Mustafa Khattab – Why Some Muslim Marriages Fail part 1 1

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The speaker discusses the importance of Islam's commitment to marriage, which is a strong and valid commitment. They also mention the importance of having a strong excuse or reason for divorce, as it is a common experience for mostiterals. The speaker emphasizes the need to have a bond between the husband and his wife to achieve a successful marriage, as it is crucial for healthy marriage.

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			To keep the relationship
		
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			between the husband and wife, and Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa'ala calls marriage in the Quran Bihatul
		
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			Baniwa,
		
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			a very tremendous commitment,
		
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			a huge commitment.
		
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			So therefore,
		
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			Islam does not allow divorce for no reason.
		
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			You have to have a valid,
		
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			a strong excuse
		
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			or reason for divorce.
		
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			The majority of these scholars,
		
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			they say that they divorce
		
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			during a month of experience for a lady
		
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			or right after childbirth during the bleeding
		
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			and the divorce by someone who is angry
		
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			is not mad. This is the opinion of
		
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			the majority of the scholars. If someone divorces
		
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			his wife 3 times or more in one
		
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			session,
		
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			So the first reason why,
		
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			the
		
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			same meaning in another adim narrated by the
		
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			Qurayo, volitioned by the Fati. That if a
		
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			person
		
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			with or a righteous person
		
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			and
		
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			a person with good manners and good imam
		
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			hunts you for marriage, don't turn you down.
		
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			You have to marry him, otherwise, there'll be
		
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			freedom and corruption in the land.
		
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			So the prophet
		
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			says that the hadith manage righteous feeding.
		
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			The money maybe the person will lose his
		
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			money. The beauty, some people will lose their
		
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			beauty as they grow old.
		
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			Or a man marries a lady because of
		
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			her beauty,
		
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			then this marriage in some cases or many
		
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			cases is doomed to fail.
		
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			So you have to have the hidden equation.
		
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			I'm not saying that you should marry a
		
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			ugly lady
		
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			Allah in the house.
		
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			If you have no connection with Allah
		
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			if you put everything before Allah, you put
		
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			your money, your job, your car before Allah
		
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			how come that you experience that Allah will
		
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			bless you and bless your marriage? And all
		
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			of the
		
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			So the third reason
		
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			is when there is no industry between the
		
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			husband and wife,
		
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			If he is visited,
		
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			she is part of divorce.
		
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			If he is little, she is conservative. They
		
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			have nothing in common way before they got
		
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			married. So how to expect to live a
		
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			low life to have a successful marriage if
		
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			you don't have anything in common.
		
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			He prays, she doesn't pray. He fast, she
		
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			doesn't fast.
		
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			There's no no chemistry in the relationship, so
		
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			you have to have that bond. You have
		
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			to have the common ground between you and
		
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			your husband or your spouse so that you
		
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			have a successful marriage.