Mustafa Khattab – Muslim Manners 12 Family in Jannah I Ramadan 2012

So last time we spoke about how a

Muslim should love Jannah

for his Muslim brothers and sisters.

And today, InshaAllah, we'll talk about how a

Muslim husband

should love for his wife to be with

with him in Jannah and how a Muslim

wife

should love to be with her husband in

Jannah. I know this is bad news for

our little brothers.

Okay.

And for some sisters too.

The pleasure in Jannah, the joy in Jannah

is not complete until you are combined

with your wife

and children.

And the same is also true for the

wife. And this is why the angels, when

they make dua for the believers,

in the Quran, they always say, oh Allah,

combine the believers

with their wives or their husbands

with their children in Jannah.

And in the Tabasir, if you read, they

say,

those who are low in rank in Jannah,

Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala will raise them up

in rank so they would join the rest

of the family. Otherwise,

the joy is incomplete.

So how can you help your wife to

go to Jannah and how sisters can help

their husbands to make it to Jannah

to enjoy what is good

and to avoid what is Haram.

If your wife delays salah, encourage her to

pray on time.

And the same is also true for the

sisters. If your husband delays the salah, encourage

him to pray on time.

And the

sisters, don't make it hard for your husband

when he goes to work. You keep asking

him, buy us this, our neighbors have this,

you have to buy it for us. Eventually,

you would force him to do something haram

or take a bribe to buy you something

that he cannot

afford.

The wives of the Sahaba, they used to

tell them in the morning as they left

for work,

fear Allah and be mindful for him and

earn only from Khalil.

We can be patient

with hunger, but we can never be patient

with Hilfa.

If we make it to hellfire because of

what you do, we have no patience for

this.

So also,

the husband and the wife, they have to

encourage each other to be good to their

families.

Because what happens after marriage,

the wife will feel jealous from her mother-in-law,

and the husband will feel

he will have some things in his heart

toward his in laws. So in many cases,

and we know this is very common backbone,

the husband will tell his wife, don't talk

to your family.

Why?

So sometimes some of them will even take

it to,

the extremes and tell his wife if you

go to your mom's, I will divorce you.

So you are forcing your wife to do

something haram and we know if you cut

off your family relations

with your in laws from both sides,

your deeds will not be raised to Allah

Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala as mentioned in the authentic

Hadith. So how can you make it to

Jannah if your good deeds are not raised

to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala?

And also the same is also true for

the wife. She feels like, okay, if if

I'm gonna leave my husband to communicate all

the time with his family, they will take

his money, they will have his heart, they

will divorce me. What is this?

Believe me, sisters.

Your husband can love you and he can

love his mother and his sister and his

entire family. A man's heart is like a

watermelon

full of seeds.

A woman's heart is like a mangrove, one

seed.

A man's heart can be a seedless as

well.

So you have this lady and her mother-in-law

they were always fighting and all the neighbors

know about the fights,

all the,

gunshots and calling 911, and the police is

in their house every day. So one day,

the the, the wife

started to scream asking people for help and

the neighbor said, okay. What's wrong with you?

She said, my mother-in-law, they were living together.

My mother-in-law wants to, jump out of the

window from the 10th floor.

So her neighbor said, but this is a

good thing because you guys are always fighting.

So the wife said, but the problem is

the window is not opening. She can't jump.

This is why I'm screaming. I'm asking for

help.