Mustafa Khattab – Forgiving Others 2

Yusuf. Yusuf.

Yeah. This guy. He asked a good question,

I believe,

last time, so he deserves a copy of

the translation. Good job.

Has been desperate since last year to get

a copy,

So if you don't stop reading it, we'll

have to take it away. Is that good?

Okay.

So, we started to speak about forgiveness,

and we said last time that,

we are human beings who make mistakes all

the time.

So, we're not perfect. We're not angels.

So

we expect people to forgive us. And in

the meantime, we should also forgive people if

they do something bad to you. Right?

There is this concept,

al aafurandalmakdirah,

that you forgive people when you are able

to.

But if someone breaks into your house,

and they take over your house, they take

your money, they have, like, a gun with

them, and they have big muscles, and you

say, oh, I forgive you.

No.

No. No. This is not the Afrah and

the Mafdulah. You have to have the ability

to overcome them,

but you still let them go and and

forgive them.

And the best one to learn from,

forgiveness,

laaf, wasaf,

is Muhammad salaam. So we gave some examples

yesterday,

and, we'll give 2 more examples.

And the prophet salaam was forgiving,

because he knew the people

had shortcomings.

Sometimes

it is not

their lucky day, some sometimes they had something

going on in their house,

so they're not themselves.

They said something

irresponsible

or something disrespectful.

And if you read the seerah, you see

the prophet salallahu alaihi wa sallam forgiving a

lot of people, Muslims and non muslims. So

I'm give I'm gonna give you an example

of each today.

We're gonna start off

with

the non Muslim.

There's an authentic hadith in Bukhary and other

books.

The prophet salallahu alaihi wasalam was returning to

Madinah, and it was a hot day.

So the Prophet salaihi wa sallam,

got some rest under a tree,

and he, he put his sword on the

tree, like on the branch of the tree.

So it says in the story that a

non Muslim came,

a pagan,

mushrik,

and he took the sword,

and

he put it to the neck of the

Prophet SAW.

Who can protect you from me?

And the Prophet

without hesitation he said, Allah

will protect me from you.

So his hands started to shake,

and he dropped the sword.

So the Prophet

took it and he put it to his

neck, and he said, who can protect you

from me? Fata'ala laha, and he started to

cry. No one can protect me from you.

Right? And the prophet

said,

okay, I will forgive you, and the man

left. And this is an authentic hadith. He

tried to kill the prophet

but the prophet

forgave him.

We know also,

that in one of the stories,

I think in in the battle of Badr,

the Prophet salallahu alaihi wa sallam, they took

so many Asar,

captives from the people of Makkah, and eventually

the Prophet salallahu alaihi wa sallam freed them.

He told them Falas, go.

We know that later,

many years later, one of those who were

taken captive,

he had children and then eventually grandchildren,

and one of them became Imam Al Shaffei.

1 of his,

great grandchildren became Imam Al Shaffei. 1 of

the people who were taken captive at the

Basel of Badr was the grandfather of Imam

Al Shaffei. So now imagine that the Prophet

SAW Alaihi Wasallam killed him. We wouldn't see

Imam Shafeh, and learn from his knowledge. But

the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam always chose to

forgive, and let go.

The last example for today, it's a beautiful

example, an authentic hadith in an nasaihi and

a term of it.

I love this hadith.

So,

Ali Adiallahu Anhu was a judge in Yemen,

and he used to collect Zakah and send

the money and the Zakah to the Prophet

in Madinah.

So he sent a piece of gold

as a zakat to the Prophet SAW.

So there were 3, actually 4 new Muslims,

they were dignitaries,

elite, like important people, they accepted Islam, so

the Prophet SAW.

Came to the prophet

and he was mad because he didn't get

a piece of that gold. He was very

angry, very mad. So he came to the

prophet and said and started shouting in the

hadith,

and I said to him and he said

takillah You Rasoolah. Takillah. Have takillah of Allah.

Like I didn't get anything. What is this?

Like he was protesting

and he was like disrespectful,

you know, because this is not the way

you speak to Rasoolah. You have to speak

with respect. Right?

So the Prophet SAW Alaihi Wasallam said,

famaliya taqila idhaalat taqila and he said well

because a man said have taqua of Allah

You Rasool Allah the Prophet SAW Alaihi Wasallam

said okay

who has taqwa if I don't have taqwa?

So in other words, I do have taqwa.

So don't remind me, it's it's saying something

like this. Now imagine,

if in our country is back home, the

president

or someone important

is is is giving gifts to to people

and someone comes to them and said okay,

what are you doing? This is not, you

know, you're not just, you're not fair, this

is wrong.

In front of everyone, do you think they

will feel offended?

Yes or no?

They will be offended. And the first thing

they will say,

damsha'alifat

an Ameen went up Nameen, don't you know

who I am?

But the prophet didn't do any of that.

He said,

if I don't have taqwa, who does?

And he left it at that.

Khaled ibn al Walid was Muslim at the

time,

and he was not happy about the way

the man,

behaved towards the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam,

and he said, you Rasool Allah, let me

fix him up for you. He was very

disrespectful,

we have to fix him up for you.

And the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said,

no.

Leave him alone because he praised namaz.

He praised namaz.

So it means

he's a Muslim,

but maybe, you know, this is not he's,

you know, he had some issues at home,

he's not happy about something, so he lost

it. And the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam said,

even because maybe he offers namaz, he prays.

So Khali Al Wa Alaihi Wa Salamu said,

but You Rasulullah,

some people

behave and say things with their tongues,

they pretend to be Muslim, but they are

munafiq in their hearts. And now you can

see he's disrespectful, he's munafiq.

So he's not good. And the prophet

said, Allah did not send me to open

people's

hearts and look inside to see if they

are munafiq or not.

If the person comes to the masjid, they

pray namaz, they are Muslim, we leave it

at that.

So we don't go around

investigating and checking if people are munafiq or

good Muslim, and the prophet

let the man go, and he didn't punish

him. So you see from the two examples

that the Prophet

was forgiving,

and the point we learned from this is,

you treat people the same way you like

to be treated.

We make mistakes,

we like to be forgiven, and Allah subhanahu

wa ta'ala will forgive you if you forgive

people, and you get this from Surah

An Noor.

In the story of Abu Bakr radiAllahu Anhu,

maybe we'll talk about this later,

someone said something terrible about his daughter Aisha

radiAllahu Anha,

and that man Mustah was a relative of

Abu Bakr, and the man was very poor,

and, Abu Bakr who used to help him

financially,

he was his relative, but when he said

something terrible about Harish al Adha,

Abu Bakr stopped the payment, he said, you

know what, You're not good to my family.

He said terrible things about my daughter. I'm

not giving you money. Then this ayah was

revealed.

So he said, Allah

says, yes, he did something wrong, but forgive

him.

Don't you like Allah to forgive you? So

if you forgive him, Allah will forgive you.

So we ask Allah

to forgive us, and to help us forgive

others if they make mistakes.