Mustafa Khattab – Story Of Brother Gary

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A guest speaker discusses the struggles of praised Muslim named Zakhal and how he faced challenges in learning and adjusting to Islam. He explains his personal background as a Christian and how he needed guidelines and rules to live in his new life. He also talks about his past experiences with Islam and how he made bad choices, but eventually made good choices. He emphasizes the importance of learning from past experiences and practicing Islam, and stresses the importance of trusting parents and following the prophet.

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			Okay. I know today is the Q and
		
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			A session, but,
		
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			we have, brother Gary, our
		
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			guest speaker today. Inshallah, we'll be talking to
		
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			you for about 10 minutes on his story,
		
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			how he became to how he became Muslim,
		
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			and,
		
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			and the challenge he faced, and how he
		
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			is trying to adjust as a new Muslim.
		
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			So please welcome brother brother Gary, Zakhal.
		
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			Okay. I'm not really prepared because he kinda
		
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			surprised me. I was coming here to pick
		
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			up a book and then he said, by
		
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			the way
		
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			and, I didn't realize there were so many
		
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			of you, so it's a little crazy.
		
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			I can talk in front of adults, but
		
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			when I get in front of children, I
		
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			get a little nervous. You guys scare me.
		
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			Oh, yeah.
		
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			So, to be quick, because,
		
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			I, accepted Islam when I was, about 35
		
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			years old. So that was in 2007.
		
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			So I do I don't look that old,
		
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			so people kinda get surprised by that. I
		
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			have a son who is 17. I have
		
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			a daughter who is
		
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			14.
		
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			I have another daughter who is 13, and
		
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			a son who is 6. And, the 6
		
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			year old is Yusuf. He accepted he was
		
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			born after I accepted Islam. So he's the
		
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			first in our family to be
		
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			to be, born Muslim.
		
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			So, I come from a Christian background.
		
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			Catholic is I don't know if you guys
		
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			know much about that, and, you should focus
		
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			on Islam anyway, but in if you get
		
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			older, you might take some religious studies and
		
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			learn about other faiths.
		
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			And that's one that is the biggest religion
		
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			here in Canada.
		
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			Or the biggest religious group, and I come
		
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			from that background.
		
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			I had a a bit of a difficult
		
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			life,
		
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			because I can see
		
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			is that closer? Is that right? No stairs.
		
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			For some of you guys, the older brothers
		
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			here, I I understand some of you are
		
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			about 14, in that range.
		
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			So for me, when I was your age,
		
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			I moved out of the house.
		
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			So I had to I had to grow
		
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			up very fast.
		
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			So when all of my friends were in
		
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			school learning, I was out working.
		
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			I had to live on the street for
		
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			a while, sleeping in parks and things like
		
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			that.
		
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			And, you know, what it's like in Canada.
		
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			It's very cold. Even in the summer time
		
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			you'd be surprised sleeping out in a park.
		
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			It's very very cold.
		
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			So, these are just things that happened to
		
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			me.
		
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			And a lot of other things. I got
		
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			into a lot of trouble. Because
		
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			the beauty of Canada is that it's very
		
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			open, it's very free, we can practice our
		
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			religion,
		
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			but it's also very easy to get into
		
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			trouble, right, if we don't pay attention to
		
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			what we're doing.
		
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			And so for me, I got into a
		
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			lot of trouble. And I did a lot
		
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			of bad things. I got in trouble the
		
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			police and I got in trouble with my
		
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			parents and my family.
		
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			But then eventually when I got a little
		
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			bit older I realized
		
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			something was missing. I didn't have even though
		
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			I had a belief in God, I wasn't
		
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			really connected with with Allah.
		
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			Right?
		
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			So one day I prayed and I said
		
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			if you're up there, please guide me. And
		
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			I started to learn about Islam.
		
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			And I had a couple of friends
		
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			that were that I worked with who were
		
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			Muslim.
		
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			And
		
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			as I started to learn about religion, going
		
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			back to Christianity
		
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			and, the things that I knew, I started
		
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			to look out at other things. I didn't
		
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			know anything about Islam.
		
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			I thought it was just about camels and
		
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			curved swords and desert and but I I
		
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			didn't know. So I started to ask questions
		
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			and alhamdulillah, they were there and they they
		
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			taught me a lot of stuff.
		
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			And, after a couple of years I decided,
		
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			you know what, this makes sense to me.
		
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			This is what I need.
		
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			Because I got into so much trouble,
		
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			I realized
		
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			at that point, as an adult, 35 years
		
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			old, I realized how important
		
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			the rules that Allah
		
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			had set. And if I had been following
		
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			these rules
		
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			much sooner,
		
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			all I know is I may not have
		
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			gotten into so much trouble.
		
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			And, that was really the main reason why
		
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			I accepted Islam, was because I needed those
		
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			rules
		
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			and those guidelines.
		
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			Right? We come and we pray 5 times
		
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			a day. There's a there's a routine that
		
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			we develop. There's a habits that we develop
		
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			that are really good for us. And I
		
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			didn't have that.
		
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			Being 14 and moving out, I had to
		
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			figure things out on my own. So,
		
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			I didn't even finish high school until I
		
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			was 38 years old.
		
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			I had to go back to school.
		
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			So,
		
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			the decisions that we make, for the younger
		
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			guys you won't understand so much now, but
		
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			for some of the older guys, 14, 15,
		
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			and the sisters,
		
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			you realize that you guys are getting into
		
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			that stage where you guys are adults, you're
		
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			young adults.
		
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			From
		
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			our from our Dean, you are adults. When
		
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			you start to get to 14, 15 year
		
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			old, you're you're you have to start making
		
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			decisions.
		
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			The things that you do, that your parents
		
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			are going to let you do, make more
		
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			choices. You're going to be going to college
		
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			in a few years, in university.
		
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			And as I said, in Canada, there's so
		
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			much that we can do, but at the
		
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			same time we have to be very, very
		
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			careful about the decisions we make.
		
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			So, Abdullah accepted Islam at 35 and,
		
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			I came home about a year later
		
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			and I had just finally learned salah. So
		
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			when you guys say, Assalamu Alaikum,
		
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			you know, that took me a long time
		
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			to learn that. We're talking a couple of
		
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			years to say it, right?
		
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			I I've been working on my recitation and
		
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			so on. So after a year, I came
		
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			home and,
		
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			my wife had said to me that she
		
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			wasn't the man I was that she had
		
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			married. She was kind of upset. Things were
		
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			changing.
		
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			I accepted Islam for me. She was still
		
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			doing what she was doing as a non
		
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			Muslim.
		
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			But then she said to me, she says,
		
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			because of Islam, I see you becoming the
		
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			man I've always wanted you to be.
		
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			And she said to me, I wanna accept
		
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			Islam.
		
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			So this is how my family, my wife
		
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			and I, became Muslim.
		
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			So I accepted Islam and she saw the
		
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			changes and the good choices I had made.
		
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			Prior to that I had made a lot
		
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			of bad choices, as I said.
		
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			So it was because of Islam that I
		
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			started making good choices in my life. I
		
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			started listening to Allah. I started following the
		
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			prophet.
		
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			The sunnah, the things that he did, the
		
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			things that he said, and it really changed
		
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			things for me.
		
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			And,
		
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			Alhamdulillah,
		
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			9, 10 years later, I've been very active
		
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			in the community.
		
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			I try to to do these types of
		
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			things.
		
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			Usually with a little more notice. It helps
		
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			inshallah.
		
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			But,
		
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			but I think it's very important. And you
		
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			guys will learn this as you get a
		
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			bit older. Alright. One of the things I
		
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			had difficulty with was my parents.
		
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			I wasn't always very respectful with my parents
		
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			and that was part of the reason why
		
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			I had to move out when I was
		
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			14.
		
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			Alright. And this is something that's very important
		
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			for us. You may not understand now, but
		
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			you will in the future. My parents are
		
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			getting older now. And our Canadian culture
		
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			is not,
		
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			as caring towards our parents as we should
		
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			be. So you guys need to learn this
		
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			as well. It's really important. So if your
		
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			parents say no, they don't want you to
		
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			do things,
		
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			you know, there's usually a reason for it.
		
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			Right? You have to trust him. Just like
		
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			we trust him Allah. We don't always know
		
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			what Allah is telling us to do, but
		
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			we have to trust in him
		
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			and we have to, you know, realize that
		
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			there's a reason why he's telling us. We
		
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			may not know now. We may never know.
		
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			But, eventually, we may get to know, okay,
		
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			well, Allah had told me this
		
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			then because now I need it today.
		
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			Does that make sense, guys?
		
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			So, you know, it's the same thing with
		
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			your parents. You have to trust your parents,
		
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			the decisions they made, the things that they
		
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			say.
		
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			And if you can benefit from any of
		
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			the things that, you know, I've done a
		
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			lot of things and not not,
		
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			you know,
		
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			just things, bad choices that I made. So
		
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			inshallah, may Allah protect you guys, help you
		
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			make good choices,
		
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			have good,
		
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			have a good path in your future. And
		
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			don't be afraid to practice your Islam. I
		
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			know there's a lot of things, especially the
		
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			older brothers and sisters, you realize there's a
		
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			lot of stuff going on. Just try to
		
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			remember Allah
		
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			It's gonna be hard. Don't let the things
		
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			in the world shake you. You always have
		
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			to come back and think about Allah, and
		
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			it will it will get better. It takes
		
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			time, and this is the one of the
		
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			beauties of Kanyog.
		
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			You know, some bad things happen here, but
		
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			we do have one of the best countries
		
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			in the world where we can practice art
		
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			Islam.
		
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			So, Salaam Alaik.
		
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			Brother
		
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			Gary,
		
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			he is visiting from Waterloo,