Mustafa Khattab – Kids No Kidding

Mustafa Khattab
Share Page

AI: Summary ©

The importance of manners and good manners in shaping children for the future is emphasized, along with the need to prepare children for the future with proper manners, including learning to read and write Islam. The speaker warns against calling 911 and advises parents to not hesitate to call their children when they are young. Leading by example and showing faith in Islam are crucial, and cultural differences are warned of the potential consequences of lying to police and the need to be aware of cultural differences.

AI: Summary ©

00:03:42 --> 00:03:43
			So he said, no. No. If you're not
		
00:03:43 --> 00:03:46
			saying based on something you saw in your
		
00:03:46 --> 00:03:48
			own eyes. He said, well,
		
00:03:48 --> 00:03:50
			Omid Abu Adi, who was a Khalifa,
		
00:03:51 --> 00:03:54
			when he died, he left 11 children.
		
00:03:54 --> 00:03:55
			And he left
		
00:03:56 --> 00:03:56
			for
		
00:03:56 --> 00:03:57
			18 dinars.
		
00:03:58 --> 00:03:59
			They used
		
00:04:00 --> 00:04:02
			9 dinars, half of the money, to buy
		
00:04:02 --> 00:04:05
			a grave and a shroud for him,
		
00:04:05 --> 00:04:06
			and they distributed
		
00:04:06 --> 00:04:09
			9 dinars among his children. So each child
		
00:04:09 --> 00:04:11
			got less than 1 dinar.
		
00:04:12 --> 00:04:13
			And
		
00:04:13 --> 00:04:16
			Hisham al Ahmed Ali who was also a
		
00:04:16 --> 00:04:19
			hariba died and he left 11 children, the
		
00:04:19 --> 00:04:21
			same number of children.
		
00:04:21 --> 00:04:24
			And he left for each child a 1,000,000
		
00:04:24 --> 00:04:25
			nira. 1,000,000 nira.
		
00:04:26 --> 00:04:29
			And he said, on the same day, I
		
00:04:29 --> 00:04:31
			saw 1 of the children of Omar ibn
		
00:04:31 --> 00:04:32
			Ablazes
		
00:04:33 --> 00:04:34
			giving for Tisavila
		
00:04:35 --> 00:04:36
			a 100 horses
		
00:04:36 --> 00:04:37
			as salatah,
		
00:04:37 --> 00:04:39
			and I saw one of the children of
		
00:04:39 --> 00:04:42
			misha al makr al Nabi who got more
		
00:04:42 --> 00:04:44
			than a 1,000,000 in
		
00:04:44 --> 00:04:45
			inheritance,
		
00:04:45 --> 00:04:46
			each one of them.
		
00:04:47 --> 00:04:50
			So some of them begging people for salatah
		
00:04:50 --> 00:04:51
			in this space.
		
00:05:44 --> 00:05:47
			And the best legacy you can leave for
		
00:05:47 --> 00:05:49
			your children is with manners. This is the
		
00:05:49 --> 00:05:51
			best thing you can leave them.
		
00:05:52 --> 00:05:53
			Some of us assume
		
00:05:53 --> 00:05:56
			because we're good people, we came from good
		
00:05:56 --> 00:05:56
			families.
		
00:06:39 --> 00:06:41
			Or because sometimes
		
00:06:41 --> 00:06:43
			you bring them to the rajid, you know,
		
00:06:43 --> 00:06:45
			to write all these things. You have to
		
00:06:45 --> 00:06:47
			teach them. You have to prepare them for
		
00:06:47 --> 00:06:50
			the future. And Islam or good manners, this
		
00:06:50 --> 00:06:51
			is the best thing you can leave for
		
00:06:51 --> 00:06:53
			your children. We are not in a Muslim
		
00:06:53 --> 00:06:54
			country.
		
00:06:55 --> 00:06:57
			And the bad influence
		
00:06:57 --> 00:06:58
			is everywhere.
		
00:06:59 --> 00:07:01
			So you have to prepare them for the
		
00:07:01 --> 00:07:04
			future because they are the ones who will
		
00:07:04 --> 00:07:06
			carry Islam and will carry the message after
		
00:07:06 --> 00:07:09
			we leave this gun. So make sure I'm
		
00:07:09 --> 00:07:11
			gonna value them a good legacy.
		
00:07:12 --> 00:07:14
			It is hard to change our children when
		
00:07:14 --> 00:07:16
			they grow older, when they are 7 or
		
00:07:16 --> 00:07:17
			9 or maybe
		
00:07:18 --> 00:07:20
			5 or 6. It's hard to change them
		
00:07:20 --> 00:07:22
			once they get used to something.
		
00:07:22 --> 00:07:23
			It's hard to
		
00:07:24 --> 00:07:26
			change. So make sure as soon as they
		
00:07:26 --> 00:07:28
			start to speak, you teach them something about
		
00:07:28 --> 00:07:30
			Islam. You teach them salah, you teach them
		
00:07:30 --> 00:07:32
			some Quran, teach them some manners.
		
00:08:20 --> 00:08:23
			When they are trolled, it's very very hard
		
00:08:23 --> 00:08:25
			to change them. It's impossible.
		
00:08:25 --> 00:08:27
			They go to public school, they teach them
		
00:08:27 --> 00:08:30
			things and their friends. It's hard to change
		
00:08:31 --> 00:08:32
			but once you teach them when they are
		
00:08:32 --> 00:08:35
			young it's not part of their system, part
		
00:08:35 --> 00:08:37
			of their routine. It will be easy, you
		
00:08:37 --> 00:08:39
			know, to to guide them on the Surah
		
00:08:39 --> 00:08:41
			Al Muslak. But if you don't teach them
		
00:08:41 --> 00:08:43
			anything when they are young,
		
00:08:43 --> 00:08:45
			you don't teach them Quran or anything about
		
00:08:45 --> 00:08:46
			Islam, and they roll over and
		
00:08:48 --> 00:08:48
			you don't teach him Quran or anything about
		
00:08:48 --> 00:08:49
			Islam and you go older and you come
		
00:08:49 --> 00:08:49
			to complain to me all my kids don't
		
00:08:49 --> 00:08:52
			cry, my kids don't fast, my kids don't
		
00:08:52 --> 00:08:54
			respect me. What can I do for you?
		
00:08:54 --> 00:08:56
			It's it's too late now.
		
00:08:56 --> 00:08:57
			And sometimes
		
00:08:58 --> 00:09:00
			when you try to shame them when when
		
00:09:00 --> 00:09:02
			you're older come to me when you try
		
00:09:02 --> 00:09:03
			to change them when you're older come to
		
00:09:03 --> 00:09:04
			me to the masjid or do this or
		
00:09:04 --> 00:09:05
			do that. Some of them they will become
		
00:09:05 --> 00:09:06
			so resistant.
		
00:09:06 --> 00:09:07
			Do not call 911.
		
00:09:08 --> 00:09:09
			Ah, he's pushing me around.
		
00:09:10 --> 00:09:11
			And
		
00:09:11 --> 00:09:14
			we get scared because we're not originally from
		
00:09:14 --> 00:09:17
			here. Some of you still are permanent residents
		
00:09:17 --> 00:09:19
			or in a visa. But as soon as
		
00:09:19 --> 00:09:21
			your kids are born they have their status.
		
00:09:21 --> 00:09:24
			They have more rights. Thank you.
		
00:09:24 --> 00:09:27
			Maybe you will, you realize this when you
		
00:09:27 --> 00:09:28
			go to some airports.
		
00:09:28 --> 00:09:30
			Your kids have the Canadian passport.
		
00:09:31 --> 00:09:32
			They'll leave the passports
		
00:09:32 --> 00:09:34
			and you go to the back of the
		
00:09:34 --> 00:09:36
			line. You see the treatment.
		
00:09:36 --> 00:09:38
			So you have to teach your kids when
		
00:09:38 --> 00:09:39
			they're young
		
00:09:39 --> 00:09:41
			and don't wait until it's too late and
		
00:09:41 --> 00:09:43
			you come to complain to the Sheikh. Oh,
		
00:09:43 --> 00:09:45
			the Sheikh didn't do a good job.
		
00:09:45 --> 00:09:47
			I'm not a superman.
		
00:09:47 --> 00:09:49
			I don't have a magic wand. You think
		
00:09:49 --> 00:09:50
			if I hit you a kid once or
		
00:09:50 --> 00:09:52
			twice, all you will be a changed person?
		
00:09:52 --> 00:09:55
			I can't. So, you have to start from
		
00:09:55 --> 00:09:56
			a very young age.
		
00:09:56 --> 00:09:58
			Look at the sunnah of the Prophet
		
00:12:05 --> 00:12:07
			And he said, oh, young man,
		
00:12:07 --> 00:12:09
			be mindful of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala and
		
00:12:09 --> 00:12:12
			he will always be there for you. If
		
00:12:12 --> 00:12:14
			you want something, ask Allah.
		
00:12:14 --> 00:12:16
			And know for sure that all of humanity
		
00:12:17 --> 00:12:19
			were to gather together to build
		
00:14:51 --> 00:14:52
			and
		
00:15:03 --> 00:15:06
			and he was nice and kind to children.
		
00:15:06 --> 00:15:08
			In the summer Aliyah, one of the sahaba,
		
00:15:08 --> 00:15:09
			he said when I was 5, I was
		
00:15:09 --> 00:15:12
			6 years old, I was when the prophet
		
00:15:12 --> 00:15:14
			SAW said that he sprinkled my face with
		
00:15:14 --> 00:15:15
			water to make me laugh.
		
00:15:16 --> 00:15:18
			And there are so many examples. We gave
		
00:15:18 --> 00:15:21
			all the examples. But the prophet was leading
		
00:15:21 --> 00:15:23
			by example and the Sahar were there the
		
00:15:23 --> 00:15:25
			children of them and they saw him and
		
00:15:25 --> 00:15:27
			they were out of him all the time.
		
00:15:28 --> 00:15:29
			Abdullah, no more
		
00:15:30 --> 00:15:31
			there are so many stories.
		
00:15:48 --> 00:15:50
			Boyfriend and girlfriend and the drugs and all
		
00:15:50 --> 00:15:51
			these things.
		
00:15:52 --> 00:15:53
			If they have some Aflac, they will be
		
00:15:53 --> 00:15:55
			able to resist to a certain degree.
		
00:15:56 --> 00:15:59
			But if they don't have the the educational
		
00:15:59 --> 00:16:02
			or the religious background, it will be easier
		
00:16:02 --> 00:16:04
			for them to get lost. And they hear
		
00:16:04 --> 00:16:06
			stories, Bolide, I can tell you stories that
		
00:16:06 --> 00:16:07
			break your mind
		
00:16:08 --> 00:16:11
			but I can't. They are so miserable stories.
		
00:16:11 --> 00:16:13
			I can't I can't give you the stories
		
00:16:13 --> 00:16:15
			but we have problems with our youth and
		
00:16:15 --> 00:16:18
			the parents they've done and they complain.
		
00:16:19 --> 00:16:21
			So we have to lead by example. We
		
00:16:21 --> 00:16:22
			have to show our children what it is
		
00:16:22 --> 00:16:24
			to be a good Muslim. Proud of your
		
00:16:24 --> 00:16:25
			faith.
		
00:16:26 --> 00:16:28
			We have to lead by example. We know,
		
00:16:28 --> 00:16:29
			everybody knows
		
00:16:29 --> 00:16:31
			that when your kids are young,
		
00:16:31 --> 00:16:33
			they're like a sponge.
		
00:16:33 --> 00:16:36
			They absorb anything they see. If you see
		
00:16:36 --> 00:16:38
			you pray if they see you pray, you
		
00:16:38 --> 00:16:40
			will see them all the time coming to
		
00:16:40 --> 00:16:42
			you. They stand behind you in the land
		
00:16:42 --> 00:16:43
			and they pray like you and they make
		
00:16:43 --> 00:16:45
			mistakes all the time. But, they learn.
		
00:16:46 --> 00:16:46
			If they say
		
00:16:47 --> 00:16:49
			you doing something wrong, this is what they
		
00:16:49 --> 00:16:51
			will do. If you smoke in front of
		
00:16:51 --> 00:16:53
			them, you shouldn't be surprised when you see
		
00:16:53 --> 00:16:56
			your kid smoking a cigarette butt because they
		
00:16:56 --> 00:16:57
			just follow your example.
		
00:16:58 --> 00:17:00
			If somebody lies in the house especially parents,
		
00:17:01 --> 00:17:03
			you'll get a bunch of virus, small ones
		
00:17:03 --> 00:17:06
			in the house because they imitate
		
00:17:06 --> 00:17:07
			the adzaur.
		
00:17:08 --> 00:17:09
			When they come to the masjid and the
		
00:17:09 --> 00:17:09
			ziyat not behaving in the right way, we're
		
00:17:09 --> 00:17:10
			raising our voice or screaming at one another,
		
00:18:07 --> 00:18:07
			chairs
		
00:18:08 --> 00:18:11
			and weapons of mass destruction all these things.
		
00:18:11 --> 00:18:14
			So I'm here fighting and falling down and
		
00:18:14 --> 00:18:16
			some were bleeding. It was a disaster. One
		
00:18:16 --> 00:18:17
			of my friends he was an iman and
		
00:18:17 --> 00:18:19
			he told me the story. It's a true
		
00:18:19 --> 00:18:20
			story
		
00:18:20 --> 00:18:23
			and I'm sure the first day of Ramadan
		
00:18:23 --> 00:18:25
			everybody excited and how the masjid were used
		
00:18:25 --> 00:18:26
			and showed.
		
00:18:26 --> 00:18:29
			So somebody decided to put an end on
		
00:18:29 --> 00:18:31
			a fight but he did he called the
		
00:18:31 --> 00:18:31
			police.
		
00:18:31 --> 00:18:34
			So the police came, 2 3 4 officers
		
00:18:35 --> 00:18:36
			and they started to walk on the carpet
		
00:18:36 --> 00:18:37
			with their shoes.
		
00:18:38 --> 00:18:41
			So both Arab and Indian and Pakistan brothers
		
00:18:41 --> 00:18:43
			they got mad at the police. You have
		
00:18:43 --> 00:18:45
			no respect for the masjid because you walk
		
00:18:45 --> 00:18:47
			on the carpet with your shoes on.
		
00:18:59 --> 00:18:59
			Example.
		
00:19:00 --> 00:19:01
			I'm sure I'm sure we have a lot
		
00:19:01 --> 00:19:03
			of challenges. We have a lot of difficulties,
		
00:19:05 --> 00:19:05
			especially
		
00:19:06 --> 00:19:08
			when we talk about theirs, the fathers, they
		
00:19:08 --> 00:19:11
			usually have to work. They're out most of
		
00:19:11 --> 00:19:11
			the time.
		
00:19:12 --> 00:19:13
			The sisters are busy.
		
00:19:14 --> 00:19:16
			Some of them they don't have resources with
		
00:19:16 --> 00:19:18
			the behavioral background to take care of the
		
00:19:18 --> 00:19:18
			kids.
		
00:19:19 --> 00:19:21
			Many of us will speak good English and
		
00:19:21 --> 00:19:24
			our kids go to Canadian schools. They speak
		
00:19:24 --> 00:19:26
			good English and they always make fun of
		
00:19:26 --> 00:19:27
			your accent.
		
00:19:27 --> 00:19:29
			It happens all the time. We are not
		
00:19:29 --> 00:19:32
			aware of the culture where there's a huge
		
00:19:32 --> 00:19:34
			gap in Ghana there. Do your best. If
		
00:19:34 --> 00:19:36
			you're not able to teach them,
		
00:19:36 --> 00:19:38
			at least in a week and great things
		
00:19:38 --> 00:19:38
			with the Islamic school. Bring them to the
		
00:19:38 --> 00:19:38
			message for the many cultures we have with
		
00:19:38 --> 00:19:39
			the