Mustafa Khattab – Tafsir Sura Yusuf 7 Part 2
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The speaker describes various women in dressing rooms with men, emphasizing the importance of finding a good balance between work and personal life. They stress the need for release from punishment, stress, and finding a good balance between work and personal life. The speakers also discuss the rights of couples, the importance of not being engaged until 5, and the need for supervision and supervision of relationships. They stress the need for release from stress and finding a good balance between work and personal life.
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And she gave up. She said, what what
is this? He's not taking all the clues
I'm throwing for him. What is this?
Maybe he doesn't get it, so I have
to be very abrupt with him.
So she locked the doors.
They say in the Tafasir,
there were 7 doors in the palace,
so she locked all the doors.
And she said,
She doesn't
locked the doors, she locked them firmly.
She made sure that no one is coming.
Like there are some people they have like
10 locks on the door.
And the thing because they are afraid.
And eventually the thief will come from the
window. Okay?
And she said,
come to me.
Okay. She was very subjective. She was very
revealing in the way she was dressed.
Now in her in her words, she's very
abrupt.
I want you. I'm ready. Come. Come to
me. Okay?
Imam Abdulkayim
describes
this situation.
So I remember. She
said,
if a woman that you go to work
with
or your,
colleague at school invites you to do something
haram,
if you say no,
well, in this case, you are a hero.
Or something.
She she
tries to seduce you. She said, come, you
know, let's have a good time together and
all that stuff. If you refuse,
then you are from a badulrahman.
The people who don't make zina. Right? Commit
adultery.
But he said the situation of Yusuf alaihi
salam, it is not,
like an acquaintance.
He gives 13 different reasons why Yusuf alaihi
salam
yeah. And he did a fantastic job refusing
to do something haram. He said number 1,
the lady was beautiful.
Right? They say she was very beautiful.
And number 2,
she had authority over him. She was not
asking him kindly.
She was giving him an order, like, you
have to do it. Like,
you know, I'm your boss. You have to
do it.
At the end of the story, she said,
if he doesn't do
what I command him to do, like, she's
commanding because he is
working for me. He's living in my house.
I'm feeding him right.
So he has to do it.
Her authority.
And number 3, his youth and beauty. There
are so many hadith about how beautiful he
was and all these things. And sometimes
when you see yourself beautiful,
you say, you know,
I deserve to do this because I look
good. Right?
But if you don't look as good, you
said,
hamdulillah
Allah. Yeah. And he protected us from this
fit now. Right?
So
if someone has these qualifications,
he looks good. The eyes, the hair, whatever,
the height, you know, I deserve this. I
would do it, inshallah. And it wouldn't be
a problem because,
you know, I just look at the girl
and she will follow me. Right? Because the
way I look,
his youth and his beauty. They say that
use of Alai Salam had half of the
beauty of humanity. Allah, Adam, it can be
an exaggeration. We don't know. We never saw
him, but he was very beautiful,
and he was a youth.
And you have this,
instinct
to be with someone.
Right?
This is the human nature.
Right?
And number
4, he says he was a stranger.
Like, say, for example, you live here in
Saint Catherine's. Your family is here. Your friends
are here.
If you walk in the street, if you
date the girl, you walk in the street,
maybe the imam will see you.
Maybe you and dad will see you and
he will give you a nice beating when
you go home. Maybe your mom, maybe your
sister, maybe someone you know, and he will
report to your mom.
Right?
But if you are in a a stranger
in you are in Vancouver, you are in
a different country,
no one knows you there. So you can
do whatever you want. Right?
This is why a lot of brothers, they
have, like, a master's degree.
They go somewhere to a different country. They
can't find a job of let me go
to this, to Tim Hortons, man. I'm gonna
wash the dishes because nobody knows me here.
Right?
And some people
in their countries,
because they know that the culture is against
it.
So when they come here for a scholarship,
they come to study.
I know so many cases.
Nobody knows me here. I can do whatever
I want. They never come to the masjid.
Like, we have literally hundreds
of students in this country, actually, in this
city from different countries.
Most of them are from conservative countries.
There they have to go to the Masjid
5 Salawat. Right? They have to dress in
a certain way. They have to live decently.
But as soon as they come here, not
even as soon as they come here from
the air from the from the plane.
They take off. They do whatever. Right? Because
they know that no one sees them here
except Allah. So now they do whatever they
want.
So he was a stranger.
If he did anything, nobody would have known.
Right?
Especially his family because they were in a
distant place.
Number
5.
She was willing,
right?
As we said, she was busting all the
moves, so she was willing. Usually,
if you are a youth, you are interested
in a girl.
Can I buy you coffee?
Can you talk to me?
You got beautiful eyes.
Are you on Facebook?
You know, so you are offering.
But in her case, she was the one
who was offering. Right?
You can't get any better than this. Right?
What is this? You know, you don't have
to do anything.
She's like, she is ready, man.
You talk to our girl, you look beautiful,
she slaps you in the face.
This is not my lucky day. But she
was willing, not only willing, she was offering
herself,
and she was doing all the moves as
they say in the tafsir. Maybe the quality
of the clothes,
you know, how the women do sometimes, you
know,
revealing clothes, inviting clothes, the way they talk
and all these things.
You
know? Asala Vista, baby. All this stuff, you
know? And she was insisting because it says
in the eye of warah with that too.
You don't make more for someone if you
invite him to do something once or twice.
It must have been 15, 20 times every
day like she was bugging him day and
night. Rawah with that too.
And,
number
8,
she threatened him.
If he doesn't do what I'm commanding him
to do,
he's going to jail
and he will be humiliated,
disgraced. I'm gonna humiliate him in front of
everyone. So 2 threats.
And number 9,
if
he committed something haram with her, no one
would have known. No one would have doubted
him. Why?
Because he was living with her in the
same house under the same roof.
Right? He was in the house.
So, ma'am,
they asked this, lady was brought for Zina
with her slave. Like, it was in the
house with her. They said,
why didn't you make Zina with a free
man? It would have I mean, it would
have been we would have been more respectful
of you if you made dinner with
a free man. Why you're a slave? She
said, he was with me in the house
all the time.
Right? So I felt this closeness because he
was there
and no one would have doubted because he
was already in the house. But if they
see a free man from outside,
they're gonna start asking questions.
What is he doing in the house? So
they will know. So this is what happened
with Yusuf alaihis salam. He was there all
the time. So no one would have doubted
if they saw him inside the house.
Or maybe he was laughing or sitting with
the lady. They are having a light moment
up.
He's her son
because she adopted him. Right?
Nobody would doubt anything. Right?
Carlos,
number.
I don't know. 10.
Her husband was very lenient. Like, at the
end of the story,
she was crying.
There's a crime here.
It's either him or her, Yusuf or the
lady who did something wrong.
Try to attack the lady, harass her or
she was, you know, whatever.
And he said, okay. Yusuf,
like, oh, Yusuf, Don't talk about it. Don't
mention it, man. Don't talk about this, man.
It's okay, man. Nothing happened, man. You know,
like this.
Say sorry
because you are at fault.
That's it.
Like,
no chairs flying,
no shooting.
Like nothing happened. Like he's okay. Like it's
cool man. Like nothing happened man. What is
the what kind of man is this? Right?
He was a lenient man
locking the doors. As we said, she was
so insistent. She was locking all the doors.
So
I mean,
she was very insist she was into it.
Also,
this is number 12.
The women
that she invited for the banquet,
she told him the same thing.
You know, you're in her house. She is
feeding you. She has authority over you.
You have to listen to her. Listen to
her, please. You know?
It says it says at the end of
the story of the banquet, oh, Allah, if
you don't keep their cunning away from me,
maybe I will do something haram.
So they say in the tafsir, why he
said this? Although the lady was trying to
seduce him,
he said if you don't keep their cunning
away from me, they say because they told
him
obey her, listen to her. Whatever she asking
for do it.
So he was pressured
by the ladies.
So this is why Ibn al Qayyim
said,
well, Yusuf alaihis salam was a great man
because of all these pressures,
all of these things around him, he still
refused.
So he said,
when he refused to do it,
is the first reason.
I won't do it because of Allah.
This is number 1. Because he was afraid
of the punishment.
And number 2,
you can call someone.
Rub is like the maintainer,
is the provider.
Like, your dad is called Rabulbayt.
Well, the mother is called Rabbatulbayt.
Like, she is the guardian. She is taking
care of things. So the word Rab in
this case means a guardian or someone who's
taking care of someone.
How can I betray
the man who has been nice to me
in gratitude? So the first one is the
punishment of Allah. The second reason
is because of his master. How can I
do something like this?
And number 3, the
wrongdoers, the people who do something haram will
never succeed. Right?
And they say if someone does something wrong
with a single lady, this is not as
terrible in the side of Allah than someone
who does something haram with a lady who
is already married.
Because you violated the lady and you violated
the right of her husband.
Right?
And also,
maybe
if things work in a certain way, maybe
you can end up marrying the single lady.
If both make tawba, they said, there's nothing
haram if they get married. But if someone
makes
Yanizina with a lady who was already married,
I mean, there's no solution for this problem.
You can't get married to the lady. Right?
So it's haram in all in all counts.
In the hadith of the prophet sallallahu alaihi
wasallam he talks about this the 7 who
would be in the shade of Allah in
the day of judgment and one of them,
the person who says, you any if a
woman who is wealthy, she's in a certain
position authority,
She invites the person to do something Haram
and he says,
myaavallah in the in the akhafullah. He says
I'm afraid of Allah. I'm afraid of the
punishment of Allah.
Sometimes you you feel like this is difficult
to happen in our daily lives.
About a month ago, I was invited to
the house of 1 of the brothers in
the community.
He says he travels a lot
and
one time
his son went for
like a trip to europe,
an educational trip.
He has some friends with him
like boys and girls.
So of course in the in the hotel
he stayed in a room by himself.
The others, the boys and their girls that
were
together, right?
So one of them
came to this brother. He's a Muslim brother.
I know him. He's a he's a herbal
brother. I'm not gonna mention his name.
So he said one girl
that he knew she used to go to
school with him.
He said he came to him at night.
She knocked on the door. He didn't look
at the thing. He just opened the door
and she was there.
He said she pushed him inside and she
locked the door
and she said, okay, why is everyone after
me in the group and you are the
most handsome one. Mashallah
he's he's handsome.
It's taller than me. More handsome. Mashallah is
you know, whatever.
So he said everyone is after me except
for you. What is this? What's wrong with
you? You wanna see a doctor? What's wrong
with you?
He said I'm a Muslim
and in Islam I'm not allowed to do
something like this. So she said, what he
want to do is he said, I'm not
allowed to be with someone and and until
or unless I'm married to them.
Okay. She said, okay. Let's get married.
He said, no.
No. You are not the right person for
me, and he kicked her out. He said,
leave. So
he said after this happened, he started to
cry, and he called his dad.
And and and he said, when this happened
to me, I remembered
when she was talking to me, I saw
use of Hari Salam in front of me
because it's exactly the same story. Right? She
locked the door, she pushed him and all
these things.
So it it can happen.
Sometimes it is difficult because
Shaitan is there, the nafs is there and
all these things.
And one of the things that I didn't
put here,
something is very
interesting. We call it,
stress.
Every one of us, if you're a student,
if you go to work,
if you left your country or on visa
and working here, there will always be stress
in your life. No matter how comfortable and
and
no matter how, you know, you have luxuries
in life, you'll always have this
stress in your life.
Every single one of us
needs
release.
Release.
Right?
So
what do people look for?
For release?
Some people do drugs.
Some people run after women
or men.
Some people drink.
There has to be a release.
The best release for youth,
from my personal experience, is ports.
So this is why if someone Yani says
my
my, Children, they don't listen to us or,
you know, they are away from Islam. I
tell them number 1, they have stress in
their life. They look around, they see their
friends doing stuff.
They have a lot of stress in their
life. They need release.
The best way is
sports. We play soccer Saturdays.
You can if it's a girl send her
for swimming
or basketball, Saturday, Saturday,
right?
You have to find release for the stress
in your life.
This is the normal way. It's perfectly natural.
Every single one of us, we have stress
in our life. So you have to find
the right release.
In Nafs.
In Shadrach
Bilbod.
The human self.
If you don't busy yourself
with good, it will busy itself with evil.
So you have to keep yourself busy.
And they say the wolf always attacks the
lonely sheep. If You are sitting by yourself,
you shot your room and you sit and
you think for yourself and you're not talking
to anyone, shaitan will jump over you. But
if you are talking to people, you are
out, you are busy with people, shaitan will
keep you away.
He'll keep away from you. Taban.
The prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam says in
the hadith,
if a man and a woman they sit
by themselves,
shaitan will make a third of them. This
is an authentic hadith. Right?
It doesn't matter how righteous you are. Kabir
al Hajjaz,
you made her 10 times,
she has half his Quran, it doesn't matter.
Well, Shaitan is not gonna look at your
credentials. He doesn't care. Right?
A man, a woman, Shaitan will make a
3rd.
And in about 9 months, you will be
4 because there's a boy or a girl
or maybe you'll be 5 if you have
twins.
This is how it works with Shaitan. Right?
This is how it works.
So
sitting together in khalwa is not recommended in
Islam. Some people when they,
when they get engaged,
now we're engaged. We can do whatever we
want. We can go out. We can go
to the movies. We can sit together by
ourselves. Nobody is there. Yes. Yeah. There's something
about this. I've seen people and you know
why I'm asking for it. I see people
who are like,
they'll be on the phone 24 or something
like, who are you talking to? Like, it's
not like, oh, it's my fiancee. I'm like,
wait, did you marry or whatever? They're like,
no. No. This is my parents. No. I
I told my mom about this person, so
now I'm talking to him back and forth.
Yeah. And they're doing the same actually even
before that. Right? So So is is that
permissible or no? Just because the mom and
dad know, does this still make it okay?
Well, the word,
this is a promise
to consider to consider marrying someone in the
future. This is not marriage.
If 2 people are engaged,
the guy dies in an accident or something.
Does she have to do a for him?
The 4 months and 10 days? The answer
is no. If he dies, does she inherit
from him? The answer is no.
But if someone
gets married to someone even by signing the
contract, by saying I do's, even without the
consummation of the marriage.
If the person dies before the consummation, she
will do the 4 months 10 days.
If he dies,
5 minutes after signing the contract, heart attack,
boom, they die, she will inherit from him.
She will get
her share of inheritance.
Zawja. Right? This is infiq.
So signing the contract even without consummation, it
gives the husband and the wife rights on
each other.
If she dies after signing the contract,
he will inherit from her.
Right?
And so on and so forth. But engagement,
it doesn't give you any rights.
They cannot allow to touch the lady.
You have no rights. Inheritance, I've done nothing.
Right? It's a promise to get married in
the future. So they cannot
sit by themselves in a room and they
lock the door and all this stuff because
there's no relationship. Right?
She can't they can't break
up and she can marry someone else. No
obligations whatsoever. Right?
So in this case, if they wanna talk,
it has to be under the supervision of
someone else. It doesn't have to be the
father or the mother or the brother. It
can be yeah. And even out of the
mama is. Yeah. And a kid who is,
like, 6, 7 years old, He knows what
is going on.
And this is what happens if if your
dad or your mom, they're busy. They would
put your brother or sister
and all we have to promise him is
just a bar of candy.
And he will report like the FBI.
Like, he looked at her.
He hold he held her
hand. You know,
5:30
is what he said. They will give a
full report. You don't have to worry about
anything. Right?
So this is not this is not a
relationship. So,
you don't take advantage of the engagement.
And as I as I say, once you
make sure that this is the right person
for you, you started them, you make it
to follow, you asked about them the background
check as most cultures do, they're caused. There
is no reason to delay in 5 years
7 years. Yes? Yeah. Because I've seen people
who've gone through the whole process like a
day before the marriage and then they didn't
work out. The girl like ended up talking
with the guy for like a year straight.
And then it's just a day before the
marriage didn't work out, heartbreak and the girl's
miserable. So The guys miserable. Things happen.
And I give this story before you Anawalay,
after the
like,
Khalas, they signed the contract, everything.
They disagree on the winning party.
Who is gonna buy what? Where they disagree?
Well, they they agree. Well, we're going to
buy gold.
He's gonna buy her a bracelet
and a necklace.
Alhamdulillah.
No problem. They signed the contract. Everything. They
go to the store.
We wanted to buy a necklace. They want
15 grams.
No. We thought you were gonna get 50.
So they they agree on the what they
are going to buy, but they disagree on
the weight
of the day. Or they disagree on how
much everyone is going to pay for the
wedding party. And they there is a divorce.
There's something interesting about women and men's relationship
in the Quran.
When Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala talks about
theft
It says,
The male
and female
thieves
give them the this punishment.
But
when he talks about
zina, it says, Azaniatwazani.
The female
and
male fornicators give them this punishment.
So why did Allah start with
the males in theft
and the females in fornication?
They say because most of the time in
fornication,
it's even if the man is approaching,
it is the woman who allows him to.
So if she is willing,
he will be able to do it. If
he's not willing,
he will never be able to do it.
If he if he forces her, this will
be * and he would be punished. There's
nothing with her. But most of the time,
the signal comes from the lady. He will
see something, he will hear something inviting,
and this is why he will go for
it. Just like you see in the story
of Yusuf alaihis salaam.
Usually, it is the way the lady speaks.
She tries to be more effeminate the way
the tone of her speech.
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is telling the wives
of the prophet, sallallahu alaihi wa sallam,
don't be too effeminate when you talk to
men
because the person in whose heart there is
sickness, nifa,
will be attracted.
Right?
Or in the way the person dresses, like
the ladies, the way they dress.
They say that
sometimes
when ladies were revealing close,
most of the time they are desperate because
no one is taking care of them because
this is the human nature, you like to
be with someone, someone to care for you
emotionally and stuff. So when you see the
tight clothes and whatever and the cleavage and
stuff, this is why
because they're trying to attract attention. Right? They
want to be with someone. They do it
for attention. Right?
So this is why the signal comes from
the from the ladies,
not necessarily from the men. Right?
I'll show you a video
to show you that the quality of the
clothes
the person is wearing
will determine their action from the men.
We'll take a look then we'll,
continue inshallah.
We'll talk about it. Yeah.
Hey, everybody. It's me Kareem, Are We Famous
Now? You might have all seen a video
of a woman walking for 10 hours in
NYC while getting harassed.
Well, I thought I'd do a different version.
And in this version, we're gonna have my
friend walk for 5 hours in Hazlan clothing
and walk another 5 hours in hijack, which
is the Muslim guard. We're gonna see how
both compare, and we're gonna see the response
that she gets. Let's check it out.
Now with the hijab.
The same woman.
So she did 5 hours in normal clothes
like jeans and whatever.
And and you heard the comments.
Then 5 hours in full hijab and hijab
like this, and nobody said anything. 5 hours,
not even a comment.
And my understanding, this lady is not Muslim.