Mustafa Khattab – AdabulKhilaf Etiquittes of Disagreement in Islam 2

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The Prophet sallali alaihi wa sallam gives advice on Islam and gives different opinions on who should follow the Prophet. He also gives advice on praying and praying in Ur, stressing the importance of remembering to be biased towards one third of the opinion. There are disagreements in jurisdictions' views on people and relationships, and the importance of speaking straightforward to people and not accepting evidence from third parties is emphasized.

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			It is okay.
		
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			If something is acceptable, there's nothing wrong. If
		
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			we accept it, we, you know,
		
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			we act upon it.
		
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			In Raswa Badr, the Battle of Badr, for
		
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			example, the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam positioned
		
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			the army,
		
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			you know,
		
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			halfway between the wheels of Badr and the
		
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			army of the Kufar of Maq.
		
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			So Al Habab al Nimwundir came to the
		
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			Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, he spoke in
		
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			a very respectful manner.
		
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			He said, You Rasulullah,
		
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			amanzilun, anzalakabuullah,
		
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			amiadharbu
		
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			walmakru
		
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			al khadiam. He said, O Prophet of God,
		
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			is this a place
		
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			that Allah told you to stay in,
		
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			that you cannot move forward or go back?
		
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			Or
		
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			it is all about war, you know, planning,
		
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			and so on and so forth. So the
		
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			Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, I have not
		
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			received regulations regarding the place where I should
		
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			position my army,
		
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			but this is, you know, this is war,
		
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			planning is acceptable, and so on and so
		
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			forth. So he said, You Rasool Allah fa'inna
		
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			Hazah lai Saat Bimanzi.
		
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			O Prophet of Allah, this is not a
		
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			good place.
		
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			We should take the wills.
		
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			Take over them. We drink, they don't drink.
		
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			And this is
		
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			the, point of strength for our army, and
		
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			this will be a weak point for them.
		
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			Eventually,
		
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			you know, this turned it out to be
		
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			a very successful tactic, and Muslims won, although
		
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			they were outnumbered,
		
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			like, 3 times, they were 3 times less
		
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			than the number of the Kufar. They won.
		
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			And the prophet accepted his opinion.
		
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			Some other leaders might be offended by this.
		
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			Who are you? I'm the prophet of God.
		
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			How come you tell me, you know, this
		
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			is not a good place? Go there. Go
		
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			here. No. No. The Prophet
		
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			was open minded and open hearted.
		
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			He accepted from the people.
		
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			Plus also the manner the Sahabi, the companions,
		
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			spoke to the Prophet He asked them, is
		
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			this, you know, something from Allah or from
		
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			you? Because if it was from Allah, I
		
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			mean, there was no point in talking and
		
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			arguing.
		
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			The famous hadith
		
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			when the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam told
		
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			the Sahaba,
		
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			Now you should pray us till we reach
		
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			the place where the Banu Korayba live.
		
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			Some of
		
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			them waited, and they didn't pray us till
		
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			they reached the place of Banu Quraybah, and
		
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			some of
		
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			them thought that the what the Prophet said
		
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			was only a mitha 4, which means we
		
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			have to go
		
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			as fast as we can. We should be
		
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			there as soon as possible.
		
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			They prayed on the way.
		
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			When the news
		
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			of what happened came to the Prophet sallallahu
		
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			alaihi wasalam,
		
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			he didn't say that this is wrong or
		
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			this is right. Both of them were acceptable
		
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			to him, and he didn't criticize
		
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			any of them.
		
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			And according to the hadith
		
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			in Bukhari and Muslim through Abu Lab Nohr
		
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			radiAllahu an Ummah, he said, Falam Ya'if, Waheedam
		
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			min Ummah, Aminata'ifatayil
		
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			Aap. None of the 2 groups
		
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			criticized
		
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			the other. So it was acceptable.
		
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			The Sahaba, be you Allah be pleased with
		
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			him, disagreed
		
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			on the on where the Prophet
		
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			would be buried after his death.
		
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			And eventually, they buried him in the, room
		
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			or the house of Aisha
		
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			They also disagreed
		
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			on who should follow the Prophet
		
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			as a Khalifa?
		
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			Should be Abu Bakr? Should be should it
		
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			be someone from the Ansar,
		
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			The helpers? Or someone from the immigrants? They
		
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			had a discussion.
		
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			So they had different opinions, and that was
		
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			acceptable.
		
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			We also see in the books of Firkh,
		
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			you know, differences of in opinion between Shafi'i,
		
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			Abu Hanifa, and Imam Ahmed, Imam Malik.
		
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			Some of them, for example, say, regarding if
		
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			you missed Salatul Tur, for example, and it
		
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			is now time for us,
		
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			Imam Shafi'i says,
		
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			even if you join the Jama'ah prayers,
		
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			you will have to pray in Ur.
		
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			You pray if you pray us, then after
		
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			you pray us, you will have to pray
		
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			duk, then pray us.
		
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			Abu Hanifa says, if you pray As,
		
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			Jama' with the people,
		
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			then you can pray
		
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			afterwards, and that's it. End of story.
		
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			They have a lot of
		
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			differences in their juris juristic opinion.
		
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			But when was the last time you saw
		
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			Abu Hanifa, for example, calling Al Shafi'
		
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			ignorant?
		
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			Or where was the last time you saw
		
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			Imam Shaffei calling Abu Hanifa
		
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			foolish?
		
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			You will never find it. They had great
		
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			respect for one another.
		
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			They say
		
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			that according to one narrative,
		
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			that Abu al Shafi'i, Imam Shafi'i prayed,
		
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			Fahl in the Masjid of Imam Abu Hanif.
		
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			So he didn't say Bismillahir Ahmad Rahim in
		
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			the in Fatiha, and he didn't make Kunud
		
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			supplication in the last rakah out of respect
		
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			for Imam Abu Hanif. Because in the Chafei
		
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			school, you can say, Bismillah alhamal Rahim, and
		
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			you can't make Kunud in
		
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			fashr prayer.
		
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			But out of respect, he didn't do it.
		
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			So they respected one another.
		
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			There are some things that we should never
		
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			do when we have difference in agreement with
		
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			other people. People. Whether it's a
		
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			friend, your wife, your husband,
		
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			a member of the community.
		
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			Number 1.
		
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			Being biased
		
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			to 1 third opinion.
		
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			Like, for example, you accept all the opinions
		
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			of Imam Malik.
		
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			If Imam Abu Hanifa says something,
		
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			you don't even wait to listen to what
		
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			the Imam Abu Hanifa says.
		
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			You just rejected our right without listening to
		
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			the opinion or the
		
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			proof of this opinion.
		
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			So biased to 1 fifth, you know, opinion.
		
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			One of the major problems we have differences
		
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			among us is because
		
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			of
		
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			ignorance.
		
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			So maybe straightforward.
		
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			Ignorance.
		
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			Ilham Al Ghazali said in one of his
		
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			books,
		
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			If those who are ignorant
		
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			keep quiet,
		
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			there will not be any difference or disagreement.
		
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			If scholars talk, there will be no disagreement.
		
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			Even if they have a variant or a
		
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			diverse
		
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			opinion.
		
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			Speaking of ignorance,
		
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			I remember one time reading a story
		
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			of, one of the, you know, brothers.
		
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			I think it took place in in Madinah,
		
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			in Egypt, in Saudi Arabia or Egypt. There
		
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			was a helicopter of hadith.
		
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			1 of the Imams was teaching hadith to
		
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			the people. And the topic was the weak
		
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			hadith.
		
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			In the middle of the lecture,
		
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			an old brother, like in his fifties, sixties,
		
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			or seventies came to the Masjid. He saw
		
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			them sitting in the circle helipad,
		
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			so he joined them.
		
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			Okay.
		
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			The Imam was talking about weak Hadith from
		
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			the Prophet
		
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			So the old man
		
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			got so angry
		
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			and he called the the Sheikh an idiot
		
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			or something. He said,
		
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			you are crazy. How come you say that
		
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			the prophet say a weak hadith?
		
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			If the prophet said it, it should be,
		
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			an authentic and a strong hadith. The prophet
		
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			doesn't say weak hadith.
		
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			So, Subha Allah, he doesn't know the
		
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			he doesn't have any idea about the item
		
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			of hadith.
		
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			If he just read one page about hadith,
		
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			he wouldn't say something like this.
		
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			You know,
		
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			throwing,
		
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			you know, falsehoods
		
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			and allegations at one another with no proof
		
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			or any evidence.
		
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			You said this, but, brother, I didn't say
		
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			it. Wallah, I didn't say it. No. No.
		
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			No. No. You said it. I don't care
		
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			if you, you know, you just said it.
		
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			So we have to speak with proof.
		
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			Don't accept evidence from a third party.
		
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			If you have a problem with your brother,
		
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			you just go talk to him straight. Don't
		
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			talk to other people, and the other people
		
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			will go talk to him. Like, you have
		
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			somebody in between, like a FedEx man,
		
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			you know, to convey what you say, and
		
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			he will have to convey what the other
		
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			party says. The best thing to do is
		
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			to speak straightforward
		
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			to your brother or to your husband or
		
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			wife.
		
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			If you put people in between, there'll be
		
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			miscommunication
		
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			and misunderstanding.
		
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			And you don't know
		
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			about the people in between, if they have
		
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			good intentions or bad intentions. And sometimes, you
		
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			know, they will add things,
		
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			you know, things will happen. Speak straightforward
		
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			to the people.
		
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			Some people are impatient.
		
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			When they talk to other people,
		
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			they just lose it, you know, their patience
		
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			wears thin.
		
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			And the only thing we can do is
		
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			to pray to Allah
		
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			to give them patience.
		
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			They say what they want to say, and
		
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			they don't have the patience to listen to
		
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			the other person, and they cannot tolerate
		
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			what other people say.