Mustafa Khattab – Closer to Allah 29 Family Matters Ramadan 2011

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The speaker emphasizes the importance of not cutting family members off and not apologizing for cutting them off. He gives advice on how to handle conversations with family members and advises to be exceptionally good to parents even if they cut off their relationships. The speaker also reminds people to pray before the day of catalysts, and to write letters and postcards to avoid being cut off.

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			Last night, we spoke about the Hadith of
		
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			the 3 guys.
		
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			One of them, because he was not grateful
		
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			to Allah
		
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			he lost his hair and,
		
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			became
		
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			ugly, pretty much like Shrek. How many of
		
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			you have seen Shrek?
		
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			Yeah. Yeah. He became pretty much like that
		
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			Shrek.
		
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			Being good to your family members and connecting
		
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			to your family members and not cutting them
		
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			off is a very important thing, and I
		
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			I'm emphasizing this because of the importance,
		
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			because of the significance of this topic. Oftentimes
		
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			people come to me and they say, okay,
		
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			I will talk to my brother
		
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			or I don't talk to my father or
		
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			my sister or my brother
		
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			because of trivialities.
		
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			Okay?
		
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			And I have come across a hadith that
		
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			are very scary.
		
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			If if if if you if this is
		
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			what you are doing, then this is something
		
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			very scary. Like this hadith that I came
		
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			across,
		
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			narrated by Imam Ahmed,
		
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			recorded by Abu Hurayrah of Allahu Anhu,
		
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			that the deeds, your good deeds, are raised
		
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			to Allah
		
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			in the day of Jum'ah, and Allah
		
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			will accept from everyone,
		
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			except those who cut off their family members.
		
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			Allah will not praise and will not accept
		
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			their good deeds and will never forgive them
		
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			in this hadith.
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says, those who are
		
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			good to their families,
		
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			those who are kind to their relatives, I
		
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			will be kind and I will be merciful
		
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			to them. But those who cut off their
		
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			family relations, I will cut off their relations,
		
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			their relationship with me.
		
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			But we don't need this.
		
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			I don't think they will cut I don't
		
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			think they will turn you down. It's a
		
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			good time. The hearts are open.
		
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			Their minds are open.
		
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			People will be receptive to you at this
		
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			particular time.
		
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			Do your best. If they don't like to
		
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			meet you in person and talk to you
		
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			because of this disagreement,
		
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			send them an email,
		
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			send them a postcard,
		
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			send them a fax, send them a letter
		
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			in a bottle and throw it in the
		
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			ocean,
		
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			give them the sign language. Just do anything,
		
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			man. Do your best, and Allah Subhanahu Wa
		
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			Ta'ala will support you as long as you're
		
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			doing this. Even if they cut they if
		
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			they cut you off, they are not your
		
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			teachers.
		
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			If people are bad to you, you don't
		
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			have to be bad to them.
		
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			You don't expect to get the right treatment
		
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			all the time.
		
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			To be better than them.
		
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			So I conclude with this. You have to
		
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			be exceptionally good to your parents, even if
		
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			they are not good to you,
		
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			especially your father, especially
		
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			your mother.
		
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			The Prophet
		
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			emphasizes this in the Hadith, and he said,
		
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			you have to be good to your mother
		
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			even more than your father. And the Quran
		
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			also talks about the pain and the suffering
		
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			of the mother more than it talks about
		
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			the father. And the reason the scholars say
		
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			because,
		
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			now you're a grown up, you see your
		
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			father working 2, 3 shifts, kicking and killing
		
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			himself every day to put food on the
		
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			table,
		
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			but you look at your mother. She's sitting.
		
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			She's watching TV all day long,
		
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			talking on the phone for hours,
		
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			chatting on Facebook. So you feel like
		
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			she's not doing anything,
		
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			but you look at your father, man, he's
		
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			he's my hero. But Allah
		
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			is reminding you of the sacrifices of your
		
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			mother when you were you were young. And
		
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			you don't know about all these sacrifices.
		
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			The pregnancy for 9 months, the pain of
		
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			the delivery,
		
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			taking care of you, nursing you, changing the
		
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			diapers.
		
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			See how terrible that is? So your mother
		
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			suffered. You have to be good to them
		
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			even if they are not good to you.
		
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			Those who cut off their family relations, they
		
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			will not make it to paradise, as the
		
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			prophet
		
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			said in the authentic Hadith.
		
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			And, the question
		
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			for last night, if the day of Eid
		
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			comes on a Friday and you make it
		
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			to the, it's Salatul Eid in congregation,
		
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			the
		
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			right answer is you don't have to come
		
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			to Jum'ah, but you have to pray both
		
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			in in Jum'ah, in your house, or wherever
		
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			you might be. And the winner for tonight
		
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			is sister Hanan Ali. Sister Hanan Ali.
		
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			Ramadan along with the 6 days of Shaba'a.
		
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			And hadiyah forget, they said that yazma'a baynaniyatayn.
		
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			Ni yazayam sintam shawwal. Wakabadilayamilatifatatukmirrabbadan.
		
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			If you know who answered, email me before
		
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			tomorrow asa@cicmanagmail
		
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			to come. And don't forget
		
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			to, spell out the, flitches. And we thank
		
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			the brothers and sisters who donated today, yesterday,
		
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			and the day before to Doctor. Mokhet.