Mustafa Khattab – The Sahaba 10 10

Today, inshallah will continue

with

lessons that we can learn from this Haba.

And before I start, I have a quick,

quiz, and we'll give you a prices at

the end inshallah.

Okay?

So the first one,

We'll give candy at the end inshaAllah.

1 of the prophets.

His children

were older than them at some point in

his life.

Where is the word banana mentioned in the

Quran? And I'm sure some of them will

know where it is because they love mosques

so much.

That guy,

Oh,

So one of the masheids was,

working at one of the masa'i.

Masa'id that he was giving Khutba's all the

time and people were protesting. Every time he

gives a Khutba they say, we know everything

you say. There's nothing new that you teach

us. So he was so tired that he

left.

So

they hired a new imam. You know the

character of Juhak. So Juhakim, he knew what

people, you know, what happened before he came.

So the first football he gave, he asked

people before the football, do you know what

I'm going to talk about? So they said,

yes, we know everything.

So he said, there's no need for me

to talk if you know everything.

The next Ummah,

he asked them before footma, do you guys

know what I'm going to talk about? So

they wanted to trick him, they said, no,

we don't know. So he said, there's no

point for me to talk then, Alhamis Salam.

Then he left.

The third one, they said, we will trick

him. How do the people will will say,

yes, we know? The second half will say,

no, we don't know.

So he asked them at the beginning of

the flood, do you know what I'm going

to talk about? So how would the people

said, yes? The second half said no. So

I said let those who know,

teach those who don't know.

We'll continue the topic of Mawada and Rahma,

and This translates to love, respect,

harmony, understanding,

and kindness.

And one of the last

the last pieces of advice the prophet

gave at the end of his life, in

Hashanatulwada,

the pharaoh's servant, he said,

be kind and courteous to women.

This is one of his last pieces of

advice.

The prophet

also says in the authentic hadith, the best

of you

are those who are best to their family

and I'm the best of you to my

family.

Hate his wife.

If he doesn't like something about his wife,

like she doesn't know how to cook,

he will love a 100 other things about

her.

If there's one thing you don't like about

the wife, there are many other things that

you would like about her. She She is

an excellent lady, she's obedient, masha'Allah. She is

very nice and she's very kind.

Forget about cooking. If if this is the

only thing, none of us is perfect. So

how do you expect your wife to be

perfect?

So one of the things about Mawadna Wa

Rahma is sharing in good times and difficult

times.

And we gave an example of good times

when the prophet salallahu alaihi wa sallam was

coming from the outside and Aisha radhiallahu anha

was happy,

and she wanted to tell him a story.

10 women sat together before Islam and each

of them described her husband, Hadith Abi Zahra.

So she mentioned at the end, the 10th

lady.

Her husband was a great man. He was

very generous, he was very kind and everything,

but at the end of the story, he

divorced his wife. So the prophet salaam commented

on the story and said, I will be

to you

what Abu Zar was to his husband to

Sorry. To his wife but I will never

divorce you.

So she smiled and she was happy.

But the point here is the prophet sallallahu

alaihi wa sallam was busy.

He was busy. He was receiving revelations, he

was sending delegations and he was teaching people,

he was making peace, he was defending Madinah

and all that stuff but still he had

time to sit with his wife and listen

to her stories.

And he commented at the end, and this

means he was paying attention.

Because most of the time, if you come

back from work, and you listen, you watch

TV with the remote in your hand, and

your wife is talking,

telling you stories, and you're not even paying

attention. All you do is to put all

you on your your answer machine. Oh, yeah?

Yes? Yeah? Whatever.

You are not even paying attention, but the

prophet was listening carefully.

So sharing in sadness, Abdullah ibn Nawwaha was

sick and he was sleeping in his wife's

lap. He put his head in his wife's

lap.

So at a point, he remember an an

ayah in the Quran that talks about the

him fire, so he started to cry. She

saw him crying, she started to cry.

So he asked her, why do you cry?

Because I know why I'm crying, but why

are you crying?

She said, I saw you sad and you're

crying, so I wanted to share with you

so I cried. I don't know why you

are crying but I cried.

So he said, I cried because I remember

this Ayat in the Quran that talks about

the hellfire, so I was afraid

that I will be one of the people

of the hellfire.

So I'm gonna give a few examples and

we will conclude

I hate this word. We will conclude with

this inshallah.

And these are true stories that I have

come across in the past few years. Some

sisters,

they make a hotline with their moms back

home. So they report to them everything that

happens in their house every day.

And they receive this answer from back home,

honey, if you're calling your mom to report

abuse by your husband, press 1. If you're

calling to report your husband was late from

work, press 2. If you wanna talk to

your dad, press 3. And all that stuff.

He doesn't have the right to help his

family, and this is wrong.

Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is sending risk to

everyone, so don't be afraid.

One brother,

he literally incarcerated his wife in the house.

She he doesn't allow her to go to

to the masjid or to pray. She is

at the house every all the day long.

He goes to work in the morning, he

comes late at night.

I'm not sure if she has kids or

not, and she's talking to the walls.

So

he has to change his attitude.

Of course, they divorce the sister. There's no

Mawaddah and Rahma in this.

Some brothers,

Islam. Some brothers,

they marry some new Muslims and they abuse

them.

Of course, they don't give her because she

doesn't know.

The system is different.

And in some case, at least in one

case, one brother went to live with his

wife,

her her family who are non Muslim,

and they are providing for him. He works

because he keeps all the money for himself

and he doesn't pay anything.

And one time she confronted him after she

knew she started to study Islam, she told

him you're supposed to give me a month

and provide for me, don't take money from

my family. He told her you are ignorant,

you don't know anything, you're a new Muslim.

Some brothers,

after they marry, they get the citizenship for

example, they just take off. They go to

another country,

their wife doesn't know where he is, he

doesn't send money, he doesn't even call, she

doesn't know if he is alive or dead.

And he probably went to another country, he

got married to another lady and he's enjoying

his life and his wife is suffering.

And this is Haram.

The last one,

So some of the brothers, when they marry

a sister and there is a big mother

or a big dowry, what they do basically,

they make their lives their wife's life a

living *.

They make her life miserable so much so

that she asked for divorce and she tells

him, okay. I need I don't need any

money from you. Just give me divorce, man.

Just give me divorce. I wanna be out

of this and I don't need anything from

you. And this is haram. We'll continue next

time.

One prophet, his kids were older than him,

and that is Hussain Alaihi Salam mentioned in

Surat Al Baqarah. He died when he was

about 40 years old. He had little kids.

When he came back after a 100 years

of death,

then his kids were older than

Where?

In Ayat.

It is not Al Qiyam.

In another

Surah.

Yes.

Where?

Where? Which I?

Okay. It's in Surah Al Waqah.