Mustafa Khattab – The Sahaba 10 10
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The speaker gives a quiz to the audience, starting with a fruit tree and gives advice on love, respect, and understanding. They also share examples of people sharing experiences, including a woman who called her husband a "has been sick and crying" and a man who asked her to report him to her mother. The speaker warns against being afraid and reminds listeners to not be afraid of what comes their way. They give examples of true stories that have come across in the past few years, including a woman who talks about her mother being sick and crying because she remembers a Texian story and some brothers who abuse their mothers and children.
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Today, inshallah will continue
with
lessons that we can learn from this Haba.
And before I start, I have a quick,
quiz, and we'll give you a prices at
the end inshallah.
Okay?
So the first one,
We'll give candy at the end inshaAllah.
1 of the prophets.
His children
were older than them at some point in
his life.
Where is the word banana mentioned in the
Quran? And I'm sure some of them will
know where it is because they love mosques
so much.
That guy,
Oh,
So one of the masheids was,
working at one of the masa'i.
Masa'id that he was giving Khutba's all the
time and people were protesting. Every time he
gives a Khutba they say, we know everything
you say. There's nothing new that you teach
us. So he was so tired that he
left.
So
they hired a new imam. You know the
character of Juhak. So Juhakim, he knew what
people, you know, what happened before he came.
So the first football he gave, he asked
people before the football, do you know what
I'm going to talk about? So they said,
yes, we know everything.
So he said, there's no need for me
to talk if you know everything.
The next Ummah,
he asked them before footma, do you guys
know what I'm going to talk about? So
they wanted to trick him, they said, no,
we don't know. So he said, there's no
point for me to talk then, Alhamis Salam.
Then he left.
The third one, they said, we will trick
him. How do the people will will say,
yes, we know? The second half will say,
no, we don't know.
So he asked them at the beginning of
the flood, do you know what I'm going
to talk about? So how would the people
said, yes? The second half said no. So
I said let those who know,
teach those who don't know.
We'll continue the topic of Mawada and Rahma,
and This translates to love, respect,
harmony, understanding,
and kindness.
And one of the last
the last pieces of advice the prophet
gave at the end of his life, in
Hashanatulwada,
the pharaoh's servant, he said,
be kind and courteous to women.
This is one of his last pieces of
advice.
The prophet
also says in the authentic hadith, the best
of you
are those who are best to their family
and I'm the best of you to my
family.
Hate his wife.
If he doesn't like something about his wife,
like she doesn't know how to cook,
he will love a 100 other things about
her.
If there's one thing you don't like about
the wife, there are many other things that
you would like about her. She She is
an excellent lady, she's obedient, masha'Allah. She is
very nice and she's very kind.
Forget about cooking. If if this is the
only thing, none of us is perfect. So
how do you expect your wife to be
perfect?
So one of the things about Mawadna Wa
Rahma is sharing in good times and difficult
times.
And we gave an example of good times
when the prophet salallahu alaihi wa sallam was
coming from the outside and Aisha radhiallahu anha
was happy,
and she wanted to tell him a story.
10 women sat together before Islam and each
of them described her husband, Hadith Abi Zahra.
So she mentioned at the end, the 10th
lady.
Her husband was a great man. He was
very generous, he was very kind and everything,
but at the end of the story, he
divorced his wife. So the prophet salaam commented
on the story and said, I will be
to you
what Abu Zar was to his husband to
Sorry. To his wife but I will never
divorce you.
So she smiled and she was happy.
But the point here is the prophet sallallahu
alaihi wa sallam was busy.
He was busy. He was receiving revelations, he
was sending delegations and he was teaching people,
he was making peace, he was defending Madinah
and all that stuff but still he had
time to sit with his wife and listen
to her stories.
And he commented at the end, and this
means he was paying attention.
Because most of the time, if you come
back from work, and you listen, you watch
TV with the remote in your hand, and
your wife is talking,
telling you stories, and you're not even paying
attention. All you do is to put all
you on your your answer machine. Oh, yeah?
Yes? Yeah? Whatever.
You are not even paying attention, but the
prophet was listening carefully.
So sharing in sadness, Abdullah ibn Nawwaha was
sick and he was sleeping in his wife's
lap. He put his head in his wife's
lap.
So at a point, he remember an an
ayah in the Quran that talks about the
him fire, so he started to cry. She
saw him crying, she started to cry.
So he asked her, why do you cry?
Because I know why I'm crying, but why
are you crying?
She said, I saw you sad and you're
crying, so I wanted to share with you
so I cried. I don't know why you
are crying but I cried.
So he said, I cried because I remember
this Ayat in the Quran that talks about
the hellfire, so I was afraid
that I will be one of the people
of the hellfire.
So I'm gonna give a few examples and
we will conclude
I hate this word. We will conclude with
this inshallah.
And these are true stories that I have
come across in the past few years. Some
sisters,
they make a hotline with their moms back
home. So they report to them everything that
happens in their house every day.
And they receive this answer from back home,
honey, if you're calling your mom to report
abuse by your husband, press 1. If you're
calling to report your husband was late from
work, press 2. If you wanna talk to
your dad, press 3. And all that stuff.
He doesn't have the right to help his
family, and this is wrong.
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is sending risk to
everyone, so don't be afraid.
One brother,
he literally incarcerated his wife in the house.
She he doesn't allow her to go to
to the masjid or to pray. She is
at the house every all the day long.
He goes to work in the morning, he
comes late at night.
I'm not sure if she has kids or
not, and she's talking to the walls.
So
he has to change his attitude.
Of course, they divorce the sister. There's no
Mawaddah and Rahma in this.
Some brothers,
Islam. Some brothers,
they marry some new Muslims and they abuse
them.
Of course, they don't give her because she
doesn't know.
The system is different.
And in some case, at least in one
case, one brother went to live with his
wife,
her her family who are non Muslim,
and they are providing for him. He works
because he keeps all the money for himself
and he doesn't pay anything.
And one time she confronted him after she
knew she started to study Islam, she told
him you're supposed to give me a month
and provide for me, don't take money from
my family. He told her you are ignorant,
you don't know anything, you're a new Muslim.
Some brothers,
after they marry, they get the citizenship for
example, they just take off. They go to
another country,
their wife doesn't know where he is, he
doesn't send money, he doesn't even call, she
doesn't know if he is alive or dead.
And he probably went to another country, he
got married to another lady and he's enjoying
his life and his wife is suffering.
And this is Haram.
The last one,
So some of the brothers, when they marry
a sister and there is a big mother
or a big dowry, what they do basically,
they make their lives their wife's life a
living *.
They make her life miserable so much so
that she asked for divorce and she tells
him, okay. I need I don't need any
money from you. Just give me divorce, man.
Just give me divorce. I wanna be out
of this and I don't need anything from
you. And this is haram. We'll continue next
time.
One prophet, his kids were older than him,
and that is Hussain Alaihi Salam mentioned in
Surat Al Baqarah. He died when he was
about 40 years old. He had little kids.
When he came back after a 100 years
of death,
then his kids were older than
Where?
In Ayat.
It is not Al Qiyam.
In another
Surah.
Yes.
Where?
Where? Which I?
Okay. It's in Surah Al Waqah.