Mustafa Khattab – Eid Khutba Dont Sacrifice Your Kids

Mustafa Khattab
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The speaker discusses the importance of insha matter in shaping children for the upcoming year and emphasizes the need for parents to teach their children to use their own language and motivate them with it. They recommend learning English, haral and Wi-Fi, and being a good mother. The speaker encourages parents to spend time with their children and not risk losing them. They also emphasize the importance of teaching children to use their own language and being a good mother.
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So InshaAllah as I said stick around for

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just about 10 minutes InshaAllah for the Khutbaturaid.

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I'm going to talk about something very important

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and before I forget inshaAllah after the Khutba,

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we have lots of toys for the kids

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downstairs for boys and girls so make sure

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inshaAllah you join us downstairs for the toys.

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So

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So it is the Sunnah of Allah

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to honor his servants,

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and to reward them after a major act

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of worship.

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So after the month of Ramadan, Allah

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will reward us with the day of Firth,

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Eidul Firth.

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And it is His Sunnah to reward us

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close to the end of the Hajj, with

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the reward of Eidul Adha.

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So inshaAllah, as I mentioned, we'll keep the

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Khutba Khutbah very short because I know the

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haroof is waiting,

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for you to go and take care of

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him.

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Allah,

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Today InshaAllah, we'll draw some lines

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and we'll take some lessons from the life

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of Ibrahim not in the traditional way that

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you have been hearing since,

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JK.

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We'll talk from a different perspective

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Ibrahim alayhi

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salam was an immigrant.

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So if someone here is is from Iraq,

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Ibrahim alayhi salam was from your land.

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Hajarah, Milil Iraq, ila,

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Philistine.

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Ibrahim Alaihi Salam was an immigrant,

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and he was always on the road. He

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traveled from Iraq to Palestine to Egypt to

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Mecca and so on and so forth, everyone

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knows the story.

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Just like you,

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you came from every corner of the Earth.

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You came from Asia, you came from Africa,

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you came from Europe, some from you, from

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Latin America, and so on and so forth.

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We came from all over the place,

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just like Ibrahim Alaihi Salam.

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Why did he do it?

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Waqara inni muhajirun

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ila Rafi.

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I'm immigrating, he said, I'm doing hijra

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for Allah and to serve Allah

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That was his purpose of hijra.

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The other thing is, Marufin Ibrahim alaihis salam,

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urdiya, umarib Masa'ib, umashakir, wa al kufinna

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Just like Ibrahim alaihis salam, he was opposed,

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he had some,

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to he faced some issues and some challenges.

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He was thrown in the fire.

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Some of you have been through

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similar

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things. You had to leave your country, there

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are issues there, social problems,

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economic problems, political corruption,

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and so on and so forth. And this

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is why I see people from all over

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the place. We're here together because mostly because

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of this, and some of you came here

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to seek a better future for your kids,

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which is a noble cause Alhamdulillah Wa Ta'ala.

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One thing that Ibrahim Alaihi Salam did, that

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I don't, I don't want you to do

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because his was a special case, is that

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he was told to sacrifice

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his son.

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Ibrahim Ibrahim Umayra and Udahya Bib Nihi.

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Ismail

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But I don't want to tell us sacrifice

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your kids.

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So if there is anything that you can

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learn from my Khubba today,

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don't sacrifice your kids, and I will talk

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about this, this is the focus of the

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Khubba. La'adudah Hu Bi Ab Nahikum.

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La'adudah Hu Bi Ab Nahikum.

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I've been an Imam for 11 years now,

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and I'm doing counseling,

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and parents come to me with their kids,

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and they have issues.

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I like that.

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Ma'am,

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For some of the parents, they come to

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me and they complain.

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Like, they came here,

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and they made the sacrifices,

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and they faced so many challenges,

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they left their families back home, they left

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and they traveled tens of thousands of miles

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to come here, to secure a better future

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for their kids.

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And now what is happening with their kids?

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The parents have some concerns, and some words.

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Some of

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you, I know, you were doctors back home,

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you were engineers,

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other good jobs, and you came here, you

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can't you couldn't find a good job. And

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and of course, for you to get your,

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you know, the final test to be able

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to practice,

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You have to do some menial jobs, in

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construction, you carry stuff, you do stuff, Uber,

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and so on and so forth.

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And and some of you are disappointed, but

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you stay here to secure a better future

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for your kids. And sometimes,

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some of our kids

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do not appreciate these sacrifices.

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Ma'am, for some of the parents come to

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me and they say,

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my kids are talking back to me, because

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for some reason someone put in their heads,

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that if you bother them, they will call

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911, and they will fix you out for

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them.

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I'm am I making this up or this

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is the truth? Because people come to me

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and they talk. Right?

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They talk back to you.

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You tell them you have been watching video

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games, or you're playing video games, watching movies

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for 12 hours. Let's take 5 minutes and

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make salatulthu,

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then start whining,

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Come on, man.

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Been clang for 10 hours. We're asking for

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3 minutes to pray salah.

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Nothing difficult. Right? Why are you complaining?

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You make me miserable, you make my life

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difficult. Right?

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And when they go to high school, it's

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a total disaster.

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Now the girls, the drugs, this that, because

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they learn from their friends. Right? And SubhanAllah,

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some kids, and I've been talking to some

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families, not many,

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And if you also are Kafir al Saeeda,

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So there are so many families whose kids

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are Mashallah, they're excellent. I know them, I

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see them. They memorize Quran, they pray, they

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know halalalalal Haram, they respect their parents, but

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there are some among us,

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I'm I'm worried about them. Yeah. And some,

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they come to you and say, well, after

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18, I'm gonna do my own thing. Right?

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Some parents come to me, oh, my daughter,

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man, she is dating a guy, Muslim or

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non Muslim. Or my son is dating a

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girl, Muslim or non Muslim. Right? I'm worried.

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And some of them will say, oh, just

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like a month ago, I had to visit

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someone because his son had some worries about

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Islam, and he has some questions.

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So he's not sure about certain things. So,

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Manfai, I told him, What are the questions?

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He said, This, this, this, this, and I

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told him, I've been studying this my whole

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life. This is what

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missionaries do. Your your son is hanging out

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with some people who are putting some doubts

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in his head. This is what this is

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all about, because there's no way in the

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world your son who is 17 or 16

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can come up with these questions.

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Someone must have put these questions in his

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head.

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So, take care of your kids. Make sure

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inshaAllah you teach them. We want them to

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be successful Canadians, and we want them to

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be good Muslims.

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Right? We want them to be successful Canadians,

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to reach their prime, to reach their potential,

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and to be good Muslims.

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Remember

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my

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beautiful

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face,

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If

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your connection with Islam is 90%

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because you just came, you know, from from

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your country, from the plane, or off the

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boat, your connection with Islam is 90%,

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for sure, and as I said remember my

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beautiful face?

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Your kids connection with Islam would be 50%,

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and their grandchildren would be 10 or 5%.

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I know some of the brothers,

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they go to homes, they do them jobs

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painting or fixing and stuff, and they go

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to someone's house,

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and they see pictures on the wall, the

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Kaaba and stuff, and and their kids,

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when these brothers have to pray the Dhulmur

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Asad there, and the kids were like, one

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of them told me that the grandchildren told

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them, SubhanAllah,

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like, we saw our parents or grandparents who

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prayed like you, but we don't know what

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you are doing, but they used to do

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something similar like you. They don't know what

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Salah is. They don't want know what Islam

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is. Right? So the connection gets weaker and

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weaker after every generation. So make sure you

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connect your kids with Islam.

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So teach them Quran, haral and haram. You

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connect them with your own language.

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This is my recommendation, make sure that your

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kids speak your own language, your parents' language.

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They will learn English. Don't worry about English.

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They will learn it. It's very easy. Make

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sure they learn English,

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sorry, they learn, Urdu, they learn Turkish, they

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learn Arabic,

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Somali,

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whatever language you speak, make sure they speak

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that language.

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And if you motivate them, and if you

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encourage them,

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with whatever candy you take them, you buy

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them gifts and stuff, with a little bit

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of motivation,

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they can do it. And I really commend

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the, India Pakistani community and the Turkish community

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for taking care of this. They make sure

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that their kids speak their own language and

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plus English. And the studies show, I'm not

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making this up, the kids who speak 2

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or 3 languages, they are smaller than the

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kids who speak one language.

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Director of Photography today. Heino Le Mesheel.

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More good. So he's a member of our

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Dawah team, we have so many brothers and

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sisters in the team who go Dawah and

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Alhamdulillah, people are taking shahara.

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In the last year, we have given shahada

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to over 20 people. In Toronto and other

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places, people come to Islam, Alhamdulillah, take beer.

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And, on one side, you see people coming

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to Islam, highly educated,

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highly intelligent people are coming to Islam,

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and on the other side, I see some

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kids in the community, oh, I have doubts

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about Islam.

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Come on, man. This is very it breaks

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my heart. Right? So you have to keep

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your kids connected to Islam. Like Ibrahim alaihis

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salam, the the one I mentioned at the

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beginning.

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Then Allah mentioned Yaqub who is the grandson

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of Ibrahim through Ishaq,

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was teaching his kids about Islam and about

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Tawhid. And in Surah Yusuf, so we spoke

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about Ibrahim and his, Ishaq,

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the son,

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of Yaqub, who mentioned Yaqub. His son Yusuf,

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he left his father, he was taken away

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from his father at the age of 12,

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he went to Egypt to conquer our al

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Moshikun,

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and he was making Dawah.

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Why? Because of his father, his grandfather, his

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grandfather, they were teaching him from a young

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age about Islam, and so many people accepted

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Islam in Egypt at the hands of Yusuf

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Alaihi Salam at the end of the story

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according to Mufassarom.

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Connect your kids with Islam, take care of

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them, and if there is anything that you

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take from the Khutbah today, do not sacrifice

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your kids. Do not sacrifice your kids. Laatulaha

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Khubi Abnaikum. I know, you come, you have

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to provide for your family,

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30% in tax,

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GST, you have to send money to your

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mom back home to buy laptop, and all

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that stuff. I know, you have financial obligations.

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Kids are the most important thing in our

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lives. Wallahi. If I ask any one of

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you who is married with kids, what is

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the most important thing in your lives? For

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sure you will say, My kids.

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But

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still,

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because of the financial obligations, we don't spend

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as much time with our kids.

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Make sure you spend time with them, play

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with them,

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teach them, become a friend of theirs. Right?

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And this is the philosophy,

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you should do this with your kids.

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Spend twice as much time with them, and

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spend as much half money on them.

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Every kid is made up of 2 things,

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Khadas, I got 20 seconds don't shoot.

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Ayi Al Tif,

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fee 2 components of Ansari Faiat.

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And also, Al Awal, Hawal Al Gazzat, we're

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also lathani Huarruh.

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So every kid or any human being for

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that matter is made up of 2 things.

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So you have the body, the physics,

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physical body, and you have the Ruuh, the

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spirit or the nafs inside.

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In a computer terms,

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your kid is like the computer. So you

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have the hardware,

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the monitor,

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the,

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keyboard,

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and the hard disk, and and so on

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and so forth. And there is the software,

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Microsoft or Apple, whatever software you have.

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Most of the time we take care of

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the hardware.

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You make sure your kids eat good,

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dress good, you take them to the YMCA

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to play Taekwondo,

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swimming, all that stuff.

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But most of the time we don't take

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care of what is inside the Rooh.

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The,

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the software or operating system. Let me put

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it this way. So make sure you teach

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them Taskeet Un Nafs Halal and Haram Ghahla.

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Soon Allah Muhammad SAW. You teach them about

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Islam. So this is my message today.

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I hope I didn't ruin your aid, but

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always remember what I said today. I want

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your kids to be successful Canadians, and good

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Muslims, and I expect some of your kids,

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to be the next Imam, to be the

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next of president of this Masjid, to be

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the next doctor, the next engineer, the next

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teacher,

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and I expect some of your kids to

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be the next journalist,

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the next politician,

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the next Prime Minister of Canada. Why not?

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We have the potential to be in these

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places, and to speak out for ourselves, and

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represent the Muslim community. It is not difficult,

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other communities are doing it, we can do

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it with the help of Allah Subhanahu Wa

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Ta'ala. We ask Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala to

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give you a blessed Eid, and to put

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Barakah in your families, and to make your

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kids good Muslims, righteous, and caring. Insha'Allah.

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