Mustafa Khattab – Loving for Others What You Love for Yourself

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The importance of loving for others and hateing for oneself is emphasized in Muslim. It is important to trust and give what one loves for, as mistakes are made by others. The speaker gives examples of love for their brother's behavior, hate for their car, and love their sister's. They encourage their brother to be worthy of their trust and give what they love for. The speaker emphasizes that learning to love one is a disaster and practicing means a disaster. The speaker also discusses selling a donkey to their brother, but selling it to themselves. The importance of trusting and giving what one loves for is emphasized.

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			So today, inshallah, we'll continue what we started
		
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			in Fulkatul Jum'at.
		
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			One of the things that we can learn
		
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			from the Sahaba
		
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			which is to love for other people
		
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			what you love for yourself as reported
		
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			in,
		
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			the Hadith,
		
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			in Bukhari and Muslim by Anas ibn Malik.
		
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			Dear love, aanhu, none of you truly believes
		
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			until he or she loves for others what
		
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			they love for themselves.
		
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			So in another version of this hadith, in
		
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			that Haysami,
		
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			Anas said,
		
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			I was sitting with the prophet
		
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			one day, and he said, now you truly
		
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			believe
		
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			until he loves for his brother what he
		
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			loves for himself.
		
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			So, Allah salallahu alayhi wa'anhu started to practice
		
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			this hadith. He went out to the market,
		
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			and a person was selling a garment, a
		
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			jalabi athaw.
		
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			So the man offered the jalabi athaw, this
		
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			garment for 30 dirhamah,
		
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			30 bucks.
		
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			So, Allah
		
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			said, no, I will take it for 40.
		
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			So the same price of 30, he offered
		
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			40. So the man said, may Allah have
		
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			mercy on you, and it's just for 30.
		
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			Why you offer me 40? He said, no,
		
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			I will give you 50.
		
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			Because I just heard the prophet say,
		
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			none of you truly believes until he loves
		
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			for his brother what he loves for for
		
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			himself.
		
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			The worth of this garment is 50, not
		
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			30.
		
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			And if I was going to sell it
		
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			myself, I would I would sell it for
		
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			50, not not for 30. And he gave
		
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			him
		
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			5th.
		
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			So a sign of loving for other people,
		
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			what you love for yourself,
		
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			is also to hate for them what you
		
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			hate for yourself.
		
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			Because what what is the point if you
		
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			love good things for yourself
		
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			and you give your brother Jack?
		
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			You'll have also to hate for them what
		
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			you hate for for for yourself.
		
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			So as important in Muslim, I said to
		
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			the prophet,
		
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			what is the best time of iman?
		
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			So the prophet
		
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			says, when you hate
		
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			and
		
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			you love for Allah
		
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			for the sake of Allah.
		
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			You love someone, you love their behavior just
		
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			because they're obedient to Allah. You don't love
		
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			them because
		
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			they give you money or they give you
		
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			their car
		
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			and so on and so forth. You love
		
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			them because they are obedient, and you hate
		
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			their behavior if they are disobedient to Allah
		
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			Then I said, oh, Prophet Muhammad, then what
		
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			is next?
		
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			So he said, the best life of Imaan
		
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			after this is to love for people what
		
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			you love for yourself, and you hate for
		
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			them what you hate for yourself.
		
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			And I give the example
		
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			of,
		
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			the school students. I was giving them a
		
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			talk about brotherhood and stuff,
		
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			and I told them at the end now,
		
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			we will practice what I've been talking about
		
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			for an hour.
		
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			I'm gonna throw some candy in the air,
		
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			and if you are a true practitioner of
		
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			this hadith, you pick the candy and give
		
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			it to the guy to your right.
		
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			I started to throw the candy
		
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			in the air,
		
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			and there was blood everywhere.
		
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			They almost killed each other off. So I
		
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			told them, what did I say just a
		
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			few minutes ago? If you love your brother
		
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			as you love yourself, you have to give
		
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			them what you love for yourself.
		
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			Plus, I will give you all candy at
		
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			the end. It's not a big deal.
		
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			Still, they put in this.
		
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			Grown ups, we do the same thing. It's
		
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			it's it's nice to say these words that
		
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			I love for my brother what I love
		
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			for myself, but when it comes to practice,
		
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			it's a disaster.
		
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			Okay? We love ourselves because we're so self
		
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			Another sign
		
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			of loving for your your brother and your
		
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			sister
		
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			is to be worthy of their trust. If
		
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			they trust you with, something, you don't betray
		
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			them trust, you don't deceive them. Because we,
		
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			as Muslims, we like to deal with each
		
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			other. We have this
		
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			common trust between ourselves.
		
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			And I I gave the example of my
		
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			brother who are living in the US, and
		
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			he wanted to buy a car from one
		
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			of those websites that's called Craigslist.
		
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			It's very big in the US. It's like
		
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			the Gigi here.
		
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			So he looked into the cars,
		
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			posted on the website. So he he he
		
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			saw the cars. Okay. Tom's car, Matthew's car,
		
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			this car. Then at the end, he found
		
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			Mohammed's car. So he said, this is a
		
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			Muslim brother. I'm gonna buy this car. You
		
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			know, we will make it easy for me.
		
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			He's not gonna lie to me or anything.
		
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			So he drove for, like, 45 minutes to
		
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			buy the car. He got the car from
		
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			the brother, and he said, is the car
		
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			okay? And he said, yes. It's a fantastic
		
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			car. So the brother gave him the money,
		
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			top dollar,
		
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			cash.
		
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			By the time he went home, the the
		
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			door of the car started to fall down
		
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			and started started to smoke.
		
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			And and he realized that the brother
		
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			had missed with,
		
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			mileage of the car.
		
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			So he lied to him a big time.
		
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			He deceived him. And for weeks weeks, this
		
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			brother
		
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			tried to call the other brother, Mohammed, or
		
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			whatever his name was, to return the car,
		
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			and the other one, of course, he he
		
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			threw away his phone, and he was not
		
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			answering the the phone.
		
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			Eventually, I think I heard he he he,
		
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			eventually he spoke to him, and he said,
		
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			okay, I can't give you the money back,
		
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			like in one piece. I I'm gonna give
		
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			it by the Soviets over 5 years or
		
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			10 years or something. You gotta wait. Okay?
		
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			I don't have the money. I'll spend it.
		
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			What can I do?
		
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			You have to be worthy of the trust.
		
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			So a buyer or a potential buyer came
		
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			to him to buy the donkey, so he
		
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			said, would you buy this donkey yourself if
		
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			if someone is offering this donkey for sale?
		
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			Would you buy it to yourself?
		
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			He said, if I was happy with this
		
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			donkey, if I was satisfied with it, I
		
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			wouldn't have sold it. The reason I'm selling
		
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			it is because it's a piece of junk.
		
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			Okay?
		
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			Okay. This is the reason I'm selling it.
		
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			And he knew that if he told this
		
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			to to the guy, he would never buy
		
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			it. But still,
		
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			being honest
		
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			is more is more important for him than
		
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			selling his coffee.
		
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			I'm gonna conclude with this. We'll continue next
		
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			time.
		
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			The last thing,
		
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			you love for people what you love for
		
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			yourself. If you are in a good position
		
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			to have a Muslim brother to get a
		
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			job, whether you work in a company, a
		
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			dealership, and whatever,
		
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			you love for them what you love for
		
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			yourself.
		
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			But the problem is some some brothers tell
		
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			me, okay, I help this brother. I bring
		
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			him to work with me.
		
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			Then he would sneak behind my back and
		
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			go to goes to the employer and tell
		
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			him, okay, fire this guy. I'm gonna do
		
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			double the job. I'm gonna give half of
		
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			the salary.
		
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			And the first, the brother would come to
		
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			me and complain, okay,
		
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			is this how the brother pays me for
		
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			bringing him to the job?
		
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			We shouldn't be doing it this way. We
		
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			shouldn't look at the other successful examples in
		
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			the Canadian society or even in North America,
		
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			like the Croatian people, the Chinese
		
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			people, the Jews in America, Canada.
		
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			They help each other.
		
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			They help each other. If I work in
		
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			a department they need the PhD students,
		
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			I spread the work in my community. I
		
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			try to bring them to work with me
		
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			in my company, at school, here and there,
		
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			and they become one one and one brotherhood.
		
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			They help each other. And this is why
		
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			they are successful because they know that the
		
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			key to success
		
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			is unity.
		
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			This is something that Muslims and Arabs
		
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			need to work on. We need to love
		
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			for other people what we love first for
		
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			ourselves. To be successful as a community, we
		
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			have to be united.
		
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			Forget about your color, forget about your tribalism,
		
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			forget about your village or country, forget about
		
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			your tribe and your family. Love for other
		
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			people, what you love for yourself, this is
		
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			the key to success. Yes, Allah Subhanahu Wa
		
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			Ta'ala, and Wa Alibana wa Farooqinu