Mustafa Khattab – Ramadan Reflections 18 Learning From Kids 2
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The speakers discuss the negative impact of parents on children, including bullying and bugargthing. They emphasize the importance of trusting parents for children to take care of them and not give them unnecessary bullies. The speakers also touch on the authority and responsibility of higher authorities in helping children overcome addiction, including a story about a character named Halib and Basus who fought for 40 years and was killed by a cow. They emphasize the importance of not shooting and not letting people know when they are traveling to avoid unnecessary harm, and emphasize taking painkillers and not letting people know when they are traveling to avoid unnecessary harm.
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Of, nights ago, we made an announcement for
a sister,
city of family that was looking for a
place to stay.
And, I've just been told that, the sister,
the wife is pregnant, and they're looking for
a family doctor. So if you're able to
help them, you can talk to brother Abhis
Salam at the front desk.
So basically,
2 nights ago, we spoke about what we
can learn from kids, and we said there
are so many things that we can learn.
And Imam
Sayyuti, basically,
and he said there are certain things that
if we do like kids,
we will become like awliya in the ayahs
of Allah. So I'm gonna share some of
that with you, bin alayatah.
So just a recap on what we said
last time, we said that kids,
they are very innocent.
They don't know how to lie,
they're not racist, and so on and so
forth, but they learn this stuff over time.
And all the evil people that we read
about in history, like Hitler and some other
evil ones, they were born innocent.
And they were innocent at the age of
57,
and eventually, they learn to be evil people.
And we said that kids are logical in
the way we, in the way they think,
and I gave some examples last time.
A few weeks ago, I went to the
dentist,
and I took my young daughter with me,
and she was me in the office. They
gave me the injection that big,
and, shahad alaihachramoni,
physically,
financially, and, psychologically
as well.
In every possible way. So she told the
doctor, why are you torturing the guy? She
said, it's very simple.
Take the tooth out,
clean it, you know, stuff it, and put
it back.
That is a.
But, anyway anyway, yeah, she she made a
lot of sense. You know? They they they
basically I was I was suffering because of
the injection and, you know, all the pain
and and everything. Yeah. Well, I I thought
that was was was logical, the way that,
what she said. Another example,
when you talk about kids,
they don't understand metaphors. If you don't talk
if you talk to them metaphorically,
if you talk to them metaphorically,
they think that you are talking literally.
I know if if you're
You're threatening your son, you say
You know?
Go and kick your brother, and I I
will show you. They're just going
They they think you're talking literally. They they
they don't know that you're talking to them
in a threatening way. Right?
And and the example of a guy,
a little kid, like, 5 years old,
he told his mother,
not my kid, not my kid. He said
to his mother,
you always call my younger brother Asuri, like,
my young bird, my birdie.
And I just found out today that he
is not a bird. And she said, how?
He said, I threw him out out of
the window, and he didn't fly.
So they take things very literally because they
are very logical, you know? So as I
said last time, for them, 1 plus 1
is 2, but for many grown ups, 1
plus 1 plus 1 is not 3, it's
just one.
So basically another thing that we can learn
from kids
the way they appeal to their parents if
they go to the store with them, and
if they want something how do they talk
to their parents to convince them to buy
something for them?
They'll say, daddy, please can I buy this?
I love you. The hugs and the kisses.
And if this doesn't work, they bug you.
Daddy daddy da da da. You know? And
you feel so guilty when people give you
the wicked look in the store, especially the
if your kids start to cry.
Who whose kid is this? Is it? Not
mine? He looks like you? No. He's not
my kid anymore. You know? Yeah. So they
bug you. They bug you to death. And
eventually, because you wanted them to shut up,
you'll just buy them whatever they want so
you can go home. You know?
So basically, if
if you want something from Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala, when you make dua to him, call
him by his most beautiful names.
You Allah, antaraim, you antaraza, antar this and
that.
And if if you don't get what you
are praying for, keep making dua every single
day, just like the kids, you know? And
if you don't get what you're asking for,
cry to
to Allah at night, and eventually, Allah will
show you with his rama
because you acted like kids, you know? And
Allah
will provide for you. I mentioned Imam al
Sayyut, he said there are a few things
that if we do, we'll be like aulia.
Number 1,
When kids go to bed at night,
they know that their parents will take care
of them, they will provide for them.
So they don't have to cheat, they don't
have to steal, they don't have to do
anything because they trust
their parents will take care of them.
And if we have this feeling, this attitude
with Allah
all the people who do haram stuff, they
will not do this. Because they will trust
Allah
When you know that your dad is driving
the car, he's taking you home, you're sitting
in the back seat, you have full trust
in Allah
that he is driving you the right way.
And if you have the same feeling toward
Allah
Allah that he is doing what is best
for you, and he's providing for you, he's
taking care of you,
then you you will put your heart at
ease, and you will put your full tawakkud
on Allah
This is how the kids behave, towards their
parents.
And they weigh the kids because they know
that there is a higher authority
that takes care of them, then they put
their heart at ease. If we as grown
ups, we know that there is a higher
authority, the highest authority actually, who's taking care
of you,
then Wallahi will have full taqunul Allah Subhanahu
Wa Ta'ala.
Number 2,
laashtakoona
al kharik.
Some grown ups, if something bad happens to
them and say for example, someone,
they didn't go to school, they didn't do
their homework, they always go late for work,
and
they're bad dudes. Right?
And if they get fired or they fill
any exams,
they blame everyone except for themselves. They blame
the qadr, they blame the teachers, they blame
the teachers, and so on. So they blame
everything.
Jinn, everything.
They don't blame themselves. You know? But for
the kids, they don't blame anyone. Like, you
don't see them going around and, Allah did
this to me. They will not do this.
So I remember the story that happened in
Egypt many years ago, Fedmaiden al Taghamor Samiz.
This is where the rich people live, and
they have all the palaces, all the villas,
and all the stuff.
If you want to rob someone's house, go
to New Cairo City. Don't go somewhere else.
Don't go don't go to Giza or just
New Cairo City.
So basically, this guy was walking with his
friend,
and he told us the story later. So
his friend said, you know, look at all
these villas and palaces and amazing houses.
Where were we when Allah was giving out
all these places? We didn't get anything.
So his friend told him, I advise you
to go to the hospital, go to the
intensive care unit, and look at the people
who are dying, cancer and all this stuff,
brain tumor. People are dying,
and ask the same question. Where have we
been when Allah was giving out cancer, and
he was giving out diabetes, and and all
that stuff? You didn't get any of that.
So you shouldn't only look at what is
taken away from you, look at what Allah
Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala has saved you from, and
this will help you appreciate the niyama of
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
Number 3, and the last one for today,
the kids.
It's amazing how they do things. Even if
they fight,
2 minutes later, they change their mind, and
they're hugging, they're playing together. And Imam al
Sayyut said, we I wish we can do
this.
And if you read in in history, in
the Arab culture, like Halib and Basus,
they fought for 40 years because of a
camel.
40 years.
And there is actually an incident, a similar
incident that happened in the history of Europe
in 1925,
between Greece and Belgium. They call it the
Stray Dog
War. They actually fought and people were killed
because of a dog. The dog crossed the
border,
the soldiers shot someone and they responded, and
it was, you know, it went on for
some time, and people were actually killed because
of a dog. Kids will not do this.
You know, they will fight, but eventually they
will hug each other, they will make peace,
and they will laugh, they will fight again,
they will make peace, and life is beautiful.
I wish we acted like kids.
People come to my office for counseling, the
last thing I will say, so you don't
shoot.
People come to me for counseling. You know,
they're talking, Oh, he has been a good
husband,
and this and but 20 years ago.
What? 20 years ago? You know? You remember
things from 20 years ago? I don't remember
what I had for breakfast this morning. You
know? And the same thing, the husband said,
you know, she is good, masha'Allah. She's very
respectful, but, you know, when we first got
married, she bring burned the food, and they
bring up stuff for, like, 35 years ago,
and this is not good.
We need to forget and move on just
like kids do.
The kids, the way they act, and this
is what I like about them, it is
just like the weather in Canada.
They say in Edmonton, if you don't like
the weather, just wait for 5 minutes.
They change their mind all the time. So
there's a lot we can learn from kids,
as Ibaan Sayyuti said. If you just do
act like kids, you will become like aulia
in the eyes of Allah. So we ask
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala to give us the
best in this life, and the best in
the life to come. And the question for
last time was,
if someone is traveling and they broke their
fast,
by being intimate with their spouse while they
are traveling,
typically, a person who is not traveling would
do 60 days after 2 months, according to
the Hadith al Bukhari. But in this particular
day, they'll just do one day,
because they don't have to to, to fast
in the 1st place. So if they break
their fast this way, then they they just
make up one day because they didn't have
to fast in the 1st place as Musaher,
and the winner is brother Mustafa
Bizarq Wa Ta'ir.
The question for tonight,
is,
taking painkillers.
Painkillers.
So if you take painkillers, whether you get
an, an injection, a painkiller,
or you take the pills without water. If
you just take the pill without water. Is
your fasting still valid or not valid? If
you know the answer, email me before tomorrow
at imamustafat danatoriascenter.ca.
You have to email me inshallah at imamustafat
danatoriascenter.ca.
Shazai