Mustafa Khattab – My Way or the Highway
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So, inshallah, the program will be every last
Saturday of the month.
The imam will give more details about, how
the program will be. But it is, inshallah,
it is joint effort between Islam of the
study of Saint Catherine's and,
Gama Foundation.
We put our efforts together to
present you good program.
The new format would be fund,
learn, and share, and we interact with each
other. It's not gonna be like just a
lecture and everybody goes home. No. Maybe today,
sheikh will speak. Next day, maybe we'll have
a competition between,
the brothers and, inshallah, the sisters, they will
have one also.
And we learn in a a family format
or a family,
kind of setup. So please, if you have
any question after,
the session, you can talk to me or
to sister Belkis.
We have our membership form. We really need
you to fill those forms. This membership is
$15
for the whole year.
It's less than,
10¢ a month.
It's like
15¢
a month. So it's nothing.
Or I made a deal or anything. So
it is really, really good that we have
good members
of membership.
We keep telling our
politicians,
our agencies,
whether facts or anybody who's or any other
agency who would, deliver services.
We keep telling them we have 2,000
members. But when they ask about the registered
members, it's around 200
max. So it is not fair for the
community. So please take a moment after
the fill the form. If you don't have
the money, it's just fine. We just need
the information, only the name and the contact
information.
It's $15
for the whole year for the adults.
For our,
youth, 16 years younger, they don't have to
pay. Even
after 16, they still can fill the phone,
and they are exempted from paying the fees.
But the point is we need to get
together. We need to cooperate
to lift our own community, sha Allah. So
I'm not gonna take more.
He's here to share his knowledge, his experience.
We are very blessed today. We have also
our,
Jama'a from.
They are here to delight
So inshallah,
the, community dinner is moved to Saturday.
So we're hoping to get more people today,
but because of the weather,
but next time, InshaAllah, hopefully, we'll get, more
people.
The format will be a little bit different.
There's a short talk for about 20 minutes.
Today, I'm talking but maybe next time and
the times after we get professional,
speakers
maybe to speak about,
healthy food, to speak about mental health. We
might invite a police officer to speak about
your rights as a citizen in Canada and
so on and so forth. Things of interest
to the community.
Insha'Allah, we'll have competitions.
We usually have like 5 volunteers from the
sisters and 5 volunteers from the brothers. We'll
give each of them 5 questions, good one
and good ones. And those who win, the
team that wins will get the prize.
Most of the time through my experience in
the last years, the sisters always win for
some reason. I don't know. The brothers always
go home with tears on their their cheeks,
but the sisters always go home with a
trophy. So this is a good thing. But
I'm not sure about Saint Catherine's, but that
was the case in Edmonton and also in
South Carolina in the US. I hope that
Saint Catherine's is different. Okay?
So,
the talk tonight inshallah is about the
difference or actually the adab, the etiquette of
disagreement
or disagreeing with someone.
We always have disagreements in the house, in
the school, in the masjid, at work, in
different places. How can we resolve these differences?
I'm gonna begin with a story as usual.
I love stories.
So the story is a true one. It
happened in, I think, Houston or Dallas, Texas
in the US. And it was told to
told to me by a friend who was
an imam in the US.
He said it was the first
they had a new masjid,
and I think it was the 1st Ramadan
they had in that masjid.
It was a diverse community, but the largest
ethnic groups in the community were Arab,
of course, the Arab brothers
and the Pakistani brothers and Indian
brothers. So what they did, they disagreed on
the number of rakas they were going to
pray in.
Of course, they started with a bare verbal
fight,
then
it developed into a physical fight.
My friend told me they started to hit
each other with chairs and baseball clubs. And,
of course, the Arab brothers, they wanted to
pray 8 rakas and go home and enjoy
their life.
And the in the Pakistani brothers, no. They
wanted to pray 22.
They they they wanted to stay the whole
night in the masjid. And of course, the
Arab brothers didn't like this. So what they
did,
they had a big fight in the masjid.
Usually,
in, issues like this, we resolve the matter.
We'd pray, eat. If you want to go
home, go home, and we will con continue
our salah in the masjid. Everybody is happy,
but they started to fight,
and some of them fell down and somebody
was bleeding. It was a disaster in the
masjid.
So one brother, I think he was Egyptian
or something, he wanted to bring peace in
the masjid. What he did, he called the
police 911. Hey. We have a big fight
in the masjid.
So the police came,
and they don't know. It's their first time
in the Masjid. They don't know the adab
of Masjid or anything. What they did, they
walked with their shoes on the carpet.
So both the Arab brothers and the Pakistani
brothers
got mad at the police.
Haram, police. Haram. What's wrong with you? It's
haram to walk on the carpet with your
shoes. You have no akhlaq. You have no
iman.
Fighting and bleeding is the masjid. In the
masjid is not haram but walking on the
carpet with your shoes is haram.
So this is just one example of the
horrible things we we see in the community
because we don't have the edible Khalaf.
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says in the Quran
that our variety and our diversity is a
blessing, is a niyama from Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala.
One of the great signs of Allah Subhanahu
Wa Ta'ala
is the creation of the heavens and the
day.
The heavens and the earth and one of
his great signs is your diversity,
variety
in tongues, the different languages
we speak Arabic, Urdu,
English, all these different language, Chinese,
and your colors.
The way you look. You come from different
ethnic backgrounds, you look different. There's white, there's
black, Chinese, Asian.
And Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says this is
a niyamath.
This is a favor from Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala. Indeed in this are signs for people
who have knowledge.
And now I always thought about this, how
can our diversity
and different ethnicities and languages
can be a niyamah from Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala.
The one time
I was thinking subhanAllah
imagine if we are one race,
like we are
from any ethnicity. The whole world is one
ethnicity, and we speak one time. All of
us speak Urdu, for example, or all of
us speak Arabic.
Okay? Just one language,
one ethnicity.
We eat one food every day.
Timbits or biryani. You eat the same food
every day. Breakfast,
lunch,
dinner.
So
you don't have
beautiful Arabic brothers and sisters or African brothers
and sisters or Chinese or Asian brothers and
sisters, European brothers and sisters. This beautiful diversity,
different people,
it's one culture,
one color, one food, one language. Don't you
think this life will be so boring? You
do the same thing everyday, you see the
same people. What is this?
It will be a miserable life, a boring
life, but Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says that
it is nama to be different.
The same also applies to difference of opinion.
How many of you disagree with their wives
or husbands?
Okay.
First of all, maybe you are your wife
is vegetarian, you are carnivore. You eat anything.
2 feet, 4 feet, flying fish.
You can eat the dinosaur, you don't have
a problem. Okay. Your wife is vegetarian, alhamdulillah.
Or
you are liberal, your wife is conservative.
You support that hockey team, your wife supports
the other team. You have differences,
but still you can have 4 kids together
in in case you are Egyptian or in
case you are Somali, 17 kids.
Okay? So
regardless of all these differences,
we can survive, we can live together, we
love each other.
These differences don't mean anything.
The Sahaba, Rudwanullah alaihi,
and they had differences at the time of
the prophet
many differences.
And Abdullah ibn Mas'ud
made fatawa that were different from Umar ibn
Khattab Radyla. Some of the ulama listed the
differences of fatawa between Abdullah ibn Sahuwud
and Umar ibn Khattab there were at least
100 different fatwa. Different from each other. And
the Sahaba disagreed Abu Bakr disagreed with Umar
radhiyallahu anhu and Uthman disagreed with Ali radhiyallahu
but they had respect
for one another.
Imam Abu Hanifa and of course, Imam Ishaqir
disagreed with something. Imam Abu Hanifa said, Imam
Malik disagreed with Imam Ahmed.
Just disagreed. Okay. Different opinions, different fata'w, but
they always spoke highly of one another. Whenever
they mentioned Imam Abu Hanifa, they said, all
are
students of Imam Abu Hanifa. And it is
true because he came and he died before
them.
Imam Al Shafi'i was born the same year
Imam Abu Hanifa died. So all of them
are the students. Imam Al Shafi'i used to
speak highly of Imam Ahmed and vice versa.
Now the
students of some of these ulama, they hate
each other and they say terrible things about
each other. They need to follow their ulama,
their in in their maday.
We read in Tabataatul Ahnaf
that Imam Abu Hanifa prayed actually, Imam Shafa
prayed in the masjid of Imam Abu Hanifa
after his death of course.
And he didn't say Bismillah Rahmala Amin al
Fatihay. He didn't make dua at the end.
Why? Because this is a way Imam Abu
Hanifa did it. So he showed respect to
him even after his death. He followed his
example.
Although it was not his mother. So the
ulama had a lot of respect for each
other and this is something we need to
follow.
What are the adapt or what are the
things to avoid when we have a disagreement?
Okay. As I said, you will never find
2 identical people in this world. Even twins
even twins, they have differences.
They love they love different foods, they do
different things, they support
different soccer teams, they do different things. Even
even twins,
they were born from the same mother and
the same father, they live in the same
house, they were fed the same food, they
were nursed from the same milk. They do
everything the same but now they have differences
they are not identical, they are different. Okay?
So we expect a lot of differences in
the way we handle things, in the way
we understand things, and the way we do
things. So we need to tolerate one another
when it comes to the practical life.
I'm gonna give you one example
and we will take lessons from that example.
Utbah
ibn Rabiya came to the prophet sallallahu alaihi
wa sallam. The people of Mecca told him,
you are our
elite. You are the biggest man in town.
Go to Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wa sallam then
and talk to him to discourage him from
spreading the message of Islam. Because you know
what he's doing to the community. He's disuniting
us.
So Utbah ibn Nabiya went to the prophet
salallahu alayhi wa sallam and he spoke with
him.
And he said the first thing he said,
yapna akhii. He was not related to the
prophet but
he he called him nephew.
You see he was trying to win his
heart so he said something good about him
first. And he said,
You are
one of the finest and you are one
of the best among us in terms of
family, in terms of honor, in terms of
dignity. So he said something positive about him
first before
he said what he came for. Then he
said, but
we have a disagreement with you because of
the message you brought. You are disuniting families.
You are calling our God's idiots.
You don't have respect for our parents whom
we follow blindly.
So what do you want?
If you want to become a king, we'll
make you the king.
And you, if you want money, we'll write
you a check. We'll make you the richest
among us. If you think you are sick,
we can get you the best the best
doctor in town.
Whatever you want we'll give it to
you.
After he finished, he he is coming basically
to bribe the prophet salallahu alaihi wa sallam
to discourage him from you know spreading the
message.
So what did the prophet salallahu alaihi wa
sallam do? The man stopped. He's not saying
anything. He did his argument
and it is time for the prophet salallahu
alaihi wa sallam to rebuttal the argument. So
he said, afaril ta abalwaleed.
2 things here.
Number 1, he didn't interrupt him. He waited
until he finished.
Then he said, are you done? He's asking
him to make sure that he's not going
to say anything else. And number 3, he
said Abalwalid.
He called him by Akunya, his nickname, like
father of Abalwalid. And in the Arab culture,
if you call someone by his eldest son,
this is a sign of respect.
He said yes. Then the prophet
didn't
start the argument, but he said would you
love to listen to my answer? He said
yes.
So he said and the prophet started to
recite from surat for salat
until he reached
the sajdah in the surah that's at least
3 pages in the surah. 3 pages
at least 15 minutes.
And what did Abu Waleed do?
He was sitting and he put his hands
behind his back and he was listening attentively.
And the prophet salallahu alaihi wa sallam resounded
the ayat that talk about the creation of
the heavens and the earth and the about
the punishment of the people of
Samud and the people of Al. And he
was listening there that it was time to
make sajdah at the end of the 3
pages and the prophet
made sajdah.
Then Abu Waleed went to his people and
he said leave Muhammad alone.
He has a good message. The man died
as a kafir, but he said if the
Arab get mad at him and they attack
him and kill him, Khalas.
They would do the job for you. But
if the prophet
becomes victorious
then his honor is your honor. So it's
a win win situation, you don't have to
attack him, leave him alone.
So
the prophet shalom didn't interrupt him and he
asked him to speak after he finished, and
the prophet was listening attentively. So what do
we learn from this?
Number 1, when you have an argument with
someone,
you are debating a sister
and debates are not recommended in Islam. You
don't argue or debate unless there is a
reason to talk. Okay?
But you can't argue in Haram. If someone
is talking to you about something Haram, like
trying to say that Zina is halal, you
don't need to argue with him. Khamris is
halal. You didn't need to argue. I mean,
there's no point in arguing
between Haram and Haram.
And I think a long time ago, I
mentioned the story of a brother who came
to me and he started to argue about
the permissibility
of smoking.
I'm allergic to cigarettes. I don't like smoking.
I think it's haram. This is my opinion.
So the man say it's birab, but I
think it's haram. And he said, you know
what?
You know the story. That's smoking has a
lot of benefits.
What are you talking about? I gave a
chutba about how we destroy our ourselves,
and he said no no no smoking has
a lot of,
benefits. And he spoke for about 40 minutes.
He didn't give a single even
even a single benefit of smoking. The only
thing he said was,
well, 25%
of doctors smoke. And I said, but this
is not a benefit.
If there is 1,000,000,000
people in the world worship an elephant, it
doesn't mean I I should go and worship
him because of the 1,000,000,000 people who worship
it. The numbers don't mean anything.
Then I told him, well, in my country
back home we say that smoking has 3
benefits.
Number 1,
you will never if you smoke you will
never suffer from old age illnesses. Why? Because
you die young.
And number 2
and number 2, burglars would never break into
your house at night. Why? Because you're up
all night coughing, you can't breathe. They think
you're up, they will never attack you at
night. And number 3, when you walk in
the street, dogs will never attack you because
you age very fast, you have to walk
with a cane in your hand. So they
think the dogs will think if they attack
you, you will hit them and kill them.
So they leave you alone. These are the
only benefits of smoking. But other than this,
I don't know. Now get out of here.
So
this is the thing, don't argue in Haram.
Number 2, when someone
you have an argument to make or a
proof or a question,
then you ask the brother why did you
do this? What what is the point behind
doing doing this or the hikmah?
And now they are giving you the answer
and you are not even listening to the
answer. You are thinking about a rebuttal to
their answer. So you're not even paying attention.
Oh, what do you do? You keep interrupting
them.
I'm gonna give you the no. No. No.
No. But
and you keep interrupting them. Or what is
even worse,
you walk away.
They're giving you the answer and you just
walk away. You don't want even to listen
to the answer. What kind of Iftilaf is
this? You have no respect for the ulama'
or no. You have to listen and pay
attention to the answer.
Number 2,
when
you ask someone
always refer to the the difference to the
Quran and Sunn. Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says
in Surat Al Nisaafayn,
Faruduwil Allahu Rasool. So
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says, if you have
a disagreement
with someone,
then refer the whole issue to the Quran
and the sunnah. Because Allah says in the
Quran,
Quran provides answers to all questions. So the
answer has to be there. All you need
to do is to just look for it.
If it is not there clearly, then maybe
it is explained in the sunnah. So if
the alim is giving you an ayah from
the Quran, no. No. No. No. I'm not
happy with the answer. He's giving you a
hadith on there. No. No. No. No. It's
a weak hadith.
And they are not even Adam and hadith.
They don't know authentic or weak hadith. They
just no. It's weak. What do you mean
weak? You know? So in the case of
disagreement, you have to refer
to the Quran and the sunnah. And number
3,
don't be biased.
Okay. Many of us started different like
if I'm from India Pakistan, I know the
Hanafi Madhub, I respect Imam Abu Hanifa or
if I'm from Libya, I respect the Maliki
Madhub
in Egypt, in different countries. The
Shafi'i Madhab in Saudi Arabia and some places
in the gulf, they follow the imam Ahmed
Madhab. So we have to show respect to
each other.
You should not protest or question
someone if they do something following a certain
madhab.
And this madhab is supported by an authentic
hadith or a verse from the Quran. You
should not argue with them. So if I
follow imam,
Shafi'i for example, and I pray 2 rakatahayatil
masjid after us, this is acceptable in the
Shafi'i madhah. But in the harafi madhah, it
is not acceptable.
So if I if I see someone from
the Shafi'i madhah praying 2 rakah, then I
should not protest because this is acceptable in
a different madha and the prophet
did it. So so then you shouldn't question
them. If you have disagreement with someone
and none of you have
enough knowledge, then talk to the ulama.
Talk to the ulama. I mean, don't settle
the matter among yourselves because you will never
reach an agreement.
And don't talk to people who pretend to
be shaykh
because they are just half of Quran. You
have to talk to someone who knows fiqh
and halal and haram and sira and all
these things.
They say in Urdu,
and you can write it down. I'm gonna
put it on my door to the office.
They
say, What is this?
It's can anyone translate from the Pakistani brothers?
Yes.
Half of the knowledge is dangerous.
And?
And half of the know
half of the knowledge of medicine
is dangerous for the health? Yes, sir. Half
of the knowledge of religion is dangerous for
the iman. True.
Half doctor
is dangerous to your life and your health,
and half scholar is dangerous to your iman.
So always talk to the people with knowledge.
Don't talk to people who pretend to be
to be Alama. Okay?
At the time of the prophet, some of
the sahaba were traveling and one of them
got injured
and he wanted
to, you know,
he had a condition
in his sleep and he wanted to he
had to take a shower.
So the sahaba disagreed. They had khilaf.
So
the majority of them said he has to
take a shower.
Some of them, no. No. No. There's no
need for shower. They need he needs to
do tiam mum only.
But those who said he has to take
a shower, they insisted
and the man died after he took a
shower. And the prophet
was not happy. And he said,
these people are ignorant.
They killed him.
If you are ignorant and you don't know,
ask people of knowledge. This is a solution.
And this is why half knowledge and half
half half knowledge
is dangerous to life and to a man
as well as the the method
says.
The last thing I wanna say
is
when we disagree with someone,
our purpose of disagreeing with them is to
bring them back to a man and to
correct them, not to offend them.
So don't call them names, and don't call
them idiots or ignorant. Okay?
As I always say, you can question
the act itself
but not the person.
Don't offend the person, don't call them names,
don't call them idiots. You can disagree with
them as much as you want. You can
attack their argument but don't attack the person
himself. At the end of the day, we
want to bring people closer to Islam or
to make a point about salah, about fasting,
about,
but that's it. But the person himself, we
love him as a brother or as a
sister, and that's it. Okay. And after you
finish,
don't go and talk to people about them
behind their backs. This brother is an idiot
or he's not good or he's whatever. Okay?
So these some of the some of the
points that we can make to have, alhamdulillah,
a good Khalaf,
a fruitful constructive khilaf with one another. Whether
you have this khilaf inside the family or
at work or in the masjid. And at
the end of the day, alhamdulillah, we try
to, to get closer to Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala without
offending our brother or our sister and without
this uniting the community
as I gave the example at the beginning.
And, finally ask Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala to
give us the knowledge and to give us
the hikmah, to give us sincerity in everything
we say and do.
InshaAllah the food would be served in the
just a few minutes. Any questions?
Mama. Su'al. Su'al.
Questions?
No food before questions.
Oh, it's a question.
What's a good question?
But I think he has a question first.
I don't know if he had a question.
Amin always has a question.
So it you know,
and the only case, that you don't listen
to your mother is
is the is if she's doing something
like that, like, shit, something like that.
That you're allowed to said that you're allowed
to make an argument with him. Right? In
that case?
Well,
if
we spoke about this before in the youth
halal prayer. If your pair of course,
we have to obey our parents and listen
to them. They have more experience
and
their intention is to make us good Muslims.
Unless
yes. He's saying,
if my parents asked me to do something
haram and
I I don't obey them, can I still
argue and make Iftalaf with them? And the
point I'm trying to make is in the
Quran Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says, obey your
parents.
Yes. Because they have they are older than
you. They brought you into you into this
life. They have a lot of experience.
They want everything good for you. So listen
to them
unless
they are asking you to do something haram.
And I said,
of course, if it is time to make
salatul fard like the 5 daily namaz, of
course you have to pray first. But if
it is salatul sunnah,
extra,
then you have to obey and listen to
your parents first. Like say for example,
if they want you to go to the
store and buy them something and you want
to pray salah to sunnah. No. You listen
to your parents first. When you come back,
you can pray sunnah.
This is how much Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
is teaching us to show respect to our
parents. But if they ask you to do
something haram,
like you are married to a wonderful sister,
and your parents
are asking you to divorce your wife.
Why?
Her father is not a good man,
or he is a shoemaker,
or
anything.
Okay?
In this case, you don't have to listen
to your parents because they are telling you
to do something haram. It is haram to
divorce your wife. If she is a good
Muslim, you you don't have to listen to
your parents but in the meantime to try
to convince them. In some cases, some of
the brothers come to me and they say
their parents don't want them to go to
the masjid,
or their parents don't want them to have
a beer, or they don't want to ask
to fast
extra fast. Something like this.
And I tell them, you don't have to
obey your parents in this case by trying
to explain to them. And Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala says in Surat Luqman, if your parents
tell you to do something haram, don't obey
them.
But still respect them and be good and
nice to them.
If
you debate with them in a good way,
of course, you're not gonna offend them or
call them names or anything. You have to
be polite with them. Okay? And don't offend
them because this is not acceptable in Islam.
Even saying to them
like you're not happy with you can't say
this in Islam. Let alone fighting with them
or hitting them as some people do. This
is not acceptable.
Questions? Yes, sir.
Well,
Islamically,
the prophet says
those who make salat Rahim are the ones
who are when they are cut off, they
try to reach out.
Islamically you don't have to be friends with
every human being in this world, okay? But
at least keep good relations with them.
If they are not willing to talk to
you on a daily basis or a weekly
or monthly, at least then remember them Ramadan
and Eid. Send them an email
or text message. If you have a wedding,
call them. Something like this in in occasions.
But keep a good relation with them, don't
cut them off completely. This is not acceptable
in Islam. Even if they cut you off,
you're not allowed to cut them off. A
man came to the prophet says
So he came to the prophet said,
I have you know some relatives. I'm very
good to them and they are very nasty
to me.
I tried to be generous to them and
they cut me off. What should I do?
And the prophet
said keep a good relationship with
them. If they cut you off and if
they offend you, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and
the malaika will support you. So don't cut
them off completely.
One last question before we eat. Yes, brother.
Yes, brother. There's a argument that breaks out.
Right? You're talking to the brother in the
car man. Baba. But the lady raises his
hand on you. Good. He's doing that case.
Yes? He raises his hand on me.
Eats it all of them. He's in violence
instead of
talking either. The the problem when we have
some,
arguments,
we don't exercise Hikma.
Means
that if you
are talking to someone and he is resistant,
he's not accepting your argument, and you feel
like one thing will lead to another,
don't talk to them. Don't talk to them.
Leave it there.
And
if some if you are talking to someone
Yeah.
If you are talking to someone
and you feel like they're raising their voice
and they're trying to get physical with you,
leave them alone.
And in even in the hadith the prophet
says if you have a disagreement with with
someone,
if you are standing up you're getting mad,
you feel like you're gonna rip their head
off or break their neck or something. The
prophet says if you are standing up, sit
down. If you are sitting down, lie down.
If you think one thing will lead to
another and you start a fight or something,
then just go out. Okay? And this is
why
choosing the right time and choosing the right
aptitude when you talk to people. And this
is why
most sisters get a divorce because of this.
The brother is coming from his work, had
a fight in the bus, and
he is coming and he is in a
horrible situation.
And she starts talking to him about bills,
about our vacation in the summer.
This is not the time. Okay? Choose the
right time. Let him eat first,
relax, put some bandage on the whatever.
Then talk to him. Choose the right time
and choose choose the right style. You see
how the prophet
started the debate with the man?
He said, Abu Walid, and he respected him
and he was smiling to him. If you
want something from your husband, you better call
him honey before you ask for something. And
the same also for the sister. You can't
call,
your wife a a beautiful name. And the
prophet
did the same thing. He used to call
Aisha You Aish.
A beautiful name like an endearing way of
calling someone.
And they say,
if you want something from some from someone
and if you want to disagree with someone
or debate with someone or correct someone, then
this is the last point I'm going to
make inshallah.
Say something nice to them before you correct
them or before you debate with them. Why?
Because when you say something positive about someone,
you disarm them.
You see? They you disarm them. You open
their heart. It is just like a doctor
before he operates on a patient,
he gives him the anesthesia whatever they call
him, he numbs him. So when he gives
him the shot he's like this, he doesn't
feel anything.
So the doctor cuts him open and the
brother or the sister doesn't feel anything. So
when you say something nice to someone
then criticize them or argue with them or
whatever, will they will listen to you. Because
from the very beginning, you're telling them, I
respect you.
Now you have an obligation to listen to
me.
So this is the thing. Okay? So we
have to maintain
all these things,
when we argue or when we have an
iftarab with someone.
I think the food is ready and inshallah
will go. The sisters are on this side
and the brothers are on this side.
Before you go,
Just I would like to remind you of
our
daily programs.
Every day, we, Sheikh has a or a
small reminder after isha
and after fajj.
On Tuesday,
he had,
Jarrah Lakhra, we have judgment talk. And, Wednesday
every Wednesday, we had the talk about, qiq.
Saturday. Saturday.
Saturday after Israel. So please and also, inshallah,
if you have if you don't get our
from the mosque, please, you can write down
your name, and we have a mass, email
list, and we'll send you all reminders of
our and,
programs.
Also, please check the, website.
We are working on updating the website.
As you're walking out of the mosque, it
is displayed in the TV so you can
get the information inshallah from there. Sisters, Halakah.
Sisters, Halakah. Friday, Friday of the Isha.
Youth Halakah,
Sunday at 6 o'clock.
Youth Halakah,
Sunday at 6 o'clock.
Tomorrow at 6.