Mustafa Khattab – AdabulKhilaf Etiquittes of Disagreement in Islam 2

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The Prophet sallali alaihi wa sallam gives advice on Islam and gives different opinions on who should follow the Prophet. He also gives advice on praying and praying in Ur, stressing the importance of remembering to be biased towards one third of the opinion. There are disagreements in jurisdictions' views on people and relationships, and the importance of speaking straightforward to people and not accepting evidence from third parties is emphasized.
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It is okay.
If something is acceptable, there's nothing wrong. If
we accept it, we, you know,
we act upon it.
In Raswa Badr, the Battle of Badr, for
example, the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam positioned
the army,
you know,
halfway between the wheels of Badr and the
army of the Kufar of Maq.
So Al Habab al Nimwundir came to the
Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, he spoke in
a very respectful manner.
He said, You Rasulullah,
amanzilun, anzalakabuullah,
amiadharbu
walmakru
al khadiam. He said, O Prophet of God,
is this a place
that Allah told you to stay in,
that you cannot move forward or go back?
Or
it is all about war, you know, planning,
and so on and so forth. So the
Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, I have not
received regulations regarding the place where I should
position my army,
but this is, you know, this is war,
planning is acceptable, and so on and so
forth. So he said, You Rasool Allah fa'inna
Hazah lai Saat Bimanzi.
O Prophet of Allah, this is not a
good place.
We should take the wills.
Take over them. We drink, they don't drink.
And this is
the, point of strength for our army, and
this will be a weak point for them.
Eventually,
you know, this turned it out to be
a very successful tactic, and Muslims won, although
they were outnumbered,
like, 3 times, they were 3 times less
than the number of the Kufar. They won.
And the prophet accepted his opinion.
Some other leaders might be offended by this.
Who are you? I'm the prophet of God.
How come you tell me, you know, this
is not a good place? Go there. Go
here. No. No. The Prophet
was open minded and open hearted.
He accepted from the people.
Plus also the manner the Sahabi, the companions,
spoke to the Prophet He asked them, is
this, you know, something from Allah or from
you? Because if it was from Allah, I
mean, there was no point in talking and
arguing.
The famous hadith
when the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam told
the Sahaba,
Now you should pray us till we reach
the place where the Banu Korayba live.
Some of
them waited, and they didn't pray us till
they reached the place of Banu Quraybah, and
some of
them thought that the what the Prophet said
was only a mitha 4, which means we
have to go
as fast as we can. We should be
there as soon as possible.
They prayed on the way.
When the news
of what happened came to the Prophet sallallahu
alaihi wasalam,
he didn't say that this is wrong or
this is right. Both of them were acceptable
to him, and he didn't criticize
any of them.
And according to the hadith
in Bukhari and Muslim through Abu Lab Nohr
radiAllahu an Ummah, he said, Falam Ya'if, Waheedam
min Ummah, Aminata'ifatayil
Aap. None of the 2 groups
criticized
the other. So it was acceptable.
The Sahaba, be you Allah be pleased with
him, disagreed
on the on where the Prophet
would be buried after his death.
And eventually, they buried him in the, room
or the house of Aisha
They also disagreed
on who should follow the Prophet
as a Khalifa?
Should be Abu Bakr? Should be should it
be someone from the Ansar,
The helpers? Or someone from the immigrants? They
had a discussion.
So they had different opinions, and that was
acceptable.
We also see in the books of Firkh,
you know, differences of in opinion between Shafi'i,
Abu Hanifa, and Imam Ahmed, Imam Malik.
Some of them, for example, say, regarding if
you missed Salatul Tur, for example, and it
is now time for us,
Imam Shafi'i says,
even if you join the Jama'ah prayers,
you will have to pray in Ur.
You pray if you pray us, then after
you pray us, you will have to pray
duk, then pray us.
Abu Hanifa says, if you pray As,
Jama' with the people,
then you can pray
afterwards, and that's it. End of story.
They have a lot of
differences in their juris juristic opinion.
But when was the last time you saw
Abu Hanifa, for example, calling Al Shafi'
ignorant?
Or where was the last time you saw
Imam Shaffei calling Abu Hanifa
foolish?
You will never find it. They had great
respect for one another.
They say
that according to one narrative,
that Abu al Shafi'i, Imam Shafi'i prayed,
Fahl in the Masjid of Imam Abu Hanif.
So he didn't say Bismillahir Ahmad Rahim in
the in Fatiha, and he didn't make Kunud
supplication in the last rakah out of respect
for Imam Abu Hanif. Because in the Chafei
school, you can say, Bismillah alhamal Rahim, and
you can't make Kunud in
fashr prayer.
But out of respect, he didn't do it.
So they respected one another.
There are some things that we should never
do when we have difference in agreement with
other people. People. Whether it's a
friend, your wife, your husband,
a member of the community.
Number 1.
Being biased
to 1 third opinion.
Like, for example, you accept all the opinions
of Imam Malik.
If Imam Abu Hanifa says something,
you don't even wait to listen to what
the Imam Abu Hanifa says.
You just rejected our right without listening to
the opinion or the
proof of this opinion.
So biased to 1 fifth, you know, opinion.
One of the major problems we have differences
among us is because
of
ignorance.
So maybe straightforward.
Ignorance.
Ilham Al Ghazali said in one of his
books,
If those who are ignorant
keep quiet,
there will not be any difference or disagreement.
If scholars talk, there will be no disagreement.
Even if they have a variant or a
diverse
opinion.
Speaking of ignorance,
I remember one time reading a story
of, one of the, you know, brothers.
I think it took place in in Madinah,
in Egypt, in Saudi Arabia or Egypt. There
was a helicopter of hadith.
1 of the Imams was teaching hadith to
the people. And the topic was the weak
hadith.
In the middle of the lecture,
an old brother, like in his fifties, sixties,
or seventies came to the Masjid. He saw
them sitting in the circle helipad,
so he joined them.
Okay.
The Imam was talking about weak Hadith from
the Prophet
So the old man
got so angry
and he called the the Sheikh an idiot
or something. He said,
you are crazy. How come you say that
the prophet say a weak hadith?
If the prophet said it, it should be,
an authentic and a strong hadith. The prophet
doesn't say weak hadith.
So, Subha Allah, he doesn't know the
he doesn't have any idea about the item
of hadith.
If he just read one page about hadith,
he wouldn't say something like this.
You know,
throwing,
you know, falsehoods
and allegations at one another with no proof
or any evidence.
You said this, but, brother, I didn't say
it. Wallah, I didn't say it. No. No.
No. No. You said it. I don't care
if you, you know, you just said it.
So we have to speak with proof.
Don't accept evidence from a third party.
If you have a problem with your brother,
you just go talk to him straight. Don't
talk to other people, and the other people
will go talk to him. Like, you have
somebody in between, like a FedEx man,
you know, to convey what you say, and
he will have to convey what the other
party says. The best thing to do is
to speak straightforward
to your brother or to your husband or
wife.
If you put people in between, there'll be
miscommunication
and misunderstanding.
And you don't know
about the people in between, if they have
good intentions or bad intentions. And sometimes, you
know, they will add things,
you know, things will happen. Speak straightforward
to the people.
Some people are impatient.
When they talk to other people,
they just lose it, you know, their patience
wears thin.
And the only thing we can do is
to pray to Allah
to give them patience.
They say what they want to say, and
they don't have the patience to listen to
the other person, and they cannot tolerate
what other people say.