Mustafa Khattab – Ramadan Reflections 14 The Boiling Frog
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The speaker discusses various topics related to money, including contributions to a fundraiser, a woman named Kathleen Wynne, and the boiling frog experiment. They emphasize the importance of avoiding drinking and getting arrested for drinking alcohol, and advise against taking certain actions during busy months like Easter. The speaker also mentions various topics such as addiction, money transfers, and the development of addiction. They urge viewers to email before tomorrow.
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A couple of announcements before we begin, insha'Allah.
We had a fundraiser on Friday. If you
made a pledge to Allah
to pay a certain amount,
make sure to fill out the pledge and
bring it back,
hopefully, inshallah, by Friday. Before that, inshallah,
inshallah, sister Kathleen.
She came and she took shahada. I'm back.
No. So we ask Allah
to keep her on the Surat Mustafir and
protect her and give you that to her
family, inshaAllah ta'ala.
Kathleen Wynne? No. If not Kathleen Wynne. Someone
else.
We wished. We wished.
So, basically,
we know in Ramadan
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala you have the switch
in your hand. On and off. On and
off.
You know, so in Islam Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala is teaching us in the month of
Ramadan to be in control.
The rest of the year, your desires are
in control. If you want to eat, you
just go and eat.
If you want to do whatever you want,
you go and do it. But in the
month of Ramadan,
you know, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala makes a
time to do things and a time to
stay away from those things. So you have
the switch in your hand, so basically
Allah puts you in control.
Your desires are not in control. And the
thing is, if you are not able to
do halal things during the day of Ramadan,
like eating, drinking, being with your spouse during
the day
then of course haram things are more haram
in the month of Ramadan.
Backbiting,
cheating, lying and so on and so forth.
The other thing that we learn from reading
the Quran
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is not telling us
in the Quran
to not to do haram, He's telling us
to stay away from haram.
Now you say for example, He doesn't say
don't do zina
Allah
doesn't say that in the Quran, but he
says, Don't come close to. Because he knows.
Once you get close, you'll be sucked in.
And when Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala talks about
Fawahish, he says,
He doesn't say don't do bad things or
shameful deeds, he says don't come close to.
When he talks about malul yateem, he doesn't
say walatakkurum
malul yateem, he says walatakkurabu
malul yateem. Don't come close to the money
of the orphan.
And also in the story of Adam
in Jannah,
Allah
didn't didn't tell him
He
says
Don't come close to the tree. He didn't
say don't eat from the tree. He says
don't come close.
And Abu
al Hadith,
Bukhari a Muslim, the famous Hadith Al Halalu
Bayin wal Haram. You know the Hadith. At
the end of the prophet
said, you know, Allah
has made certain things haram.
If you get close,
eventually you would fall into it, so stay
away. This is the nasiha of the prophet
And I always say that,
in the story of Adam alaihis salam when
he was told don't come close to the
tree
Adam alaihis salam didn't eat,
on day 1.
So one day he passed by the tree
500 meters away nothing happened. A few days
later he came a little bit closer and
nothing happened. A week later he touched the
tree nothing happened. 10 days later he ate
from the tree. He didn't eat from day
1. Right?
This is basically what they call in there
was this, you know,
experiment in psychology.
Always try to remember this one. It's called
the boiling frog experiment.
So basically, a 150 years ago, it's a
true experiment that took place in a lab
in, I think, Britain.
So what the scholar did basically,
he had a frog,
there was a boiling,
boiling water on the stove,
he tried to put the the foot of
of the leg of the frog in the
water, it was boiling,
so the frog screamed and jumped out. Right?
It couldn't bear the the heat of the
water.
A few days later, he brought the same
frog. He put it in water, which was
the room temperature water just from the tap,
you know,
and the frog was relaxed,
you know. Then he put the, the pan
on the on the on the stove, and
he turned the heat up a little bit,
5 degrees, 10 degrees, 15 degrees. So the
heat was growing little by little. And what
happened to the frog, it didn't jump when
the, you know, heat was going up. The
frog basically adjusted its body body's temperature to
the growing heat.
So 15, 20, 30, and eventually the frog
was boiled to death. Right? So now what
happens if someone tells you,
let's go, smoke cigarettes.
You say, no. Haram, man. I can't do
it. You know?
So if they say, for example, let's go
do cocaine, first thing. You say, no. It's
haram. I can't do it. This is too
bad.
But if they start with a cigarette,
you say, okay. No problem. What what's wrong
with the cigarette? Then eventually, we'll move to
with, you know, joints and stuff, then you
will do something else, and eventually, cocaine becomes
easy.
Because they they use this gradual progression. Right?
In the same way like the frog in
the second case. You start with something small,
then one thing leads to another, then eventually
you did something big.
The people who steal, the Chor or you
call them Hirsas in Turkish, lis harami,
when they steal if, you know, if you
talk to someone, you tell them let's go
rob a bank. They say no, man. This
is too bad. I can't do it. But
if you tell them okay, do you see
this, like this pen over there? Let's take
it home. Okay. What's wrong with the pen?
It's small. Then a week later, okay, let's
do the 5 bucks, you know, try to
take 5 bucks from the charity box. So
it's, oh, it's not a big deal, just
5 bucks. There is nothing wrong.
Then after a month or 2 months, let's
steal, like, a $100 or something from someone.
Oh, no problem. Then eventually one thing will
lead to another, you will end up stealing
or robbing a bank, you know. When you
initially refused, but when you start with something
small, slowly slowly, what happens to your damir,
your conscious your conscience? You know,
the first time you do it, maybe you
will have some, you know, the pangs of
guilt. You feel guilty.
But over time,
you get used to it, you become desensitized,
and eventually you do something terrible,
then khalasab becomes the norm to you.
The question for last night was
for zakat al fitr. If you are giving
out zakat al fitr in Canada, it's it's
$10. But what if you are sending the
money to Yemen or Turkey or Somalia or
Egypt? Do you still pay the $10 or
you pay based on the food over there?
And most of the answers I got today
are wrong. You basically pay the $10
Whether you are giving the $10 in Canada,
anywhere else in the world, it is $10
because you're paying $10 on yourself.
But as for feeding like kafara in Ramadan,
if you're feeding a poor person,
it is not on yourself, it is on
the food. It depends on the the price
of the food wherever you are you're feeding.
If in Canada, shawarma biryan is about $10.
But if you are feeding somewhere else, $4,
$5. It depends on the food value in
the country where you are feeding. But Zakat
al Fitr, you are doing it on yourself.
The fitrah, it is $10 whatever you are
giving the money, so it is different. The
correct answer and the only correct answer was
provided by brother Abu Badr. MashaAllah. SazakAllah Khabir.
Assent.
The question for tonight, we asked a similar
question about a week ago, but this one
is slightly different. Someone was sick in the
month of Ramadan. They couldn't fast a single
day in the month. After Ramadan, the person
recovered, they became healthy,
and they were told to make up the
days. They missed in Ramadan, but they were
lazy. They didn't make up the days for
several months, and, eventually, the person died.
Does someone have to make up the days
on their behalf or Khalas? The days are
missed. If you know the answer, email me
before tomorrow, Asat.