Mustafa Khattab – Fairness Children

So today, inshallah, we'll continue

our discussion

about

lessons that we learned from the Sahaba of

the Quranins and the prophet

And today's lesson is

justice among your children.

A poor lady came with 2 girls, her

2 daughters to Aisha, to

ask about something or to ask for something.

So Aisha, gave

her 3 dates, the fruits.

So she gave each of the 2 girls

one date, and the lady kept one for

herself. And when she she was about to

eat the date herself,

the kids, one of them, wanted to eat

it. So she split the date into half,

two halves, and she gave one half to

this and the second half to the other

one. So Aisha alaiha alhaab was surprised

because of the justice of the lady to

her kids. She she she could have just

given it to one of them, and that's

it. It is not a big deal.

By her justice to her kids.

Just that little

good deed at a time.

And I've seen this a lot. Yanivad Al

Aba,

they make their kids hate them,

and they make their kids hate each other

because of the treatment and also because

giving some

more

attention or some gifts more than others or

even in the distribution of miroth.

They don't like the distribution that Allah Subhanahu

Wa Ta'ala has given in the Quran.

They give more to some, and they don't

give some they don't give them anything.

And this is equal to saying that Allah

Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala is not just.

If you don't

like the laws of inheritance that Allah Subhanahu

Wa Ta'ala has given us in the Quran,

this is equal to saying that Allah is

not just, and you do it your own

way.

And what happens after your death is the

kids hate you, and they hate each other,

and they don't talk to each other for

life.

And now you're not happy in your grave.

You wish you did it the right way.

And Nur

Mahinde bashir, one of the great sahaba, he

said that his mother bugged his father for

a whole year to give him a gift,

an extra thing that he didn't give to

the rest of his siblings.

So eventually,

he gave up and he said, okay. Okay.

Stop bugging me. And this is the word

used in the hadith. She was talking to

him day night for a whole year.

Eventually, he came to the prophet

and he said, my wife has been asking

for a whole year to give a gift

to my son. Something precious.

So the prophet said,

I came for you, oh prophet of Allah,

to witness over this. So the prophet

said, have you given each and every one

of your kids the same thing, the same

gift?

So I said,

okay. Quite frankly, no. So the prophet said,

go and ask for another witness because I

don't witness over injustice.

In another version of the hadith, the prophet

said, fear Allah

and be just to your kids. If you

wanna give one of them a gift, you

have to give each and every one of

them the same.

So the says

in that authentic hadith

that you have to when you give gifts

to your children, you have to give all

of them the same.

Boys and girls, you have to give them

the same thing. If you give each of

them a $100, you have to give, you

know, to everyone.

And as I said, back in the village,

back in the day, in the aid, they

used to give the boy

twice

the gift they give to the girl in

the aid. And the prophet, SAW, says in

the authentic hadith,

be fair

to your kids when you give them gifts.

Give them the same

to girls and boys. And if I were

to give to some more than others, I

would have given to the girls more than

the boys. He's talking about gifts.

Okay?

Inheritance is different, but now I'm talking about

gifts.

So when it comes to inheritance, we know

that in Islam,

the brother gets twice the share of his

sister his sister for two reasons. Number 1,

he has to provide for the family.

If there's no one to provide, he has

to provide. The lady doesn't have to provide

for no money. She keeps all the money

for herself

unless she willingly wants to help.

Number 2, at the time of marriage,

the man has to give a dowry, a

marriage gift to pay all the expenses for

marriage. Islamic league, the lady doesn't have to

pay anything.

To give to 1 more than the others,

you have to ask for the permission of

the rest. And if they agree, it becomes

a gift from them to their brother or

their sister in case someone of them is

very young or is handicapped or has a

mental problem. You can give him more with

his brothers or sisters after greatness Allah Subhanahu

Wa Ta'ala.

How about a different in nations? It's not

fair to give,

a $100 for 3 years old and $100

for 17 years old.

Okay. Pay a hadith. You give them the

same.

Because they're all at once, sometimes they work

and they have their own thing. So laptop

for 17 and laptop for a set of

3 years old. Okay. Look at this. If

you have someone who goes to college,

you pay them 1,000 of dollars

for fees and stuff.

But this is something you have to to

pay for them. But this is not a

gift. It is something you have to get.

But the little ones, if they go to

the, you know,

get that much. But the gift, which is

a sign of love from you to them,

has to be the same. But the expenses,

it doesn't have to be the same.

Like college

fees and stuff, you can give different money

to based on the age and their necessities.

But the gift has to be the same.

But it's a good question. We'll give you

candy.

Four questions.