Mustafa Khattab – Dawa To Muslims 2
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I bear witness that there is none worthy
of our worship except Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
And I bear witness that Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi
Wasallam Peace be upon him is the seal
of the prophets
and the final messenger
to all humanity.
Whoever Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala guides, there is
none to misguide,
and whoever Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala leaves to
stray, there is none to guide
So in the last kutba, we spoke about
Dawah to Muslims,
and we said that the Prophet SAW Salam,
whenever he gave Dawah or Naseeh or corrected
someone when they made a mistake, the Prophet
utilized Hikma. And we said that Hikma basically
means to say the right thing to the
right person at the right time in the
right way.
So why do we give Nasihah to our
brothers and sisters? Because in the Hadith I
mentioned last time,
Yazid al Qasri, the prophet
asked him,
The
prophet
asked
him, Do you love Jannah? Do you want
to go to Jannah?
He said, yeah Rasoolah, of course. So the
prophet
said, then love for others what you love
for yourself,
which means
you love for everyone to go to Jannah
with you.
So this is our intention when you made
tawah to someone,
your intention is not to score a point.
Your intention is not to offend them or
make them look bad. Your intention is to
help them go to Jannah with you.
If this is your intention, you will be
successful.
And Allah will make it easier for you,
and you will be able to touch their
hearts.
If this is the intention. But if your
reply is to offend people
and to make them look miserable, and so
on and so forth, they will not listen
to you. Because usually people don't accept naseja
when they are offended or when they are
looked down upon.
So when you give naseja to someone, you
don't give it to them like, you know,
a teacher is correcting a student, but give
them naseja
in a friendly way, like a friend to
friend thing, and in this case people will
accept from you inshaAllah.
The, first point for today is Lataha.
Lataha is compassion and kindness when you correct
someone.
So these scholars say,
regards compassion and kindness when you correct a
Muslim,
whether they are doing something Haram they are
not supposed to do, like drinking, doing drugs,
or something, or
they are doing something or they are not
doing something they're supposed to do, like, they
don't pray, for example.
Often times, I meet people, some people in
Ramadan, they fast, but they don't pray.
So how do you correct them? The Alemah
say you have to have compassion and mercy
when you correct them.
And they say, look at the example
in Suratah, when Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala sent
Musa and Harun alayhim as salam to give
Dawah to Firaun,
the tyrant of his type, and he said,
I'm your Lord the Most High.
But still Allah
told them, Will you go make dua to
him?
Speak
kindly
and in a compassionate way to him. Maybe
he will remember Allah,
or he will be in awe of the
majesty of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. Be kind
and be compassionate towards him. So the Radamas
say this is Allah's attitude towards someone who
said, have you learned the Most High? So
what's your attitude towards someone who said,
SubhanAllah be Alaa Allah, Glory be to my
Lord the Most High, another Huskah Of course
you have to be more compassionate and more
kind
And SubhanAllah, O Allahahi when you speak to
people in a caring way
and you try to touch their hearts, and
you speak to them with tayas,
you speak to them privately, not humiliate them
in front of one. I know, as I
said last time, Ramadan is coming, and yes,
we get excited, enthusiastic
before the beginning of the month. We make
Dawah to people sometimes, and if they are
1 mile away from Islam, we keep them,
like, 15 miles away. Because our approach, our
attitude is not the best one.
Look at the example of
Sahil Nisaat Tustari.
So
they say in this story, and the story
is mentioned in, like, in Kitab al Tawrabil
in Luqaddan.
They say that Sahil Nisaat Tustari was traveling
one time, and he had some money with
him and some food, and he was traveling
with a caravan, and Musa ibn hopped off
here.
So the Chorrs,
the tubes, the hearses, the thieves,
they busted them on the way.
It's like traveling on 4:0:7,
and I call it Haroyaraburi
because they steal your money in broad daylight.
So he was shaven with the caravan,
and he took his money, they took him
in with the money and the food, and
they took him to the King of the
Thieves.
So Saladin Islam, he was a scholar, and
he realized
that everyone was eating from the stolen food
except for the King of the Thieves, Alaihi
Salaam, was not eating with them.
He said, okay.
So he said to him, Why are you
not eating with them? Because everyone is eating
the story full, why are you not eating
with them?
He said, Alhamdulillah,
today is Monday, and I'm fasting.
So Saral al Nizad, his head was about
to explode.
How come you are a thief and you
are fasting? But he didn't say anything, he
just smiled, and he said, you know, May
Allah give you Midayah, he didn't, you know,
dwell it or criticize him or offend him
or anything.
So the man said, I know you are
surprised,
I closed all the doors between me and
Allah. I don't pray,
I don't do Hajj, I don't give Zakah,
I'm a thief, a chore, nothing to be,
you know, proud of, but may it be
Allah
will show His mercy through this small door
of fasting on Mondays,
and He will open all the doors for
me. Faqul Sa'il ibn Sa'id. Sa'id Nisa'id. The
narrator of the story, he said, Wawahi,
3 years later, I was in, in Mecca
doing Tawaf, and I came across this guy,
and he was making Tawaf,
and I said, SubhanAllah, what happened to you?
He said, Wallahi, when I left this small
door
open between me and Allah, I closed all
other doors, but I left the small doors
open between me and Allah. Allah showered His
mercy on me through this one door, and
opened all the doors for me. Nah, I'm
not a thief anymore. I pray on time.
I do Hajj, and I'm not Alhamdulillah. I'm
not stealing or doing anything.
So if you see someone who closed all
the doors between themselves and Allah, they just
lift one small door.
Please don't try to close that door. Now
if you see someone,
for example, a Ramadan,
who is fasting but not praying,
or for example, they pray but they have
money and they're not giving zakat,
don't tell them Allah will not accept your
fasting, stop praying. Don't don't do that, please.
Right? Tell me, may Allah accept your fasting,
and may
Allah guide you to pray.
I think this will open their hearts because
they will be afraid that they will be
losing their word of their fasting. They learn
Hasanat
the hard way by fasting 17 hours, and
they lose their reward for not praying 5
minutes for every salah, the easy way.
Try to resonate with them this way, and
inshaAllah, they will accept from you.
The other example
is doing Dawah with Hikma
when Morel al Hazana.
The story of Al Tanabi. It's one of
the most stories that I've come across and
it is also mentioned fikatab al Tawwabil ibn
Qudam. It's a beautiful story.
Al Tanabi is a very popular,
person in Islamic tradition
that most people have never heard of of
his name, Al Tanabi. Remember this name. So
Al Tanabi basically
was in
Baghdad in in Rehra
1300 years ago.
When he was young,
Yaniqana
lahuban. Yeah. He used to drink, he used
to gamble.
So one day he was sitting in front
of his house, and he was drinking. He
had the bottle of wine in one hand,
and he had a knife in the other
hand.
And he was dressing in in in bright
red color, like his clothes, and that was
like the uniform for troublemakers at the time.
Bright red color.
So he was sitting in front of his
house
and he saw a milky,
a group
of people like, hundreds of people
are walking behind 1 man on the back
of his donkey.
And he said, what's wrong with these people?
If this man is so important,
he will give himself a camel or a
horse, not a donkey.
The people who are taking the donkey by
the rope, walking in front, in the back.
So he said,
What is he doing? Like, what is his
business? People are walking behind him, and it
seems like he's a poor guy, why are
they walking behind him? So he walked up
to this man on the donkey,
with the bottle of wine in one hand,
and the, knife in the other, and this
riot raped uniform,
and he said, Who is this guy?
Who is this guy? So the people said,
Get out of here! They said no no
no tell me why is this person so
important that everyone is walking behind his donkey?
They said you don't know Shoaibat Abdul Hajjaz?
This is the biggest scholar of Hadith in
the whole of Iraq. You don't know him?
This is like when you go to Barcelona
and you say who who Missi
is? Or you go to Real Madrid and
say who Unaldu is? Like,
man, this person is so important. Right? Very
popular.
So they said, Sharbat al Abibiyayn,
what is his job? What does he do?
They say, Askaller of Hadith,
he tells Hadith for Mas'ulullah
He said, Can you tell me one Hadith,
you met? Can he? The man on the
donkey, Can you tell me one Hadith?
The people said, what's wrong with you? Aqisar
Korom Moskalaybah? Get out of here, man.
People travel 1,000 of miles to learn from
this man, and you are coming in this
condition with, your uniform, and the father of
1 and the knife, you want to learn
from him like this? Get out of here.
He said Wallahi
and he was intoxicated or something. He said
Wallahi if he doesn't tell me one Hadith
from Rasoolha Sallallahu Alaihi I'm gonna stab him
to death.
So the man on the donkey shawarma Al
Hajjaz was shocked. So he said, you know
what? I have to tell him what hadith
is, you know, to protect my life.
And SubhanAllah,
sometimes
the bravest
thing you can do sometimes, is to be
a coward, not to do anything.
And those who are married, they know that
the most eloquent thing you can say sometimes
is to be quiet.
You know?
It's a survival technique, they they call it.
Right? So it's a Khalasullah, I'm gonna tell
you a hadith. And he told them this
hadith, Hadhatullah Fulan Anfulan An
Abi Masroodil Badri Sahabeel Abi Saasal.
And Rasulullah AISSA
So the man on the donkey shawba din
din Jarjaz told him, okay, I'm gonna tell
you one hadith just to save my life
and fast. May Allah guide you. He said,
this narrator told us through this narrator through
shah,
Abi Masroodir Badriq, the companion of the prophet
that Rasulullah SAWSALAN said, and he gave him
a Hadith,
and he said, if you don't have a
sense of shame,
then do whatever you
want. It's a Hadith al Mookhale.
So and he left.
So the man left to his house at
Tarabi. Then he started to think after,
the man on the donkey laughed with everyone,
he couldn't see them anymore.
Then he started to think,
what did this man say? This he is
he saying that I have no Haah from
Allah or from the people?
Did he mean me? What is this? I
have no Haah.
Then he broke the bottle of wine, He
went inside, broke all the bottles of wine.
And when his mother came, he told us,
when my friends come to drink with me,
tell them I quit drinking. I'm not drinking
anymore. He left Iraq.
He went to Madinah to study with Malik
ibn Ahlaz, the scholar of Hadith. And this
man Al Qalabi. You
know, if I'm if I tell you some
of his students, you will be shocked.
Al Bukhari and Muslim
were 2 of his students.
This man was changed completely because he came
across someone who gave him the Siha in
a subtle way. He didn't say, Get out
of here, you fasites indeed. You know, Jahanamu
Bismillah, he didn't say that. So he gave
him the Siha in a good way, and
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala changed that man's life
because of the sincere advice. So remember this
name Al Tanabi.
If you read the introduction to Bukhari and
Muslim, both of them mention Al Tanabi as
one of their major teachers.
The other point that we should keep in
mind when we do tawah to people and
wallahi, this is very important.
There's a book.
It's called how to,
change people's lives
and how to touch,
their hearts by Dale Carnegie.
Dale Carnegie. It's a very popular book.
He said he gave about 7, 8 techniques.
If you want to touch people's hearts and
influence them and and change their lives, you
have to use one of those 7 techniques
or 8 techniques. And he said, one of
them and SubhanAllah, I listened to this audiobook
many years ago, and every time he mentioned
one of the techniques, one of the 7,
8 techniques,
this reminded me of authentic Hadith from Rasulullah
SAW. I said, this man
must have read the Sunnah or something. Every
single one of them is supported by evidence
either from the Quran or the Sunnah.
I said, SubhanAllah,
this is this is very this is something
that
And I later realized, I read somewhere,
that different lady was trying to influence people
and touch their hearts and to help you
live a positive life, and I tried to
make the comparison between his teachings and Muhammad
SAW, and I realized that Muhammad SAW was
very successful.
And this man, Dilruddin Naegi, close to the
end of his life, he was so stressed
out, According to some narrations, he killed himself.
He committed suicide.
So I said that the teachings of Muhammad
Salah al Salam are more profound.
So one of his techniques in his book,
he said, if you want to correct someone
because we know people don't like to be
corrected. This is the fact. People don't like
to be corrected.
Even if you are telling them something that
is good for them, to improve their condition,
or to live a better life, they they
don't want to listen to you because people
feel like you're scratching their dignity
no matter how you use your words carefully.
So you need to be extra careful when
you correct people. So he said when you
correct someone, give them naziya.
Whether it's your employee,
your boss, your wife, your husband, your children,
your parents,
say something positive first,
then correct them. Walaydee will listen to
you. There is a proof in Bukhari Yaqul
in Abu Salasallam He's talking about Abdullah ibn
Umar He was a young man, 16, 17
in that neighborhood. So the Prophet SAW
knew that Abdullah ibn Umar as a young
man, he used to pray the 5 daily
rahms, the 5 daily prayers, but he didn't
pray at night. Fakar Rasool Allah sallallahu alaihi
wa sallam. Ne'ammaru Rajru wa Abdullah. Abdullah Umar
is a is a great man, he's a
very good man.
He's a very good man, but I wish
he could pray at night. This will make
him excellent.
So the prophet
said something positive first,
then he corrected him.
So the narrator
of the Hadith Salim,
he said,
after the prophet
corrected
Abdullah and Gohrabah in this very positive way,
Abdullah
used to sleep very little at night after
he heard this because the prophet
corrected him in a very good and positive
way.
Another example,
Yani Marra
Abdul Al Abbas. Abdul Al Abbas passed by
a group of people,
and they made like a circle around a
man called Zazan.
Hijab was a clown,
Beharavan
Tell him big dasha. So he was standing
in the middle of the road
jumping and singing and doing tricks and stuff.
I got ants in my pants, I can't
sit down. He he was saying something like
this, you know? And the people were jumping
around him. So when Abdullah ibn Abbas passed
by, when the people saw him, they said,
Oh, you know, the cousin of the Prophet
SAW Hassan Abdullah ibn Abbas and they ran
away.
But Dazan
stood there because he didn't know Abdullah ibn
Abbas and and he didn't run away. Fajah
Abu Waqqal
Walali
near Ahmed assault La'ukara Btilaamatil
Qubal Walahi. He said, You got a beautiful
voice, man. You got a fantastic voice. If
only you can use it to read Quran.
This will make it excellent. So he said
something positive first, and they say the man
was changed, and he became a recital of
the Quran, because he corrected him in a
good way.
I try to do the same thing when
people come to me for tazweed, for example,
and I listen to them.
They join the halakkah or something, and the
man is in his in his fifties,
and some of them come from the Arab
background. So this is their language. Right? So
if someone is not Arab, they have, you
know, some excuse. This is not their native
tongue. But when someone comes to me, they
speak Arabic,
and they say,
Iduna Sillaat al Musta. Like, the Tajweed is
totally messed up in the basement.
So now we have 2 scenarios here. If
I tell them,
you are you are 1 foot in the
grave. You come from our country. You can't
read with the beat. Get out of here.
You know, what's wrong with you? I offend
them in front of everyone,
they will never come again.
I know for a fact, for sure, they
will never show up again.
But if you tell them, MashaAllah,
first of all, you got a long breath,
it's a good thing.
So I assume you don't smoke. And number
2, you got a very beautiful voice, Masha
Allah. Vocal cords, excellent. Masha Allah.
If you perfect your tazweed,
if you learn the rules of tazweed, like
Mudhut, Tafim, Tafdir, this, that,
Even Abdul Bazid Abdul someone will be jealous
of you in his grave, Rahim Allah.
This will give them great encouragement. Wallah, and
they will come back, Oh, the Seyf said
something positive about me, I have to go
back.
You do the same thing with your wife,
if she cooks
Biryani or something, I'll be here. So, you
know, if she cooks something, and she didn't
put it off-site.
If you say, what is this junk? You
don't know how to cook? I told you
a 1000 time talk?
She's not gonna, you know. But if you
say, Oh Allah, beautiful cooking. You have kids?
Say it Akbir. Your mom makes beautiful Biryari,
Mashallah. May Allah reward you and give you
Jannah. If you please put someone's salt, I'll
be happy. Allah will even more.
She'll bring the bag of salt.
She's gonna put the whole thing. Right?
They say
they when you say something positive about some
before you correct them,
May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala you for, reward
you for listening attentively to Marhut, but if
I can please ask you kindly to move
forward,
because people are waiting there.
See, it works like magic all the time.
I just perform this, shirkuni. Everyone does it,
Alhamdulillah. You say something positive,
you correct someone.
Just like the law. They say when you
say something positive about someone, they correct them.
This is like a doctor who's operating on
someone. So what do they do first?
They give you the anesthesia, the injection. Like,
if you go to the doctor,
and they come with their drill, shayur,
to take out your tooth,
if they are not using anesthesia,
you will run away, you will jump in
the ocean, you will move back to Egypt,
you know? But if they use anesthesia,
they numb you so you don't feel the
pain,
they will come and they will sit there
like nothing is going on. Right?
Same thing, they do anesthesia, open heart surgery.
So you're sitting there, they open your heart,
they are operating on you, and you don't
feel anything.
Same thing when you say something positive to
someone, you disarm them.
But when you start
attacking,
they feel you put them on the defensive,
they will not listen to you. If you
attack them, you do this, you do this,
what's wrong with you, Jahannam, what is aqaar,
bita, this, that. You put them on the
defensive.
And when you are correcting them, giving them
the see how they're not listening to your
approach, they're not listening to what you are
saying,
they, in their mind, they are preparing an
argument for you
to defend themselves, and this is why
you will never win
them over or correct them. So make sure
inshallah when you give Nasiyyah to someone, you
give it to them with hiblah and good
preaching. We ask Allah
to give us the best in this life
and the best in the life to come
and give us hikmah so long before.
So in the last couple of minutes in
the life of this Kuppa,
I will share 2,
more techniques, and I mentioned passingly in the
past. I'll give a couple of examples.
Technique number 3, when you give nasiha
to someone,
focus on the action, not the person.
Focus your attack on the action, but not
the person.
Because as I said, when people feel attacked,
they try to defend and they will not
listen to you.
So if someone did something wrong,
they did something So don't say, what is
wrong with you?
Say, I wish this thing that you made
could be done in this way. When you
focus on the act and not the person,
they will listen to you. Say for example,
your dad is a smoker.
If you go to him and say, This
is Haram, this is Jahannam, this, that,
that, they will feel offended and they will
not listen to you. But if you say,
Dad, I love you, but I think smoking
is not good for you because it has
these effects,
They feel like you care about them, and
they will listen to you. There's this story
about Abu Dardan.
Yeah. He bowed by some people, and they
were cussing at someone, and they were pushing
him around. He said, oh, what's going on?
Why are you pushing him around? Why are
you cussing at him? They said he did
something terrible.
He said, afaraytum
in wakafi b'i a pun tum to Frishen
una'un. He said, if let's assume that this
brother fell in a well. He was about
to die. So what do you do? You
keep him inside the well, and you cuss
at him, you push him, or you throw
stuff on him, or you take him out?
They correct him. They said, no, of course,
we'll save his life, take him out, then
we'll try to give him naseah. He said,
do the same thing.
Should we not hate
him? He said, no. Don't hate him. Hate
his bad behavior, his bad action. But he
is your brother.
Don't hate your brother. Focus all your criticism
on the action itself. So the man started
to cry, and he made Tawbatullah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala. The last thing I wanna say in
the last 40 minutes, seconds,
sorry, like, last 40 seconds,
is when you give dawah to people, we
know in Islam there's
there is reward and punishment.
The stick in the carrot.
You need to talk to them. If they
are not praying, yes, you can talk about
the punishment,
you know, but you can also talk about
their war for those who perform namaz.
Keep the balance between their war and their
punishment.
Because some of us, when they talk to
people or they listen to kateek or stuff,
every time they talk about Jahanam, Jahanam, Jahanam.
No salah, Jahanam. No fasting, Jahanam. They are
late for paying Zakah or Hajjahanam.
Biryani,
Jahanam.
Everything is Jahanam.
So people get tired,
And
these Khati's or those who give Dawah, and
they always talk about Jahannam like, they pretend
that Jannah doesn't even exist,
paradise,
and they focus on Jahannam. Everything is Jahannam.
You listen to their Khubba, you feel like
Alhamdulillah, everyone is going to Jahannam. Jahannam will
be empty. They give you this impression. And
now, Shalimar, they go on Jahannam, I attended
some of those Khubba's back home, they speak
for 1 hour.
They speak Jahannam Jahannam, they describe every corner
in Jahannam, the food, the fire, the heat,
everything,
with details, very professionally,
very beautifully. They make you feel like they
were born and raised there. Like, they know
every inch in Jahannam.
Yes. Whenever the Quran and this is something
that is very striking about the Quran. Every
single time the Quran talks about Jahannam,
either before or after it talks about Jannah.
Always like this, Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala likes
both, and He gives you both options. If
you do the right thing, paradise Jannah. If
you don't do it the right way, Jahanam,
punishment.
So we have to keep the balance and
remind people of the reward and the punishment,
because sometimes the reward will will work for
someone and open their hearts, and sometimes the
punishment will open their hearts. So different options
work for different people, but make sure we
keep the balance inshallah.
Hikmah and give us the best in this
life and the best in the life to
come, and give us sincerity and dawah, and
we ask Allah
to guide all brothers and sisters to this