Mustafa Khattab – Muslim Manners 24 Grace II Ramadan 2012

That you have 2 qualities that Allah and

His Prophet love. So he said, why are

they, O Prophet of Allah? He says, grace

and forbearance and patience.

These are the 2 qualities.

If there is grace and patience in anything,

it will make it beautiful.

But if it is taken outside, if you

take it out, if it lacks patience and

grace,

then it's ugly. It's messed up.

It's not Friday.

And, so for example, before the marriage,

the the husband and wife,

now they're engaged.

They they have they, the fiance,

the man who used very beautiful words with

the lady.

Honey, just go here. Just eat this. Please

give me this. Please give me that.

But after marriage and when they have kids,

he doesn't say please. He doesn't say honey.

All he says, hey, you

give me

lunch. He says this man come on you

are not in a restaurant okay and she

is not your servant

you don't order people that are out in

the house you have to say please and

you have to be polite with with your

wife

The Prophet SAW Alaihi Wasallam was used very

beautiful words whenever he spoke to his wife

to show respect and to show gratitude.

And we need to follow the same example.

Sometimes some of the people who go to

the Mas'araj and I'm not talking necessarily about

the Rasheed, but people who volunteer to do

Dawah and they don't have the tools, they

don't have the knowledge, they don't have the

hikna, the wisdom.

Okay? We call it the Haram Police.

Haram Police. Okay? Everything is Haram for them.

So for example, if they see a brother

who just accepted Islam yesterday,

they will say, for example, where is your

beard?

I just accepted Islam yesterday. How how am

I supposed to get a beard overnight?

Okay.

And the sisters, where is your hijab? Where

is your hijab?

Of course, we we have rights to our

our brothers and sisters to give them nasiha

advice.

That you have to say it in a

nice way,

you don't order them around, you have to

speak with the Hikna because people get offended

very easily, especially when you talk to them

in front of other people.

So whenever the prophet

gave Naseih Abu Zalba, and some of the

Sahaba, he would speak in very general terms

without using names, oh, and he would take

the person to the side and talk to

him. And there are so many examples in

the sunnah, there is no, you know, time

to to give him maybe in the future

inshallah.

So when the Sahaba saw him, they wanted

to jump over him and rip his head

off.

So the Prophet SAW Alaihi Wasallam told him,

No, no, no. Leave him alone.

Let him finish. This is what the Prophet

SAW Alaihi Wasallam said, Let him finish.

The prophet SAW Alaihi Wasallam called him, the

masajid are not built for urination.

We come to the masajid to pray and

to say a dua and a dua and

a dua and so because that man was

a new Muslim and he probably met the

prophet SAW Alaihi Wasallam for the first time.

He didn't know. So the Prophet

used Hikma and used Helm with him.

So when that Sahabi saw the attitude of

the Prophet and how nice he was to

him and the Sahaba and how firm they

were with him, he said, Oh Allah, forgive

me and Muhammad and don't forget any of

forgive any of these guys over here. So

the prophet said,

You you you limited the mercy of Allah.

The mercy of Allah is so bad.

So we conclude with this story, one of

the scholars,

he had a slave, a servant and he

told him bring me dinner.

So he brought him the soup,

the chicken sukha, the biryani all the good

food.

So on the way the servant or the

slave stumbled and he poured all the food

on the top of the head of his

slave master or his master.

And it was very hot, the soup is

very hot.

So the this the, the master got so

mad. He got so mad and the soup

was very hot. So he was about to

shoot him in the head

So his slave said, I remind you of

the words of Allah in the Quran, those

who control their anger at the time of

extreme anger. So he said, I control my

anger. Then

he said, I remind you of the saying

of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala and those who

forgive people.

He said, I forgive you. He said, and

Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, the rest of the

ayah, Allah loves those who are greater, those

who are generous. So he said, I set

you free. Go. Go.

So in the ayahs that Sheikh Ahmed is

going to her side and becoming rakas it's

calls Maryam

and Surah Maryam the system of Harun, although

Harun lived and died more than 600 years

before Barir. So how can she be can

he Can she be his sister?

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