Mustafa Khattab – Muslim Manners 12 Family in Jannah I Ramadan 2012
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The speaker discusses how a Muslim should love his or her partner in Jannah, where they should be combined with their husbands and sisters. They also encourage the husband to pray on time and encourage him to encourage his wife to pray on time as well. The speaker warns that when the husband is caught caught in a fight, his deeds will not be raised to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
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So last time we spoke about how a
Muslim should love Jannah
for his Muslim brothers and sisters.
And today, InshaAllah, we'll talk about how a
Muslim husband
should love for his wife to be with
with him in Jannah and how a Muslim
wife
should love to be with her husband in
Jannah. I know this is bad news for
our little brothers.
Okay.
And for some sisters too.
The pleasure in Jannah, the joy in Jannah
is not complete until you are combined
with your wife
and children.
And the same is also true for the
wife. And this is why the angels, when
they make dua for the believers,
in the Quran, they always say, oh Allah,
combine the believers
with their wives or their husbands
with their children in Jannah.
And in the Tabasir, if you read, they
say,
those who are low in rank in Jannah,
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala will raise them up
in rank so they would join the rest
of the family. Otherwise,
the joy is incomplete.
So how can you help your wife to
go to Jannah and how sisters can help
their husbands to make it to Jannah
to enjoy what is good
and to avoid what is Haram.
If your wife delays salah, encourage her to
pray on time.
And the same is also true for the
sisters. If your husband delays the salah, encourage
him to pray on time.
And the
sisters, don't make it hard for your husband
when he goes to work. You keep asking
him, buy us this, our neighbors have this,
you have to buy it for us. Eventually,
you would force him to do something haram
or take a bribe to buy you something
that he cannot
afford.
The wives of the Sahaba, they used to
tell them in the morning as they left
for work,
fear Allah and be mindful for him and
earn only from Khalil.
We can be patient
with hunger, but we can never be patient
with Hilfa.
If we make it to hellfire because of
what you do, we have no patience for
this.
So also,
the husband and the wife, they have to
encourage each other to be good to their
families.
Because what happens after marriage,
the wife will feel jealous from her mother-in-law,
and the husband will feel
he will have some things in his heart
toward his in laws. So in many cases,
and we know this is very common backbone,
the husband will tell his wife, don't talk
to your family.
Why?
So sometimes some of them will even take
it to,
the extremes and tell his wife if you
go to your mom's, I will divorce you.
So you are forcing your wife to do
something haram and we know if you cut
off your family relations
with your in laws from both sides,
your deeds will not be raised to Allah
Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala as mentioned in the authentic
Hadith. So how can you make it to
Jannah if your good deeds are not raised
to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala?
And also the same is also true for
the wife. She feels like, okay, if if
I'm gonna leave my husband to communicate all
the time with his family, they will take
his money, they will have his heart, they
will divorce me. What is this?
Believe me, sisters.
Your husband can love you and he can
love his mother and his sister and his
entire family. A man's heart is like a
watermelon
full of seeds.
A woman's heart is like a mangrove, one
seed.
A man's heart can be a seedless as
well.
So you have this lady and her mother-in-law
they were always fighting and all the neighbors
know about the fights,
all the,
gunshots and calling 911, and the police is
in their house every day. So one day,
the the, the wife
started to scream asking people for help and
the neighbor said, okay. What's wrong with you?
She said, my mother-in-law, they were living together.
My mother-in-law wants to, jump out of the
window from the 10th floor.
So her neighbor said, but this is a
good thing because you guys are always fighting.
So the wife said, but the problem is
the window is not opening. She can't jump.
This is why I'm screaming. I'm asking for
help.