Mustafa Khattab – Loving for Others What You Love for Yourself

So today, inshallah, we'll continue what we started

in Fulkatul Jum'at.

One of the things that we can learn

from the Sahaba

which is to love for other people

what you love for yourself as reported

in,

the Hadith,

in Bukhari and Muslim by Anas ibn Malik.

Dear love, aanhu, none of you truly believes

until he or she loves for others what

they love for themselves.

So in another version of this hadith, in

that Haysami,

Anas said,

I was sitting with the prophet

one day, and he said, now you truly

believe

until he loves for his brother what he

loves for himself.

So, Allah salallahu alayhi wa'anhu started to practice

this hadith. He went out to the market,

and a person was selling a garment, a

jalabi athaw.

So the man offered the jalabi athaw, this

garment for 30 dirhamah,

30 bucks.

So, Allah

said, no, I will take it for 40.

So the same price of 30, he offered

40. So the man said, may Allah have

mercy on you, and it's just for 30.

Why you offer me 40? He said, no,

I will give you 50.

Because I just heard the prophet say,

none of you truly believes until he loves

for his brother what he loves for for

himself.

The worth of this garment is 50, not

30.

And if I was going to sell it

myself, I would I would sell it for

50, not not for 30. And he gave

him

5th.

So a sign of loving for other people,

what you love for yourself,

is also to hate for them what you

hate for yourself.

Because what what is the point if you

love good things for yourself

and you give your brother Jack?

You'll have also to hate for them what

you hate for for for yourself.

So as important in Muslim, I said to

the prophet,

what is the best time of iman?

So the prophet

says, when you hate

and

you love for Allah

for the sake of Allah.

You love someone, you love their behavior just

because they're obedient to Allah. You don't love

them because

they give you money or they give you

their car

and so on and so forth. You love

them because they are obedient, and you hate

their behavior if they are disobedient to Allah

Then I said, oh, Prophet Muhammad, then what

is next?

So he said, the best life of Imaan

after this is to love for people what

you love for yourself, and you hate for

them what you hate for yourself.

And I give the example

of,

the school students. I was giving them a

talk about brotherhood and stuff,

and I told them at the end now,

we will practice what I've been talking about

for an hour.

I'm gonna throw some candy in the air,

and if you are a true practitioner of

this hadith, you pick the candy and give

it to the guy to your right.

I started to throw the candy

in the air,

and there was blood everywhere.

They almost killed each other off. So I

told them, what did I say just a

few minutes ago? If you love your brother

as you love yourself, you have to give

them what you love for yourself.

Plus, I will give you all candy at

the end. It's not a big deal.

Still, they put in this.

Grown ups, we do the same thing. It's

it's it's nice to say these words that

I love for my brother what I love

for myself, but when it comes to practice,

it's a disaster.

Okay? We love ourselves because we're so self

Another sign

of loving for your your brother and your

sister

is to be worthy of their trust. If

they trust you with, something, you don't betray

them trust, you don't deceive them. Because we,

as Muslims, we like to deal with each

other. We have this

common trust between ourselves.

And I I gave the example of my

brother who are living in the US, and

he wanted to buy a car from one

of those websites that's called Craigslist.

It's very big in the US. It's like

the Gigi here.

So he looked into the cars,

posted on the website. So he he he

saw the cars. Okay. Tom's car, Matthew's car,

this car. Then at the end, he found

Mohammed's car. So he said, this is a

Muslim brother. I'm gonna buy this car. You

know, we will make it easy for me.

He's not gonna lie to me or anything.

So he drove for, like, 45 minutes to

buy the car. He got the car from

the brother, and he said, is the car

okay? And he said, yes. It's a fantastic

car. So the brother gave him the money,

top dollar,

cash.

By the time he went home, the the

door of the car started to fall down

and started started to smoke.

And and he realized that the brother

had missed with,

mileage of the car.

So he lied to him a big time.

He deceived him. And for weeks weeks, this

brother

tried to call the other brother, Mohammed, or

whatever his name was, to return the car,

and the other one, of course, he he

threw away his phone, and he was not

answering the the phone.

Eventually, I think I heard he he he,

eventually he spoke to him, and he said,

okay, I can't give you the money back,

like in one piece. I I'm gonna give

it by the Soviets over 5 years or

10 years or something. You gotta wait. Okay?

I don't have the money. I'll spend it.

What can I do?

You have to be worthy of the trust.

So a buyer or a potential buyer came

to him to buy the donkey, so he

said, would you buy this donkey yourself if

if someone is offering this donkey for sale?

Would you buy it to yourself?

He said, if I was happy with this

donkey, if I was satisfied with it, I

wouldn't have sold it. The reason I'm selling

it is because it's a piece of junk.

Okay?

Okay. This is the reason I'm selling it.

And he knew that if he told this

to to the guy, he would never buy

it. But still,

being honest

is more is more important for him than

selling his coffee.

I'm gonna conclude with this. We'll continue next

time.

The last thing,

you love for people what you love for

yourself. If you are in a good position

to have a Muslim brother to get a

job, whether you work in a company, a

dealership, and whatever,

you love for them what you love for

yourself.

But the problem is some some brothers tell

me, okay, I help this brother. I bring

him to work with me.

Then he would sneak behind my back and

go to goes to the employer and tell

him, okay, fire this guy. I'm gonna do

double the job. I'm gonna give half of

the salary.

And the first, the brother would come to

me and complain, okay,

is this how the brother pays me for

bringing him to the job?

We shouldn't be doing it this way. We

shouldn't look at the other successful examples in

the Canadian society or even in North America,

like the Croatian people, the Chinese

people, the Jews in America, Canada.

They help each other.

They help each other. If I work in

a department they need the PhD students,

I spread the work in my community. I

try to bring them to work with me

in my company, at school, here and there,

and they become one one and one brotherhood.

They help each other. And this is why

they are successful because they know that the

key to success

is unity.

This is something that Muslims and Arabs

need to work on. We need to love

for other people what we love first for

ourselves. To be successful as a community, we

have to be united.

Forget about your color, forget about your tribalism,

forget about your village or country, forget about

your tribe and your family. Love for other

people, what you love for yourself, this is

the key to success. Yes, Allah Subhanahu Wa

Ta'ala, and Wa Alibana wa Farooqinu