Mustafa Khattab – Dont Be Judgmental
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The speaker discusses the importance of not jumping to conclusions when dealing with judgmental behavior. They also mention a story about a deaf man who was on a train and was asked questions by a woman. The speaker emphasizes the importance of not jumping to conclusions and offers advice on how to handle judgmental behavior.
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The niya. Your intention.
And we said that the niya is only
known to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala because sometimes,
you do something, it looks good to everyone,
but inside your heart your niya is not
good.
So
and sometimes you do something terrible by mistake
and everyone thinks you're a bad person, but
your intention was good. Who knows the intention?
It's Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. So we will
continue this line of thinking, we'll talk about
being judgmental.
Sometimes
we jump to conclusions,
and we hurt people's feelings,
and again,
this is something we shouldn't do. Only Allah
Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala knows if someone is good
enough. Right?
At the time of the Prophet
there were people in Madinah,
you will find this in Surah, in Surah
Tawgm.
There were some people who were munafiqul, hypocrites.
And the Sahaba, some of them were rich,
like Umar ibn Affan, Abdul Umar ibn Nawf.
So they would give liberally, they would donate
generously to the Prophet
The munafiqun were not happy. They themselves were
not contributing anything,
but they were judgmental.
If someone who was rich was able to
contribute like Uthmar Radilah Anhu,
Abdul Uthmar ibn Nawaf Abu Bakr, they had
money, so they would give.
The hypocrites would say,
he's showing off because he's he's paying so
much.
And if there was a poor Muslim,
he could only afford a few bucks to
contribute,
they would say, Oh, this guy is very
cheap, he's not giving anything.
Although they themselves were not paying anything,
but they always had something to say.
So we do sometimes, we do the same
thing when we say, Allah Mashallah, this guy
is going to Jannah, this guy is going
to Jahannan.
But who are you to say, this one
is going to Jannah, and this one is
going to Jahannam?
You yourself
are not sure if you are going to
Jannah or Alayadhu billah somewhere else, because Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala is the Judge,
and this is why there is a Day
of Judgement.
Yes, if you are a believer,
you pray the Masjid, you do the good
things, Insha'Allah Allah will give you Jannah, but
you shouldn't judge other people.
Sometimes things
are not what they look like, so you
shouldn't always judge people by their looks or
the things you see.
We should leave the for Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala.
A couple of quick examples.
There was a brother,
he told the story,
he said he moved to a new city
and
he was going to the Masjid,
first day.
His car
was not there at the mechanic, so he
couldn't take the car, his own car to
the Masjid,
so he took his brother's car.
So this brother went to the Masjid, he
was in the parking lot,
and
he lowered the window, he was about to
leave, and there were a couple of brothers
going to salatul Dhuh, and they parked next
to him, and they heard loud music coming
out of his car. Like Raq music, you
know, crazy stuff. People are jumping,
and screaming, and saying terrible things.
And this brother, mashaAllah, a long beard,
with a thaw, and a miswak,
is coming to the Masjid, and all this
crazy music coming out of his car.
So they started to say bad things about
him. Right? He is not a good Muslim,
Fassaf, Zindeep.
They didn't even give him salaam, so they
went inside, they prayed, and when they were
leaving, and they said, Oh, the rap music
guy is going back, long beard, short dress,
and everything.
And
eventually
they realized that the brother was deaf,
and this is not his car.
He borrowed his brother's car, his brother played
music in his car, rap music, whatever. So
the guy didn't know because he couldn't hear
anything.
And all this time the music was playing
in the car, he couldn't hear anything.
Now they were jumping to conclusions,
they're calling him bad Muslim,
this, that. But when they realized that he
was deaf, he couldn't hear anything.
Us. Right? So we we shouldn't jump to
conclusions.
This is good story. Right? I like this
story. There was also another story.
Someone was traveling from
Toronto
to another city,
they're using the train, so he was there
with his son. His son was like
20 years old, his son. And the man
was in his fifties or something. So the
guy was sitting next to his dad,
they were looking outside the window of the
train, you know when the train is traveling
and the trees and the farms and everything.
So this guy, 20 years old, he would
look at his dad and he would say,
Oh Masha'Allah, you see dad, this is a
tree right there. And his dad said, Yeah,
yeah, tree.
Then the guy said, Oh, a bird.
Look, the bird. Beautiful bird. And his dad
said, Yeah, it's a bird. Yeah.
Then they passed by Tim Hortons, and the
guy said, Oh, Masha'Allah, this is Tim Hortons.
Beautiful.
The man, look, there's a man right there.
Yeah, Mashallah.
And every time his dad
smiled and, you know, said Mashallah.
There were a couple of people on the
other side,
very judgmental.
And they said, this guy is crazy.
He doesn't know what a tree looks like,
he doesn't know what a man looks like,
he doesn't know what a duck looks like,
doesn't know what Tim Hortons looks like.
It turned out it turned out
that this little kid because they went up
to the father and said, why is he
asking all these questions? This is crazy. This
is so stupid. Why is he saying all
these things?
They said foolish. Okay.
So the father said, when my son
was 4 years old, he had this medical
condition,
he lost his eyesight. He couldn't see anymore.
So eventually,
he were able he was able to go
through the surgery and he gained his eyesight.
He was able to see again. And this
is why when he took him on the
train and he saw these things he was
so excited. Oh, Masha Allah, a man, a
tree, a bird, Tim Hortons.
And the father was smiling and he said,
yes, you are right. You know, but sometimes,
this is my point,
we are very judgmental and we hurt people's
feelings, and and we should take it easy,
and we treat people the way we like
to be treated. And we always give people
the benefit of the doubt. We give people
the benefit of the doubt. If you say
salam to someone and they don't give you
salam back, maybe they didn't hear
you. Maybe they were thinking about something else.
Why do you always jump to conclusions? Oh,
he didn't give me salam, he doesn't like
me anymore, he hates me.
No.
Give them the benefit of the doubt. So
ask
Allah to give us the best in this
life and the best in the life to
come. Ask Allah
to,
bless you and your families, and ask Allah
to,
give Jannah to the grandmother of Maryam.
Keep her in your dua. See you tomorrow.