Mustafa Khattab – Ramadan Reflections 17 Learning From Kids 1
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The speakers discuss the needs of the Syria family in finding a suitable place to stay and emphasize the importance of learning from children and being logical in life. They also discuss the misunderstandings of Islam and the importance of fair speech in the language. They share stories of people using ad campaigns to advertise their behavior and their potential health consequences, as well as the health consequences of traveling with their partner. They emphasize the importance of fasting during the day ofhair and the potential health consequences of traveling with their partner.
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So, a quick announcement inshallah before we begin.
There is a, Syrian family, a Syrian family
who just came, and they are badly in
need of a place to stay. They don't
know where to go, so they are here
tonight. If someone has a basement or a
place, they can rent them for a short
period of time until they find a suitable
place. So please come to me, and let
me know inshallah. JazakAllah.
So the khatira for tonight,
every time I see kids in the masjid,
I'm happy. I know, some people when they
see kids in the masjid they, you know,
they are mad and they tell them go
pray in the back and so on and
so forth. But the way I see it,
if you don't see kids in the in
the masjid,
then there's no future for the community. So
every time I see little kids 2 years
old, 3 years old, I'm happy, alhamdulillah, because
they feel comfortable. They feel welcome in the
masjid. And when I see them, I don't
really see kids.
I see the imams of the future. I
see the teachers of the future, the community
leaders of the future, and I see the
next
Prime Minister of Canada. Why not? We we
need someone like Karim or like Ziyad
to represent us. The reason our voices are
not heard is is that because we don't
speak for ourselves.
So we need someone to represent us. We
need someone on CBC
to speak. We need someone to play hockey,
Nazim Qadri. We need someone to be a
politician to, you know, to to represent us.
And and we need to teach our kids
to love Islam, to be good Muslims, and
also to be successful Canadians.
So inshallah throughout the month whenever I get
the chance,
we will talk. So,
maybe inshallah,
we'll talk about the battle of Badr Yom
al Furtan, my brother is here. So inshallah,
we'll focus on this, but tonight I'm gonna
talk about something else that I spoke about
in a in a Khutba a long time
ago. What we can learn from kids?
Because when we look at at kids, there's
nothing we can really learn from them. You
know, they bug us. They, we brought them
to this world, and they kick us out.
They make us miserable.
They whine,
you know, they're they're greedy and so on
and so forth. This is how, you know,
a lot of us think of kids, but,
really,
kids
Allah calls them
They are the the beauty of this world.
Right? And there is so much we can
learn from them. If a little kid dies,
they go to Jannah because they are pure
in the eyes of
Allah But if someone our age dies,
then they have to stand for accounting
or so on and so forth. So, basically,
one of the things that we can learn
from kids
is to be innocent. When when the kids
are born, they are innocent, you know. So
SubhanAllah,
if you look at the tyrants throughout history,
Abu Jahal and Abu Lahab, and
and Hitler, and Tony Blair, and George Bush,
and many others,
these people were innocent
when they were 3, 4, 5 years old.
They were pure and innocent.
So what happened to them? What made them
the horrible people that we know of today?
And the fact of the matter is all
good people,
the prophets Muhammad
and Ibrahim, and the great prophets, and the
Sahaba Qiram, and,
Omar al Muhtar, Sidiullah Muhtar, and,
Allama Iqbal, and and and so on and
so forth, and Muhammad Al Fatah. The great
personalities in Islamic history, Uhanifa, Malik Shafa, and
Bukhari, the great scholars
on one hand. And on the other hand,
you have Hitler, you have Mussolini,
you have all the tyrants, and Tony Blair,
and all these evil people.
When they started,
they started with the same potential to be
good people.
You know? They started innocent and pure,
but something wrong happened for the second group
on the way. So something terrible happened. It's
either their family,
their society,
wrong teachings, wrong philosophies,
and this what led to them being the
horrible people that we know of today. But
the first group, they Allah
helped them preserve
this purity in them, al fitra.
So basically,
when you look at the kids in the
daycare,
when you go there and I see my
young, son, Omar Ibn Khattar.
So basically,
in that little room,
their world, they see I see people from
Asia, I see people from Africa, people from
Europe, Latin America. It's like a mini United
Nations. And when I go out to pick
him up, mashaAllah, they're playing together, they're smiling,
they're sharing toys and
So what happens when people grow older?
They become racist.
Oh, you are black, you are Asian, you
are this, you're Latino, amigo.
So what happened? You know, it is society
that changes this fitra in them.
People are not born racist.
They are not born thieves. They're not born
liars, but they learned
along the way, and they lose their fitra,
they lose their purity.
The second quality that we learn from kids
is to be logical. You know, kids are
very logical. For kids, 1 +1 is 2.
For a lot of people in this world,
1 +1+1
equals 1.
Kids are very logical, but for us, sometimes
it doesn't make any sense.
Like, sometimes I'll give you a couple of
examples to illustrate. We are not very logical
as grown ups. So you wanna assume that
kids, they are intellectually immature when they are
young, and when they mature, they become logical.
Actually, the opposite happens. When we become mature
and we become
intellectually stable, we turn we turn to cheat
and lie and play games and stuff. But
kids are very straight forward. If you want
to ask someone if something is good or
bad, or the food tastes good or something
looks good or bad, ask a kid.
Don't ask grown ups.
They will sugarcoat,
they sweet sweet talk, and the kids, they
will sell it will tell it as is.
They will say, oh, this is junk.
Because they are very honest with you. So
basically, some families come to me
with their son,
25 years old, 30, they want him they
want to look for someone for him to
marry. Okay. What are your expectations? They said,
okay. We want a sister who is half
of the Quran, minimum 4 t Jews. There's
only 30 t Jews anyway,
but Shihaha Yeah. Aliyah said to Qurhaq, getzaba,
amarad, Hajj 7 times, and bukhari, hadith, and
the
and their son, the saqat, doesn't even pray,
you know, and for lahis. So this is
not fair. Why would you look for
someone, like, amazing for your son and your
son doesn't even pray? He's not a good
guy. Like, this this is not fair. And
I've seen with my own eyes in my
village in Egypt.
You know, the guy is married to this
girl. And when her dad dies, his father-in-law
dies, he will go and fight with his
in laws to take her mirof, her her
inheritance.
And when his her his sister when their
parents die, his own father dies,
he fights for her with with her husband
so he doesn't take,
you know, his sister's inheritance.
So they would like to take from their
in laws, but they didn't want to give
their own in laws when his own dad
dies.
And this doesn't make any sense to me.
Like, Islam is all about fairness,
and
we try to justify it. We try
If something is horrible, we call it good
names to make it appealing and so on
and so forth. And this is why this
is something that we, as humanity, the grown
ups, we do. Like, we call reba interest
we call it interest.
Alcohol, they call it spirits.
Zina, they call it, boyfriend, girlfriend. They you
know, they call things beautiful names.
So, there was this story. The guy,
like, he used to go to the store
to buy cigarettes.
And on the cigarettes, they have this warning,
if you smoke, you are going to develop
cancer over time, like cancer.
So they they they use this ad on
the cigarettes the cigarette pack for a long
time, cancer, cancer, cancer. Every time he buys
the pack of cigarettes, it shows the cancer
and, you know, someone has cancer and so
on and so forth. And at some point,
they tried to use a different technique.
So now the advertisement
was if you smoke for a long time,
this is going to affect your, sexual ability.
So the guy, the store owner, he said
that one day, the same guy, he came
and he took 1 cigarette and after he
left, he looked.
It doesn't say cancer anymore. It says the,
you know, it's gonna affect your sexual ability.
So he said the guy came back to
him and he returned the pack of cigarettes,
and he said, no, no, I want the
Cancer 1.
It's the same thing.
It's the same thing. It affects it will
give you cancer, but it will also affect
your sexual desire. You know, like, people are
illogical.
The last example for today, when you learn
a language, you have to do it like
kids. This is the best way. How kids
learn? Well, they listen to their parents and
those around them, then they start to copy
them and talk, then they read and write.
How we do it? We do it upside
down. We start by reading and writing,
then the the last thing we care about
is speaking and listening. And this is why
many of us, they suffer when we,
speak a second language. We never learn because
we do it upside down. There's this story
of a brother from Egypt,
and, he moved to New York. It's a
true story. And he stayed there for several
months, and,
you know, he didn't take the effort to
learn. So he started with reading and writing
and everything is wrong. He didn't focus on
re on speaking and listening.
So basically,
one day he came,
you know,
and and, he went home. They have this
building, apartment building, and they have the guard
an African American brother was sitting in front
of the building, like a guard or something,
and,
there there was a wedding in the building.
And the Egyptian brother asked the guard,
and immediately goes he even asked him and
Adami. You know, immediately goes. Like, he assumed
that the guy spoke Egyptian.
So the guy said, Don't know.
Don't know, dude. Don't know. So he, you
know so he assumed that the guy the
guy's name was getting mad, was Don't know.
He he thought that this is the name.
Next day he came from outside,
and there was a funeral in the building.
People were crying,
you know, black sunglasses and casket, and so
he asked the same guy, the the guard,
Minnat, who died, and the guy said Donno.
He said, SubhanAllah, Don't know died? He just
got married yesterday.
Like Yeah. So,
be logical inshallah our kids, and we'll continue
tomorrow
and, the day after tomorrow inshallah.
So the question for last night was, if
a sister is pregnant in the month of
Ramadan and she's not able to fast, what
is the kafarah?
That or the map and the bath, they
have different opinions, 3 of them. And none
of them is supported by hadith, though the
3 of them basically are based on ishtihad.
Whichever opinion you follow, it's accepted. So
one madhab will say she will make up
the days after Ramadan.
One madhab, she, they say she will make
up the days
and give kafar.
And the 3rd madhab, she will just feed
a poor person per day. And I personally,
I lean toward the 3rd one which is
she would just feed a poor person. And
this is the opinion of Abdullah ibn Abbas,
the cousin of the prophet
and he did it in front of the
Sahaba, and he told his own wife, break
the fast, feed a poor person, and and
this is the kafarah for you. You don't
have to fast. Because one Ramadan, she is
fasting. The next Ramadan, she is, nursing, the
and the one after she maybe she will
be pregnant again. It will become difficult for
her to make up the days. But, again,
you can follow any of the 3 mavah
if they are totally acceptable. And the winner
is, brother Abu Ibrahim
Bukhari.
Is he here tonight?
Abu Ibrahim Bukhari. Yeah. He's here. Captain Ibrahim.
He's a good guy. He's a good guy.
The question for tonight.
Typically typically, if someone has an intimate relationship
with his wife during the day of Ramadan,
they would have to fast 60 days after
Ramadan.
For sure, in hadith, everything. But what if
someone is traveling with his wife and they
have an intimate relationship during the day of
Ramadan?
Do they fast 60 days after or what
should they do? If you know the answer,
you need to do a lot of research.
If you know the answer, email me before
tomorrow.