Mustafa Khattab – Closer to Allah 29 Family Matters Ramadan 2011
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The speaker emphasizes the importance of not cutting family members off and not apologizing for cutting them off. He gives advice on how to handle conversations with family members and advises to be exceptionally good to parents even if they cut off their relationships. The speaker also reminds people to pray before the day of catalysts, and to write letters and postcards to avoid being cut off.
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Last night, we spoke about the Hadith of
the 3 guys.
One of them, because he was not grateful
to Allah
he lost his hair and,
became
ugly, pretty much like Shrek. How many of
you have seen Shrek?
Yeah. Yeah. He became pretty much like that
Shrek.
Being good to your family members and connecting
to your family members and not cutting them
off is a very important thing, and I
I'm emphasizing this because of the importance,
because of the significance of this topic. Oftentimes
people come to me and they say, okay,
I will talk to my brother
or I don't talk to my father or
my sister or my brother
because of trivialities.
Okay?
And I have come across a hadith that
are very scary.
If if if if you if this is
what you are doing, then this is something
very scary. Like this hadith that I came
across,
narrated by Imam Ahmed,
recorded by Abu Hurayrah of Allahu Anhu,
that the deeds, your good deeds, are raised
to Allah
in the day of Jum'ah, and Allah
will accept from everyone,
except those who cut off their family members.
Allah will not praise and will not accept
their good deeds and will never forgive them
in this hadith.
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says, those who are
good to their families,
those who are kind to their relatives, I
will be kind and I will be merciful
to them. But those who cut off their
family relations, I will cut off their relations,
their relationship with me.
But we don't need this.
I don't think they will cut I don't
think they will turn you down. It's a
good time. The hearts are open.
Their minds are open.
People will be receptive to you at this
particular time.
Do your best. If they don't like to
meet you in person and talk to you
because of this disagreement,
send them an email,
send them a postcard,
send them a fax, send them a letter
in a bottle and throw it in the
ocean,
give them the sign language. Just do anything,
man. Do your best, and Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala will support you as long as you're
doing this. Even if they cut they if
they cut you off, they are not your
teachers.
If people are bad to you, you don't
have to be bad to them.
You don't expect to get the right treatment
all the time.
To be better than them.
So I conclude with this. You have to
be exceptionally good to your parents, even if
they are not good to you,
especially your father, especially
your mother.
The Prophet
emphasizes this in the Hadith, and he said,
you have to be good to your mother
even more than your father. And the Quran
also talks about the pain and the suffering
of the mother more than it talks about
the father. And the reason the scholars say
because,
now you're a grown up, you see your
father working 2, 3 shifts, kicking and killing
himself every day to put food on the
table,
but you look at your mother. She's sitting.
She's watching TV all day long,
talking on the phone for hours,
chatting on Facebook. So you feel like
she's not doing anything,
but you look at your father, man, he's
he's my hero. But Allah
is reminding you of the sacrifices of your
mother when you were you were young. And
you don't know about all these sacrifices.
The pregnancy for 9 months, the pain of
the delivery,
taking care of you, nursing you, changing the
diapers.
See how terrible that is? So your mother
suffered. You have to be good to them
even if they are not good to you.
Those who cut off their family relations, they
will not make it to paradise, as the
prophet
said in the authentic Hadith.
And, the question
for last night, if the day of Eid
comes on a Friday and you make it
to the, it's Salatul Eid in congregation,
the
right answer is you don't have to come
to Jum'ah, but you have to pray both
in in Jum'ah, in your house, or wherever
you might be. And the winner for tonight
is sister Hanan Ali. Sister Hanan Ali.
Ramadan along with the 6 days of Shaba'a.
And hadiyah forget, they said that yazma'a baynaniyatayn.
Ni yazayam sintam shawwal. Wakabadilayamilatifatatukmirrabbadan.
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tomorrow asa@cicmanagmail
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