39:36 --> 00:39:37

not, you know, monotheistic,

00:39:38 --> 00:39:40

she says even the Greek muses, you know,

00:39:40 --> 00:39:42

the women who are singing and all that,

00:39:42 --> 00:39:44

it just shows the same myth that women

00:39:45 --> 00:39:46

basically are beings

00:39:46 --> 00:39:47

which can inspire,

00:39:49 --> 00:39:50

you know, production,

00:39:51 --> 00:39:53

but they cannot create anything in and of

00:39:53 --> 00:39:56

themselves. Basically, what she's saying is that even

00:39:56 --> 00:39:58

the Greek mythology and putting the muses and

00:39:58 --> 00:40:00

what they're doing is inspiring men and all

00:40:00 --> 00:40:02

that, it's like today. You know, women are

00:40:02 --> 00:40:04

supposed to be cheerleaders for the football team

00:40:04 --> 00:40:06

or the basketball team, but they're not playing

00:40:06 --> 00:40:07

the sport themself.

00:40:08 --> 00:40:10

Right? So she's saying even those things are

00:40:10 --> 00:40:10

myths,

00:40:11 --> 00:40:13

and that just degrades women further. And then

00:40:13 --> 00:40:15

she says another thing which degrades women further,

00:40:16 --> 00:40:17

which goes back to Christianity,

00:40:17 --> 00:40:18

and she says

00:40:18 --> 00:40:20

even the idea of Mary,

00:40:21 --> 00:40:22

Maryam, the mother of Jesus,

00:40:23 --> 00:40:24

is degrading

00:40:24 --> 00:40:26

because she has no individual

00:40:26 --> 00:40:28

contribution herself. Her contribution

00:40:29 --> 00:40:30

is delivering

00:40:30 --> 00:40:33

the child rather than actually having an independent

00:40:33 --> 00:40:35

contribution. Again, this is from her perspective. K.

00:40:35 --> 00:40:37

Islam has another perspective on this. But,

00:40:37 --> 00:40:39

so she's saying and Christians, keep in mind,

00:40:39 --> 00:40:42

Christian environment, they believe that this is God,

00:40:42 --> 00:40:43

you know, son of God.

00:40:43 --> 00:40:46

So for them, this is, like, the most

00:40:46 --> 00:40:48

important thing, but she just what is her

00:40:48 --> 00:40:51

role in that? It's almost like someone who's

00:40:51 --> 00:40:53

inspiring or a cheerleader or someone who's just

00:40:53 --> 00:40:55

producing, but there's no direct role in, you

00:40:55 --> 00:40:58

know, the most important person who was born

00:40:58 --> 00:40:58

for Christians.

00:40:59 --> 00:41:01

Then she talks about a few more points

00:41:01 --> 00:41:03

and then we'll kind of move on. She

00:41:03 --> 00:41:05

starts she says that becoming a woman starts

00:41:05 --> 00:41:06

in childhood.

00:41:07 --> 00:41:09

So we need to rethink how we view

00:41:09 --> 00:41:11

childhood, very similar to what,

00:41:11 --> 00:41:14

our previous author was saying. She says

00:41:14 --> 00:41:16

that we divide boys and girls,

00:41:17 --> 00:41:19

and boys are told to be a man.

00:41:20 --> 00:41:22

Who's heard of that before? Right? You heard

00:41:22 --> 00:41:24

that before. Be a man. What does that

00:41:24 --> 00:41:25

mean? It means be independent

00:41:26 --> 00:41:29

and be strong. And she says, but girls,

00:41:29 --> 00:41:31

they don't get that. They're treated like infants,

00:41:31 --> 00:41:33

like little babies for a longer period of

00:41:33 --> 00:41:36

time and they're given more warmth and care

00:41:36 --> 00:41:37

and nurturing,

00:41:38 --> 00:41:39

and she's saying this is

00:41:39 --> 00:41:41

this results

00:41:42 --> 00:41:42

further

00:41:42 --> 00:41:43

perpetuates

00:41:43 --> 00:41:44

the,

00:41:45 --> 00:41:46

the subjugation of women.

00:41:46 --> 00:41:48

And then she says boys

00:41:48 --> 00:41:51

are allowed to urinate while standing up,

00:41:51 --> 00:41:53

and this gives them a sense of agency.

00:41:54 --> 00:41:56

And And the fact that they have agency,

00:41:56 --> 00:41:58

they actually become more empowered.

00:41:58 --> 00:42:01

And women, they have to sit down or

00:42:01 --> 00:42:02

they have to squat and they have to

00:42:02 --> 00:42:04

do it in they're taught to, like, cover

00:42:04 --> 00:42:07

themselves up rather than expose themselves. So that,

00:42:07 --> 00:42:08

you know, what we call in Islam hayah

00:42:08 --> 00:42:09

kind of thing, like, you know, you should

00:42:09 --> 00:42:11

be a little bit, you know, having some

00:42:11 --> 00:42:14

shame when it comes to that. What it

00:42:14 --> 00:42:14

does is

00:42:15 --> 00:42:18

it actually instills the idea into women that

00:42:18 --> 00:42:20

their * organs are taboo

00:42:21 --> 00:42:23

and actually it causes them to become more

00:42:23 --> 00:42:26

ashamed of their body when they grow up.

00:42:26 --> 00:42:27

And she says the boy

00:42:27 --> 00:42:28

has a penis,

00:42:29 --> 00:42:31

and he this is interesting. So the boy

00:42:31 --> 00:42:34

has a penis to play with. Okay? When

00:42:34 --> 00:42:35

he's a boy.

00:42:35 --> 00:42:37

The girl has nothing. So So what does

00:42:37 --> 00:42:39

she do? She ends up getting a doll,

00:42:39 --> 00:42:41

and having a doll signifies

00:42:42 --> 00:42:44

that she should be like her mother

00:42:45 --> 00:42:48

and she should start preparing for taking care

00:42:48 --> 00:42:49

of children when she gets older.

00:42:49 --> 00:42:52

She says, all of this that we have

00:42:52 --> 00:42:53

from from the physical

00:42:54 --> 00:42:56

characteristics of boys and girls to the type

00:42:56 --> 00:42:58

of toys we give them to the type

00:42:58 --> 00:42:59

of, you know, manner in which we treat

00:42:59 --> 00:43:01

them, all of this

00:43:02 --> 00:43:05

contributes to the subjugation of women at the

00:43:05 --> 00:43:06

end of the day.

00:43:06 --> 00:43:07

And then she says,

00:43:08 --> 00:43:11

when girls become adolescent and they start to

00:43:11 --> 00:43:13

grow up, they realize

00:43:14 --> 00:43:16

that their mother's role is confined

00:43:16 --> 00:43:18

and that their mother is subjugated,

00:43:19 --> 00:43:21

so they want to be in their father's

00:43:21 --> 00:43:21

role.

00:43:22 --> 00:43:24

So she said that the statistic was performed

00:43:24 --> 00:43:26

during her time and she said that they

00:43:26 --> 00:43:29

asked and they checked how many boys wanted

00:43:29 --> 00:43:31

to be girls. It's 1949.

00:43:32 --> 00:43:34

What percentage do you think it was?

00:43:36 --> 00:43:36

1%.

00:43:37 --> 00:43:37

Alright?

00:43:38 --> 00:43:40

How many girls want it to be boys?

00:43:42 --> 00:43:42

75%.

00:43:44 --> 00:43:44

75%.

00:43:45 --> 00:43:47

Alright. So totally different statistic.

00:43:48 --> 00:43:49

And then she continues on and on and

00:43:49 --> 00:43:51

she says just there's it just continues. The

00:43:51 --> 00:43:53

burden continues for women.

00:43:53 --> 00:43:55

The fact that women have *

00:43:55 --> 00:43:58

is a further burden for her. It's physical

00:43:58 --> 00:44:00

discomfort and all things. The fact that she

00:44:00 --> 00:44:02

has to menstruate and she has a period,

00:44:02 --> 00:44:04

it becomes a further burden for her. Alright?

00:44:04 --> 00:44:06

And then it continues on and on. So

00:44:06 --> 00:44:07

you can kind of see

00:44:07 --> 00:44:08

some of her ideas

00:44:09 --> 00:44:12

and how they've been influential in shaping, you

00:44:12 --> 00:44:14

know, the hearts and minds of people. Okay?

00:44:15 --> 00:44:17

Now, let's look at the next book real

00:44:17 --> 00:44:18

quick. So we're gonna summarize because we're I

00:44:18 --> 00:44:20

know it's we're running out of time here.

00:44:20 --> 00:44:22

So the next book is The Feminine Mystique,

00:44:22 --> 00:44:24

okay, by Betty Freeman,

00:44:24 --> 00:44:26

Betty Friedan. So I'm sure

00:44:26 --> 00:44:28

some of you have definitely read this book

00:44:28 --> 00:44:30

because it's a very popular book.

00:44:31 --> 00:44:33

This was written in 1960

00:44:33 --> 00:44:33

3,

00:44:34 --> 00:44:37

and this book basically sparked what's called second

00:44:37 --> 00:44:39

wave feminism in the United States.

00:44:39 --> 00:44:43

This was the best selling nonfiction book, over

00:44:43 --> 00:44:45

a 1000000 copies sold in 1964,

00:44:45 --> 00:44:47

and a lot of people, you know, have

00:44:47 --> 00:44:49

read this book. So basically,

00:44:49 --> 00:44:52

I'm just gonna summarize in a nutshell. What

00:44:52 --> 00:44:55

this is basically saying is she's speaking to

00:44:55 --> 00:44:56

American

00:44:57 --> 00:44:57

housewives.

00:44:59 --> 00:45:01

Okay? And she's saying that she specifically says

00:45:02 --> 00:45:03

that in 1949,

00:45:03 --> 00:45:05

after the World War 2,

00:45:05 --> 00:45:08

fulfillment as a woman had only one definition

00:45:08 --> 00:45:10

for American women after 1949,

00:45:11 --> 00:45:13

and that is the housewife mother.

00:45:14 --> 00:45:15

So the only

00:45:15 --> 00:45:18

concept of fulfillment was the housewife the housewife

00:45:18 --> 00:45:21

mother for American women, but if you go

00:45:21 --> 00:45:23

back to the twenties thirties, it was different.

00:45:23 --> 00:45:26

So this baby boom generation that we're talking

00:45:26 --> 00:45:27

about, she's saying

00:45:27 --> 00:45:30

you can basically the summary is you cannot

00:45:31 --> 00:45:32

ever be fulfilled

00:45:33 --> 00:45:34

by simply being a housewife.

00:45:35 --> 00:45:36

You're tricking yourself.

00:45:37 --> 00:45:39

You yourself are not only being subjugated but

00:45:39 --> 00:45:41

there's no ultimate purpose. You need to do

00:45:41 --> 00:45:43

something above and beyond that. So a very

00:45:43 --> 00:45:46

influential book as well. We won't go into

00:45:46 --> 00:45:47

it in detail because we need to move

00:45:47 --> 00:45:49

on to the next part. So,

00:45:49 --> 00:45:50

next part.

00:45:50 --> 00:45:51

So this is

00:45:52 --> 00:45:53

these are some Islamic

00:45:54 --> 00:45:54

responses

00:45:55 --> 00:45:57

from different Muslim thinkers.

00:45:57 --> 00:45:58

K?

00:45:58 --> 00:46:00

One of them, I could not find her

00:46:00 --> 00:46:01

picture, unfortunately,

00:46:01 --> 00:46:03

but, doctor Lois Lamia Farooqri,

00:46:04 --> 00:46:06

has anyone heard of her before?

00:46:08 --> 00:46:09

I knew you had heard of her. You're

00:46:09 --> 00:46:10

the only one. I knew you'd be the

00:46:10 --> 00:46:13

only one. So Alright. Anyways, alhamdulillah.

00:46:13 --> 00:46:15

So, yeah, I remember reading her book, Cultural

00:46:15 --> 00:46:17

Atlas of Islam. It's an amazing book. She's

00:46:17 --> 00:46:20

the husband of doctor Ismail Raji Farooqih. They're

00:46:20 --> 00:46:20

both,

00:46:21 --> 00:46:22

you know, amazing intellectuals,

00:46:23 --> 00:46:26

and, both of them, unfortunately, were killed,

00:46:27 --> 00:46:30

and it's suspected that they were martyred for

00:46:30 --> 00:46:33

their political views on Palestine specifically.

00:46:33 --> 00:46:35

So may Allah grant them paradise.

00:46:35 --> 00:46:37

So she was a really,

00:46:37 --> 00:46:38

really gifted woman.

00:46:39 --> 00:46:41

I couldn't find her picture for some reason.

00:46:41 --> 00:46:42

So she wrote,

00:46:42 --> 00:46:43

an article

00:46:44 --> 00:46:46

called Islamic Traditions and the Feminist Movement,

00:46:47 --> 00:46:48

Confrontation or Cooperation,

00:46:48 --> 00:46:50

which is basically where I just stole the

00:46:50 --> 00:46:52

title from her, for my own presentation.

00:46:53 --> 00:46:54

Alright. So she,

00:46:56 --> 00:46:56

she mentions,

00:46:57 --> 00:46:58

a few things

00:46:58 --> 00:46:59

in here

00:46:59 --> 00:47:00

reflecting

00:47:00 --> 00:47:02

on the feminist movement,

00:47:03 --> 00:47:05

around the world, and she has some commentary

00:47:05 --> 00:47:07

on that. So she's saying, first of all,

00:47:08 --> 00:47:09

that Muslim women

00:47:09 --> 00:47:10

are disappointed

00:47:11 --> 00:47:14

or they openly reject certain parts of the

00:47:14 --> 00:47:15

feminist movement.

00:47:16 --> 00:47:18

And she's saying, why is that?

00:47:18 --> 00:47:20

The reason why she's writing kind of to

00:47:20 --> 00:47:23

the western world saying, you need to understand

00:47:25 --> 00:47:26

what Muslim women

00:47:26 --> 00:47:29

really think, or in her idea, maybe should

00:47:29 --> 00:47:32

think, about feminism. You guys need to understand

00:47:32 --> 00:47:33

before you take your feminist,

00:47:34 --> 00:47:36

movement program and try and implement it on

00:47:36 --> 00:47:38

Muslims around the world, you need to understand

00:47:39 --> 00:47:41

why there's some hesitation here. Either we don't

00:47:41 --> 00:47:43

like some of the ideas or we completely

00:47:43 --> 00:47:45

reject some of the ideas.

00:47:45 --> 00:47:46

And she says that's because

00:47:47 --> 00:47:49

we have an Islamic culture

00:47:50 --> 00:47:51

which has social,

00:47:51 --> 00:47:52

psychological

00:47:52 --> 00:47:53

and economic

00:47:54 --> 00:47:57

culture or traditions built into it, and if

00:47:57 --> 00:47:59

you don't take that into consideration,

00:47:59 --> 00:48:01

there's gonna be a mismatch between these two

00:48:01 --> 00:48:03

movements here. So you saw kinda how the

00:48:03 --> 00:48:05

movements were, you saw what religion,

00:48:05 --> 00:48:08

their perspective on religion, their perspective on Adam

00:48:08 --> 00:48:10

and Eve, their perspective on certain things. So

00:48:10 --> 00:48:12

now she's gonna offer a critique and she

00:48:12 --> 00:48:14

says, the first point we need to understand

00:48:15 --> 00:48:18

is that Islam promotes a family system.

00:48:18 --> 00:48:20

So the family system in Islam

00:48:21 --> 00:48:22

is advocated

00:48:22 --> 00:48:24

to the extent that they're supposed to be

00:48:24 --> 00:48:26

a large extended family,

00:48:26 --> 00:48:28

and family values

00:48:28 --> 00:48:30

are supposed to not only be in the

00:48:30 --> 00:48:31

nuclear family.

00:48:32 --> 00:48:33

Not only husband, wife and kids,

00:48:34 --> 00:48:36

but in the extended family. Your parents and

00:48:36 --> 00:48:39

your grandparents and your uncles and your aunts

00:48:39 --> 00:48:39

and everyone,

00:48:40 --> 00:48:40

they matter.

00:48:41 --> 00:48:43

She's there's a very big difference between focusing

00:48:43 --> 00:48:45

purely on the nuclear family and focusing on

00:48:45 --> 00:48:48

the extended family. And in a Muslim culture

00:48:48 --> 00:48:49

or in an Islamic culture,

00:48:50 --> 00:48:52

that is going to affect some of the

00:48:52 --> 00:48:53

ideas that are coming in there. And she

00:48:53 --> 00:48:55

says it's very clear cut from the Quran,

00:48:55 --> 00:48:58

from the hadith, what Islam says about family.

00:48:58 --> 00:49:00

So instead of quoting all of that, we'll

00:49:00 --> 00:49:02

just talk about that as a point. She

00:49:02 --> 00:49:03

says, the family system

00:49:04 --> 00:49:05

is very different

00:49:05 --> 00:49:08

in the works of or the view of

00:49:08 --> 00:49:09

the family system.

00:49:09 --> 00:49:10

Even in the

00:49:10 --> 00:49:13

feminist thinkers who believe in family, they're still

00:49:13 --> 00:49:15

thinking of nuclear family, and they're not so

00:49:15 --> 00:49:17

much focusing on the extended family.

00:49:18 --> 00:49:21

And then she says that family participation

00:49:21 --> 00:49:22

in marriage

00:49:22 --> 00:49:25

is something which is encouraged in Islam.

00:49:25 --> 00:49:27

So this is interesting. So she says that

00:49:27 --> 00:49:28

feminists,

00:49:28 --> 00:49:29

they will restrict

00:49:30 --> 00:49:32

they think that family participation

00:49:33 --> 00:49:33

in marriage

00:49:33 --> 00:49:37

will restrict individual freedoms because someone else is

00:49:37 --> 00:49:39

coming and telling you what to do or

00:49:39 --> 00:49:42

advising you what to do. But doctor Farooqi

00:49:42 --> 00:49:43

says no.

00:49:44 --> 00:49:47

Doctor Farooqi says that,

00:49:47 --> 00:49:48

the family

00:49:48 --> 00:49:49

participation

00:49:49 --> 00:49:50

in marriage

00:49:50 --> 00:49:51

is actually advantageous

00:49:52 --> 00:49:55

to the individual and it's advantageous to society,

00:49:56 --> 00:49:58

assuming you're not part of a dysfunctional family.

00:49:58 --> 00:50:00

Okay? Assuming your family is not broken and

00:50:00 --> 00:50:02

all messed up. So she says, why is

00:50:02 --> 00:50:05

that? She says, number 1, marriages are gonna

00:50:05 --> 00:50:08

be based on sounder principles than simply the

00:50:08 --> 00:50:09

rule of attraction.

00:50:09 --> 00:50:11

Right? So when you're getting interested in marriage,

00:50:11 --> 00:50:13

your family is gonna give you good advice

00:50:13 --> 00:50:15

on what type of person you should be

00:50:15 --> 00:50:17

trying to marry, so it's not just between

00:50:17 --> 00:50:19

you and that individual. You're gonna be thinking

00:50:20 --> 00:50:22

that, hey, I have to think what type

00:50:22 --> 00:50:24

of person I'm gonna marry and how that's

00:50:24 --> 00:50:26

gonna affect my greater family. It's not just

00:50:26 --> 00:50:29

between 2 people. Alright? That's a good point.

00:50:29 --> 00:50:30

Number 2,

00:50:30 --> 00:50:31

family

00:50:31 --> 00:50:33

the family will support the new couple.

00:50:34 --> 00:50:36

Not only financially, they'll support them, you know,

00:50:36 --> 00:50:38

emotionally, they'll support them in so many different

00:50:38 --> 00:50:39

ways, but obviously

00:50:40 --> 00:50:42

financially would be one of the important things

00:50:42 --> 00:50:44

that we even see today. Whereas, you see,

00:50:44 --> 00:50:46

in the absence of family, people cannot get

00:50:46 --> 00:50:48

married because they cannot afford marriage. The family

00:50:48 --> 00:50:50

is not willing to support for whatever

00:50:50 --> 00:50:54

reason. Number 3. She's saying that you have

00:50:54 --> 00:50:55

social interaction

00:50:55 --> 00:50:57

built in so that people do not end

00:50:57 --> 00:50:58

up becoming lonely.

00:50:59 --> 00:51:00

So this happens to a lot of couples,

00:51:00 --> 00:51:01

and we do a lot of, you know,

00:51:01 --> 00:51:03

we see a lot of couples,

00:51:03 --> 00:51:04

come in and they say, you know, as

00:51:04 --> 00:51:06

soon as they get married, the woman goes

00:51:06 --> 00:51:07

her own way or she's sitting at home

00:51:07 --> 00:51:09

and the guy goes and he's traveling on

00:51:09 --> 00:51:11

business trips. The woman is sitting there lonely

00:51:11 --> 00:51:13

and she has no extended family to, you

00:51:13 --> 00:51:16

know, help her out and just prevent her

00:51:16 --> 00:51:18

from being lonely or even vice versa and

00:51:18 --> 00:51:20

the guy starts becoming lonely and all that.

00:51:20 --> 00:51:21

So number 4,

00:51:22 --> 00:51:24

spouses will actually be kept in line

00:51:24 --> 00:51:27

due to opposition from a larger group. And

00:51:27 --> 00:51:29

she's alluding to the verse of the Quran

00:51:29 --> 00:51:31

which says if there's a conflict between spouses,

00:51:31 --> 00:51:33

you have one person from one side of

00:51:33 --> 00:51:35

the family come, another side of the family

00:51:35 --> 00:51:37

come. She's saying that what's gonna happen is

00:51:37 --> 00:51:40

there's always gonna be conflict in marriage. K?

00:51:40 --> 00:51:41

But when that conflict comes,

00:51:42 --> 00:51:44

assuming the families, again, are not dysfunctional,

00:51:45 --> 00:51:47

right, they will come because they have a

00:51:47 --> 00:51:48

vested interest

00:51:49 --> 00:51:51

of keeping this family together. So they will

00:51:51 --> 00:51:53

come in and they will put people in

00:51:53 --> 00:51:54

their place when they need to, and they'll

00:51:54 --> 00:51:56

say, you know, you need to just, you

00:51:56 --> 00:51:58

know, stop stop being petty or whatever it

00:51:58 --> 00:51:59

is, as long as it's not, like, on

00:51:59 --> 00:52:01

a serious issue. So he's saying the opposition

00:52:01 --> 00:52:04

from a larger group is gonna help the

00:52:04 --> 00:52:04

spouses

00:52:04 --> 00:52:07

keep themselves in line when they're fighting.

00:52:07 --> 00:52:10

Number 5. Children will be taken care of

00:52:10 --> 00:52:12

when they're working. So if a woman is

00:52:12 --> 00:52:13

even working and a man is working and

00:52:13 --> 00:52:15

they're both working and they have children,

00:52:16 --> 00:52:18

the extended family will be there to take

00:52:18 --> 00:52:20

care of them. You got the grandparents there,

00:52:20 --> 00:52:21

you got some uncles there, you got other

00:52:21 --> 00:52:24

people who may not be out. There's always

00:52:24 --> 00:52:25

someone to go and take care of the

00:52:25 --> 00:52:28

rest of the family. And then number 6,

00:52:28 --> 00:52:30

she says the larger social unit in the

00:52:30 --> 00:52:31

case of divorce,

00:52:32 --> 00:52:33

in the case of family breakdown,

00:52:34 --> 00:52:36

the larger social unit of the family will

00:52:36 --> 00:52:38

actually absorb the effects

00:52:39 --> 00:52:40

of that divorce

00:52:41 --> 00:52:42

on the spouse

00:52:42 --> 00:52:44

as well as on the kids. So a

00:52:44 --> 00:52:46

spouse will start getting depressed, I'm divorced, this

00:52:46 --> 00:52:48

and that. The family's there. Even the whatever

00:52:48 --> 00:52:49

it is, the guy will go back to

00:52:49 --> 00:52:50

his family, girl will go back to their

00:52:50 --> 00:52:53

family. Let's assume that's the case. They're gonna

00:52:53 --> 00:52:55

they're gonna be that support system for them.

00:52:55 --> 00:52:57

And in terms of the children as well.

00:52:57 --> 00:52:58

So if a woman needs to go and

00:52:58 --> 00:53:00

let's say she has to fend for herself

00:53:00 --> 00:53:02

or work, whatever, the family's there to be

00:53:02 --> 00:53:04

there and to take care of her, and

00:53:04 --> 00:53:05

and, you know, help with the kids and

00:53:05 --> 00:53:08

all of that stuff. She's saying that is

00:53:08 --> 00:53:11

one very important difference between the feminist discourse

00:53:11 --> 00:53:14

on family or on individual rights or even

00:53:14 --> 00:53:17

on the nuclear family versus the extended family.

00:53:17 --> 00:53:20

The next point she mentions is she says

00:53:20 --> 00:53:20

that

00:53:21 --> 00:53:22

the the idea of individualism

00:53:23 --> 00:53:25

versus the larger organization.

00:53:26 --> 00:53:27

So she says Islam

00:53:27 --> 00:53:28

channels,

00:53:29 --> 00:53:29

individual

00:53:30 --> 00:53:31

goals of people

00:53:32 --> 00:53:33

into

00:53:33 --> 00:53:36

the goals for the greater welfare of the

00:53:36 --> 00:53:37

larger group.

00:53:37 --> 00:53:39

And she says you don't see this

00:53:40 --> 00:53:41

in the

00:53:41 --> 00:53:42

ideology

00:53:42 --> 00:53:45

of feminism for the most part. So what

00:53:45 --> 00:53:47

does that mean? She basically, what she's saying

00:53:47 --> 00:53:48

is that

00:53:49 --> 00:53:52

it's not about individual fulfillment. It's not about

00:53:52 --> 00:53:55

what makes me happy and what makes me

00:53:55 --> 00:53:57

fulfilled and what brings my success.

00:53:58 --> 00:53:59

It's not from an individual

00:54:00 --> 00:54:03

context, but instead Islam takes the individual goals

00:54:03 --> 00:54:05

that you may have and they have to

00:54:05 --> 00:54:08

be channeled into a greater goal for a

00:54:08 --> 00:54:08

family,

00:54:09 --> 00:54:11

whether it's a nuclear family or an extended

00:54:11 --> 00:54:13

family as a whole. And she's saying what

00:54:13 --> 00:54:16

happens is that a female's goals

00:54:17 --> 00:54:19

on an individual level, they may be in

00:54:19 --> 00:54:21

line with the benefits of the family or

00:54:21 --> 00:54:24

maybe they have to be subordinate to the

00:54:24 --> 00:54:26

actual goals of the group. So what she's

00:54:26 --> 00:54:28

saying is that from an Islamic perspective,

00:54:29 --> 00:54:31

you may have to sacrifice for the benefit

00:54:31 --> 00:54:32

of your family,

00:54:32 --> 00:54:34

and that is not opposed

00:54:34 --> 00:54:35

to

00:54:35 --> 00:54:38

fulfillment or fulfilling a particular goal. Whereas, in

00:54:38 --> 00:54:38

feminism, because the focus is primarily on the

00:54:38 --> 00:54:40

individual, why would you because the focus is

00:54:40 --> 00:54:43

primarily on the individual. Why would you sacrifice

00:54:43 --> 00:54:46

your individual goals or individual fulfillment for the

00:54:46 --> 00:54:49

greater good of the family? There's no sacrifice.

00:54:49 --> 00:54:51

And, of course, it's the same for men.

00:54:51 --> 00:54:54

So she's saying that perspective is radically different,

00:54:55 --> 00:54:57

and that leads to different conclusions. And then

00:54:57 --> 00:55:00

she says that the promotion of individual

00:55:00 --> 00:55:03

goals can actually threaten the social interdependence

00:55:04 --> 00:55:06

that Islam is trying to bring. Okay. So

00:55:06 --> 00:55:06

that's individuals versus the larger family unit organization.

00:55:06 --> 00:55:07

Then she says

00:55:07 --> 00:55:08

the

00:55:09 --> 00:55:10

organization. Then she says the idea of differentiation

00:55:10 --> 00:55:12

of * roles. K? So from this, she's

00:55:12 --> 00:55:14

saying that male and females in Islam, they

00:55:14 --> 00:55:17

have different roles. And then she just alludes

00:55:17 --> 00:55:18

to this

00:55:18 --> 00:55:19

and she

00:55:19 --> 00:55:22

doesn't really build on it.

00:55:25 --> 00:55:27

She says, it is both natural

00:55:27 --> 00:55:28

and it's desirable.

00:55:29 --> 00:55:30

And if we have time, I'm gonna talk

00:55:30 --> 00:55:32

about the natural part in the next thinker.

00:55:32 --> 00:55:34

If not, we'll just skip him. But she

00:55:34 --> 00:55:36

says it's natural and it's desirable. So she's

00:55:36 --> 00:55:37

saying 2 things. 1,

00:55:38 --> 00:55:39

the fact that there are different roles for

00:55:39 --> 00:55:40

men and women,

00:55:40 --> 00:55:43

it's the way which human beings are built.

00:55:43 --> 00:55:45

And number 2, it's actually desirable.

00:55:46 --> 00:55:48

Whereas you you find, like, for example, the

00:55:48 --> 00:55:50

other books, we're talking about

00:55:51 --> 00:55:52

how there's

00:55:53 --> 00:55:53

disadvantageous

00:55:54 --> 00:55:57

traits that women will have. She's saying, no.

00:55:57 --> 00:55:59

Actually, when you have different roles,

00:56:00 --> 00:56:02

we're actually designed to complement one another, and

00:56:02 --> 00:56:04

that's something that's good. So she says that

00:56:04 --> 00:56:07

the feminine ideal or the feminist ideal

00:56:07 --> 00:56:08

is a unisex

00:56:09 --> 00:56:09

society

00:56:10 --> 00:56:12

where there's a single set of roles and

00:56:12 --> 00:56:14

a single set of concerns

00:56:14 --> 00:56:16

that are given precedence and everyone should have

00:56:16 --> 00:56:18

the same goals and the same concerns and

00:56:18 --> 00:56:19

the same roles.

00:56:19 --> 00:56:21

And she says the feminist movement

00:56:21 --> 00:56:23

gives preference

00:56:23 --> 00:56:25

to traditional male roles

00:56:26 --> 00:56:27

of financial support,

00:56:28 --> 00:56:29

career success,

00:56:29 --> 00:56:30

and decision making.

00:56:31 --> 00:56:33

She's saying, well, what happens in western feminism,

00:56:33 --> 00:56:35

the one that we're talking about here, she's

00:56:35 --> 00:56:37

saying, if everyone is supposed to be in

00:56:37 --> 00:56:39

the same role, they're supposed to have the

00:56:39 --> 00:56:41

same goals, the same values, and going towards

00:56:41 --> 00:56:41

the same direction,

00:56:42 --> 00:56:43

she's saying, which

00:56:44 --> 00:56:46

in Islam, if there's different roles, generally that

00:56:46 --> 00:56:47

are assigned,

00:56:48 --> 00:56:49

which traits

00:56:50 --> 00:56:51

are given precedence

00:56:51 --> 00:56:54

in western feminism? She says these 3, and

00:56:54 --> 00:56:55

these are traditionally

00:56:55 --> 00:56:58

the male roles. So they're given precedence over

00:56:58 --> 00:57:00

the other roles, which are the domestic matters,

00:57:01 --> 00:57:01

childcare,

00:57:02 --> 00:57:02

aesthetics,

00:57:03 --> 00:57:04

social relationships,

00:57:04 --> 00:57:05

etcetera.

00:57:06 --> 00:57:09

She's what happens is the women's traditional roles

00:57:09 --> 00:57:12

become either devalued or they become despised and

00:57:12 --> 00:57:13

they're looked down upon, and then therefore they

00:57:13 --> 00:57:16

don't they're they're not an actual goal to

00:57:16 --> 00:57:19

try and strive to to get to. Instead,

00:57:19 --> 00:57:22

women should try to get to the male

00:57:22 --> 00:57:25

traditional male roles, and that's where their success

00:57:25 --> 00:57:27

actually lies. And then she says men and

00:57:27 --> 00:57:29

women are being forced into a single mold,

00:57:30 --> 00:57:31

whereas in Islam,

00:57:31 --> 00:57:32

both of these roles

00:57:33 --> 00:57:36

equally deserve respect. 1 is not seen as

00:57:36 --> 00:57:38

superior than the other. In fact, they're seen

00:57:38 --> 00:57:38

as complementary,

00:57:39 --> 00:57:41

and they're seen both as being praised and

00:57:41 --> 00:57:43

one is not superior to the other. But

00:57:43 --> 00:57:45

from the western feminist framework, one of them

00:57:45 --> 00:57:47

is viewed as being categorically

00:57:48 --> 00:57:50

superior to the other, whether it's power or

00:57:50 --> 00:57:52

whether it's money or whether it's, you know,

00:57:52 --> 00:57:54

all of these things that we mentioned.

00:57:54 --> 00:57:55

Then she says

00:57:56 --> 00:57:56

that

00:57:57 --> 00:57:59

having a division of labor

00:57:59 --> 00:58:00

along * lines

00:58:01 --> 00:58:04

is actually beneficial to the larger group. Meaning,

00:58:04 --> 00:58:06

having this division of labor is beneficial to

00:58:06 --> 00:58:08

the greater group which is the family as

00:58:08 --> 00:58:10

a whole. She says the roles of men

00:58:10 --> 00:58:11

and women are equal,

00:58:12 --> 00:58:13

but they're not identical.

00:58:14 --> 00:58:16

And she says when they become identical,

00:58:16 --> 00:58:17

there is

00:58:18 --> 00:58:20

a green light for competition

00:58:21 --> 00:58:23

rather than for complementing one another. And then

00:58:23 --> 00:58:25

inter competition happens within the spouses.

00:58:26 --> 00:58:28

And then she says, economic responsibilities

00:58:28 --> 00:58:31

differ. And the reason why they differ is

00:58:31 --> 00:58:32

because

00:58:32 --> 00:58:35

reproduction and child rearing differ.

00:58:35 --> 00:58:37

They only apply for women. So she's saying

00:58:37 --> 00:58:40

that women are not equally responsible economically

00:58:41 --> 00:58:41

because,

00:58:42 --> 00:58:44

you know, the fact that women are not

00:58:44 --> 00:58:45

equally responsible economically

00:58:46 --> 00:58:48

is not a type of gender inequality.

00:58:49 --> 00:58:51

But instead, it's a type of compensation

00:58:52 --> 00:58:54

for another duty, and that is the child

00:58:54 --> 00:58:55

rearing and the services and all of the

00:58:55 --> 00:58:57

other things that she's talking about.

00:58:57 --> 00:58:59

And then she talks about inheritance, and inheritance

00:58:59 --> 00:59:01

is one of those things that we can't,

00:59:01 --> 00:59:03

you know, even talk about,

00:59:04 --> 00:59:06

this topic without, you know, usually getting into

00:59:06 --> 00:59:09

that. So she says that the inheritance rates

00:59:09 --> 00:59:12

in Islam and the inheritance rates that exist

00:59:12 --> 00:59:13

in the Quran,

00:59:13 --> 00:59:16

they're part of a comprehensive system

00:59:16 --> 00:59:19

of male financial responsibility,

00:59:19 --> 00:59:22

and you have to understand them from the

00:59:22 --> 00:59:22

whole

00:59:23 --> 00:59:24

perspective. Okay? So just to give you some

00:59:24 --> 00:59:26

insight in here, you know,

00:59:26 --> 00:59:28

people have this perception that women always get

00:59:28 --> 00:59:30

less than a man gets in inheritance.

00:59:31 --> 00:59:32

That's not the case. You know, we have

00:59:32 --> 00:59:34

a class on inheritance, you know, in our

00:59:34 --> 00:59:35

school, California Islamic University.

00:59:36 --> 00:59:38

And when you study inheritance, it's not always

00:59:38 --> 00:59:39

the case. So let's

00:59:40 --> 00:59:42

give an example. A woman dies. She leaves

00:59:42 --> 00:59:43

a husband,

00:59:43 --> 00:59:44

a father, and a daughter.

00:59:45 --> 00:59:47

2 males, 1 female. K?

00:59:48 --> 00:59:50

The husband will get 1 fourth of her

00:59:50 --> 00:59:51

inheritance. The father will get one fourth of

00:59:51 --> 00:59:53

her inheritance. The daughter will get half of

00:59:53 --> 00:59:54

her inheritance.

00:59:54 --> 00:59:57

So in this case, just one random example,

00:59:57 --> 00:59:59

the daughter will actually get double the inheritance

01:00:00 --> 01:00:02

of the 2 males which were surviving here.

01:00:03 --> 01:00:05

So it's not always the case. But it's

01:00:05 --> 01:00:05

the case

01:00:06 --> 01:00:08

when there's a daughter and there's a son

01:00:08 --> 01:00:09

from the same,

01:00:10 --> 01:00:12

what do you call it? From the same,

01:00:14 --> 01:00:15

not the same line.

01:00:17 --> 01:00:19

The same plane. Okay. Whatever. The same

01:00:20 --> 01:00:20

blood

01:00:21 --> 01:00:22

distance from,

01:00:23 --> 01:00:25

the the person who passed away, the deceased.

01:00:26 --> 01:00:27

I'm getting tired now. So the person from

01:00:27 --> 01:00:29

the deceased. So,

01:00:30 --> 01:00:32

it's considered to be half. So you say,

01:00:32 --> 01:00:34

well, why is it half? Why does a

01:00:34 --> 01:00:36

why does a son get double the share

01:00:36 --> 01:00:38

of inheritance than a woman? She says you

01:00:38 --> 01:00:40

have to understand in the context that

01:00:40 --> 01:00:43

this son is supposed to be financially responsible.

01:00:43 --> 01:00:45

When he gets married, he's financially responsible for

01:00:45 --> 01:00:47

his household. When the woman gets married, she's

01:00:47 --> 01:00:49

not financially responsible

01:00:49 --> 01:00:50

for a household.

01:00:51 --> 01:00:53

And we can continue to, you know, reflect

01:00:53 --> 01:00:54

upon that for a long time. But she

01:00:54 --> 01:00:56

makes that point. And she says, if you

01:00:56 --> 01:00:57

don't see it as a whole, you're not

01:00:57 --> 01:01:00

gonna understand what the rules are. So then

01:01:00 --> 01:01:02

she comes to the solution. And she says,

01:01:02 --> 01:01:02

okay,

01:01:03 --> 01:01:04

what is the solution

01:01:05 --> 01:01:06

to this dilemma?

01:01:07 --> 01:01:09

She says, should we maintain the status quo

01:01:09 --> 01:01:10

that exists

01:01:12 --> 01:01:14

in Muslim societies today?

01:01:14 --> 01:01:17

And she writes a giant no way. Right?

01:01:17 --> 01:01:20

Which basically means that she's saying that, no,

01:01:20 --> 01:01:22

The Muslim countries or the Muslim lands, they

01:01:22 --> 01:01:23

are not

01:01:23 --> 01:01:26

representing Islamic ideals by any means

01:01:26 --> 01:01:28

at all. Right? So they are not good

01:01:28 --> 01:01:31

role models or examples to look at in

01:01:31 --> 01:01:33

terms of what we're trying to actually achieve.

01:01:33 --> 01:01:34

But some of the things we need to

01:01:34 --> 01:01:37

understand, she says, first of all, that

01:01:38 --> 01:01:41

the idea of a separate legal status for

01:01:41 --> 01:01:43

women, which was part of the first wave

01:01:43 --> 01:01:44

feminist movement,

01:01:45 --> 01:01:46

which we talked about in some of the

01:01:46 --> 01:01:49

earlier writings here, she says that is something

01:01:49 --> 01:01:51

that Islam has already given to women when

01:01:51 --> 01:01:53

the Quran was first revealed. So she has

01:01:53 --> 01:01:55

a separate identity. She has the right to

01:01:55 --> 01:01:57

own property. She has the right to contract.

01:01:57 --> 01:01:59

She has the right to earn. Her marriage

01:01:59 --> 01:02:01

does not affect her legal status. If there's

01:02:01 --> 01:02:03

a crime, her criminal penalties are equal to

01:02:03 --> 01:02:06

the same criminal penalties that have exist for

01:02:06 --> 01:02:08

a man. All of that stuff has been

01:02:08 --> 01:02:11

equal, whereas in Western Europe where feminism was

01:02:11 --> 01:02:12

originating and being developed,

01:02:13 --> 01:02:15

it was not the case. So she said

01:02:15 --> 01:02:16

we need to go back and we need

01:02:16 --> 01:02:17

to understand, first of all, a lot of

01:02:17 --> 01:02:18

these ideas,

01:02:19 --> 01:02:21

right, were particular to one part of the

01:02:21 --> 01:02:22

world or maybe different parts of the world,

01:02:22 --> 01:02:25

but Islam didn't really have that issue.

01:02:25 --> 01:02:28

Then she addresses the issue of polygyny or

01:02:28 --> 01:02:28

polygamy.

01:02:29 --> 01:02:31

We're gonna skip that for now because it's

01:02:31 --> 01:02:33

gonna become very long. And then she gives

01:02:33 --> 01:02:36

some tips for women's rights workers. So she

01:02:36 --> 01:02:37

says, look,

01:02:37 --> 01:02:40

those people who are working for women's rights,

01:02:40 --> 01:02:42

here's something you need to keep in mind.

01:02:42 --> 01:02:45

She says, Islam gave women many of the

01:02:45 --> 01:02:46

first wave rights,

01:02:47 --> 01:02:49

first wave feminism. So these things tend to

01:02:49 --> 01:02:50

generally be irrelevant

01:02:51 --> 01:02:52

for Muslims.

01:02:53 --> 01:02:56

So that's one thing we need to understand.

01:02:56 --> 01:02:57

And then she says, the second thing you

01:02:57 --> 01:02:59

need to understand is you need to look

01:02:59 --> 01:03:02

at the other goals of the 2nd wave

01:03:02 --> 01:03:05

feminism, and 3rd wave is just a reiteration

01:03:05 --> 01:03:06

of 2nd wave saying that it has not

01:03:06 --> 01:03:09

been achieved. So some goals are diametrically

01:03:09 --> 01:03:12

opposed to Islamic values, and they should never

01:03:12 --> 01:03:14

be accepted, and they will never be accepted.

01:03:15 --> 01:03:17

So the more you try to implement that

01:03:17 --> 01:03:17

on Muslims,

01:03:18 --> 01:03:20

they're not gonna accept those things which are

01:03:20 --> 01:03:21

not part of,

01:03:21 --> 01:03:22

you know,

01:03:23 --> 01:03:25

part of the Islamic ethos or the Islamic,

01:03:25 --> 01:03:26

you know, foundational

01:03:26 --> 01:03:27

understanding.

01:03:27 --> 01:03:29

And then she says that there's an intercultural

01:03:30 --> 01:03:30

incompatibility

01:03:32 --> 01:03:35

between the idea of feminism and the perception

01:03:35 --> 01:03:36

of Islam

01:03:37 --> 01:03:38

when it comes to women,

01:03:38 --> 01:03:41

their rights, their status, their perspective and the

01:03:41 --> 01:03:43

idea of family. She's saying that feminism was

01:03:43 --> 01:03:45

conceived in the west

01:03:45 --> 01:03:47

and the primary goal

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was to remove

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the legal impediments that existed in England and

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in France and in other parts of the

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world. And she says most of the laws

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were derived from Christianity.

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They were derived from a feudal system.

01:04:01 --> 01:04:03

And then there was an industrial revolution that

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took place.

01:04:04 --> 01:04:05

Women were needed in the workforce,

01:04:06 --> 01:04:07

and according to her,

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the reason why most of those changes happened,

01:04:10 --> 01:04:12

those changes took place,

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was because

01:04:14 --> 01:04:16

of that industrial revolution and the fact that

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women were needed.

01:04:18 --> 01:04:20

It was not just something where people's moral

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sentiments somehow shifted or changed, but they were

01:04:23 --> 01:04:26

actually needed for a particular purpose, and that's

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why the laws began to change as well.

01:04:28 --> 01:04:31

So then she says, what would an Islamic

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feminism

01:04:32 --> 01:04:33

actually look like?

01:04:34 --> 01:04:35

She says feminism

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has viewed religion

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as the main opponent

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of its progress, as you've seen in the

01:04:42 --> 01:04:43

story of Adam and Eve and Mary and

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all of these critiques.

01:04:45 --> 01:04:47

And she says, but Islam needs to be

01:04:47 --> 01:04:50

viewed as the ally to actually achieve some

01:04:50 --> 01:04:52

of some of the goals that were there,

01:04:52 --> 01:04:53

and we should not somehow all of a

01:04:53 --> 01:04:54

sudden

01:04:54 --> 01:04:56

put Islam, you know, on trial and think

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that all of a sudden Islam is somehow

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a problem, the way that Judaism and Christianity

01:05:00 --> 01:05:02

was a problem for people who were fighting

01:05:02 --> 01:05:04

for women's rights as being part of the

01:05:04 --> 01:05:07

feminist movement. And then she mentions another point

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at the end, and she's just about done

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here, and she says feminism

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should not chauvinistically

01:05:13 --> 01:05:16

work for women's interests only.

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That is a very important point.

01:05:19 --> 01:05:21

Feminism should not chauvinistically

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work for women's interests only, but it should

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align with the wider interest to support society

01:05:27 --> 01:05:28

as a whole.

01:05:28 --> 01:05:30

And this is very important because

01:05:30 --> 01:05:32

her dichotomy between individualism

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and between the greater

01:05:35 --> 01:05:38

social unit, whether it's family or something greater.

01:05:38 --> 01:05:41

It's not just what is good for you,

01:05:41 --> 01:05:43

it's what is good for a larger unit,

01:05:43 --> 01:05:44

and then we can define what those units

01:05:44 --> 01:05:47

are. And she concludes by saying that from

01:05:47 --> 01:05:48

an Islamic perspective,

01:05:49 --> 01:05:51

society is seen as an organic whole.

01:05:52 --> 01:05:54

And she's referring to a hadith, which basically

01:05:54 --> 01:05:57

says if one part of the ummah is

01:05:57 --> 01:05:57

suffering,

01:05:58 --> 01:06:00

one part of the community as a whole

01:06:00 --> 01:06:03

is is in pain or something's going on,

01:06:03 --> 01:06:05

the entire body suffers and feels that pain.

01:06:06 --> 01:06:08

So she says we need to, you know,

01:06:08 --> 01:06:10

rethink the way in which we view things

01:06:10 --> 01:06:11

from an individualist

01:06:11 --> 01:06:13

perspective and we look at them from a

01:06:13 --> 01:06:16

holistic perspective. So she's basically saying that, in

01:06:16 --> 01:06:18

a nutshell, that

01:06:18 --> 01:06:20

Islam and feminism is kind of like a

01:06:20 --> 01:06:22

Venn diagram. I didn't put one of these

01:06:22 --> 01:06:24

slides in here, but it's like there's overlap.

01:06:24 --> 01:06:26

And she's saying that overlap,

01:06:26 --> 01:06:28

there's some things which are outside in the

01:06:28 --> 01:06:30

realm of feminism that are outside the realm

01:06:30 --> 01:06:32

of Islam, and then there's things which are

01:06:32 --> 01:06:35

overlap. But she's warning people and saying before

01:06:35 --> 01:06:38

we adopt a philosophy like this in total,

01:06:38 --> 01:06:39

in, you know, in completely,

01:06:40 --> 01:06:42

we need to be very cognizant of what

01:06:42 --> 01:06:45

Islam is teaching, what Islamic values are, and

01:06:45 --> 01:06:48

what is the feminist movement actually talking about

01:06:48 --> 01:06:48

specifically.

01:06:49 --> 01:06:52

Alright? So we're running out of time, unfortunately,

01:06:52 --> 01:06:53

so I should have prepared better. That's my

01:06:53 --> 01:06:56

fault. So I wanted to actually talk about,

01:06:57 --> 01:06:57

another,

01:06:58 --> 01:06:58

author,

01:06:59 --> 01:07:02

who is professor Tim Winter from Cambridge University.

01:07:03 --> 01:07:04

He's a Muslim scholar. He's a sheikh as

01:07:04 --> 01:07:06

well. He wrote an article.

01:07:06 --> 01:07:08

That picture just looks a little strange, so

01:07:08 --> 01:07:10

I put another slide in there. So he

01:07:10 --> 01:07:13

wrote an article called Boys Will Be Boys,

01:07:13 --> 01:07:15

Gender Identity Issues. And this is a really

01:07:15 --> 01:07:16

interesting article.

01:07:17 --> 01:07:19

The summary of this article basically is

01:07:20 --> 01:07:22

that there was a woman by the name

01:07:22 --> 01:07:23

of Germaine Greer.

01:07:23 --> 01:07:25

Anyone read Germaine Greer?

01:07:26 --> 01:07:28

Nobody? Okay. So she wrote a book called

01:07:28 --> 01:07:29

The Female Eunuch

01:07:29 --> 01:07:31

or eunuch, in 1969.

01:07:32 --> 01:07:35

Anyone know what a eunuch is? Am I

01:07:35 --> 01:07:36

pronouncing it correctly?

01:07:36 --> 01:07:37

Someone who's castrated.

01:07:37 --> 01:07:38

A eunuch. Yeah.

01:07:39 --> 01:07:39

Eunuch?

01:07:40 --> 01:07:42

Eunuch, yeah. The female eunuch, someone who's castrated.

01:07:42 --> 01:07:44

So she's basically saying that, you know, females

01:07:44 --> 01:07:47

are, you know, kind of society has basically

01:07:47 --> 01:07:50

castrated women to become subservient and to become

01:07:50 --> 01:07:53

sexless, and then she defines what that is.

01:07:53 --> 01:07:55

But what's really interesting so this I'm gonna

01:07:55 --> 01:07:57

summarize real quick what his thing is. Otherwise,

01:07:57 --> 01:07:59

I could go for another hour or 2.

01:07:59 --> 01:08:00

He

01:08:00 --> 01:08:02

she wrote that in 1969.

01:08:03 --> 01:08:04

In 1999,

01:08:04 --> 01:08:06

she wrote another book called The Whole Woman,

01:08:06 --> 01:08:09

and she's a very, you know, very important

01:08:09 --> 01:08:12

woman in the feminist movement in the sixties.

01:08:12 --> 01:08:14

She wrote a book called The Whole Woman

01:08:14 --> 01:08:15

in 1999,

01:08:15 --> 01:08:17

where she critiqued her former self. And she

01:08:17 --> 01:08:19

says, 30 years ago, I've been propounding

01:08:20 --> 01:08:21

these ideas,

01:08:21 --> 01:08:22

and you know what?

01:08:23 --> 01:08:27

We were mistaken about one particular thing, and

01:08:27 --> 01:08:29

that is the idea of equality feminism.

01:08:30 --> 01:08:33

There's something instead called difference feminism, where we

01:08:33 --> 01:08:36

need to acknowledge and accept that men and

01:08:36 --> 01:08:38

women now are proven biologically,

01:08:39 --> 01:08:40

proven neurologically

01:08:40 --> 01:08:41

to be different

01:08:42 --> 01:08:45

from males. And people in the past didn't

01:08:45 --> 01:08:47

know that. Freud did not have the science

01:08:47 --> 01:08:50

and the technology to figure that out. Marx

01:08:50 --> 01:08:51

did not have the science and technology to

01:08:51 --> 01:08:53

figure that out. When David Hume and Thomas

01:08:53 --> 01:08:55

Paine were writing about egalitarianism,

01:08:55 --> 01:08:57

they did not have the understanding to figure

01:08:57 --> 01:09:00

that out in terms of conclusively prove it.

01:09:00 --> 01:09:02

And she's saying, now we've proved it. So

01:09:02 --> 01:09:05

we need to change our discourse and our

01:09:05 --> 01:09:08

understanding of what feminism is, and there's this

01:09:08 --> 01:09:10

new movement that she kind of has become

01:09:10 --> 01:09:12

part of, what's called difference feminism. Some of

01:09:12 --> 01:09:13

you may have heard of it or whatever

01:09:13 --> 01:09:14

it is. So what

01:09:15 --> 01:09:17

doctor Winter is arguing

01:09:18 --> 01:09:20

in the very long article, an essay that

01:09:20 --> 01:09:21

he writes,

01:09:21 --> 01:09:22

is that

01:09:22 --> 01:09:24

there is a congruence

01:09:24 --> 01:09:25

or there's a compatibility

01:09:26 --> 01:09:28

between what Islam is saying

01:09:28 --> 01:09:30

about men and women

01:09:30 --> 01:09:33

and what this new age difference feminism or

01:09:33 --> 01:09:34

the revised feminism

01:09:35 --> 01:09:38

that people are kind of starting to gravitate

01:09:38 --> 01:09:40

towards, there's a congruence between the two of

01:09:40 --> 01:09:42

these, and we should investigate that in more

01:09:42 --> 01:09:44

detail. Okay? So maybe we can have a

01:09:44 --> 01:09:46

seminar on this someday because it's definitely longer,

01:09:46 --> 01:09:48

but open it up for a few questions

01:09:48 --> 01:09:50

inshaAllah, sala Allah. Yes.

01:09:58 --> 01:10:02

Sure. Doctor Murad or doctor Winter is 19

01:10:02 --> 01:10:04

9, probably 2,001.

01:10:05 --> 01:10:06

If you just type boys will be boys,

01:10:06 --> 01:10:09

gender identity issues, you'll find it. If you

01:10:09 --> 01:10:12

type the title of doctor Lamia, Islamic Traditions

01:10:12 --> 01:10:13

and the Feminist Movement, you'll find it as

01:10:13 --> 01:10:15

well. So if you wanna find it, you

01:10:15 --> 01:10:16

can find it on Google.

01:10:17 --> 01:10:19

You couldn't find it? Email me.

01:10:21 --> 01:10:23

Oh, okay. Okay. I can look it up

01:10:23 --> 01:10:24

for you for the I don't know the

01:10:24 --> 01:10:24

year of this one, but

01:10:25 --> 01:10:25

I can look it up for you. I

01:10:25 --> 01:10:28

think she was assassinated in the nineties, late

01:10:28 --> 01:10:30

nineties, I believe. So it's probably somewhere before

01:10:30 --> 01:10:32

that, but I can look it up for

01:10:32 --> 01:10:32

you, Insha'Allah.

01:10:33 --> 01:10:34

Any other questions?

01:10:38 --> 01:10:40

Before the nineties? In the eighties?

01:10:41 --> 01:10:41

Subhanallah.

01:10:42 --> 01:10:43

Early eighties. Subhanallah.

01:10:43 --> 01:10:44

Yeah.

01:10:45 --> 01:10:48

They were Subhanallah. They were a really amazing

01:10:48 --> 01:10:51

couple, but, they produced a lot. Any other

01:10:51 --> 01:10:51

questions?

01:10:53 --> 01:10:55

I've never had a talk with so few

01:10:55 --> 01:10:56

questions at the end.

01:10:58 --> 01:10:59

Either you're being

01:11:00 --> 01:11:02

courteous and nice to me or

01:11:03 --> 01:11:03

okay.

01:11:04 --> 01:11:05

Kher. Okay. If anyone does wanna discuss it,

01:11:05 --> 01:11:07

if anyone does again, I mentioned if anyone

01:11:07 --> 01:11:09

disagrees, if anyone is gonna be like, you

01:11:09 --> 01:11:11

know what? We're never gonna attend a talk

01:11:11 --> 01:11:13

by this sheikh ever again in our life,

01:11:13 --> 01:11:16

you know, I'm open to critique, I'm open

01:11:16 --> 01:11:17

to meeting with you.

01:11:17 --> 01:11:20

1986? She she died in 1986? Okay. Jazakamu

01:11:20 --> 01:11:21

alayra.

01:11:21 --> 01:11:23

So yeah. So I'm open to that. We

01:11:23 --> 01:11:24

can make an appointment. We can talk about

01:11:24 --> 01:11:25

it insha'Allah.

01:11:26 --> 01:11:26

Otherwise,

01:11:27 --> 01:11:30

would anybody be interested in attending, like, a

01:11:30 --> 01:11:31

full seminar

01:11:31 --> 01:11:32

on feminism?

01:11:32 --> 01:11:34

Yes? Just raise your hand. Would any men

01:11:34 --> 01:11:37

be interested in that? Okay. Okay. So now

01:11:37 --> 01:11:39

we can organize it. What would 3 hours?

01:11:39 --> 01:11:41

6 hours? 9 hours? What works for you?

01:11:42 --> 01:11:44

I mean, I could I could go for,

01:11:44 --> 01:11:45

you know I've read a lot on this

01:11:45 --> 01:11:47

subject, and it's a very important subject for

01:11:47 --> 01:11:48

me. I've been reading for 20 years on

01:11:48 --> 01:11:49

this. So,

01:11:50 --> 01:11:52

2 day seminar or 1 day seminar?

01:11:55 --> 01:11:56

I'm getting no's. I'm getting

01:11:58 --> 01:12:01

2. Alright. What happens is people don't make

01:12:01 --> 01:12:03

it past the 1st day and then the

01:12:03 --> 01:12:05

second day is empty. So, inshallah, we organize

01:12:05 --> 01:12:07

a one day seminar on this, inshallah. Alright?

01:12:07 --> 01:12:08

May Allah

01:12:09 --> 01:12:11

help us to understand what is correct and

01:12:11 --> 01:12:14

true and help guide us towards that. Ameen.

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