Mustafa Khattab – The Sahaba 8 8
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So before we start, insha'Allah, there are 2
sections
in the men's area and 2 sections in
the ladies area. It is better if you
have kids who keep crying. It's a lot.
It's better to pray in the area in
the back. So if the kids cry,
nobody will hear them and the rest of
the machine and also it will not affect
the for sure of other people.
Because technically, some people drive long distances.
They leave their work. They leave their families.
They drive their cars. They pay for gas,
and they come here, and all all they
hear is scraping in the salah. So they
don't get any for sure in the salah.
So please,
we need to help one another to get
for sure
understanding in the relationship between a husband and
wife. And we'll give a couple of examples
from the prophet salaam and the Sahaba.
It breaks my heart literally
every day
to hear people
calling me every time I open my email.
Okay?
I want a divorce. Okay?
Fax machine. I want a divorce. People sending
telegrams.
People sending letters in bottles, and they throw
them emotions.
In every possible way, people are calling, coming
in person, okay, I want a divorce. Yesterday,
someone was coming to know he wanted to
know about Islam, and I I gave him
the full time because the brother was interested
in Islam.
And all of a sudden, I got a
knock on my door,
the brother and sister from one country
in
Africa,
and she said, my husband she she was
in tears, and she said, my husband wants
to divorce me because I'm black.
Okay? And both of them, you know, are
black.
The the country where they live, they are
black. Okay?
So I said, first of all, you have
to take an appointment before you come because
this is a big issue. Number I have
someone and and I have an appointment.
And number 2, did he know that you
were black before he got married? Or something
happened, or you lost your color? What happened?
And she said, he's not happy with my
color. And I said, first of all, he
is black. You are black. Your kids are
black. So what's going on?
She said, I don't know. So I spoke
to him. He said, I don't know. I
said, you guys, you don't know. How can
I know? Go home and come back 2
years, inshallah. After 2 years, take an appointment.
What's go what's going on?
People are going nuts. They want to divorce
for no reason. They just make up excuses
to come for divorce. Again,
there is no Muwanda in
So Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala says in the
Quran that one of the signs, one of
the miracles of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala is
that He created for us spouses,
husbands and wives so that we can live
with them in Mawatta and Rahim.
And this translates to, love, mercy, understanding, harmony,
respect.
Indeed, in this science for people who reflect.
If
because of financial problems, because of psychological problems
that people have, they want to divorce. It's
like people are going crazy.
I don't know. I don't know what's going
on, and I thought maybe when I give
a series of footballs a few months ago,
I gave 3 footballs about the boss, hoping
that it will diffuse the situation, nobody will
come for the boss. But now, alhamdulillah,
more and more people are coming
for the boss. I wish I I never
gave the footballs. I wish I never gave
those footballs.
I'll
just, say it openly. I'm mad.
She said, she said, come to that, we're
from Adam. We're humans and everything.
Okay? So he went to his dad and
said, dad dad.
I asked my mom about the origin of
man, and she she said, you know, we
are from Adam Alaihi Salam. She said, no.
No. No. Don't listen to your mom. We
are monkeys.
Okay? Man is from monkeys. Okay? The theory
of evolution, Darwin, and all that stuff.
So the son ran to his mom and
said,
you were teaching me wrong.
You said, we are from Adam, but my
dad told me that we are from monkeys.
She said, my son, there's no contradiction here.
When I said, we are from humans, I
was talking about my family.
When he said we are a few monkeys,
he was talking about his families,
so there's no conflict here.
And he was busy with Dawah teaching the
Sahaba,
defending Madinah, receiving delegations, sending delegations.
He didn't have time, but still, as reported
in the authentic Hadid and Sahib Muslim in
Muslim al Imam Ahmad, the prophet
was in the service of his family.
He was cleaning the house, hatching his clothes,
fixing his shoes, milking his goats,
keeping the house clean in order.
And the prophet
if you look at him, he was terribly
busy. He didn't have no time, but still
he was helping and he was taking care
of the house. Some of the brothers here,
and I'm not talking about you. You're good
people.
Some of the brothers, when they go home,
they feel like they're going to a hotel
then, a hotel. They go for some services
to sleep, and to eat, and leave, and
check out. Right?
And some of the sisters, the way they
deal with their husbands, they deal as if
he's the financier.
They he just the money man. He just,
you know, then he leaves.
Therefore,
some sisters,
the most
frequently word that some sister use after they
get married is
give, give, give. She never uses the word
take.
And they have this joke back home in,
in Egypt.
Someone protested to his wife and he said,
we have been married for 7 years, and
he almost used the word give give give,
and he never used the word take take
take. So she said, find the fridge is
broken, take it, fix it.
So we conclude with this story for Muhammad
before the Khalifa, before he became the Khalifa,
he was very firm. I mean, you don't
play game games with him.
In several Hadith, when somebody
said something or did something in the presence
of the prophet that Omar didn't like,
of course, he wanted to rip off the
head of the guy right away. And the
prophet
told him, and several hadith, leave them alone.
Leave them alone.
So after Umar Radilohal became the khalifa, subhanAllah,
something happened.
His his heart was softened,
and you see for example in in the
story for example,
there are several stories, but we'll focus on
this one for now.
So the man came to Umar to complain
about his wife
because she used to raise up her voice,
and
the husband was not happy about this. When
he went to Omar to complain to him,
and Omar's wife
was raising her voice
to Omar. So if she is here and,
you know, you were at
complain about my wife. He says, you have
a more terrible problem than me. So said,
we should be more patient with him. They
go through things that we don't go through.
The pregnancy,
the monthly period, taking care of the kids,
doing the dishes, changing the diaper, cooking, and
doing all that stuff. We're gonna do these
things.
So they're always stressed out. So we need
to be more patient with them, and we
will con continue with the next