Mustafa Khattab – Closer to Allah 29 Family Matters Ramadan 2011

Last night, we spoke about the Hadith of

the 3 guys.

One of them, because he was not grateful

to Allah

he lost his hair and,

became

ugly, pretty much like Shrek. How many of

you have seen Shrek?

Yeah. Yeah. He became pretty much like that

Shrek.

Being good to your family members and connecting

to your family members and not cutting them

off is a very important thing, and I

I'm emphasizing this because of the importance,

because of the significance of this topic. Oftentimes

people come to me and they say, okay,

I will talk to my brother

or I don't talk to my father or

my sister or my brother

because of trivialities.

Okay?

And I have come across a hadith that

are very scary.

If if if if you if this is

what you are doing, then this is something

very scary. Like this hadith that I came

across,

narrated by Imam Ahmed,

recorded by Abu Hurayrah of Allahu Anhu,

that the deeds, your good deeds, are raised

to Allah

in the day of Jum'ah, and Allah

will accept from everyone,

except those who cut off their family members.

Allah will not praise and will not accept

their good deeds and will never forgive them

in this hadith.

Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says, those who are

good to their families,

those who are kind to their relatives, I

will be kind and I will be merciful

to them. But those who cut off their

family relations, I will cut off their relations,

their relationship with me.

But we don't need this.

I don't think they will cut I don't

think they will turn you down. It's a

good time. The hearts are open.

Their minds are open.

People will be receptive to you at this

particular time.

Do your best. If they don't like to

meet you in person and talk to you

because of this disagreement,

send them an email,

send them a postcard,

send them a fax, send them a letter

in a bottle and throw it in the

ocean,

give them the sign language. Just do anything,

man. Do your best, and Allah Subhanahu Wa

Ta'ala will support you as long as you're

doing this. Even if they cut they if

they cut you off, they are not your

teachers.

If people are bad to you, you don't

have to be bad to them.

You don't expect to get the right treatment

all the time.

To be better than them.

So I conclude with this. You have to

be exceptionally good to your parents, even if

they are not good to you,

especially your father, especially

your mother.

The Prophet

emphasizes this in the Hadith, and he said,

you have to be good to your mother

even more than your father. And the Quran

also talks about the pain and the suffering

of the mother more than it talks about

the father. And the reason the scholars say

because,

now you're a grown up, you see your

father working 2, 3 shifts, kicking and killing

himself every day to put food on the

table,

but you look at your mother. She's sitting.

She's watching TV all day long,

talking on the phone for hours,

chatting on Facebook. So you feel like

she's not doing anything,

but you look at your father, man, he's

he's my hero. But Allah

is reminding you of the sacrifices of your

mother when you were you were young. And

you don't know about all these sacrifices.

The pregnancy for 9 months, the pain of

the delivery,

taking care of you, nursing you, changing the

diapers.

See how terrible that is? So your mother

suffered. You have to be good to them

even if they are not good to you.

Those who cut off their family relations, they

will not make it to paradise, as the

prophet

said in the authentic Hadith.

And, the question

for last night, if the day of Eid

comes on a Friday and you make it

to the, it's Salatul Eid in congregation,

the

right answer is you don't have to come

to Jum'ah, but you have to pray both

in in Jum'ah, in your house, or wherever

you might be. And the winner for tonight

is sister Hanan Ali. Sister Hanan Ali.

Ramadan along with the 6 days of Shaba'a.

And hadiyah forget, they said that yazma'a baynaniyatayn.

Ni yazayam sintam shawwal. Wakabadilayamilatifatatukmirrabbadan.

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