Mustafa Khattab – Loving for Others What You Love for Yourself
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The importance of loving for others and hateing for oneself is emphasized in Muslim. It is important to trust and give what one loves for, as mistakes are made by others. The speaker gives examples of love for their brother's behavior, hate for their car, and love their sister's. They encourage their brother to be worthy of their trust and give what they love for. The speaker emphasizes that learning to love one is a disaster and practicing means a disaster. The speaker also discusses selling a donkey to their brother, but selling it to themselves. The importance of trusting and giving what one loves for is emphasized.
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So today, inshallah, we'll continue what we started
in Fulkatul Jum'at.
One of the things that we can learn
from the Sahaba
which is to love for other people
what you love for yourself as reported
in,
the Hadith,
in Bukhari and Muslim by Anas ibn Malik.
Dear love, aanhu, none of you truly believes
until he or she loves for others what
they love for themselves.
So in another version of this hadith, in
that Haysami,
Anas said,
I was sitting with the prophet
one day, and he said, now you truly
believe
until he loves for his brother what he
loves for himself.
So, Allah salallahu alayhi wa'anhu started to practice
this hadith. He went out to the market,
and a person was selling a garment, a
jalabi athaw.
So the man offered the jalabi athaw, this
garment for 30 dirhamah,
30 bucks.
So, Allah
said, no, I will take it for 40.
So the same price of 30, he offered
40. So the man said, may Allah have
mercy on you, and it's just for 30.
Why you offer me 40? He said, no,
I will give you 50.
Because I just heard the prophet say,
none of you truly believes until he loves
for his brother what he loves for for
himself.
The worth of this garment is 50, not
30.
And if I was going to sell it
myself, I would I would sell it for
50, not not for 30. And he gave
him
5th.
So a sign of loving for other people,
what you love for yourself,
is also to hate for them what you
hate for yourself.
Because what what is the point if you
love good things for yourself
and you give your brother Jack?
You'll have also to hate for them what
you hate for for for yourself.
So as important in Muslim, I said to
the prophet,
what is the best time of iman?
So the prophet
says, when you hate
and
you love for Allah
for the sake of Allah.
You love someone, you love their behavior just
because they're obedient to Allah. You don't love
them because
they give you money or they give you
their car
and so on and so forth. You love
them because they are obedient, and you hate
their behavior if they are disobedient to Allah
Then I said, oh, Prophet Muhammad, then what
is next?
So he said, the best life of Imaan
after this is to love for people what
you love for yourself, and you hate for
them what you hate for yourself.
And I give the example
of,
the school students. I was giving them a
talk about brotherhood and stuff,
and I told them at the end now,
we will practice what I've been talking about
for an hour.
I'm gonna throw some candy in the air,
and if you are a true practitioner of
this hadith, you pick the candy and give
it to the guy to your right.
I started to throw the candy
in the air,
and there was blood everywhere.
They almost killed each other off. So I
told them, what did I say just a
few minutes ago? If you love your brother
as you love yourself, you have to give
them what you love for yourself.
Plus, I will give you all candy at
the end. It's not a big deal.
Still, they put in this.
Grown ups, we do the same thing. It's
it's it's nice to say these words that
I love for my brother what I love
for myself, but when it comes to practice,
it's a disaster.
Okay? We love ourselves because we're so self
Another sign
of loving for your your brother and your
sister
is to be worthy of their trust. If
they trust you with, something, you don't betray
them trust, you don't deceive them. Because we,
as Muslims, we like to deal with each
other. We have this
common trust between ourselves.
And I I gave the example of my
brother who are living in the US, and
he wanted to buy a car from one
of those websites that's called Craigslist.
It's very big in the US. It's like
the Gigi here.
So he looked into the cars,
posted on the website. So he he he
saw the cars. Okay. Tom's car, Matthew's car,
this car. Then at the end, he found
Mohammed's car. So he said, this is a
Muslim brother. I'm gonna buy this car. You
know, we will make it easy for me.
He's not gonna lie to me or anything.
So he drove for, like, 45 minutes to
buy the car. He got the car from
the brother, and he said, is the car
okay? And he said, yes. It's a fantastic
car. So the brother gave him the money,
top dollar,
cash.
By the time he went home, the the
door of the car started to fall down
and started started to smoke.
And and he realized that the brother
had missed with,
mileage of the car.
So he lied to him a big time.
He deceived him. And for weeks weeks, this
brother
tried to call the other brother, Mohammed, or
whatever his name was, to return the car,
and the other one, of course, he he
threw away his phone, and he was not
answering the the phone.
Eventually, I think I heard he he he,
eventually he spoke to him, and he said,
okay, I can't give you the money back,
like in one piece. I I'm gonna give
it by the Soviets over 5 years or
10 years or something. You gotta wait. Okay?
I don't have the money. I'll spend it.
What can I do?
You have to be worthy of the trust.
So a buyer or a potential buyer came
to him to buy the donkey, so he
said, would you buy this donkey yourself if
if someone is offering this donkey for sale?
Would you buy it to yourself?
He said, if I was happy with this
donkey, if I was satisfied with it, I
wouldn't have sold it. The reason I'm selling
it is because it's a piece of junk.
Okay?
Okay. This is the reason I'm selling it.
And he knew that if he told this
to to the guy, he would never buy
it. But still,
being honest
is more is more important for him than
selling his coffee.
I'm gonna conclude with this. We'll continue next
time.
The last thing,
you love for people what you love for
yourself. If you are in a good position
to have a Muslim brother to get a
job, whether you work in a company, a
dealership, and whatever,
you love for them what you love for
yourself.
But the problem is some some brothers tell
me, okay, I help this brother. I bring
him to work with me.
Then he would sneak behind my back and
go to goes to the employer and tell
him, okay, fire this guy. I'm gonna do
double the job. I'm gonna give half of
the salary.
And the first, the brother would come to
me and complain, okay,
is this how the brother pays me for
bringing him to the job?
We shouldn't be doing it this way. We
shouldn't look at the other successful examples in
the Canadian society or even in North America,
like the Croatian people, the Chinese
people, the Jews in America, Canada.
They help each other.
They help each other. If I work in
a department they need the PhD students,
I spread the work in my community. I
try to bring them to work with me
in my company, at school, here and there,
and they become one one and one brotherhood.
They help each other. And this is why
they are successful because they know that the
key to success
is unity.
This is something that Muslims and Arabs
need to work on. We need to love
for other people what we love first for
ourselves. To be successful as a community, we
have to be united.
Forget about your color, forget about your tribalism,
forget about your village or country, forget about
your tribe and your family. Love for other
people, what you love for yourself, this is
the key to success. Yes, Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala, and Wa Alibana wa Farooqinu