Mustafa Khattab – Muslim Manners 24 Grace II Ramadan 2012
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The speaker discusses the importance of grace and patience in Islam, and how it can be difficult to control anger. They also mention a story about a slave who was angry at a woman and caused her to shoot him. The speaker concludes that the message of Islam is to forgive people and control one's anger.
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That you have 2 qualities that Allah and
His Prophet love. So he said, why are
they, O Prophet of Allah? He says, grace
and forbearance and patience.
These are the 2 qualities.
If there is grace and patience in anything,
it will make it beautiful.
But if it is taken outside, if you
take it out, if it lacks patience and
grace,
then it's ugly. It's messed up.
It's not Friday.
And, so for example, before the marriage,
the the husband and wife,
now they're engaged.
They they have they, the fiance,
the man who used very beautiful words with
the lady.
Honey, just go here. Just eat this. Please
give me this. Please give me that.
But after marriage and when they have kids,
he doesn't say please. He doesn't say honey.
All he says, hey, you
give me
lunch. He says this man come on you
are not in a restaurant okay and she
is not your servant
you don't order people that are out in
the house you have to say please and
you have to be polite with with your
wife
The Prophet SAW Alaihi Wasallam was used very
beautiful words whenever he spoke to his wife
to show respect and to show gratitude.
And we need to follow the same example.
Sometimes some of the people who go to
the Mas'araj and I'm not talking necessarily about
the Rasheed, but people who volunteer to do
Dawah and they don't have the tools, they
don't have the knowledge, they don't have the
hikna, the wisdom.
Okay? We call it the Haram Police.
Haram Police. Okay? Everything is Haram for them.
So for example, if they see a brother
who just accepted Islam yesterday,
they will say, for example, where is your
beard?
I just accepted Islam yesterday. How how am
I supposed to get a beard overnight?
Okay.
And the sisters, where is your hijab? Where
is your hijab?
Of course, we we have rights to our
our brothers and sisters to give them nasiha
advice.
That you have to say it in a
nice way,
you don't order them around, you have to
speak with the Hikna because people get offended
very easily, especially when you talk to them
in front of other people.
So whenever the prophet
gave Naseih Abu Zalba, and some of the
Sahaba, he would speak in very general terms
without using names, oh, and he would take
the person to the side and talk to
him. And there are so many examples in
the sunnah, there is no, you know, time
to to give him maybe in the future
inshallah.
So when the Sahaba saw him, they wanted
to jump over him and rip his head
off.
So the Prophet SAW Alaihi Wasallam told him,
No, no, no. Leave him alone.
Let him finish. This is what the Prophet
SAW Alaihi Wasallam said, Let him finish.
The prophet SAW Alaihi Wasallam called him, the
masajid are not built for urination.
We come to the masajid to pray and
to say a dua and a dua and
a dua and so because that man was
a new Muslim and he probably met the
prophet SAW Alaihi Wasallam for the first time.
He didn't know. So the Prophet
used Hikma and used Helm with him.
So when that Sahabi saw the attitude of
the Prophet and how nice he was to
him and the Sahaba and how firm they
were with him, he said, Oh Allah, forgive
me and Muhammad and don't forget any of
forgive any of these guys over here. So
the prophet said,
You you you limited the mercy of Allah.
The mercy of Allah is so bad.
So we conclude with this story, one of
the scholars,
he had a slave, a servant and he
told him bring me dinner.
So he brought him the soup,
the chicken sukha, the biryani all the good
food.
So on the way the servant or the
slave stumbled and he poured all the food
on the top of the head of his
slave master or his master.
And it was very hot, the soup is
very hot.
So the this the, the master got so
mad. He got so mad and the soup
was very hot. So he was about to
shoot him in the head
So his slave said, I remind you of
the words of Allah in the Quran, those
who control their anger at the time of
extreme anger. So he said, I control my
anger. Then
he said, I remind you of the saying
of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala and those who
forgive people.
He said, I forgive you. He said, and
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, the rest of the
ayah, Allah loves those who are greater, those
who are generous. So he said, I set
you free. Go. Go.
So in the ayahs that Sheikh Ahmed is
going to her side and becoming rakas it's
calls Maryam
and Surah Maryam the system of Harun, although
Harun lived and died more than 600 years
before Barir. So how can she be can
he Can she be his sister?
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