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The importance of speaking wisely and caring about people's feelings and emotions in Islam is emphasized. The use of " sight and touch" to signal when people are being approached by a good person or idea is emphasized. It is also important to be careful when discussing personal information and avoiding negative consequences. The speaker emphasizes the importance of sharing one's emotions and emotions to avoid negative consequences and mentions a story about a man who cried and apologized, leading to breaking families and relationships.

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			The the people, they don't know their rights,
		
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			and they don't know their obligations.
		
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			One of the reasons why people have problems
		
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			in in their lives, especially with their brothers
		
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			and sisters,
		
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			is that they don't know how to use
		
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			their time.
		
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			Okay? So this is how they have problems.
		
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			They don't know the right thing. They don't
		
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			have shiqa when they speak. They don't speak
		
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			wisely.
		
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			And you will see a lot of emphasis
		
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			in the Quran and in the sunnah on
		
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			this particular topic.
		
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			Speaking wisely and
		
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			caring about people's feelings and emotions is mentioned
		
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			in the Quran, Surah Al Asa,
		
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			surah number 17. Allah
		
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			is telling the prophet tells
		
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			the believers
		
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			to say what is best.
		
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			Otherwise, shaitan would be spreading hostility
		
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			between them. So it is there in the
		
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			Quran. We read in the sunnah that the
		
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			prophet says that a good word is a
		
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			salah, is a chair.
		
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			Watch your tongue. The tongue is the thing
		
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			that leads people to Jahannam all the time.
		
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			The Hadid of Mo'az is there wa ta'ala.
		
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			These are everywhere.
		
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			Even in Canada, this is kinda like the
		
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			Western general.
		
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			They use use eviscing all the time in
		
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			magaz, mizav, okay. When they talk about something
		
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			bad,
		
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			they try to use nice words to convey
		
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			something horrible in a very nice way.
		
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			So, say for example, if someone is talking
		
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			to another and that other is a liar,
		
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			they they don't usually tell the person you
		
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			are a liar. They usually say, well, you
		
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			are not telling the truth.
		
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			Why? Because they use they use nice words.
		
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			And even they use it with ham things
		
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			all the time.
		
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			Veyba interest,
		
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			they call it interest. Not usually they call
		
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			it interest, because it's a beautiful name. They
		
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			talk when they talk about alcohol, they call
		
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			it spirits.
		
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			It's a good thing. I mean, the word
		
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			is good.
		
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			Again, this is just like putting lipstick with
		
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			a pig. It will always be a pig.
		
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			But they try
		
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			to speak about things in a nice way.
		
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			Boyfriend girlfriend relationships, they are called fornication in
		
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			Islam, an idiom thing, but they call it,
		
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			you know, a relationship or friendship or whatever.
		
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			Friendship. This is what they call it. Boyfriend,
		
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			girlfriend, relationship.
		
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			So they use these things to talk about
		
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			terrible things, and they make them look nice.
		
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			So what about good things in Islam?
		
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			Will we have more right to use nice
		
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			words when we talk about them? I remember
		
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			a long time ago, I mentioned the story
		
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			of Omar Ibn Abdelazizar of the law when
		
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			he was sick,
		
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			and this guy came to visit him. So
		
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			Omar Al Akhir was terribly sick. So the
		
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			man asked him, what's your illness? What's your
		
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			problem? He said, will I have this illness?
		
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			I don't know. Cancer? I don't know. Fever?
		
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			Something. He told him something. He said,
		
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			said, well, if you
		
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			visit the sick,
		
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			don't talk to them about the death.
		
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			And if you get out of here, you
		
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			never come back. Okay. Because the worst made
		
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			a huge difference.
		
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			There's this story
		
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			mentioned in a long time ago, it was
		
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			a king who had a vision, and he
		
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			invited people to interpret the vision for him
		
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			told Tasir.
		
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			So one of them said, well,
		
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			he saw his seed falling in the dream.
		
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			So usually in the competition of the dreams,
		
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			they say, well, somebody's gonna die in the
		
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			family.
		
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			So the first man said, well,
		
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			your family will die and you will have
		
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			die after them. So he said, kick him
		
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			out. Then another scholar came and he said,
		
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			well,
		
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			you're you you you will live longer than
		
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			your family. It's exactly the same thing that
		
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			his family will die first, that he will
		
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			die last. So, he told him, you will
		
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			live longer than any member of your family.
		
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			It's exactly the same thing, but in a
		
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			better
		
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			way. So,
		
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			when we talk to people,
		
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			we need to use this filter in our
		
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			mouth, in our brains before we talk. And
		
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			believe me,
		
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			if you do this thing, you put that
		
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			finger on a filter in your hand or
		
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			filter in your mouth,
		
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			then you're not gonna say 85%
		
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			of what you're planning to say.
		
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			You see like 36
		
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			piece? I don't know how many teeth you
		
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			have. Gates after gates just to to just
		
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			to protect your tongue from talking nonsense or
		
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			saying something that you might regret later.
		
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			So he said,
		
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			think about people's feelings and emotions when you
		
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			talk to them.
		
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			You don't talk to someone who is poor
		
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			and you talk about your money in front
		
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			of them because you're gonna hurt their feelings.
		
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			You visit someone in the hospital
		
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			and
		
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			you talk to them about
		
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			the 300 push ups you do. You're hurting
		
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			their fields. When you talk to someone who
		
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			doesn't have kids and you start boasting about
		
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			your children, what is that supposed to mean?
		
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			If you talk to someone who just lost
		
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			his father and you talk about how much
		
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			you love your dad, what is that supposed
		
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			to mean? You're hurting you're hurting their feelings.
		
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			And,
		
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			the prophet Muhammad was very careful when he
		
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			spoke to the sahab. He always
		
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			said nice things about them. He always
		
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			chose,
		
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			he always choose his words carefully, chose his
		
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			words when he spoke to them, and he
		
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			always lifted their morale.
		
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			We read, for example, in the Hadith the
		
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			site that maybe
		
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			still he made me feel important when he
		
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			said make Dua for me please, brother.
		
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			So he made me feel very good about
		
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			myself.
		
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			You read in the story, Sayyid Musa Adhimat
		
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			And you know what happened in in the
		
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			in the world. He was the reason
		
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			why Muslims didn't win at Urq. Certainly, the
		
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			mountain because of the archers. You know this
		
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			story.
		
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			A few years later
		
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			someone told him
		
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			that the prophet
		
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			said, above you this.
		
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			He said,
		
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			should not fail to realize the value of
		
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			Islam. And if he ever comes to me,
		
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			I will honor him.
		
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			So he came to the prophet and he
		
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			accepted Islam just because he heard this word,
		
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			and the story is there in Nasir.
		
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			So, speaking nicely to the people and caring
		
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			about them and caring about their emotions.
		
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			Also,
		
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			the feelings of the people.
		
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			Not scratching the dignity of someone and saying
		
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			something
		
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			terrible to them that would hurt their feelings
		
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			and
		
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			will make them feel miserable.
		
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			There's this story we read about Mafdi, where
		
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			a man used to go to his neighbor
		
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			every month and give him salafah. His neighbor
		
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			was poor.
		
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			So one month he forgot to give salatah
		
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			to his neighbor.
		
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			So the neighbor came, and it was the
		
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			first time that the neighbor came to knock
		
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			on his neighbor's door, this caller, and asked
		
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			for salatah. He said, well, I didn't ask
		
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			for it for 2 days, so please give
		
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			me something.
		
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			I'll let him, you know, Lord himself will
		
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			come and and ask me.
		
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			The lay of the
		
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			place
		
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			of the law on Kevin
		
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			Aliyah and Nadim.
		
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			He was a very rich man,
		
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			you know. And it is a good thing
		
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			to talk to you a lot and ask
		
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			her about things. Why why is this happening?
		
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			Why nobody is visiting me when I'm sick?
		
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			So she said, because they owe you a
		
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			lot of money, so they are ashamed
		
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			to come to visit you because this will
		
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			remind
		
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			them
		
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			of the money they owe you. So, I
		
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			said, okay. He sent someone
		
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			to announce in the streets of Madera that
		
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			whoever owes money to Kais and Nisa, this
		
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			money is forgiven.
		
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			It's waived. You don't have to pay the
		
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			internet.
		
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			They said that the people rushed to his
		
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			house to visit him after the announcement.
		
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			So many people went, so much so that
		
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			the, the stairs of the house, they crumpled.
		
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			They filled out because there were so many
		
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			people.
		
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			People and sharing their emotions and their feelings.
		
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			And the prophet did the same thing all
		
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			the time. If someone
		
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			died somewhere, he would
		
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			visit them, and he will show his sorrow
		
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			and because he's standing by the side in
		
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			different times.
		
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			If there was a win, he was the
		
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			1st one to be there to congratulate them.
		
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			So sharing people's feelings and emotions is a
		
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			good thing. And it's a good thing that
		
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			you feel that people appreciate what you do.
		
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			It's a good thing that when you feel
		
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			that people care about you, that you have
		
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			people who stand by your side, people who
		
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			support you in good times and in difficult
		
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			times.
		
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			So, Abulai Radawa was sitting one day, he
		
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			was sick and he was sleeping on his
		
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			wife's lap. He put her head in his
		
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			head with his wife's lap. So,
		
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			all of a sudden he started to cry.
		
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			She said, well,
		
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			you know, and she started to cry. But
		
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			she didn't ask him why are you crying?
		
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			She started to cry.
		
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			So
		
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			he said, do you know why I cried?
		
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			She said, well, I don't know.
		
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			He said, I cried because I remember this
		
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			ayah in the Quran by meekul in the
		
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			way to have khanama.
		
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			That every single one of you would pass
		
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			over the land and the bridge.
		
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			So I was not sure if I will
		
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			make it safely to the other side or
		
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			I would just fall into her husband. So
		
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			this is why I cried.
		
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			So he he asked her why did you
		
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			cry? She said I saw you crying, I
		
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			started to cry.
		
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			So these feelings and sharing emotions between husband
		
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			and wife are also good, and a lot
		
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			of families are collapsing because of the lack
		
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			of this.
		
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			The guy is coming from work and he's
		
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			miserable, and the wife, okay. We need to
		
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			pay the bills. We need to do this.
		
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			Why don't you buy a car for me
		
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			like my neighbor's wife? And, you know, take
		
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			it easy on the on the person. And
		
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			the brothers do the same thing with their
		
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			wives as well. Not caring,
		
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			not being considerate of their emotions.
		
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			Like, they're asking them, you know, how to
		
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			you shouldn't talk to your mom, you shouldn't
		
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			check, you know, look after your family, you
		
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			shouldn't help your wife. Okay. And all these
		
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			things and all these things that lead to
		
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			the, you know, the breaking of families.
		
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			I remember a story. I'm gonna conclude with
		
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			this inshallah.
		
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			One of the brothers was coming,
		
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			late in Ramadan. He he works night shift
		
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			in Ramadan, and he finishes that many times.
		
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			So he went to Oman, he was tired.
		
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			So he said to Mishba, would you please
		
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			put the carpet for me because I'm gonna
		
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			pray before I sleep?
		
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			So she said, well, Sharia says, you have
		
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			to go and play taweeh in the masher.
		
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			Well,
		
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			Sharia also says that I can nigh up
		
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			to 4 wives.
		
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			So she said, do you like the carving
		
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			to feed in the living room or the
		
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			kitchen?
		
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			Okay. Caring about people and caring about emotions,
		
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			and this will lead to happiness happiness
		
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			and and harmony between Muslims,
		
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			your friends,
		
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			other Muslims, and also family members.
		
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			All
		
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			the,
		
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			the money collected today will go to our
		
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			brothers and sisters in Kashmir. They