Mustafa Khattab – The Power Of Sorry Part 1
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I bear witness that there is none worthy
of our worship except Allah
And I bear witness that Muhammad
is the seal of the prophets and the
final of the messengers to all of humanity.
Whoever Allah guides, there is none to misguide,
and whoever Allah
leaves to stray, there is none to guide
the right. InshaAllah before we begin I'm gonna
ask you kindly to move up if you
see a space in front of you because
the masjid is almost full and we expect
more people inshaAllah. JazakAllah
move up a little bit.
So,
In the last
khutbaas, we spoke about the rights of Allah
and the rights of the people, Ibadad,
worships, Allah, song, fasting,
and we need to keep this balance between
the rights of Allah
and the rights of the people. So you
have to be good to people, and nice,
and kind, and everything.
So today, inshaAllah, we'll talk about something related
to these two aspects, the rights of Allah
and the rights of the people,
and the title of the footba is the
power of sorry.
The Power of Sorry. We are human beings,
and we make mistakes all the time. Day
and night.
Including myself.
Because some people think imams don't make mistakes,
so believe it or not, we make mistakes
too.
Yes, in the Masjid I'm a nice guy,
everything, but come see me when I go
play soccer. I go crazy.
They call me Minister of Religion, but when
I go to the soccer field, I become
a monster.
Right? Crazy.
So I lose my temper sometimes, we are
human beings, and we make mistakes.
Right?
So I'm gonna start off by this, story
about one of the imams, it's it's a
true story. 1 of the brothers said that
he was traveling
through the airport, and he decided to stop
by the Masjid,
close to the airport, like this Masjid here.
So the brother was a bit early, so
he said I'm gonna stop by the Masjid,
pray, then go to the airport, he was
taking an international flight.
So the imam was late for salah. It
says 10:30,
the time for Iqamah, the imam was 5,
7 minutes late, so as soon as he
came inside, the brother who was, you know,
traveling said, Okay, let's go.
Chaliyah Namaz Adhaqriyah, I need to travel, you
know, we don't have time here. So the
Imam said, Okay.
And he started the salah,
and the brother thought that they're gonna make
this salah short,
but the Imam made the salah very long.
1st rakah, he read the longest Surah in
the book, Surah Baqarah.
Then the Imam said, okay, maybe 2nd rakah
he will make it short, Surah
Al Imran, in the 2nd raka. And the
brother was traveling,
you know what happens as a Muslim for
for non Muslims or,
you know, the especially the white people when
they go to the airport half an hour
before the flight, they go straight. In our
case, if you're a Muslim or people of
color, you have to go 2 days before.
They check your luggage, and, you know, we're
gonna ask you a couple of questions.
You know all this stuff, if you travel.
Especially to the US, it's a big problem.
So he made the salah very long, and
the brother was pulling his hair off in
the salah, like I'm gonna miss the flight,
what is wrong with this guy?
So after he finished, the brother took his
luggage, and he was running, he had one
back, and he was running to catch his
flight,
and the Imam made an announcement, would you
please wait for just a couple of minutes,
because I forgot to make to make wudu.
We're gonna make wudu and come back.
So the brother actually had a fight with
him before he left to the airport.
But anyway,
the imam could have resolved the issue by
just saying, well, I made a mistake,
but no, he started to argue.
I came, and you were rushing me, so
I forgot. You were late. Rushing you what?
You are already late. Right?
So, instead of arguing, you can just say,
well, I made a mistake, I will not
do it again.
So when it comes to mistakes,
people do other mistakes after the mistake. So
the first one,
when
they hide the mistake. So in some cases,
someone, you you park your car in front
of your house,
or in front of the masjid, and someone
would just hit your car and and and
leave.
It happened in one case that I was,
at a Masjid, and a brother came to
me, and he said, well his car was
parked in the Masjid,
was maybe Salatul Fashr or something,
and he went to buy something, he came,
and he was the only one in the
parking lot. His car was the only one,
and you could fit like 2 300 cars
in the party.
So this brother came late, he prayed or
something, he was leaving, and he hit the
car of that brother.
He didn't touch it, sometimes this is what
we do, you just touch someone's
car, and you realize, and Khas, you get
out of your car, it's not a big
deal, you leave Khas.
He got over his car, like, the the
back of his car was on the windshield
of the brother.
Right? Terrible driving,
but he left.
What did the brother do? He went to
the idara of the masjid, they saw the
surveillance camera, he saw the brother's car, he
saw the number, and they found him, and
the brother said, well, I didn't see it.
Why did you park in front of the
door? They argue. Right? And he didn't mention
it, like, you could have left your business
card or something, but he tried to hide
it, hit and run. So this is one
type of mistake. It happens in our house
that someone would just drop a plate or
a cup, they'll break it, and they'll just,
you know,
you know, brush it under the carpet, and
they just forget about it. They do the
mistake, then they hide it, like nothing happened.
The second type is when they do something
wrong, and they blame it on someone else.
We see it every day in our houses,
one of your kids is addicted to Nutella.
Okay. They go to the fridge, they open
it, they take the Nutella out, they eat
it, and you see Nutella all over their
face and their clothes, and when they come
out, who ate the Nutella? Well, my brother.
Like, or my sister. What? All over. Nutella
all over. And they try to blame someone
else.
Right?
There's a beautiful story, Fisoora Nissam.
You know, Zayd bin Samin, the Jewish man.
He was falsely accused of theft. A Muslim
man stole the dirham, a shield,
and he and his family they blamed it
on on this Jewish man. And they tried
to influence the Prophet SAWH-six thousand and seventy,
and say how can you rule in favor
of a Jew against a Muslim?
And the Quran was revealed in Surah 4,
Surah Nisa Inna Nzann na'ilaykalkitabilitahkumabaynan
nasih,
bin Habima A'agalawalatakkalil
kha inina khasina.
So Allah
revealed the Ayat
to announce the innocence of the Jewish man,
and to put the blame on the Muslim
who blamed an innocent person.
So standing up for justice. So some people,
when they do something wrong, they blame it
on someone else.
Another type of people,
when they make a mistake, they justify it.
Well, they sell something haram,
they do something wrong, they smoke something wrong,
and you ask them, when you catch them,
well they say,
Everyone is doing it!
Everyone is a thief!
Or they don't pray like they come for
Jum'ah only, or they come for Salatul Eid,
well I'm better than everyone else. I come
to the Masjid once a year. I know
some people who never come, I'm better than
them. They try to justify.
Right? And this is what happens in the
story of Iblis in the Quran.
Adam
made a mistake, he ate from that tree.
Allah
told him, don't go there, don't eat from
that tree.
You have 1,000 or millions of other trees,
you can eat from them. And subhanAllah, this
is what happens with some Muslims.
You can sell any meat,
chicken, beef, whatever, halal, that be hamdulillah.
Pork is the only meat you cannot sell.
But still a lot of Muslims, they tell
you, if I don't sell pork, I'm not
gonna make money.
And Allah tells you, you can't sell any
beverages, water, soda, juice, whatever.
The only beverage you are not allowed to
sell is alcohol,
but this is the only thing they choose
to sell, so we repeat the same mistake
every day.
And we keep blaming Adam alaihis salam. Why
did you do it? We're suffering here because
of you. Well, you are doing the same
mistake, so don't blame him. This is Qadarullah.
Right? So this is what people do, and
what makes Shaitan different from Adam
They both made a mistake.
Shaitan
argued.
How can I make Sarja to him? I'm
bitter than him. You created me from fire,
and you created him from mud. I'm bitter
than him. I should not make Sarja.
Well, you idiot, the Malaika are made of
light. And they made serjah, they are better
than you.
They still made serjah, they obeyed Allah Subhanahu
Wa Ta'ala. But Adam alaihis salam, when he
made the mistake,
After they made the mistake, they said, You
Allah, we are wrong.
We disobeyed You. We made a mistake, and
if You do not forgive us, we will
be losers.
So they didn't justify,
they didn't hide it, they didn't blame it
to someone else, they didn't say well, Shaitan
did it. No, they said You Allah, we
made a mistake, so forgive us, and immediately
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala forgave him.
So, the best type of people in the
sight of Allah
are those when they make a mistake, they
come back and they say, You Allah, we
made a mistake, so forgive us. So generally,
there are 2 types of people who make
mistakes.
Those who justify the mistake,
and these are the worst.
And the second type, those who say, Yeah
Allah, yes, we know this is haram. We
agree. 100%.
We are weak human beings. Forgive us, we
apologize.
Even if they commit the mistake again, and
they apologize, still Allah
will open the door for them, and He
will forgive them. Why? Because they don't have
the arrogance.
They have the humility of apologizing, and coming
back, and saying You Allah forgive us.
So this meaning
is very clear in Surah,
Nisa, Surah number 4, where Allah
says,
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala only accepts the Tawbah,
the repentance
of those who, when they make a mistake,
by ignorance or recklessly.
They don't know the ruling, or if they
know the ruling and
they fall into ignorance, and they commit the
sin, but they come back, and they ask
Allah for forgiveness, He will forgive them.
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala does not accept the
Tawba
from those who are entrenched
in sin,
and they are arrogant, they are too proud
to ask a love for forgiveness,
but when it is time to die, they're
giving up their soul, and they see the
misery in front of them,
and the evil of the sins, they say
You Allah,
I repent now, this is good news. For
those who die as Kafir, they commit a
shirk, at the time of death the Tawba
is not accepted.
Like in the story of Pharaoh, Fir'aun and
the Musa. You know the story.
So we need to come back, we make
mistakes, yes, but we need to come back
and ask Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala to forgive
us, and Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
will forgive us.
We shouldn't be too arrogant or too proud
to say I apologize.
Either to Allah
or to human beings.
The best
of creation apologized.
Like the Malaika,
they apologized
to Allah
And the prophets,
some Prophets, they apologized to the people. So
in the case of the Malarika, there's an
authentic hadith.
Yaqurun Abu SAWA'N
So the malaika will apologize to Allah
on the Day of Judgment, and this beautiful
hadith, it's an authentic hadith, the Prophet
says,
in every inch in the heavens,
there is an Angel who is either making
Qiyam
tazbir to Allah
or Ruku or sujood
their entire lives, from the beginning of creation
until the day of judgment. So when the
qiyamah is established
for judgment, they will apologize to Allah
and say, You Allah, we did not worship
You enough.
We're talking about maybe 1,000,000 of years, or
1,000,000,000 of years, they are making Sajjad to
Allah, making salah. This is the only thing
they do, but at the end, You Allah,
You deserve better from us. We didn't worship
You enough.
The Prophets apologize,
like in the case of Muhammad
So in this authentic Hadith and in the
books of Sira,
the Prophet SAW Alaihi Wasallam apologized
to one of the Sahaba, his name was
Sa'ad.
And the Prophet SAW wasallam was lining up
the Muslimoon, the believers before the Battle of
Badr.
They were vastly outnumbers. We're talking about 300
Muslims,
or a little bit more, in front of
over a 1000 Kufa pagans from Mecca,
and everyone was stressed out. It's the first
battle, and the heat,
and
the big numbers were about to fight Muslims,
and the Prophet SAW wasalam was concerned, and
he was saying You Allah,
if these Muslims
are wiped out, no one will worship you
on the earth.
You Allah support us. So when the Prophet
was lining up the Sahaba, one of the
Sahaba, his name was Sawal,
he was in front of the line, he
was not lining up with the people. And
the Prophet
was repeating
the command, Would you please stand in the
line? He was standing like this,
in front of the line.
Would you please stand on the line?
No, he didn't move. So the Prophet SAW
Alaihi Wasallam had a small piece of, wood
in his hand like this whack,
so he poked him with this piece of
wood. He like stabbed him. Not hard, but
he poked him, like move back,
and he pushed it like this.
So he went back in the line.
A few minutes later the Prophet SAW Alaihi
Wasallam came before the battle and he said
You Sawaal, I apologize, I shouldn't have done
that.
And he gave him the piece of wood
and he said, would you please poke me
or stab me back, just like I did
to you?
What Sawad said,
he said, You Rasool Allah, when you poke
me, or when you stabbed me with this
piece of wood, I didn't have a shirt
on. He had long pants over his navel,
you know, the, belly button.
I didn't have a shirt when you stabbed
me, and I didn't have a shirt. But
you have a shirt, will you please, you
know,
reveal your belly so I can stab you
the same way? This is justice, fairness.
So the Prophet
removed his shirt, so the sahabi can stab
him in front of everyone.
Like he didn't take him behind the mountain
or something, you know, sorry, I you know.
No, no, no, in front of everyone. I
I apologized,
you shouldn't have done that.
Revenge, take revenge.
So he said, lift your shirt. So the
Prophet lifted his shirt, and Sawar threw the
piece of wood, and he hugged the Prophet
and he started to kiss
his his his belly.
Why? Because he said, we're about to fight
the kuffar here, and if I die I
want your body to be the last thing
I touch before the Maraka, so this will
be Shafa'a for me on the day of
Jannah. But the Prophet SAWH-eleven
apologized.
Another example without going into the details in
the story of Abdullah ibn Maktoum, the lion
man.
Abba Sawatawalla.
So you know the story, he was in
the middle of talking to someone,
and Abdullah ibn Maktoum came, he was already
a Muslim, he wanted to learn more, and
he he kept saying You Rasool Allah teach
me this, teach me that, and the Prophet
was talking to one from the people of
Mecca.
Hopefully that he will accept Islam, and Abdullah
ibn Maktoum was interrupting all the time, and
the Ayat were revealed, telling the Prophet
You should have given all your attention to
this believer,
because this man will not believe anyway. You
are wasting your time. You should have given
him your undivided attention, and forget about this
man because he will die kafir.
And the Prophet eventually when the Ayat were
revealed, the Prophet SAW apologized to him. So
much so, that in some narrations, when the
Prophet
SAW met him, or they were in the
same gathering, the Prophet SAW would take his
own shirt, and put it on the ground,
and get Abdullah ibn Maktoum to sit on
it, and he would say, welcome to the
one for whom Allah rebuked me.
And on several occasions, although Abdullah ibn Maktoum
was a man of disability, he couldn't see,
the Prophet
SAWS made him his deputy,
ibnar ibnu al Madina, every time the Prophet
or in some cases, when the Prophet
traveled outside Madina, he would make him his
own deputy. And in the battlefield, he would
carry the banner, Yaman Al Raya, for the
Muslim army.
Why? Because
of an ego thing.
If the father, for example,
makes a mistake,
many of us are married, and we have
kids, and sometimes
we make decisions,
and whether you ask your kids or your
wife for Mashura, and they give you their
humble opinion, you take it or not, but
at the end if you make a mistake
without taking their Mashura, or if you took
their Mashura, and you did something else, and
it turned out that you were wrong, some
of us will not apologize.
Well, I'm the leader of the house,
I buy you food,
I pay the bills, I have the right
to do whatever I want, and you think
in the back of your head, if I
apologize,
this would be a sign of weakness, and
no one in the house will respect me.
My wife will not respect me, my kids
will not respect me. Well, this is not
true.
As I said, the prophets apologized, and the
angels apologize.
The teacher,
or the imam, or the scholar, if they
give a fatwa, or they teach something, and
they make a mistake,
they some of them they're they're afraid, well
the kids will think that I'm ignorant. I
don't know nothing, and I make mistakes. So
what is wrong with that?
People would have lots of respect for you
if you say, Well, I was not paying
attention, I said the wrong thing. Nothing is
wrong. And the people who have respect for
you, this is not a sign of weakness,
it's a sign of humility.
Leaders and rulers, they make mistakes all the
time.
If you think about some of our countries
back home, I'm not going to mention names,
they make mistakes all the time. Failed policies,
corruption,
thefts on the highest levels.
I don't think I ever,
saw a ruler in our countries back home,
who would come out,
and I would say, I made this policy,
or I made this project, and it's a
failure. We lost 1,000,000,000 of dollars, or I
have thieves chores,
or whatever in my cabinet. No one would
ever do that. People would think, Will, what
is this?
Do you think people would think you're an
angel, you don't make mistakes, you don't make,
rigged and false policies.
What's wrong with you? Like in many non
Muslim countries,
the rulers will come out and they will
apologize. A few years back, Stephen Harper, I
don't agree with most of his policies,
but at least he had the guts to
come out and apologize
for the practices
against the native Indians, the first nation.
He apologized. He said, we made mistakes. There
is just residential schools. We made a mistake.
And some rulers come out and they apologize.
There are so many examples, right?
People have the courage to come out and
apologize.
The same way the Prophets, the best of
human beings in the sight of Allah, they
would come out and they apologize.
Even to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala or to
a human being.
Like the example of Adam and Eve, Rabbana
Avallam Na'afuz. They came out and they apologized
to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
The example of Muhammad SAW who gave the
example.
The example of Musa SAW,
when he killed a man by mistake,
he did justify it was a Fayed or
I killed him unintentionally.
He said,
He said, You Allah, I made a mistake.
I robbed myself, so forgive me, and immediately.
Alfa means Itaqeel.
That Allah forgave him immediately.
In the case, for example of Yunus alaihis
salam
La ilaha illa anta Subhanaka in the Ikuntum
Minazalamin when he left his town or city
without permission from Allah, he apologized
La ilaha illa anta Subhanaka
I I wronged myself, I made a mistake,
so Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala forgave him.
Nuh alaihis salam, when he tried
to ask Allah, like when his son
drowned, his Surahood,
he said You Rabbi, Inatni ibn Ali, you
told me that my family will be saved,
but my son just drowned.
Your word, your promise is the truth, and
you are the best of all judges. You
would have saved my son.
And Allah said, no, he's not from your
family.
He's of unrighteous conduct. He's not from the
believing family.
Falatas alni malaysalakabiyyahalhinni
aaarookaatahoonaminaljajahili.
Don't ask about anything that you don't have
knowledge of,
I warn you, so you don't fall into
ignorance. This is what Allah says. He
He apologized. He said, You Allah, I mean,
I made a mistake. If you don't forgive
me, I will become a loser, and Allah
Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala said, descend or disembark from
the ship in peace. So he forgave him
on the spot. So when you apologize, it's
not a sign of weakness, it's a sign
of humility.
And you will be honorable in the sight
of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala and the sight
of the people. We'll continue in the next
tafud, Bishaa Allah. We ask Allah
to give us the power and the courage
and the humility to say I'm sorry every
time we make a mistake. We ask Allah
to forgive us anything we have done by
ignorance, mistake, or forgetfulness.
We ask Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala to give
us sincerity in everything we say and do,
to give us the best in this life
and the best in the life to come.