Mustafa Khattab – Ramadan Reflections 18 Learning From Kids 2

Of, nights ago, we made an announcement for

a sister,

city of family that was looking for a

place to stay.

And, I've just been told that, the sister,

the wife is pregnant, and they're looking for

a family doctor. So if you're able to

help them, you can talk to brother Abhis

Salam at the front desk.

So basically,

2 nights ago, we spoke about what we

can learn from kids, and we said there

are so many things that we can learn.

And Imam

Sayyuti, basically,

and he said there are certain things that

if we do like kids,

we will become like awliya in the ayahs

of Allah. So I'm gonna share some of

that with you, bin alayatah.

So just a recap on what we said

last time, we said that kids,

they are very innocent.

They don't know how to lie,

they're not racist, and so on and so

forth, but they learn this stuff over time.

And all the evil people that we read

about in history, like Hitler and some other

evil ones, they were born innocent.

And they were innocent at the age of

57,

and eventually, they learn to be evil people.

And we said that kids are logical in

the way we, in the way they think,

and I gave some examples last time.

A few weeks ago, I went to the

dentist,

and I took my young daughter with me,

and she was me in the office. They

gave me the injection that big,

and, shahad alaihachramoni,

physically,

financially, and, psychologically

as well.

In every possible way. So she told the

doctor, why are you torturing the guy? She

said, it's very simple.

Take the tooth out,

clean it, you know, stuff it, and put

it back.

That is a.

But, anyway anyway, yeah, she she made a

lot of sense. You know? They they they

basically I was I was suffering because of

the injection and, you know, all the pain

and and everything. Yeah. Well, I I thought

that was was was logical, the way that,

what she said. Another example,

when you talk about kids,

they don't understand metaphors. If you don't talk

if you talk to them metaphorically,

if you talk to them metaphorically,

they think that you are talking literally.

I know if if you're

You're threatening your son, you say

You know?

Go and kick your brother, and I I

will show you. They're just going

They they think you're talking literally. They they

they don't know that you're talking to them

in a threatening way. Right?

And and the example of a guy,

a little kid, like, 5 years old,

he told his mother,

not my kid, not my kid. He said

to his mother,

you always call my younger brother Asuri, like,

my young bird, my birdie.

And I just found out today that he

is not a bird. And she said, how?

He said, I threw him out out of

the window, and he didn't fly.

So they take things very literally because they

are very logical, you know? So as I

said last time, for them, 1 plus 1

is 2, but for many grown ups, 1

plus 1 plus 1 is not 3, it's

just one.

So basically another thing that we can learn

from kids

the way they appeal to their parents if

they go to the store with them, and

if they want something how do they talk

to their parents to convince them to buy

something for them?

They'll say, daddy, please can I buy this?

I love you. The hugs and the kisses.

And if this doesn't work, they bug you.

Daddy daddy da da da. You know? And

you feel so guilty when people give you

the wicked look in the store, especially the

if your kids start to cry.

Who whose kid is this? Is it? Not

mine? He looks like you? No. He's not

my kid anymore. You know? Yeah. So they

bug you. They bug you to death. And

eventually, because you wanted them to shut up,

you'll just buy them whatever they want so

you can go home. You know?

So basically, if

if you want something from Allah Subhanahu Wa

Ta'ala, when you make dua to him, call

him by his most beautiful names.

You Allah, antaraim, you antaraza, antar this and

that.

And if if you don't get what you

are praying for, keep making dua every single

day, just like the kids, you know? And

if you don't get what you're asking for,

cry to

to Allah at night, and eventually, Allah will

show you with his rama

because you acted like kids, you know? And

Allah

will provide for you. I mentioned Imam al

Sayyut, he said there are a few things

that if we do, we'll be like aulia.

Number 1,

When kids go to bed at night,

they know that their parents will take care

of them, they will provide for them.

So they don't have to cheat, they don't

have to steal, they don't have to do

anything because they trust

their parents will take care of them.

And if we have this feeling, this attitude

with Allah

all the people who do haram stuff, they

will not do this. Because they will trust

Allah

When you know that your dad is driving

the car, he's taking you home, you're sitting

in the back seat, you have full trust

in Allah

that he is driving you the right way.

And if you have the same feeling toward

Allah

Allah that he is doing what is best

for you, and he's providing for you, he's

taking care of you,

then you you will put your heart at

ease, and you will put your full tawakkud

on Allah

This is how the kids behave, towards their

parents.

And they weigh the kids because they know

that there is a higher authority

that takes care of them, then they put

their heart at ease. If we as grown

ups, we know that there is a higher

authority, the highest authority actually, who's taking care

of you,

then Wallahi will have full taqunul Allah Subhanahu

Wa Ta'ala.

Number 2,

laashtakoona

al kharik.

Some grown ups, if something bad happens to

them and say for example, someone,

they didn't go to school, they didn't do

their homework, they always go late for work,

and

they're bad dudes. Right?

And if they get fired or they fill

any exams,

they blame everyone except for themselves. They blame

the qadr, they blame the teachers, they blame

the teachers, and so on. So they blame

everything.

Jinn, everything.

They don't blame themselves. You know? But for

the kids, they don't blame anyone. Like, you

don't see them going around and, Allah did

this to me. They will not do this.

So I remember the story that happened in

Egypt many years ago, Fedmaiden al Taghamor Samiz.

This is where the rich people live, and

they have all the palaces, all the villas,

and all the stuff.

If you want to rob someone's house, go

to New Cairo City. Don't go somewhere else.

Don't go don't go to Giza or just

New Cairo City.

So basically, this guy was walking with his

friend,

and he told us the story later. So

his friend said, you know, look at all

these villas and palaces and amazing houses.

Where were we when Allah was giving out

all these places? We didn't get anything.

So his friend told him, I advise you

to go to the hospital, go to the

intensive care unit, and look at the people

who are dying, cancer and all this stuff,

brain tumor. People are dying,

and ask the same question. Where have we

been when Allah was giving out cancer, and

he was giving out diabetes, and and all

that stuff? You didn't get any of that.

So you shouldn't only look at what is

taken away from you, look at what Allah

Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala has saved you from, and

this will help you appreciate the niyama of

Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.

Number 3, and the last one for today,

the kids.

It's amazing how they do things. Even if

they fight,

2 minutes later, they change their mind, and

they're hugging, they're playing together. And Imam al

Sayyut said, we I wish we can do

this.

And if you read in in history, in

the Arab culture, like Halib and Basus,

they fought for 40 years because of a

camel.

40 years.

And there is actually an incident, a similar

incident that happened in the history of Europe

in 1925,

between Greece and Belgium. They call it the

Stray Dog

War. They actually fought and people were killed

because of a dog. The dog crossed the

border,

the soldiers shot someone and they responded, and

it was, you know, it went on for

some time, and people were actually killed because

of a dog. Kids will not do this.

You know, they will fight, but eventually they

will hug each other, they will make peace,

and they will laugh, they will fight again,

they will make peace, and life is beautiful.

I wish we acted like kids.

People come to my office for counseling, the

last thing I will say, so you don't

shoot.

People come to me for counseling. You know,

they're talking, Oh, he has been a good

husband,

and this and but 20 years ago.

What? 20 years ago? You know? You remember

things from 20 years ago? I don't remember

what I had for breakfast this morning. You

know? And the same thing, the husband said,

you know, she is good, masha'Allah. She's very

respectful, but, you know, when we first got

married, she bring burned the food, and they

bring up stuff for, like, 35 years ago,

and this is not good.

We need to forget and move on just

like kids do.

The kids, the way they act, and this

is what I like about them, it is

just like the weather in Canada.

They say in Edmonton, if you don't like

the weather, just wait for 5 minutes.

They change their mind all the time. So

there's a lot we can learn from kids,

as Ibaan Sayyuti said. If you just do

act like kids, you will become like aulia

in the eyes of Allah. So we ask

Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala to give us the

best in this life, and the best in

the life to come. And the question for

last time was,

if someone is traveling and they broke their

fast,

by being intimate with their spouse while they

are traveling,

typically, a person who is not traveling would

do 60 days after 2 months, according to

the Hadith al Bukhari. But in this particular

day, they'll just do one day,

because they don't have to to, to fast

in the 1st place. So if they break

their fast this way, then they they just

make up one day because they didn't have

to fast in the 1st place as Musaher,

and the winner is brother Mustafa

Bizarq Wa Ta'ir.

The question for tonight,

is,

taking painkillers.

Painkillers.

So if you take painkillers, whether you get

an, an injection, a painkiller,

or you take the pills without water. If

you just take the pill without water. Is

your fasting still valid or not valid? If

you know the answer, email me before tomorrow

at imamustafat danatoriascenter.ca.

You have to email me inshallah at imamustafat

danatoriascenter.ca.

Shazai