Mustafa Khattab – Hayaa Sense of Shame 2
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So last time we, spoke about kaya,
this concept of shyness or the sense of
shame that a person should have. And we
said that they're on the back. They classify
this concept of kaya into 3 different types.
The first one, kaya from Allah. And the
and also we'll talk about what are the
things that help you to have this quality
of kaya,
shyness or sense of shame. And there are
some certain things in Islam
that you should not have kaya about. It
Allah
So in this kadeem, there is a lot
of
people who gave me this far.
The prophet
said that you should be or you should
have this sense of kaya, this sense of
shame from Allah
the way he deserves.
By this, he means you should watch what
you talk, what you say.
You should watch what you hear. You should
watch what you look at. And your brains,
this capacity, this gift, the Allah subhanahu wa'ala.
So you should only use these abilities and
these abilities in the way that pleases Allah
subhanahu wa'ala.
And don't use them in the Haram. Then
he said, you should also preserve the abdomen,
your belly,
and everything that has. And
by this, he means that you shouldn't eat
haram, you should watch what you eat, and
you shouldn't use your private parts to eat
zila and all these things. And the prophet
says that always remember death,
and the title will become dust or ashes.
So all these things will help you as
sheikh Hayat from Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
And you don't care that the angels are
are watching you and are recording whatever you
do, this by itself is worse than whatever
one you are doing.
And he says, when you do something wrong,
and after you do it, you are excited
or happy. This by itself is worse than
doing something karah. Say, for example, someone robs
a man and after you finish, they're excited.
They're happy. Why? Because, yeah, Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala, this is what they think. Gave him
tafir
to do something.
Some people even, they don't even need to
be, proud about it and talk about it
and to be proud of something won't be
did. All they need is just take a
selfie and post it on Facebook.
And this is how we know that someone
is doing something wrong. It's because of this.
People,
Allah subhanahu, and they expose
themselves because they are proud of the wrong
they have done.
Then he said,
when you feel
depressed
because you couldn't do something haram, this by
itself is worse than doing the haram itself.
Like I'm going to meet this girl, man,
and the car broke, broke down on the
way. So you are depressed. Oh, man. What
is this? So this by itself is worse
than doing the Haram itself.
The Abdullah N Abbas said,
when you are sitting in the privacy of
your room
and
when the wind,
moves the curtain of your room and you
feel ashamed that somebody will see you, but
you don't care that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
is watching you, this by itself is worse
than doing the sin.
Sometimes you are doing something haram, something wrong.
And when the door is open, oh, it's
a 4 year old kid and you feel
ashamed that this kid might see you doing
something wrong.
But we don't care that a lot of
haram, haram is washing. So by this,
sure you heard of the story before. A
man came to him and said, yeah, Iman,
I'm out to my ears in sin. I
do all sorts of haram. Every haram in
the book, I'm doing it. But what I
want from you who told me to see
how I will do it,
Whenever you do something wrong, remember these excuses,
and you'll be okay in the next life.
He said, okay. Number 1. So the man
has decided.
He said, number 1, if you want to
do something wrong, if you want to disobey
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, don't eat from his
rizq, don't eat from his
He said, but we still have 4 more
excuses. Maybe I'll have a chance. So he
says, number 2, if you wanna disobey Allah,
then don't disobey him in his kingdom. Go
somewhere else.
He said, but
Allah subhanahu ala'ala knows about it.
It's a number 4.
Say, for example, you live a life of
sinning.
You do every wrong thing in the book.
Okay? And it is time for you to
die. So as your time is up, you
are about to go.
And you feel like if people see me
doing something horrible like this, my reputation will
be damaged.
So if you stop doing it, maybe you
can go ahead and do it in secret,
but die in public because you're afraid of
the people.
Invited him because he received a letter from
the prophet of inviting him to Islam. So
he said, bring me someone from Mecca to
ask him about this new prophet. So he
invited Abu Sugham, he was a famous man
at the time, he's a businessman.
Doing something wrong so you are ashamed so
you don't do it.
The 3rd type is from yourself.
Say for example, nobody sees you. You're in
your house.
Everything is okay, but you won't do something
calm because, you know, that
You probably heard of the story of Al
Tanabe. He's one of the very famous people
in the history of Islam, but most people
have never heard of this name, Al Tanabe.
So Al Tanabe, basically, within his
young age when he was a youth, say,
17, 18 years old, he was a drunkard.
He was not a good person. He was
not practicing the religion, and he was living
in Qasrath
at the time. So we're talking about 1300
years ago
or more. So what happened? He was sitting
in front of his house waiting for his
friends to come so they they go out
and drink.
So all of a sudden, he saw a
man on the back of the donkey,
and there was a big crowd behind this
man.
So he said, what's wrong with these people?
Because the people who are were walking in
the front and the back. They almost carried
the donkey and the and the man on
the back of the donkey. So I said,
what's wrong with these people?
You know that those of you who are
married,
they know that they, the bravest thing you
can do in the house sometimes is to
be a coward. And the most gullible thing
you can say to your wife or husband
is to be quiet, because otherwise,
bye bye.
So
he said, okay. I'm gonna give him a
hadith that suits his situation.
So we told him
if you don't have shame, if you don't
have a sense of shyness or shame in
your heart, from yourself, from the people, and
from Allah, do whatever you want.
Then he left.
Then Al Qaeda went home and started to
think, what did he mean? What did this
man mean? What did this
There are some certain things. If you think
about, that would help you achieve,
this concept of kha'yid. The first one is
that Allah
is watching all the time.
And on the day
of judgment, we'll get the reward, the book,
and ask everything we have done in this
story. Sometimes we forget that we did certain
things, but the punishment and the the shame
and the disgrace will always be there.
So we should always be mindful of the
things that we do in the presence
of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala and that He's
watching us. Number 2, you should always remember
the sin that you did before.
If it is forgotten to you, it is
not forgotten to Allah subhanahu wa'ala because he
knows everything.
Remembering the sin will humble you because it
will make you remember the
that will humble you? Is better than a
good deed that will make you arrogant?
Okay.
So these are some of the things that
will help you generate this,
sense of shame or sense of, shines.
They also say,
if you remember
that when you do something wrong and the
pleasure will last only for a few seconds,
for a few minutes, but the disgrace and
the punishment will be there forever.
And when you do something good, the difficulty
and the hardship will last for a few
seconds or a few hours or a few
days, just like when you fast Ramadan.
Then after you are done with the i'ala,
the honor and the reward will always be
there. This will help you to achieve
khayat from Allah as well. We're gonna conclude
with the things
that you should not be shy about.
We said that there are some certain things
you have to be shy about, like doing
khalam and all these things in the presence
of Allah and the presence of the people.
But there are also certain things that you
should never be shy about.
Let's say, for example, say in a word
of truth.
Someone asked your opinion about something when you
are standing before the judge
to give a testimony. It should be it
should tell the truth.
A person is proposing to my sister for
marriage, for example, and I went to you.
And I'm asking you about this guy who's
proposing to my sister, and you know that
he's an idiot. He's not a good guy.
Okay. He's not a good Muslim.
So you should be straightforward. He's he's not
a good person. He's not a practicing Muslim
because
you are going to ruin someone's life. This
lady was going to be married to this
man for 30 or 50 years more or
less because you are shy, you are ashamed
to say the truth. So you should always
say the word of truth regardless.
Number 2,
they say if you are about to do
something good, don't be ashamed or don't be
shy because people will say, oh, he's he's
he's showing off. Like, you are giving a
salatah. There's a fundraiser.
You wanna donate money? Often, if I give
the money, they will say,
show off. He's showing off. Don't worry too
much about the people. Just do it.
Said, 2 people will never learn anything,
those who are shy to ask and those
who are arrogant. Why should I ask this
man because, you know, I have PhD? Why
why should I ask him about salah? Because
I have PhD in mechanical engineering, why should
I ask him? Because you should know this
thing about religion. Otherwise, for example, you're salah
salah accepted