Mustafa Umar – An Interview Shaykh Muslim Minds

Mustafa Umar
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The current President of California Islamic University discusses their past experiences with Islam and their belief in God, as well as their past experiences with a car accident and a recent accident. They emphasize the importance of understanding Islam and mental and physical health to overcome negative emotions. The speakers also discuss the pros and cons of cultural groups in America and the benefits of educating parents on harms of social media and the importance of following the role model of the prophets and the prophet. They stress the importance of respect for people and not elevating anyone above their position of authority, as well as following the role model of the prophets and the prophet, peace be upon them, and not elevating anyone above their position of authority.
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My name is, Mustafa Omar

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and currently I am the president of California

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Islamic University

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and I'm the education director at the Islamic

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Institute of Orange County, which is kind of

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like being an imam,

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of a mosque or a religious director of

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a mosque as well.

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I have a bachelor's degree in computer science

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from UC Irvine

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and then I switched careers

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and, I did a bachelor's degree,

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in Sharia, which is in Islamic law and

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theology

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from, an institute in France called the European

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Institute of Human Sciences. It's basically an Islamic

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university.

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I also have a master's degree in Islamic

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Studies,

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from the UK,

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University of Gloucestershire,

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and,

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I have traveled to different countries. I've studied

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in India. I've studied in Egypt,

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and just studied privately with Muslim scholars. I

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was in Egypt for a year. I was

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in India for a year.

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I visited a few other countries, Sharjah,

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which is UAE, visited, Jordan, and then I

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spent another 3 years in France.

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So I wasn't a very practicing Muslim growing

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up. I didn't really grow up in a

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very practicing family, but I did consider myself

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to be Muslim.

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What happened was,

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when my freshman year of college, I took

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a class on philosophy

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and,

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that really

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made me very skeptical

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about a lot of religious questions

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and my teacher was like a militant atheist

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and he had a big effect on me.

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And, another philosophy class that I took, my

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TA

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was a militant atheist

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and he also had a very big effect

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on me. So

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that coupled with

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just not really having a deep understanding of

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Islam

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and kind of thinking that a lot of

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cultural practices represent what Islam really is and

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negative experiences growing up in the masjid and

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in the Muslim community

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really just shattered my faith and, that's really

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why I left Islam. I just I stopped

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believing in God completely. So I was never

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attached to Islam very much in the first

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place, but not believing in God was just

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like another step.

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What brought me back was

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I was involved in a car accident, a

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major car accident. So I was street racing

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one day and running away from home at

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the same time, and I got into a

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major car accident and

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that just got me thinking about

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taking life more seriously.

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And I made a prayer as well. Even

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I said, I, God, I don't even believe

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in you. I'm not even sure if I

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believe in you, but I was about to

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go to prison. And I said, if you

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can get me out of this jam, you

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know, if you exist, then

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I will put some effort into finding out

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if, like, atheism is the right thing or

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if you really exist or not. So

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I tried to keep my promise and I

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started studying,

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I started researching, I started

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reading a lot of books, and eventually that

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really helped bring me back to Islam.

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Yeah, I mean those people who are going

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through doubts,

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but they kind of have some understanding of

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Islam,

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I think they need to put some

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effort into

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educating themselves about what Islam really is. Because

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oftentimes,

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the doubts about Islam are due to a

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lack of,

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understanding what Islam really teaches on that subject.

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And sometimes you can ask 1 Sheikh or

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ask 1 person or read something online

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and that's not really necessarily representative of what

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Islam teaches. Or maybe there's actually a difference

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of opinion and that's the wrong opinion that

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you're reading, you know. So I would say

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focus on that aspect. And then the second

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is focus on a holistic understanding of Islam

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because oftentimes

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there is,

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there is a perceived notion about what Islam

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is that we have

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and if we have generally

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a negative perception of Muslim scholarship

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or the Muslim community in general, even though

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we may love Islam in theory,

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that

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negative perception

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of Islamic scholarship

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can actually

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prevent you from finding the right answer. And

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the third thing I would advise is just

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take care of your own mental and physical

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health because what ends up happening is sometimes

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a lot of emotional or stressful, you know,

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life experiences that you have

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doesn't matter whether you find the intellectual answer

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in Islam or not, those emotional states will

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somehow override your perception of what the the

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actual intellectual answer is. It's very important to

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take care of your own self when it

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comes to your mental health and your physical

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health as well.

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So,

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when it comes to the question about,

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why did Allah create,

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people who are bad. Right? The thing is

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people

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did not

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end up being bad

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because God forced them to be bad. It's

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very important to understand even when it came

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to Iblis,

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the story of Iblis and Adam is very

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clear that Iblis chose the path

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that he chose.

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Right? So it's not something that was forced

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upon him. The same thing with Firaoun, the

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pharaoh. The same thing with Abu Lahab. The

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same thing with all people who choose to

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do evil. It's not that they were forced

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to do that. They actually had the ability

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to make a decision to do something good

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or do something bad and they chose that.

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Right? So it's very important to understand that,

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you know, when we say Allah is in

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control of everything and Allah knows everything and

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he decides everything, it does not negate or

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take away the fact that people have free

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will and they're able to choose

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their own life decisions within a, you know,

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within a within a limited capacity of what

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human beings can choose.

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So, yeah, that's very interesting. So I spent

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quite a bit of time in in England

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and, in Britain,

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and, I've been in and out probably almost

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every other year, you know, throughout my life

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because I have family there as well. So

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what the way I would, compare and contrast

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them is

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it seems like Muslims in in Britain,

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they have a longer

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established history of being there,

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but they also have,

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they also tend to

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preserve their culture very much from whichever community

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they're coming from, primarily the Indian, Pakistani, Bangladeshi

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community. So what ends up happening is they're

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like cultural enclaves. So when it comes to

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having halal restaurants,

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when it comes to having lots of masjids,

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when it comes to having imams in their

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masjids,

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they're they're way advanced compared to the American

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population which is very,

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dispersed.

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So it doesn't have those kind of that

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community built up

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because of this reason. Muslims are very spread

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out in America,

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but there's the the difference another difference between

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them is that American Muslims tend to be,

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more educated

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than Muslims in England on a whole

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and

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that education has its pros and cons. The

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pros that it brings is that,

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American Muslims are probably much more well off

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than the Muslims in in England.

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They're they're less just working class. There's a

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lot more professionals.

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They'll make they have higher income,

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and they have higher education. So that affects

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their

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institutional

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development and in their perception and their practice

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of Islam. Another reason could also be because

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they're more diverse. So American Muslims are probably

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a lot more diverse than the Muslims in

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England.

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Although they're also very diverse, but I would

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say that they're more in America. And the

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institutions that they developed, they've developed a lot

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more

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diverse institutions which actually represent

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different

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ways of manifesting Islam or different movements or

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different kind of,

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ways of looking at Islam, and whereas it's

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more homogeneous

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when it comes to,

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Islam in in Britain. So I would say

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these are some of the, pros and cons

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and some of the similarities and some of

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the differences there.

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Well, it's not so much,

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just the female role models that we have

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in America. It's actually even the American Muslim

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speakers when it comes to Hamza Yusuf, Sheikh

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Hamza Yusuf, Imam Siraj Wahaj, Sheikh Yasir Khadi,

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you generally don't have

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that dynamic in England.

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And some people will say it's because the

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American accent and the British love the accent

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and we love the British accent. Maybe that's

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part of it, but I don't think that's

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the real reason. I I think it comes

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back down to

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the

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the way probably the education.

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Like I said, the the education background of

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people and also the fact that perhaps there's

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actually more converts,

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in America

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or at least the converts are coming from,

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or maybe that maybe the converts and this

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is a theory, but maybe the converts actually

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had access

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to institutions and to resources that they did

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not have in the British Muslim community at

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the time. Therefore, they became more prominent.

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So that's probably it and also just

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that America is much larger.

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It's more it's more diverse.

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So that I think just America being different,

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America's political,

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role as well plays a major factor. The

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fact that people are more interested around the

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whole world in imitating America,

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because of Hollywood, because American shows, the American

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lifestyle,

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you know, American export of its own culture

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is very different from England. It doesn't have

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the same international status,

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that it used to have, you know, in

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the past. So all I think all of

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that plays a role and a factor. So

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when it comes to the Muslim women,

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you know, that you mentioned,

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that's a role. When it comes to even

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the men that, you know, that that I

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mentioned before, that also plays a role. So

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I think it's it's a whole dynamic,

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and that's really what makes the American community

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very diverse and very unique.

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Yeah. Right. Yeah. So I mean this is

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a a big tragedy because

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when someone,

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who's in a position of authority and leadership

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and is looked up as a,

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looked upon as a role model by people,

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they, you know, they have a huge responsibility.

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Sometimes they don't want to be in that

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position and they just want to be like

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a normal person because everybody makes mistakes, you

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know. Everyone has faults and and these type

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of things can happen to everyone, unfortunately.

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But when someone does have when someone is

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in the limelight,

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they have a greater responsibility

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and,

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that can potentially become a fitna or a

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trial for the their followers and that's something

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that's very concerning. So if someone was a

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student of that person or if someone,

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really looked up to that person and used

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to follow them and and viewed them as

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a role model, the things I would advise

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is first of all always remember that everyone

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is a human being. Everyone is,

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everyone is fallible. You know? Everyone

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makes mistakes. Some people make bigger mistakes. Some

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people make smaller mistakes. So

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realize that the person's a human being and

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they're not perfect. And that's why we should

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be very careful of we should respect

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people but we should not idolize them thinking

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that, you know, they're immune from ever making

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mistakes or they're the perfect role model. The

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prophet, hamans rasulam, our peace be upon him,

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he's our perfect role model. So we should

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never elevate anyone above him. He's the only

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one who's gonna be perfect.

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Everyone else can make mistakes. Everyone else is

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potentially dispensable. Right? But we need to follow

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the role model of the prophets and the

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prophet, peace be upon him. That's the first

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thing. The second thing is that if that

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person makes a mistake,

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right, that doesn't mean that we should somehow

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assume that all of their teachings

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should just be wiped away. Like, every benefit

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that you gain from that person, if that

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all the lectures that you benefited from when

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that person when that person talked about patience

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or that person talked about taqwa or that

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person talked about, you know, coming to the

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masjid for prayer or whatever it may be.

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That doesn't negate, like, all of the the

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good things that you benefited from that person.

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So you may go ahead and say, you

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know what? This person was not the ideal

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role model. This person succumb to the temptations

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and kind of fell from

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succumb to the temptations and

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kind of fell from grace in the sense.

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Like, is not was what could not follow

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his or her own advice,

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which is sad. Right? But that doesn't mean

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that it's hopeless. It doesn't mean that we

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don't benefit from what what the things that

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they said, and it doesn't mean that it's,

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like, hopeless. Some people say, like, well, if

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that person who was so great was preaching

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all these things, if they couldn't control themselves,

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then who am I? I'm never gonna be

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able to do it. No one can follow

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these teachings. That's not true, actually. Not everyone

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who can deliver a good message is necessarily

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the best role model of that message. They

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should be, but it's not always the case.

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So I would just say, you know,

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don't put your trust

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in just one person. If you're gonna put

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your trust in 1 person, put it that

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your trust in Allah and put your trust

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in the messenger of Allah. That's the top.

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And then when we look at these other

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people, try to have more than 1 teacher.

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So it's good to have 1 teacher but

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it's good to have more than 1 teacher

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sometimes. If one of them

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does something really bad or turns out to

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not be a very good teacher, you at

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least have other people to help balance you

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out, and that's something that I highly advise

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people to do.

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Yeah. So I mean social media is a

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tool that is

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very beneficial if used in the right manner.

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Unfortunately, many people

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abuse it or they actually become addicted to

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it, and there's a lot of harms from

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social media. So let's talk about some of

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the benefits of social media first. The benefits

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of social media is you're able to actually

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communicate and remain in communication

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with people who you would not be able

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to communicate with otherwise. You can talk to

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friends. You can talk to family. You know,

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you can stay in touch with people

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that you would have

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not been able to do had you not

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had this technology. So that's an amazing thing

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and it's a quick way to communicate with

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people. It's a quick way to share ideas,

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share thoughts,

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but the harms of social media is that

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it's very addictive

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and when people become addicted to it, they

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end up wasting their entire life away on

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social media just liking things.

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So that's one harm. Addiction is a major

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harm. A second harm is that people start

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to

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become,

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become, like,

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dependent

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upon other people's,

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what's the right word, other people's validation of

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their thoughts.

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So if you post something and you don't

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get at least 20 likes, you go into

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depression. You say, oh my god, no one

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liked this post. What's wrong with me? And

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you start challenging yourself, you start thinking and

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and that's very dangerous. That's very unhealthy for

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for the psyche. You know, another, problem with

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social media is you start to,

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disconnect from reality and having real relationships with

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people. So sometimes you prefer these virtual relationships

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but they're not the same as having real

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relationships

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and people can actually become lonely because they've

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cut off their real relationships that they have.

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So that's another harm. Another harm is when

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you look at people doing great things on

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social media, you start to become jealous of

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them and you start thinking, oh, I wish

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I had that life. And the thing is

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that's,

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that's almost like propaganda. It's like what newspapers

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and media does. They're just giving you one

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side of the story and if you judge

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that reality is that way, it could really

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mess you up. So it's very important that

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people,

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learn the harms of social media

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before they use it so they can actually,

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understand what they're getting themselves into. When it

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comes to parents, I would say the same

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thing. They should understand

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what the harms of social media are, look

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at some of the research on it, and

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make sure to educate their kids on this.

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This should be something like there should be

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it should be like a driver's ed class

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that you should have driver's education before you

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can drive. This is so potentially addicting that

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there should even be like,

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mandatory education that people need before engaging with

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a substance like this because it's very addicting,

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actually, and has many other harms as well.

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Okay. So I would say a book on,

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the life of the prophet, peace be upon

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him, would be great. Like, Tariq Ramadan's book

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is great.

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Outside of that, I would say,

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the autobiography of Malcolm X. Yeah.

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Yeah. Star Wars.

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Sheikh Hamza Yousef.

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Malcolm X.

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Imam Khazali.

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UK in three words.

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Cold,

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subway,

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and

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halal food.

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Diverse.

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Let's see.

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Powerful

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opportunity.

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Favorite 0 book?

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Favorite favorite 0 book.

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Taarik Ramadan.

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Sheikh Abdulwadud Hanif.

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Chicken Tikka Masala.

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Malaysia.

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Getting a black belt in jujitsu.

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The prophet salaam,

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he said,

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He said that there's 2 blessings

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which many people are cheated out of. He

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said,

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good health

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and free time. And this is an authentic

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hadith and I think

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a lot of people,

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they

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they have good health and they have a

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lot of free time,

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and the prophet said that they're cheated out

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of it. And if you think about who's

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cheating you out of it,

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the only people we can blame is ourselves.

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So So it's very important to use our

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help and use our time in a way

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which is pleasing to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.

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