Mustafa Khattab – Choosing Friends

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The importance of not standing up and not making noise during a session is emphasized in Islam. The speaker discusses the meaning of " Movistar" for Islam, emphasizing that it refers to a sacred place and not to harm other people. They also mention "by the way" as a way to indicate a situation being criticized and a friend being punished. The importance of friends is emphasized, and staying away from people who are not important to you and the importance of staying away from people who are not important to you is emphasized.

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			So, again as a reminder insha'Allah, when I
		
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			ask a question, raise your hand. Don't stand
		
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			up. Don't make noise. And after I finish,
		
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			tomorrow's session, inshallah, would be for questions and
		
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			answers. Because I can't answer 50 questions at
		
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			the same time. And people are talking like
		
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			20 guys are talking at the same time.
		
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			Right? So I will answer all the questions
		
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			tomorrow, insha'Allah. After I finish, no questions. We'll
		
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			go to the classroom. Okay? I love you
		
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			too. Then we'll answer the questions tomorrow, insha'Allah.
		
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			I got a question,
		
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			from one of the sisters here,
		
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			regarding Al Masjid Al Haram. Do you know
		
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			where Masjid Al Haram is? Oh, yeah. I
		
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			know. I know. Yes. What's in Halal? In
		
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			Mecca. Masjid Al Haram. Good job. Masjid Al
		
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			Haram is in Makkah. And the question is,
		
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			why do they call it haram?
		
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			Because haram is a bad word in Arabic.
		
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			Why? Because,
		
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			it's haram to do things new that are
		
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			bad there. Excellent.
		
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			But I'll tell you a story first.
		
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			Yeah. There there
		
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			what? There was a
		
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			there was a guy in a Muslim country,
		
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			and this is a true story.
		
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			Because when you hear the word haram, it
		
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			it it has a con a bad connotation,
		
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			like, it is something bad.
		
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			So this guy in a Muslim country
		
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			I'm not gonna mention the name of the
		
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			country. There might be a middle question or
		
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			quiz.
		
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			But he was a drug dealer.
		
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			He was a truck dealer. So he made
		
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			100 of 1,000 of £98.
		
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			Right?
		
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			Eventually,
		
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			when he became very old, he decided to
		
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			make tawba. Like, okay. I can't do this
		
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			anymore. I'm gonna make Tawba to Allah. I'm
		
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			gonna do go do Hajj and Umrah, and
		
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			so on and so forth. When he came
		
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			back, he decided to use all money
		
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			to build a big Masjid.
		
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			And all the people in the area knew
		
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			that he was a thief and he was
		
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			a drug dealer. He used all the money
		
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			to build a Masjid.
		
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			You know what the people called the Masjid?
		
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			They called it Al Masjid Al Haram.
		
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			Because the money came from Haram sources.
		
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			Right? So this is why they called it
		
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			Masjid Al Haram.
		
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			This is bad.
		
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			But, Islamically, it's acceptable to go and pray
		
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			in that masjid,
		
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			whether
		
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			the money is from haram or haram. From
		
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			haram, Allah will judge the person.
		
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			Haram and Arabi
		
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			means that this place is sacred.
		
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			In in Egypt and some places in the
		
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			Arab world, we call women, we call them
		
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			harim.
		
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			Right? Harim is,
		
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			like a person that you are not allowed
		
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			to harm. Right? It's it's it's inviolable.
		
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			This is the word we use. A person
		
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			you cannot violate and they cannot harm.
		
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			The same is true for Al Masjid Al
		
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			Haram. Everyone respected Al Masjid Al Haram. Even
		
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			at the time of the prophet sallallahu alaihi
		
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			wa sallam, the the
		
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			people of Mecca,
		
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			who didn't even worship Allah, they were worshiping
		
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			idols. They had respect for this place.
		
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			They have stories
		
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			that before Islam, they had so many fights
		
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			and people were killed and and stuff.
		
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			So much so that even the people of
		
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			Makkah,
		
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			during Tawaf,
		
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			if they meet someone
		
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			who killed their own father or their own
		
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			brother
		
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			in Tawaf, they wouldn't touch them. Because now
		
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			you are in this place that is sacred,
		
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			I cannot harm you.
		
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			But when you go outside,
		
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			we'll do something else. But inside, it's a
		
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			sacred place. You're not allowed to harm the,
		
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			the dogs, the pigeons inside. You're not allowed
		
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			to harm any other people, and so on
		
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			and so forth. So this is what we
		
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			call it Al Masjid Haram. Haram here means
		
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			sacred.
		
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			We're holy. You're not allowed to harm anyone
		
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			or anything inside.
		
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			What I'm gonna talk to you about today
		
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			is,
		
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			friendship.
		
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			I'm gonna check a couple,
		
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			pick a couple of you,
		
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			and I'll take the sister. But don't come
		
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			here. Don't Who is your favorite friend here?
		
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			Why?
		
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			Why is is she your best friend?
		
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			She helps you. And,
		
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			why do you like her?
		
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			She gives you money?
		
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			No?
		
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			Why?
		
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			She's nice to you.
		
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			The brothers
		
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			will take,
		
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			we'll take this guy. Finally, I picked you.
		
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			Thank you. You're welcome. Hey.
		
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			I have 2 best friends. These 2.
		
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			Why?
		
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			Because they're my soccer buddies.
		
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			This is good.
		
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			Thank you. We're gonna have friends.
		
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			Thank you. So,
		
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			today I'll talk about choosing a friend. It's
		
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			because
		
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			your friends
		
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			will
		
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			impact you. There is what we call an
		
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			English peer
		
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			influence. If your friends are good, you'll be
		
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			good like them. If your friends are bad,
		
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			you will copy their example.
		
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			There are stories
		
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			there are stories
		
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			from the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam that
		
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			many people accepted Islam
		
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			because of their good friends. Like, their friends
		
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			were good, like Abu Bakr
		
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			You know the Ashur Sahaba who got the
		
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			news of Jannah?
		
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			Abu Bakr Uthman Ali, so on and so
		
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			forth.
		
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			The 2 Sahaba of Jannah,
		
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			many of them accepted Islam because they were
		
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			good friends to Abu Bakr
		
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			They knew he was a good man even
		
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			before Islam. So as soon as we told
		
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			them about Islam,
		
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			this is what we do.
		
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			1, 2, 3, Sala, Namaz, we give Zakah,
		
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			we do this, we stay away from Haram.
		
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			They said okay,
		
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			say no more. They accepted Islam, because they
		
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			believed in him, and they accepted him as
		
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			a good friend.
		
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			On the other hand, there are some people
		
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			at the time of the Prophet
		
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			who didn't accept Islam because of their friends.
		
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			Although,
		
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			they believed Islam was the truth, although they
		
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			like the Prophet
		
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			Although they believe the Quran was from Allah,
		
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			but they didn't accept Islam
		
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			to please their friends.
		
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			One of them
		
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			rather than haraf. He accepted Islam because the
		
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			prophet visited him in his house, and he
		
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			made dawah to him.
		
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			So he accepted Islam, then after the prophet
		
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			left,
		
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			he passed by his friend,
		
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			this man, and his friend said, okay. You
		
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			accepted Islam, you betrayed me. I'm not your
		
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			friend anymore. He said, okay. What do you
		
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			want me to do? He said, go to
		
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			Muhammad and tell him you are not a
		
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			Muslim, you are not a believer. And this
		
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			is what he did.
		
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			And he even said things and he abused
		
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			the Prophet SAW Alaihi Wasallam to please his
		
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			friends. There's also another guy,
		
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			you know Surah Najm?
		
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			Most of the end it says
		
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			So what happens, there was a man,
		
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			he liked the Quran,
		
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			he believed in Islam,
		
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			then when his friend found out he was
		
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			so mad, and he told him, okay. You
		
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			betrayed us. You accepted Islam. You're not my
		
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			friend anymore.
		
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			So this man
		
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			said, okay. So what do you want me
		
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			to do? He said, go tell Muhammad that
		
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			you don't believe in Islam anymore. So the
		
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			message that I'm afraid of Jahannam, I'm afraid
		
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			of the fire because
		
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			you know if I leave it and I
		
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			will be punished in akhirah or something you
		
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			know I'm afraid. I want to go to
		
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			Jahannam, I don't want to go to Jahannam.
		
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			So his friend said,
		
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			I'll make a deal with
		
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			you. You leave Muhammad
		
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			and on the day of judgement, if there
		
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			is actually Jahannam a punishment,
		
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			I will go to Jahannam in your place,
		
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			but you have to pay pay me money
		
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			here. So they made a deal that he
		
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			was going to pay him 10,000
		
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			and he would take his place in Jahannam.
		
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			Right?
		
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			His friend paid him a couple of months
		
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			then he said okay I paid you already
		
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			22,000
		
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			this is enough for Jahannam Khalasa I'm not
		
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			gonna pay again.
		
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			Does he look at after to see that
		
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			someone can take the punishment of another?
		
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			It is written
		
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			that no one would be punished in the
		
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			place of the another because everyone would be
		
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			accountable only for themselves.
		
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			So as you can see here,
		
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			some people
		
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			became, Muslim because of their friends, and some
		
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			people didn't become at the time of the
		
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			prophet
		
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			because they were influenced by their friends.
		
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			In one minute inshallah, I'm gonna
		
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			remind you of something that Imam Ibn Khayyim
		
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			said about friends
		
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			or the people you deal with every day,
		
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			and he classified them into 4 types. The
		
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			first type he said
		
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			Kelhiva.
		
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			They are like the air you breathe,
		
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			the food you eat, and the water you
		
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			drink. They are very essential to your life.
		
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			You cannot survive with them.
		
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			Like they're always helping you, they're nice to
		
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			you, they show you the right way. So
		
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			these are the good people that you should
		
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			hang out with.
		
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			The second type,
		
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			they are like a dawah, like medicine. You
		
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			take medicine every day, or only when you
		
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			need it? Only. Only when you need it.
		
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			If you have a fever,
		
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			your Tylenol,
		
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			so
		
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			on. So only when you need it, you
		
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			take it.
		
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			So he is saying basically that these are
		
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			the types of people like colleagues,
		
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			like the people you do business with,
		
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			the people who are who sit next to
		
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			you in the train or the plane.
		
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			Right? The people you go to school with
		
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			and so on and so forth.
		
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			The third type of people
		
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			they are like
		
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			disease.
		
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			Get that. If you get close to them
		
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			you will be harmed. If you stay away
		
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			from them, you'll be good. For example,
		
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			the people you play video games with
		
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			247,
		
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			like you play with it all the time.
		
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			They're not asking you to do something ham,
		
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			but they are basically wasting your time.
		
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			Some
		
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			of our brothers who are older, if they
		
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			go to Tim Hortons,
		
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			they stay there for hours, and they talk
		
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			about politics, and they talk about this and
		
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			that, and,
		
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			the, you know,
		
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			business and all these things.
		
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			So basically, they are talking about things that
		
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			is not going to benefit them in dunya
		
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			al efra. They talk about the weather, they
		
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			would talk about politics,
		
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			they would talk about video games.
		
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			They are not harming anyone, but they are
		
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			just wasting their life. Your life is very
		
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			precious.
		
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			There should be time for everything. Yes. Play
		
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			video games for half an hour, 1 hour,
		
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			pray,
		
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			play,
		
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			eat,
		
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			sit with your family. There's time for everything.
		
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			The 4 5,
		
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			they are like poison.
		
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			They are the people that they will harm
		
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			you. So try to stay away from, and
		
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			these are the people who always try to
		
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			keep you away from the good
		
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			and invite you to the bad. If you
		
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			want to go to the masjid to pray,
		
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			they'll say no. No. No. No. Don't worry
		
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			about it. If you wanna go, like, to
		
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			your neighbor and steal their apples or,
		
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			kill their chicken, yeah. Let's do it. And
		
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			they do haram things as well. So if
		
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			you wanna do something good, they will stop
		
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			you. If you wanna do something bad, let's
		
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			go and do it.
		
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			So stay away from them completely. So let's
		
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			go today, inshaAllah, we ask Allah
		
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			to bless you and your family. Insha'Allah, we'll
		
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			talk more about choosing a friend than how
		
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			to appreciate your friend.