Mustafa Khattab – Control Your Anger

Mustafa Khattab
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The speaker discusses the concept of anger and how it can lead to negative behavior, including cutting off a cat's ears and causing it to take a hit. They give advice on how to handle anger in a positive way, including respecting others, teaching others to pray on time, and channeling it into positive thinking. He gives personal stories about experiences with a cab driver who was tortured by a cat and a Muslim, and gives practical advice on how to handle anger in a positive way, including channeling it into positive thinking.

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			Pay attention in the way of Tarah. So
		
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			today we'll talk about anger.
		
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			Anger.
		
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			I know some of us have anger issues,
		
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			you know. I hear a story as people
		
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			come to me for counseling,
		
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			someone steps on your foot,
		
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			World War 3. I'm
		
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			gonna kill you and your family, and
		
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			Come on, man. So anger.
		
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			What is the problem with anger?
		
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			Anger will get you in trouble.
		
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			Sometimes I go to jail and
		
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			visit people,
		
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			some of them are young,
		
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			they did something foolish
		
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			when they were young.
		
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			17, 18, 19.
		
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			They shot someone, they got into a fight,
		
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			they spent their entire lives in jail. Or
		
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			at least 25 or
		
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			years of their lives in jail because of
		
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			one angry moment
		
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			and they decided to,
		
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			to act violently
		
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			and they ruined their lives.
		
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			Whereas if they control their anger they would
		
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			have been in a bitter place.
		
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			There's a hadith, an authentic hadith,
		
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			someone was brought to the Prophet salallahu alayhi
		
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			wa sallam, he killed another sahabi, a sahabi
		
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			killed another sahabi.
		
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			So what happened? The Prophet
		
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			told him, what happened?
		
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			They were shepherds,
		
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			ra'a.
		
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			They had their own animals and stuff, so
		
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			they were taking care of the animals,
		
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			and they were collecting food for the animals.
		
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			They got into a hated argument.
		
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			One thing led to another, so he hit
		
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			him with the ax and he killed him.
		
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			So he said, the reason I killed him
		
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			is because he insulted my mother. He said
		
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			something about my mother so I killed him.
		
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			So the the Prophet
		
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			said, Why didn't you
		
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			say,
		
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			or leave or go somewhere else? You killed
		
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			him?
		
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			You know, because one thing led to another?
		
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			When you read in the Quran you see
		
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			some people getting in trouble because of anger.
		
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			The best example,
		
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			we love Yunus alaihis salam, we all say
		
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			peace be upon him, we love him and
		
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			respect him, but in Surah Yunus, sorry in
		
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			Surah and Bia because he was angry his
		
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			people were not responsive
		
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			and Allah told them they are getting
		
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			punished.
		
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			So what did he do?
		
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			Because, you know, he has been giving dua
		
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			for a long time,
		
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			very few people believed in him or maybe
		
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			no one believed in him, so he was
		
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			he was very angry, and he left without
		
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			the permission of Allah.
		
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			Because he was very angry, very mad because
		
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			people were not responsive,
		
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			and the punishment was coming anyway, so he
		
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			left without the permission of Allah
		
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			So what happened to him?
		
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			Allah
		
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			put him in the belly of the whale.
		
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			Doesn't mean that Allah did not have power
		
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			over him.
		
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			Means
		
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			He made it very tight for him. He
		
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			restrained him. He put him in the belly
		
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			of the whale.
		
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			Why? Because he was angry.
		
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			Right? But again, the prophet said,
		
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			don't say, the prophet
		
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			said, don't say I'm better than Yunus.
		
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			Respect him as much as you respect me.
		
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			So this is why when you say Yunus
		
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			alayhi salaam, you say, alayhi salaam.
		
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			Also,
		
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			I'll give you another good example.
		
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			Those of you who love soccer, raise your
		
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			hand.
		
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			Almost all boys and half of the girls.
		
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			Okay. That's good.
		
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			So what happened back in 2,008?
		
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			No. No. No. The final
		
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			World Cup final.
		
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			I got this set on stage 1.
		
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			2008.
		
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			Okay. You remember the final game? Okay. You
		
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			got my points anyway.
		
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			Okay. Listen guys. Don't
		
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			get me angry. Okay?
		
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			Okay.
		
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			I believe it was 2,008. It could be
		
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			2,006, but I think it's 2,008, the final
		
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			World Cup game between Italy and France.
		
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			France was that close to winning the cup
		
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			as they did in 1998.
		
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			But they lost because of one thing.
		
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			Anger. Because of anger.
		
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			A guy from the Italian team said something
		
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			about Zainiden Zidane's mother. Zainiden Zidane got very
		
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			angry and he, you know,
		
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			he headbutted him.
		
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			And of course the morale of the French
		
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			team went down and they lost
		
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			because of one angry moment.
		
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			So this could happen to you. So what
		
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			do you need to do basically
		
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			when you feel angry?
		
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			Say,
		
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			And this is the advice of the Prophet
		
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			Go make wudu.
		
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			The Prophet
		
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			said, If you are angry and you are
		
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			standing up, sit down.
		
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			If you feel that one thing will lead
		
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			to another and you will do something that
		
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			you will regret for the rest of your
		
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			life, just leave leave the place, go somewhere
		
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			else.
		
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			Right? If you are in one room in
		
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			the house, go to another room. Right? If
		
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			someone is bothering you so much and you
		
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			feel like you will do something to them,
		
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			you'll break their neck, give them a black
		
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			eye, do something, just leave.
		
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			If you can't stand the heat,
		
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			leave the kitchen. This is what they say
		
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			in English. Right? Go somewhere else.
		
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			My advice also,
		
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			sometimes you need to be angry.
		
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			This is the fact, sometimes you have to
		
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			be angry. Say for example, I am going
		
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			home and there is this guy and he
		
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			or she,
		
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			they are torturing a cat.
		
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			There is a video on YouTube. This guy
		
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			is cutting off the ears of a cat
		
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			and they are taking video of
		
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			him. You need to be angry. Right?
		
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			If say for example,
		
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			my kids are like 18 or 25 and
		
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			they don't pray on time. Yes. I need
		
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			to get angry. But how should I channel
		
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			my anger into a positive way?
		
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			Yes. I should be angry but how do
		
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			I react? How do I respond? In a
		
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			positive way.
		
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			Right? By teaching them about salah, by, you
		
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			know, asking them to pray on time, or
		
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			telling the guy who was torturing a cat,
		
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			this is not nice.
		
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			A bad thing done to an animal is
		
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			as bad as something terrible, you know, being
		
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			done to a human being. They have feelings,
		
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			they have ruach, they have a soul, you
		
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			shouldn't do this. Try to give them try
		
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			to give them naseehah. Try to channel your
		
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			anger in a positive way.
		
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			I'll conclude with this story, it's a personal
		
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			story that happened with me,
		
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			about 4 years ago,
		
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			close to 4 years ago.
		
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			August 2013,
		
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			I was in Toronto,
		
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			and I was visiting the Imam there for
		
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			1 month so one day I was going
		
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			to,
		
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			my house
		
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			I didn't have a car back then because
		
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			it was just 1 month and it is
		
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			very hard to find parking in
		
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			you know around the place where I was
		
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			working
		
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			Dundas, downtown.
		
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			So I was coming back from the Masjid
		
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			after Salatul Jumaa and I was dressed up
		
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			like Masha Allah with a turban and something
		
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			like this. I think it was white or
		
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			and the sword, you know, like very
		
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			like a prince, you know, from the old
		
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			days, you know 1000 years ago. But anyway
		
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			the cab driver that day was not Muslim.
		
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			So he knew that I was Muslim. Most
		
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			of the time my cab drivers during that
		
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			time were Muslim. He called the company
		
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			is you know a Muslim comes.
		
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			But that day the cab driver was not
		
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			Muslim. So he said,
		
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			Muslims are good people but Islam is evil.
		
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			Islam sucks. These were his words.
		
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			I could have, you know, gotten into a
		
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			heated argument with him.
		
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			You know, Muhammad Ali
		
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			You know I'm gonna you know fight you
		
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			and your entire family. Let's go. You know.
		
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			No. I you know I channeled this into
		
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			a positive thing
		
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			and as a result of this
		
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			I translated the whole Quran because he said
		
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			that the Quran you know called him an
		
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			animal and I said no it doesn't say
		
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			this in the ayah and I realized
		
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			that his translation said so. So instead of
		
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			fighting him and breaking his jaw or you
		
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			know, get to a into a fight,
		
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			I realized there was a problem and I
		
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			tried to solve it by doing a translation
		
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			of the Quran. Alhamdulillah,
		
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			the clear Quran is the number one Amazon
		
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			Canada bestseller.
		
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			You know? So we make sure that it
		
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			is available for Dawah to send them a
		
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			clear Quran to all public libraries.
		
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			Next step would be to send the clear
		
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			Quran to all hotel rooms, to all airports,
		
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			to make them available to the public, they
		
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			are already in the in the jail system,
		
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			inmates receive the clear Quran.
		
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			Why? Because I use this moment, this angry
		
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			moment to do something positive. You can do
		
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			the same thing. So instead of getting into
		
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			a heated argument or a fight with someone,
		
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			try to see what is the most practical
		
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			and positive way to channel your anger. Maybe
		
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			we'll continue tomorrow Insha Allah. We ask Allah
		
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			Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala to give you the best
		
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			in this life and the best in the
		
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			life to come. Questions tomorrow, Insha'Allah.
		
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			Questions tomorrow.