Mustafa Khattab – Watch Your Tongue
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The speaker discusses the use of "will" in Islam and how it can create negative emotions, but also emphasizes the importance of being quiet and avoiding unnecessary questions. They stress the need to be careful when discussing words and the importance of being wary of what comes after an arrest. The speaker also discusses a situation where a woman gets married and the importance of words in marriage, and advises not to talk about things that are not important to her and leave people alone.
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Okay.
There was a yeah.
Okay.
So,
I got 2 copies of the Quran here
And, one is going to,
there used to be a sister here?
We asked last time about Yes?
Yes?
This is for you
Thank you. Zazakallah.
She asked good questions, mashallah.
And the other one is where is Matki?
Alex?
Alex?
Allah will give it to him,
Yes.
So,
we spoke about wasting.
Today,
we'll talk about another type of wasting,
which is wasting words.
Wasting words.
When we say unnecessary
things,
we waste our time, and we waste people's
time. We talk about things that are not
important or are harmful or hurtful to other
people.
And I get these questions all the time.
People come to me and ask about, okay,
what do you have in the bag?
Or what did you have for breakfast this
morning? What's your mom's name?
Well, it's none of your business.
Right?
Leave me alone, man.
What is the point? Right?
Come on.
Things of that kind, you know. We know
that the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam says
in the authentic Hadith, man karayum minuubilaniwaniyawil
alaathin, everyone knows the Hadith.
If you believe in Allah, on the last
day you either say something nice or be
quiet.
If you don't have something to contribute,
if you don't have something nice to say,
call us, be quiet, alhamdulillah.
They hear all this talk all the time,
and people try to kill the time, and
the the problem is sometimes when some people
have nothing to do,
they are free, they have nothing but time,
and they come to you, you are very
busy, you are pulling your hair off,
you want to do a paper,
you know, it's overdue,
and and you don't have time, and people
keep asking you unnecessary questions, and keep wasting
your your time.
And,
and, if you're on Facebook,
don't send me an invitation to play Candy
Crush, because I don't play it. I don't
have time for games. Okay? I only play
soccer, I play hockey with my kids. That's
it.
So this is the thing. We know that
I mentioned,
maybe in September,
we spoke about the word and how significant
the word is in Islam. When Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala created something,
according to the Quran, in many places, what
did he say?
Right? He says be and becomes or it,
it becomes,
it is, or it comes into being. Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala uses one word to create.
When 2 people get married,
how do they get married?
I do.
Right?
Couple of words,
I do.
Three letters, they are married. One word, Hamas,
they get married.
At the time of divorce, what do they
say?
So in marriage, they say I do, but
in divorce I don't. I does.
Because they don't like each other anymore.
So the grammar is in the basement.
When people accept Islam, what do they say?
The kalimah, right? Hello?
We're talking about wasting words.
So
when someone accepts Islam, they say,
I believe Kharazah become Muslim. One word.
So the words are very important, And we
are told in the hadith of the prophet
that some people go to Jannah because of
their words.
And some people go to Jannah because of
words. They either lie, they cheat, they backbite,
all these are words. Right? So we need
to be careful. And subhanAllah,
if you watch
movies, when they go to arrest someone, they
make to make an arrest, what do they
tell the person before they take them?
You have the right to remain
sad. That we don't take advantage of this.
We go, I didn't, you know, I didn't
mean to kill my brother or choke my
brother to death, you know? Keep your mouth
shut, man.
You're you're you're going to jail, right? So
be quiet. Right?
So it's it's a privilege.
He spoke when it was necessary, when he
is giving a talk, he is giving advice,
to say how he spoke, but he didn't
waste
his time talking all the time. Wa'ud yajawangal
kalib, he only said few words to convey
the meaning of chalas.
I'm gonna finish insha'Allah with a story
from a brother,
I was an imam in South Carolina. They
have a very good school, it's called the
Clinton.
It's one of the top
25 schools in the world. So there was
a small masjid there, I was the imam,
and alhamdulillah we had a brother, very good
brother in the community,
everybody loved him, but there was only one
problem with this brother.
He talked too much. He
talked too much.
Like, he can sit with you, I'm not
gonna mention his name or his nationality, okay?
But anyway, he would sit with me after
salatul Qashr, for example, and he would go
on and on and on.
Yes Sheikh, I have a question for you.
I would say, Okay, no problem.
Biggest mistake of my life.
They will go on and on. You know
Yes Sheikh, when my mom was pregnant with
me
No, no, no, give me the short version.
Don't start like from 30 years ago. Like,
what is the question?
And he would go on and on and
on. You know, question about salah,
and he would go back to when I
my mom was pregnant with me, and she
used to come on, man.
2 hours. 2 hours.
So, one day,
this beautiful brother of mine,
another friend,
waited for his,
he rented a car,
and they went to,
to road test the car or something to,
because he was studying for his driver's license.
So he took this brother, who loved to
talk all the time, biggest mistake of his
life. So we took this brother with him,
and they he drove on the highway. This
brother,
wanted to, get some training to be able
to get his driver's license.
So this brother was in his ears. Like
3 hours he was talking, talking, talking,
And he said,
so I met them
for salatul lubuh, they rented the car, they
came to the masjid for salah, I met
them. I said, That's good, alhamdulillah, you go
for the training.
Then they came back to salat al, salat
al marih. They came back,
and the brother came,
and the only thing he had with him,
the brother who who went for the training,
he had the steering wheels with him. This
is the only thing that was left from
the car.
So what happened? He said, they went,
you know, for training, and this brother was
in his ears,
and he started to talk about his adventures
from
20 years ago when he was driving in
the mountains and,
why are you slowing down? You have to
go fast. It's the highway, man. Go. Go.
Go. Go. And the brother said, all I
remember,
the car was hugging,
an electric post,
and the only thing that was left was
the steering wheels.
Because the guy was in his ears like,
go go go, and he was talking for
3 hours,
he lost control and
he got into an accident.
The good news
is the brother
the brother,
when he rented the car, he purchased,
full insurance. He paid a $100, so
he he wrecked a $25,000,
car, and he didn't have to pay anything
because,
he had insurance. He tricked money.
Hamas. Again, the whole point is if you
have something good to say,
say it. If you don't have something nice
to say, Hamas, be quiet. And don't be
nosy. Don't ask people about their,
like, like, system information, like, credit card information,
what's your mom's name, and what did you
guys eat for breakfast.
Leave people alone, man. Right?
And and
as I said, it's
a the prophet said it's one of the
qualities of a believer in.
One of the the proofs,
the science that you are a good believer
can when you don't talk about talk about
things that are not,
what is the best translation for this?
Again, if it's not your business, don't talk
about it. This is basically what the prophet
meant in the Hadith. We'll see you tomorrow,
inshallah. We ask Allah to bless us and
give us the best in this life and
the best in the life to come.