Mustafa Khattab – Muslim Manners 12 Family in Jannah I Ramadan 2012

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The speaker discusses how a Muslim should love his or her partner in Jannah, where they should be combined with their husbands and sisters. They also encourage the husband to pray on time and encourage him to encourage his wife to pray on time as well. The speaker warns that when the husband is caught caught in a fight, his deeds will not be raised to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.

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			So last time we spoke about how a
		
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			Muslim should love Jannah
		
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			for his Muslim brothers and sisters.
		
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			And today, InshaAllah, we'll talk about how a
		
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			Muslim husband
		
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			should love for his wife to be with
		
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			with him in Jannah and how a Muslim
		
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			wife
		
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			should love to be with her husband in
		
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			Jannah. I know this is bad news for
		
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			our little brothers.
		
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			Okay.
		
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			And for some sisters too.
		
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			The pleasure in Jannah, the joy in Jannah
		
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			is not complete until you are combined
		
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			with your wife
		
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			and children.
		
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			And the same is also true for the
		
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			wife. And this is why the angels, when
		
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			they make dua for the believers,
		
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			in the Quran, they always say, oh Allah,
		
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			combine the believers
		
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			with their wives or their husbands
		
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			with their children in Jannah.
		
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			And in the Tabasir, if you read, they
		
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			say,
		
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			those who are low in rank in Jannah,
		
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			Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala will raise them up
		
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			in rank so they would join the rest
		
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			of the family. Otherwise,
		
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			the joy is incomplete.
		
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			So how can you help your wife to
		
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			go to Jannah and how sisters can help
		
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			their husbands to make it to Jannah
		
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			to enjoy what is good
		
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			and to avoid what is Haram.
		
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			If your wife delays salah, encourage her to
		
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			pray on time.
		
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			And the same is also true for the
		
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			sisters. If your husband delays the salah, encourage
		
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			him to pray on time.
		
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			And the
		
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			sisters, don't make it hard for your husband
		
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			when he goes to work. You keep asking
		
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			him, buy us this, our neighbors have this,
		
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			you have to buy it for us. Eventually,
		
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			you would force him to do something haram
		
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			or take a bribe to buy you something
		
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			that he cannot
		
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			afford.
		
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			The wives of the Sahaba, they used to
		
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			tell them in the morning as they left
		
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			for work,
		
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			fear Allah and be mindful for him and
		
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			earn only from Khalil.
		
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			We can be patient
		
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			with hunger, but we can never be patient
		
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			with Hilfa.
		
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			If we make it to hellfire because of
		
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			what you do, we have no patience for
		
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			this.
		
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			So also,
		
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			the husband and the wife, they have to
		
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			encourage each other to be good to their
		
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			families.
		
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			Because what happens after marriage,
		
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			the wife will feel jealous from her mother-in-law,
		
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			and the husband will feel
		
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			he will have some things in his heart
		
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			toward his in laws. So in many cases,
		
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			and we know this is very common backbone,
		
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			the husband will tell his wife, don't talk
		
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			to your family.
		
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			Why?
		
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			So sometimes some of them will even take
		
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			it to,
		
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			the extremes and tell his wife if you
		
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			go to your mom's, I will divorce you.
		
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			So you are forcing your wife to do
		
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			something haram and we know if you cut
		
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			off your family relations
		
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			with your in laws from both sides,
		
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			your deeds will not be raised to Allah
		
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			Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala as mentioned in the authentic
		
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			Hadith. So how can you make it to
		
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			Jannah if your good deeds are not raised
		
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			to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala?
		
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			And also the same is also true for
		
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			the wife. She feels like, okay, if if
		
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			I'm gonna leave my husband to communicate all
		
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			the time with his family, they will take
		
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			his money, they will have his heart, they
		
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			will divorce me. What is this?
		
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			Believe me, sisters.
		
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			Your husband can love you and he can
		
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			love his mother and his sister and his
		
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			entire family. A man's heart is like a
		
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			watermelon
		
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			full of seeds.
		
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			A woman's heart is like a mangrove, one
		
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			seed.
		
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			A man's heart can be a seedless as
		
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			well.
		
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			So you have this lady and her mother-in-law
		
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			they were always fighting and all the neighbors
		
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			know about the fights,
		
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			all the,
		
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			gunshots and calling 911, and the police is
		
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			in their house every day. So one day,
		
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			the the, the wife
		
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			started to scream asking people for help and
		
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			the neighbor said, okay. What's wrong with you?
		
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			She said, my mother-in-law, they were living together.
		
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			My mother-in-law wants to, jump out of the
		
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			window from the 10th floor.
		
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			So her neighbor said, but this is a
		
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			good thing because you guys are always fighting.
		
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			So the wife said, but the problem is
		
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			the window is not opening. She can't jump.
		
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			This is why I'm screaming. I'm asking for
		
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			help.