Mustafa Khattab – Misconceptions about Jihad & Women in Islam
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So she was asked about jihad for women
and the Prophet
said, Pilgrimage
for women is jihad.
The Prophet said
that serving your parents and being nice to
them is called jihad in Islam.
So I can give you 10 different meanings
right now.
The second meaning which is mostly referred to
in the media is military
struggle.
And as we have seen in the verses
we mentioned in the Quran,
fighting in self defense is called jihad.
Okay?
Every country in the world, regardless
if it's following
a divine given laws or human made laws,
have the right to defend themselves.
Okay.
Say for example, if the US, for example,
is attacked by Mexico,
do you think Americans will be, you know,
inviting Mexicans to their homes and drink cappuccino
with them?
Of course not. They will fight back in
defense
of their country. This is called patriotism in
North America. In Islam, we call it Jihad.
In Islam we are not allowed to fight
against innocent women and children.
If a Muslim
justifies the killing of
innocent non Muslim women and children,
this is not acceptable in Islam. The pro
even if the kuffar, even if non Muslims
attack
Muslims and kill innocent women and children, we
are not allowed to go and kill their
innocent women and children. Where do we find
this? In the Quran, Qisuratul Bayira. (QS. Alhamdulillah
3:5)
Don't let the injustices
of some people
make you be unjust
to them.
Be just.
This is what the Quran says.
The ruling in fiqh
that I studied says,
If in the battlefield,
during the time of war,
non muslims
take their own children
and their own women as human shields,
in firkrit says you are not allowed to
kill them.
You have to wait until things clear up
and you can find only
combatants.
Even if they take their own children and
their own women as human shields, you are
not allowed to
carpet bomb or indiscriminately
bomb them to kill their women and children.
Okay.
People always talk about the Sharia and they
say that Muslims
that Muslims are trying to take over
and force people in North America and Canada
and the US
to apply the Sharia to their lives.
We are talking about less than 1% of
the population
trying to take over
and force people to live by the Sharia.
Okay. If someone asks you this, stupid question,
okay,
ask them this intelligent question.
Does the Sharia
apply
to non Muslim minorities in predominantly
Muslim countries like Egypt, for example?
Okay. Christians in Egypt make less than 5
per about 5 to 7 percent of the
population.
Does the Islamic law
apply
to the non Muslim minority in Egypt?
The answer is no.
The answer is no. In predominantly
Muslim countries, where you have 98%
Muslim,
97%
Muslim, the Sharia applies only to Muslim.
And the sad fact is most Muslim countries
don't apply the Sharia anyway.
They apply it only to social matters or
family
related matters, like marriage, divorce, inheritance.
In Egypt, for example,
in many cases, the Christians or the cops
would come to the Islamic court, in Makkim
al Sharayyah,
to ask for the Islamic laws of inheritance
to be applied to them.
But this is the only way if they
ask for it. Otherwise, the Sharia does not
apply to them. They go by their own
laws.
So
if Sharia does not apply to minorities in
Muslim countries, how come that less than 1%
of the population here who are Muslim
try to force the Sharia on more than
99%.
It's nonsense.
Okay.
Is Islam
oppressive
to women?
We will see.
We have to understand
that Islam is just to women.
Okay?
We don't deny the fact that there are
so many injustices
committed against women in some Muslim countries. There
are 57 Muslim countries in the world.
There are some injustices,
say, in 3 or 4, maximum 5 countries.
But in most Muslim countries, Muslim women live
a decent life.
For example,
in Egypt
and in the United Arab Emirates,
the number of women who make it to
college is more than the number of men
who go to college in these
countries. Number 2,
the injustices
against women in Muslim countries are not because
of Islam but because of local cultures and
tribal habits and traditions.
I'll give a couple of examples.
For example,
in Egypt,
my mother
who now lives in a village,
a few years ago she couldn't get a
share of inheritance from her father and her
mother.
Of course it is not because of Islam
because Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala in chapter 4
says,
That women have a share in the property
or in the inheritance
of of of their parents and men have
the same right.
Okay. But in the Egyptian culture,
this is the perception.
Why should I give the land or the
property of my ancestors
to someone who is not from my own
blood? They're talking about the,
brother-in-law.
But the fact is, if you give your
sister
her share of inheritance,
then your your
wife will give you some money and some
property from her family too.
This is number 1. Number 2,
if you deny
women the right to inherit, you are basically
saying that Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala is Zal
Allah is unjust
and you know better than Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala and this is Haram. This is not
acceptable in Islam. You have to give people
their rights.
This is one example. Number 2,
in some in one Muslim country in particular,
and I'm not giving examples,
I'm not giving names.
Because they will deny me the visa for
hash.
Okay.
Okay.
If a woman
is not having the right to get a
driver's license or drive her car,
Is this from Islam or from the culture?
It's from the culture.
Because the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alaihi
wa sallam and the wives of the companions,
they will go around in Madina and they
travel by themselves as long as it's not
a traveling distance.
The woman has the right to go to
the,
you know the superstore,
she has the right to go for shopping,
she has the right to go and see
her family.
The irony is this is a joke, okay?
In this particular country, and I'm not giving
you the name
again,
they don't allow the lady to drive around
by herself
because it's haram.
Then they get a male, a man from
10,000, 15,000 miles away to drive her around
in the car.
This is Haram, it's kharwal sharaiyah.
A man and a woman are not allowed
to be, you know
to be there by themselves
in a car. It's not it's not acceptable
in this land.
If a woman drives hers by herself,
this is not Haram in Islam.
I'll act you know, as long as this
is okay, she would not be in, in
jeopardy or anything.
But for a man and woman to be
on their own in a car, this is
not acceptable. As long as they are not
related or they are not married. And the
prophet salallahu alaihi wa sallam says in the
hadith, If a man
and a woman are by themselves,
then the Shaytan will make a third of
them.
Another example:
If women are not getting, you know, education,
they are not allowed to go to school
in
say Afghanistan
for example.
The prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam says in
the hadith
that seeking knowledge is an obligation on every
Muslim.
And of course this includes every Muslim male
and female. It's an obligation
to study at least the sharayi knowledge, to
know Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, to know how
to worship Him and serve Him, to know
the sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa
sallam, to know halal and haram.
This is the obligatory knowledge in Islam. But
if they deny them these rights
then it is Haram in Islam.
Okay.
If women are not getting a share of
inheritance in Egypt, and this is again is
the teachings of Islam,
Islam gets the blame at the end of
the day.
If women are not allowed to get a
driver's license,
then Islam gets the blame at the end
of the day.
If women are not allowed to get a
formal education
or to study Islam,
then Islam gets the blame at the end
of the day, although these practices
are against
the teachings of Islam.
In Islam,
men or women and women
are equal
but different.
Let me say this again so the people
with PhDs will understand.
In Islam,
men and women are equal but different.
In the same way that me and brother
Nabeel Nashman
Yeah, I'm talking about you.
We are equal but we are different.
We are not identical.
Maybe he is more handsome.
Maybe he has more money than me. Maybe,
he is a better guy than myself.
So this is what I mean. Men and
women in Islam are equal but different.
Their physical makeup is different.
Their roles and responsibilities in the society are
different.
If you believe
that men and women are identical,
inshallah, you'll fail your biology class at big
time.
Okay?
And if you don't believe what I say
about men and women being equal but different,
if you go to a superstore,
if you are a man,
go to the ladies' restrooms,
and you will know that they are different.
Once they see you inside, they will start
screaming, calling, now you will be in trouble
for the rest of your life, because they
are different.
About 10 years ago,
I was working for a,
an Islamic TV channel in Egypt.
And
this brother
I'm not gonna mention his name. He is
an African American Muslim brother who was working
as,
a tran an editor and a translation supervisor,
you know, on my team.
So by mistake,
he this guy was tall,
and he was tough, very long beard, very
short clothes,
terrorist,
So he went to the ladies' restroom by
mistake,
and Wallahi, I was, like, in another building,
and I heard the screams and the shouts.
You know?
Yeah. I'm gonna tell you another story about
this brother that I shared with, Nabil Najman
before.
Again, this brother didn't joke. I mean, I
don't remember the last time I saw him
smiling in my life.
Okay?
So he was working for 3 months, day
and night, for this TV channel, and they
didn't give him his salary.
Okay? And he was mad like,
he was mad.
So we were there in the studio, and
they were typing the titles for the program.
He was the translation manager.
So the, the president of the channel came
to him and said,
mister so and so, would you like us
to put in the titles, your title, translation
manager or translation director or translation
supervisor?
He said in a in a an African
American slang way,
listen.
Call me Donald Duck or Mickey Mouse but
give me my damn salary.
So he was mad. But anyway,
he was mad. But, you know, they didn't
fire him anyway.
Men and women are equal but are different.
Okay?
Men usually tend to be physically
stronger.
Okay?
Women tend to be a little bit more
emotional
than men.
However,
by equal, I mean this. When I say
equal, don't get me wrong. When I say
equal, I mean
if
I and my wife
fast in this in in Ramadan, we get
the same reward.
If we pray the 5 times a day,
we get the same reward.
If we do something Haram, we will give
the same sin or give the same punishment.
We are equal but
different.
Okay.
When people challenge
the idea that men and women are different,
I give them the
the roach exam.
The roach exam.
Say for example, if you cook with your
wife in the kitchen like myself. I like
to help with cooking, and I'm a good
cook.
Yeah. I actually taught my wife how to
cook.
Yeah, she wasted most of her life trying
to get a medical degree.
But
Alhamdulillah.
But anyway,
say for example, if a husband and wife
are cooking in the kitchen
and all of a sudden a roach came
out,
what do you think the reaction of the
man and woman would be? I tell you,
the lady will jump out of the window
even if they are in the 10th floor.
The man
will lay down his life in the face
of the house. Okay? And I'm telling you.
Another example, the thief or the burglar in
the house. If there's a thief, of course,
the lady would jump under the window the
not the window.
The bed
and the man will lay down his life
in the fence of the house. Okay?
This will happen most of the time. I
know that there are
some strong sisters
and if you go to YouTube, there are
some videos of some sisters
who work in,
stores or convenience stores. They are fighting with
thieves and kicking them out and so on
and so forth. But
this is the general
rule and there are some exceptions.
I know some sisters will be will be
mad at me, but,
truth is the truth.
For us to appreciate what Islam has done
to women, you have to look at how
the pre Islamic women left.
First of all, they didn't have a right
to inherit.
They didn't have a say
in marriage.
You marry this guy. Okay. Done.
Bye bye.
Okay. They had no say in marriage. They
didn't own their own property.
To the contrary, they were owned
by the male
the males in the family.
Now in Islam, women
have the right to own their own property,
and they are not obligated
to provide for the family. This is the
ruling in fafrir.
If the husband is poor,
he has to provide for the family.
If the lady is rich,
she is not obligated to provide for the
family. The man is not allowed to touch
a penny
of his wife's money
unless she willing she willingly,
helps.
Many people think
that women and men are equal in North
America, but this is not true.
You just need to look deeper.
According to the official statistics in the US,
a woman makes 77¢
for every dollar a man makes, so there's
no equality. And I'm not I'm talking about
Caucasian women.
African American women, they make 60 something cents.
Mexican ladies, they make 50 something cents.
How many of you heard of the Suffragette
Movement?
Okay. The Suffragette Movement. Back in the 19
twenties
thirties in North America,
women were fighting
to vote, to have the right to vote
in elections.
Up until the 19 twenties thirties in this
country
and the US, women had didn't have the
right to vote in elections.
In 19 forties,
there were female members of parliament in Egypt.
And I'm not talking about the right to
vote. I'm not I'm talking about representing people
in the parliament.
Egyptian women were representing their people in the
parliament in Egypt. At the same time, the
Canadian and American women were fighting just to
vote in elections.
Speaking of
the right to vote, this right was given
to women at the time of the prophet
sallallahu alaihi wa sallam and at the time
of the sahab. I'll give you a quick
example.
Close to the,
you know, a couple of days before Umar
al Sabtav's death, when he was stabbed,
he selected 6 people
so that Muslims will vote for 1 of
them to be their leader.
And he told the Muslims at that time,
move from one house to the other
and ask people, and according to this narration
it says, ask men and women
which one of the 6 people, Usman ibn
Affan, Abdul Umar ibn Nawf Ali Ab Nabi
Talib and so on and forth so forth.
When which one of them do you vote
for to be the next caliph or caliph?
Osman ibn Affair radhiallahu anhu was elected by
Muslim men and women at that time to
be the caliph,
and that is 1500 years ago.
Back in the 19 twenties thirties in Canada
and in the US,
a woman,
regardless of her age,
was not allowed to buy a house or
get a loan from the bank without the
signature of her father or husband.
This is not a requirement in Islam. We
know that Khadija, the wife of the prophet
sallallahu alaihi wasallam, she was a businesswoman,
she had her own business and the prophet
sallallahu alaihi wasallam used to work for her,
she hired him,
and she never asked for his signature
to to, to, you know, to, conclude a
business transaction,
for example. This is not a requirement because
women in Islam,
they have their own independent
financial identity.
Okay. Now look at this.
So what am I looking at?
The US presidents.
Okay.
US presidents.
In the past
250 years in the American history,
44
presidents
have been elected president.
How many women do you see in the
picture?
None.
What's it? None. 1.
Okay. All
of
them. Not a single woman has been elected
in the past 250 years in the American
history
to represent their people. Why?
Are women not equal to men?
Are women not qualified to lead their countries?
I don't
know. Canadian history.
How many women were elected,
prime minister? 1. 1. White
What is her name?
Dasha. We need a sister to give us
the answer.
A sister.
Yes.
Kim Simpson. No. No. No.
You're not a
sister. A sister? Yes?
Yes. Kim Campbell in 1993.
She was
not elected. She came to office. Give this
to the sister in the back. If she
if she get Okay.
One for you, one for the sister in
the back. Yeah.
Go back and give it to the sister
in the back. No. No. Walk there. Go
there. Go there.
She stayed in King Temple in 1993.
She stayed in office only for a few
months, then she was kicked out.
Now,
now,
look at this.
In Islam,
the general ruling is and this is what
the majority of the Muslim scholars say that
a woman
is not allowed to be the Khalifa of
Muslims or the leader of the Muslim community.
This is the ruling of the great majority
of the Muslim scholars.
So a Muslim lady is not allowed to
be the khalifa
for the Muslim world.
However, this is called khilafa ummah
or major leadership.
But I ask for minor leadership
like, a lady can be a manager of
a company.
A lady can be the director of an
Islamic center.
A lady can be a Mufti and give
fedwams to the lady.
A lady can be an imam to ladies.
She can lead the salah for ladies.
Imama.
A female imam.
This is called a minor leadership,
And this is permissible in Islam.
Although the imam, 'aulema, or the major leadership
is not permissible in Islam, however,
there have been many women who became presidents
and vice presidents in in their countries.
Just look at the last 10 years.
Indonesia
elected in the past 10 years, Miguel Ari
Sukarno to be a president
of Indonesia. And Indonesia
is the most populous Muslim country in the
world.
Indonesia by itself
has more Muslims than all Arab countries put
together.
25 countries.
Pakistan, which is the 2nd largest Muslim country
in the world, elected Boonazir Bhutto, the late
Boonazir Bhutto to be the prime minister.
Bangladesh, which is the 3rd most populous Muslim
country in the world, elected in the past
10 years
2 women to be prime minister or vice
president prime minister.
Turkey elected a lady to be
prime minister
and many women throughout Islamic history. Compare this
to Canada and compare this to the US
history, and you will see for yourself.
The hijab and the scarf.
Okay.
If someone asks you
why
Muslim women have to wear the scarf.
Okay.
The thing is for many people,
non Muslims,
they they see the scarf as,
a form of oppression for women.
And, Wallahi, this month 2
at least 2 ladies
who accepted Islam in the past few months
or years, told me they never felt
liberated before they wore the hijab.
They said that before Islam,
men respected them because of their looks,
because of their blonde hair or blue eyes.
But now they are covered up.
They say that people respect them for who
they are, regardless
of how they look.
The answer is, in Islam, men and women
are required to be decent.
It is not only women.
We are required to be decent in the
way we dress,
the way we speak, the way we behave.
However, women
are required to cover their heads.
Okay.
Say for example I'm walking in the street,
or brother Adam Neshman, or Nabil Neshman, or
Mustafa Neshman.
We're walking in the street,
and we we're not covering our heads. How
many people give us a second look?
0.
But
if you have a beautiful lady walking in
the street,
half naked,
blonde hair,
blonde eyes,
or blue hair, blue eyes,
try to figure it out yourself,
how many men,
okay,
how many men will give the lady a
second look?
Yeah. Many.
Okay. And this is the human nature.
Men are inclined to look at beautiful ladies,
but women don't usually look at at men
because of their hair or whatever.
So this is number 1.
This is number 1.
A couple of days, I think it was
yesterday,
we had
a tour
by a Catholic
school.
And I was talking about the concept of
hijab.
And his teacher, wallahi, came to me after
the tour and he said, wallahi,
we like the Islamic concept of hijab and
decency.
And he said, most of the social illnesses
we have in North America
is because of our indecency
and the culture we are living.
And I mentioned to him that,
for example,
1,000,000
high school girls get pregnant every year in
America
because of this.
A lady is raped in America every 2
minutes because of
this.
When is the last time you heard of
a man who was raped in the street?
Just give me one example.
And I'm telling you, a lady is raped
in the US every 2 minutes
because of
this.
And I usually ask them about the lady
here to the
left. This is the mother of Jesus, as
they depict her in the church.
And I tell them, if you see this
lady walking in the street with 2 Muslim
sisters,
Wallahi will never know who
is Maryam, the mother of East and who
is a Muslim lady. They will look exactly
the same.
And in the same manner,
if you see a Isa alaihis salam as
he is depicted in the bible or in
the movies,
and if you see him walking at an
airport
with 2 Muslim brothers
with jibab, white jibab, with a long beard,
with a kulfi over their heads, you will
call the 3 of them what?
Terrorists.
Okay?
And and they will be taught, listen sir,
we need to talk to ask you a
couple of questions. And they will be asking
Issa and the 2 Muslim guys for a
week.
They will be asking them questions because,
Issa alaihi salam was Muslim. He looks like
Muslim.
How many of you heard of Sheikh Mohammed
Hassan
from Egypt?
Yes.
Okay. He said in one of his lectures
that I saw on on YouTube
that one day he was in in a
European country, at an airport.
He was dressed in a white robe and
a long beard and Masha'Allah.
So this lady came running at him and
she was saying Jesus Jesus Jesus.
She was talking about this Muslim
brother.
Because he looked like Isa alaihis salam, he
is dressed like Isa alaihis salam. He has
a beard like Isa alaihis salam.
The lady in the middle is Mother Teresa,
who is a catholic nun.
Catholic nuns always dress in this way
to show modesty. So it is not only
Muslim women, it is the modest Christian and
Jewish ladies who are also required to to
wear this.
This verse from the bible comes as a
shock
to many Christians.
Okay.
It's in the book of Corinthians.
Paul says
Paul says,
if a woman
And this is in the bible, in the
book of Corinthians,
it says, if a woman does not cover
her hair in public, she should shave it
off,
like me.
Because it's disgraceful for a lady to uncover
her hair in public.
So it's a question requirement.
So if someone gives you this question, why
Muslim women dress like this?
Tell them the question should be why Christian
ladies are not dressed like this.
Okay.
And, of course, there are different styles for
the hijab,
in different Muslim countries.
We have about 10 minutes. Would you like
to stay, or do you want me to
come, you know, wrap up and and let
you go?
Leave.
Leave?
Leave.
Okay.
Inheritance.
If they tell you that Islam is oppressive
to women,
because a woman gets half of the share
of a man in Islam, tell them that
this is a lie.
Okay.
The rule is
the share of inheritance
in Islam is given according to the person's
closeness to the deceased,
not according to the * of the person.
This is for a fact.
And I'll give you some examples.
Based on this ruling,
there are 3 different shares of inheritance for
women in the Islamic laws of inheritance.
Number 1,
in 2 cases,
a lady will get half of the share
of men in inheritance.
The two cases are,
if I die and I have my son
Ziyal and my daughter Yasmeen, my son will
give twice
the share of my daughter.
If I don't have children and if I
die,
my brother will give twice the share of
my sister.
So these are the 2 cases in the
Islamic laws of inheritance.
There are some cases in the Islamic
Sharia
where
males will get exactly the same share of
females.
Just take this example.
Al
Ikhwaduum.
Say
for example,
this brother, what's your name?
Khaled.
Khaled
was married and now he is divorced.
He has kids
No, no, it's not this case, another case.
If a sister was married,
okay?
And her husband dies or she is divorced
and she has kids,
and she is married to my father,
okay,
then my father dies
or if I die,
then my brothers from my mother's
side.
It actually comes this way. My mother was
married before my father to another man, then
she has children by that married marriage, then
she got married to my father. Okay? It's
a very confusing case.
But anyway,
if my mother
has children from another father, another man, then
she got married to my father,
then these kids are my maternal
brothers and sisters.
If I die,
my brothers and my sisters from my mother's
side get equal share and inheritance.
If my brother from my mother's side gets
5,000,
my sister from my mother's side get 5,000.
And this ruling is mentioned in Surat Al
Baqarah,
chapter 4.
So this is another case.
The third case for women in inheritance,
a woman will get more than the share
of a man. And the fact is the
word woman
is a very broad term.
It could mean a wife, a mother, a
sister, a daughter, a grandmother.
And the word man
could mean anything. A brother, a son, a
father, a husband, a grandfather.
But again,
the share of inheritance is based on the
person's closeness
to the disease, not on the *.
Another ruling in fact that younger generations in
the family get a bigger share of inheritance
than older people. Just look at the different
cases. This is how the laws are applied.
And these are three quick examples of what
I said. In the first case,
a man will get more than a woman.
In the second case, they will get equal
shares.
In the third case, ladies get more
than
males in the family.
For example, in the third case, if I
die and this is a true case.
Say for example, I leave a mother, a
wife,
not really, 2 sons, 2 daughters, 1 brother.
My mother will give one 6 of the
inheritance.
This is
$4,000. My wife will give $18,
3,000.
My 2 sons will give each 2,800.
My 2 daughters, 1,400.
My brother,
who is a male, will get 0.
Will not get a penny from my inheritance.
Now you have my mother has a share,
my wife has a share, my daughters who
are females, all of them, they have a
share. But my brother who is a male
is a man. He gets
0 inheritance. Nothing.
Very briefly, the testimony.
Shahada.
Some people think that in the Islamic
in the Islamic,
the testimony
or the shahada of women is half that
of the men.
This only applies according to many scholars in
one case,
in business transactions.
And the ruling is
men women at that time, they didn't participate
in business, they didn't travel, they didn't conclude
business transactions.
So
the testimony of 2 women at the time
of signing the contract was required.
Not both of them will testify. Only one
of them will sign the contract. The other
one will pick up, be a backup.
If
the people involved in this business transactions
have to go
to the court
at the time of conflict,
then one of them would testify. The other
one would be a backup
in case the first one or the one
who signed the contract
forgot
or if she is pregnant, she is unable
to go to the court or if she
gave birth, she is unable to go to
the court, then the backup will go and
testify.
However,
to
verify the rights of the people, then the
testimony of 1 woman is accepted, not 2.
Say for example,
that a man denies that he got married
to a lady,
then one lady can go and witness that
I witnessed that I saw this man getting
married to this lady, and her testimony will
be accepted.
Number 2,
Fulfiq al Islami
Fulfiq al Islami
verifying
the beginning of the month of Ramadan is
based on what? The sighting of the moon.
So if a man
or a woman
says that I have seen the moon tonight,
then all Muslims have to fast. This is
the ruling iffir.
So the sighting of the moon would be
confirmed by 1 man
at least or one woman, then all Muslims
have to fast.
So in this case, you see the testimony
of 1 woman is accepting is accepted
and it is binding on all Muslims to
follow
the testimony of this one lady. Another example
and I'll let you go in
3, 4 minutes, inshallah.
The highest form of shahada or testimony in
Islam is to say that I heard
the prophet salallahu alaihi wa sallam say this
hadith.
How many women
are reported to have
narrated a hadith from the prophet sallallahu alaihi
wa sallam?
So many.
Aisha radhi lawu anha reported more than 3,000
ahadith, if I remember correctly.
And she is a lady and her testimony
is accepted just like
Abu Barayra or,
Ibn Umar and so on and so forth.
Okay?
So this is the highest score
of shahad in Islamist,
lama takkul
alammad ala maddabul, yani, rawa afulan and the
Nabi sallallahu alaihi wa sallam kal.
Number 3,
there are some cases in search jurisprudence
where the testimony
of women are to be accepted and the
testimony of men is to be rejected.
And this is in some cases related to
women like pregnancy and virginity and so on
and so forth.
And you can find this in the books
of film. Number 3, very quickly.
Polygamy.
They say,
why are Muslim
men
required to marry 4 women
and women are not allowed to marry 4
men.
Okay.
It's a stupid question, but I'll give you
the answer.
To start with,
for a Muslim man to marry more than
one wife is not an obligation. It's only
permissible
if there is a reason
and if some conditions are met, like the
man will be fair to his wives
and he will be able to provide for
them. Otherwise, if the man is not fair,
if the man is not physically and financially
able to provide for the fam, for 2
wives, then it is haram. It is haram
to marry a second wife.
And this is unanimous
among scholars, this opinion.
Number 2,
if you get this question from a Christian
or a Jewish person, tell them this.
With the exception of John the Baptist, Yahya
alaihis salam,
and Jesus Christ,
almost all biblical
prophets
like Ibrahim,
Dawood, Suleiman, all of them, they married more
than one wife.
So the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam didn't
start this.
It was commonly practiced before the prophet sallallahu
alaihi wa sallam.
How many wives did Suleyman alaihi salam have
according to the bible?
No.
1,000.
Yeah. Yes.
I will give you candy anyway.
According to the Bible, the book of Kings,
Soleiman alaihis salam had 700
wives.
700 wives.
He broke records. He made it to the
Genesis, the book of records.
His father his father
his father
his father, David, the wood,
also had many wives. According to some Christian
narrations, he had a 100 wives.
What Islam did Islam is the only book,
and the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam is the
only prophet who says,
marry only 1.
You will never find it in a scripture.
You will never find it said by any
prophet whatsoever.
Marry only 1,
but if there is a reason, marry after
4.
So what Islam did actually is to put
a limit on the number of wives and
to put some conditions for the marriage.
If we're talking about
having
more than one woman,
Muslims are probably the most monogamous people on
earth.
I tell you why.
The great, great, great majority of Muslim men,
they know only 1 woman in their life
time and that is their
wife. The great great great majority of Muslim
women, they know only 1 man in their
lifetime
and that is
their husband.
The reason is in Islam, we don't have
the system of boyfriend, girlfriend stuff, premarital,
extramarital
relationship. This is not acceptable in Islam.
Okay.
A woman
will be more respectful to her husband if
she knows that he is married to another
lady,
then she knows that he has 2 or
3 girlfriends.
I tell you why or how, because ladies
will question what I say.
Compare this, knowing that your husband has a
second wife or he has a mistress or
a girlfriend.
The difference is,
instead of putting
5 bullets in his head, you'll just put
3.
Okay?
So this is the difference. You'll be more
merciful to to your husband.
There was a poll
conducted by ABC news
3, 4 years ago
in the US.
The ladies who were surveyed
in this poll
said that in their adult life,
they have known 6 men
in the US. None Muslims.
The men who were surveyed in this poll,
they said they have known 20 women in
their adult life.
So
I don't know what is the definition of
polygamist, but this to me is polygamy.
In many countries in the world, there are
more women than men. In the US, as
we speak today, there are almost
8,000,000
extra women than men in the US.
8
extra 8,000,000 women more than men in the
US.
This is number 1. Number 2, there are
25
1,000,000
gays in America.
Men who only okay. We have kids. But
anyway
anyway, what are you gonna do with these
ladies if you don't have
boyfriend, girlfriend stuff?
Also,
after war
after war,
you have more women than men.
And the fact is, at the time of
war,
men go to the battlefield and they fight
and they lose their lives and women stay
at home
and chat on Facebook.
Okay.
And correct me if I'm wrong.
This is why we have more women than
men. What are you gonna do with these
women? What are you gonna do with orphans
and widows?
Somebody has to take care of them.
And in the sunnah, the prophet
most of his marriages and we will talk
about this one time inshallah.
Most of the marriages of the prophet salaam
was because
these women
were old,
they had children
and there was no one to provide for
them. And the prophet salallahu alaihi wa sallam
in many instances
would offer the the lady who lost her
husband
to someone in marriage and he would say,
okay,
sorry prophet of Allah.
I have a family
and I'm poor and I can't provide for
this lady and her kids.
In some cases, the prophet salallahu alaihi wa
sallam himself
would have to marry the lady out of
respect for her and her children and her
husband.
Take for example, the
the example of Zaynab Bint Hussain abadhiallahu aneem.
She was very old. She was older than
the prophet salallahu alaihi wasalam,
and no one was willing to marry her.
And according to authentic narrations,
she died
within a month of the marriage to the
prophet salai as salam. She was very sick,
she was very old, no one wanted to
marry her so the prophet salai as salam
volunteered
to marry the lady, although she was much
older than him, and she died within a
few weeks or a month of the marriage.
Okay. These are just a few examples
of the men, famous men, celebrity,
who got busted in the past few years
cheating on their wives.
Okay?
And according to official statistics in the US,
about 60%
60%
of married men in the US
cheat on their wives.
60% of married men in the US cheat
on their wives. And the number of women
who cheat on their husbands is much less.
And the reason is because
it's part of the human nature that men
are more tend to be more polygamous
than women.
Okay.
Politicians
like Bill Clinton and other guys.
Clergy, Jimmy Swaggart, this guy, he was very
I mean he was a a big shot
in televangelism
back in the 19 seventies eighties
in the US. And I think most of
you remember his debate with Ahmad Dadad. How
many of you have seen the debate?
Okay.
At the beginning of the debate with Ahmad
Dadad, Jameiswager, this guy,
this guy,
he was joking with Ahmad Didad and he
says, Islam allows
Muslim men to marry up to 4 wives.
So you can marry an ugly lady,
the first wife, then you can improve a
little bit in the second or third marriage.
But in Christianity,
it only allows 1 wife so you have
to get the best out of the first
shot.
So he was saying basically,
he got the most beautiful woman he,
he was, you know, aware of at that
time. But SubhanAllah, in a few months after
the debate, he was busted with a prostitute
in California.
And he cried, I said forgive me and
this and this. They forgave him. A few
years later, he was busted with another prostitute
in another place, then he closed down his
church and he's out of business now.
Catholic priests, you hear about them all the
time in the
in the news, molesting children and so on
and so forth.
Ted Haggard was also Jay Becker and Ted
Haggard, they also cheated on their wives.
And,
one of them actually, he cheated on his
wife
with another minister's wife.
So that was back in the 19 nineties.
David Letterman
David Letterman, a famous guy in the US,
the the late show with David Letterman.
Last year, he made this confession that he
was cheating with his wife
with,
female producers
in the show,
with
female directors in the show, with female audiences
in the show.
Tiger Woods, of course. And
I
I I saw this this morning in the
news. Dad, what is his name? Arnold Schwarzenegger.
Arnold Schwarzenegger. They know. Okay.
They know.
Arnold Schwarzenegger.
He confessed today
that he fathered
a boy who is 3 years old by
one of his staffers when he was a
governor of California. His wife never heard anything
about this.
Okay.
Sorry. At any given time,
if you go to school, or if you
go to work, or if you are walking
in the streets,
you will get one of these questions that
we mentioned in the lecture.
All I'm trying to do is to give
you some intelligent
answers,
not only to answer the question
but to give some information
about what Islam teaches and what Muslims stand
for. And these are intelligent questions.
Again,
when you speak and when you answer a
question, even if the person asks you a
stupid question,
don't be
mad. Okay? Because this is what the people
see in the media all the time.
You have to give, you have to be
wise, you have to be patient,
you have to be gentle and you have
to give an intelligent answer.
Okay? And this is what the prophet salallahu
alaihi wasallam teaches us and this is what
what the Quran teaches us.
This is my
way. I invite to it with my followers,
with wisdom
and with knowledge. We ask Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala to show us the proper way of
conduct and to give us the best in
this life and the best in the life
to come and to give us sincerity
in
everything we say and do. It's it's dark
outside.
And,
do we have questions?