Mustafa Khattab – Talk the Talk 2

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The importance of learning about Islam through experiences and tours is emphasized, along with the use of storytelling and authentic communication to avoid embarrassment. The speaker advises the audience to use a "word plan" before speaking and emphasizes the need to read and summarize information before discussing the topic. The importance of showing respect and understanding the audience's approach is emphasized, along with following proper rules for social activities. The speaker offers examples of how Allah has used the word "has" to describe his actions.

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			So we give these tours in the message
		
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			to, from schools and from church groups and
		
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			seminars. They come to learn about Islam.
		
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			So we basically is the Real bad.
		
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			I'm gonna be.
		
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			So what we do basically
		
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			I usually talk about Islam and we let
		
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			one of the brothers okay? Like, the British
		
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			and the native
		
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			to to speak about the architecture of the
		
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			building.
		
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			So, okay, I introduced the brother to speak
		
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			about the architecture and he stands like this.
		
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			Hey.
		
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			Nothing.
		
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			He freezes. When he stands in front of
		
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			me, he freezes.
		
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			So
		
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			one on one, the guy is an excellent
		
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			speaker. Okay? He can talk the whole day,
		
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			and he has this ability to sell you
		
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			snow in here.
		
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			He can if he wants. Okay?
		
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			But when he speaks to a groom,
		
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			nothing. Okay? He freezes basically.
		
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			So one time he stood like this, and
		
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			I said, hey, guys.
		
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			And I another time he was standing like
		
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			this.
		
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			He was trying
		
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			Also, when you get to talk to people
		
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			about any topic, it's good to start with
		
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			a story or a joke.
		
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			And this is a very important thing. When
		
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			you talk to people about anything,
		
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			the only thing that people would remember of
		
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			anything you say is a story. They will
		
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			forget anything else. And this is why the
		
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			prophet used a lot of stories through the
		
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			and the Quran is filled with stories.
		
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			Level the tone of your speech.
		
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			So if you talk
		
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			to people in Shalba today, brothers and sisters,
		
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			we'll be talking about an important topic. And
		
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			the topic for today is Ramadan. And we're
		
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			going too fast for 30 days in this
		
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			month, from dawn on the
		
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			voice when there's something important, then slow down
		
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			and raise your voice. Because if you are
		
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			what is the
		
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			word? Monotone.
		
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			You're a monotone. Right?
		
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			Monotone. The people who fall asleep.
		
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			And they say when the prophet said that
		
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			gave food, but he used to raise his
		
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			voice
		
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			to warn
		
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			people about
		
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			the and to teach them about. So he
		
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			used to change the tone of his speech
		
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			so people would fall.
		
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			And also,
		
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			facial and body language, you have to use
		
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			your hands and when you talk to people.
		
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			Why I'm gonna below these boys
		
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			because don't recite Quran in the same way
		
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			you talk. Your the Quran has to look
		
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			different
		
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			from
		
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			the regular talk. Also use authentic and hadith.
		
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			And when
		
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			you talk about a problem, say for example,
		
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			they gave you this problem at school to
		
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			speak about,
		
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			a project.
		
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			Oh, and imagine you're gonna talk
		
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			in the community.
		
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			Let's say for example, I'm gonna talk about
		
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			divorce.
		
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			Okay? So I say, listen guys.
		
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			We have a little divorce in the community.
		
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			Miserable. They keep calling 911.
		
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			And
		
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			honest, this man, their
		
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			sunnah. You have to find someone religious
		
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			for your daughter.
		
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			Involved,
		
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			should not put their nose in the middle
		
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			in the affairs of the Kabul. They should
		
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			let them take care of their thing, and
		
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			that's something like that.
		
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			Don't make people
		
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			feel miserable and you leave them and go
		
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			home and the people stay in the message
		
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			and they start crying. Okay? You have to
		
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			give them hope and you have to give
		
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			them solution.
		
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			You have to give them a word plan.
		
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			This is what you need to do number
		
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			1, number 2, number 3.
		
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			I think this is the last, slide. You
		
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			have to read about the topic before you
		
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			speak.
		
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			You have to have some knowledge about the
		
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			topic and you should put,
		
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			of course, a lot of people they have
		
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			respect for imams or speakers who speak from
		
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			memory.
		
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			If you speak
		
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			from a piece of paper, a lot of
		
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			people especially back home, they say this guy
		
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			is not a scholar. If you speak from
		
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			a piece of paper, you're not a scholar
		
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			basically. Okay? But if you speak from memory,
		
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			even if you talk nonsense,
		
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			okay,
		
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			problem,
		
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			solution,
		
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			conclusion.
		
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			And to be able to memorize
		
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			your topic in an easy way because there
		
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			are speakers who can speak for 2, 3
		
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			hours.
		
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			Sometimes, when I get this holdup,
		
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			I always memorize my footpath, and the easiest
		
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			way to memorize the footpath
		
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			is to put it in a logical order.
		
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			So for example, I'm going to speak about
		
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			brother Arun now. Okay. I'm giving a footpath
		
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			about brother Arun.
		
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			So
		
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			I'm going to speak about his,
		
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			study
		
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			at study at, Keon Keon.
		
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			So I'm gonna talk about his master's degree.
		
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			Then I will talk about how his hair
		
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			is made. Then I will talk about how
		
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			Then I will talk about how Harun died.
		
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			Then I will talk about how he got
		
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			married. Then I will talk about how his,
		
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			when he was in the 9th grade. Then
		
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			I will talk about his PhD.
		
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			This doesn't make no sense. I'm sure you
		
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			will forget half of the points.
		
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			But let's talk about how, how it was
		
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			Darren
		
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			Smith. How to get there. When was he
		
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			born?
		
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			When he went to primary school,
		
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			when he graduated from high school, then he
		
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			went to Grandmaq,
		
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			to remember everything. Okay?
		
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			And then, when you put it in this
		
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			order, you can classify it into 3 or
		
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			4 major groups. Like, I'm gonna talk about
		
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			child.
		
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			I'm gonna talk about his education. I'm gonna
		
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			talk about his career. I'm gonna talk about
		
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			his marriage life. Four sections, it's very easy.
		
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			This is how I always do my photos,
		
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			and this is how
		
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			speakers always give their photos. They always
		
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			memorize these 4 or 5 words, they can
		
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			talk for 2, 3 hours and they will
		
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			never forget it in a day.
		
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			But they always
		
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			class it or summarize, sum it up in
		
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			points,
		
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			words,
		
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			and they put it in a logical order.
		
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			If they speak upside down or they speak
		
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			about different,
		
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			times and different events, they will forget everything.
		
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			So you have to put it in a
		
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			body of a door.
		
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			Of course, you have to look at your
		
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			audience. Say say your top I'm giving the
		
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			whole bottle of German, and this is what
		
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			I see in front of me. So if
		
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			this is what you see in front of
		
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			you, it means you're talking too much.
		
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			You're boring people to death,
		
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			or you are a boring speaker, or the
		
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			topic is boring. Something is wrong.
		
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			Now, you have to think,
		
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			should I spice it up a little bit,
		
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			put some jokes in there, or should I
		
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			just finish and leave and call it a
		
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			day?
		
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			So now you understand. You can see by
		
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			looking at the people. People start yawning
		
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			or digging in their nose
		
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			or looking at their watches. I don't know.
		
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			You see? Tight.
		
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			And Friday, of course, for example, when I'm
		
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			giving if I'm giving a flip on Friday,
		
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			now when I'm talking to you, we have
		
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			no problem because we got all 9 months,
		
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			and you have 15 hours between Russia and
		
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			Russia. It's not a big deal.
		
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			Okay?
		
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			But when I'm giving a football on Friday,
		
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			I know there's a time limit because we
		
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			have students, we have
		
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			people who have to go to work, we
		
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			have doctors who have to everybody has something
		
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			to do. So I've always keep the football
		
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			very short.
		
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			10 minutes,
		
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			10 minutes English,
		
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			salah in 5 minutes, we go home. So
		
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			everybody knows before they come to, Jum'ah
		
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			that the imam is going the whole thing
		
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			takes about somewhere between 25 minutes
		
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			to 30
		
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			minutes. And there's something that because this is
		
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			my last week, I can't say whatever I
		
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			quote.
		
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			They can't get me to catch me in
		
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			Egypt.
		
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			So
		
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			the old guys in the back, the Khiteli.
		
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			So some of them when I come, they
		
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			say, okay, sometimes they do it in,
		
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			in an emotional way and sometimes they do
		
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			it in a very,
		
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			threatening way. Nice approach. You have my son.
		
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			Okay. My son is a good worker. Okay.
		
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			So when they say my son, now you
		
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			are aware of the age difference and you
		
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			have to show them respect.
		
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			I have this trusted problem.
		
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			Okay? So I have to make hudu every
		
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			10 minutes. So if you speak for 20
		
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			minutes, I have to make hudu twice, okay,
		
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			when you get the football. But if you
		
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			speak for 30 minutes, I have to make
		
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			hudu 4 times. Okay? So they make you
		
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			feel miserable. You have to finish the football
		
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			in 20 minutes. So this is the first
		
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			group. The second group, they do it in
		
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			a threatening way.
		
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			So you're giving the football, and now you're
		
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			past the 20 minutes
		
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			line, you see the guy playing his hand
		
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			like this.
		
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			If you watch the godfather
		
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			movie,
		
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			the mafia,
		
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			you know what is going to happen if
		
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			they put their hand like this.
		
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			They're giving out the gun to show it
		
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			to you. And most of the time, they
		
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			get out their
		
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			your audience
		
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			if you can talk for longer or the
		
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			people are getting bored or they have to
		
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			go to work, and kids are crying upstairs
		
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			and the ladies are fighting. So you have
		
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			to finish.
		
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			Talk,
		
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			and one thing you have to put in
		
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			mind, that your audience are not the same.
		
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			So you expect to get smart questions.
		
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			And you sometimes, you get some questions that
		
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			might seem to
		
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			the average people as
		
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			stupid questions.
		
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			Okay.
		
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			The only stupid question is the question that
		
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			is not asked. If someone asks a question,
		
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			then you have an obligation to answer them.
		
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			One time,
		
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			like,
		
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			I was giving a talk here in the
		
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			Jama about a year and a half ago.
		
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			I think it was Ramadan time, and And
		
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			we're in the, the last 10 days of
		
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			Ramadan. I was talking about how the top
		
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			10 the top 10 nights and how to
		
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			get closer to Allah in these 10 nights.
		
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			And mash up. Everybody was emotional and naive
		
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			to cut and all this stuff. And
		
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			then this brother raised his hand and mash
		
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			up a suit and tie and okay. Mash
		
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			up a, like, emulate.
		
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			So what do you want? He said, when
		
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			I fast in Ramadan,
		
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			does my dad have to fast too
		
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			And Nabil Nasman was there, I think.
		
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			So Nabil Nasman started to look for his
		
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			gun, and the other guy was looking for
		
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			the sword. Okay. It's asking. No. No. No.
		
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			It's okay. So I explained to the robot,
		
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			maybe he's a new Muslim. Maybe he's not
		
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			practicing. Maybe he doesn't know. And if we
		
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			make fun of him and we start,
		
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			look at this guy, buddy. He's asking about
		
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			the cat.
		
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			Actually, when he first asked a question about
		
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			the cat, I thought he was asking about
		
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			the cat. Does the cat
		
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			from kids. I was giving a talk
		
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			to the sisters one time. This is the
		
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			last, slide I think.
		
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			I was giving a talk to the sisters
		
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			and
		
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			at the end, I was talking for about
		
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			30, 40 minutes. And after I finished, this
		
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			system brought her Kim with her. And she
		
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			said that my son,
		
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			my daughter, I don't remember, has a question.
		
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			And I couldn't ask. She said she couldn't
		
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			ask. And I said, what is the question?
		
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			She said,
		
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			why have all this not to have a
		
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			son or a
		
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			father? I said, well, this is an excellent
		
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			question.
		
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			Why do you need a father? You. She
		
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			said, I need a father to,
		
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			to feed me and to care for me.
		
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			And so I said, does Allah
		
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			need someone to care for him and provide
		
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			for him and take just know.
		
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			And I said this also goes for the
		
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			sun. Allah is not the sun of anyone.
		
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			Okay? Because the sun needs to provide them
		
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			and protect them. Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala does
		
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			not need anything of this. Okay?
		
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			Allah is completely different from human beings. It
		
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			doesn't have needs.
		
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			Everything and everyone in this universe is dependent
		
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			on Allah, but Allah is not dependent to
		
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			anyone. And this is the meaning of
		
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			Allahu Samad.
		
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			Allahu Samad. Osamau Samad is the one who
		
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			is self sufficient. He doesn't need anyone,
		
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			but everyone is dependent on him. SubhanAllah.
		
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			And I told her, do you know Suwad
		
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			Khurrow Allahu Ahad? Yes?
		
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			And
		
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			they said, Allah is giving you the answer
		
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			in the Quran.
		
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			And to forgive us
		
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			anything we have done by ignorance, mistake, or
		
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			forgetfulness.
		
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			What's