Mustafa Khattab – AdabulKhilaf Etiquittes of Disagreement in Islam 1

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The importance of Islam is highlighted in highlighting differences between different cultures, citing verses from the Quran and respecting the Prophet's teachings. Vis breadth and diversity in cultural presentations and language are emphasized, along with the importance of respect and respect in the Muslim community. The sunGeneration of the Prophet is a blessing for those with sound understanding, and praying to make certain events happen is also discussed.

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			In the name of Allah, the most gracious,
		
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			most merciful.
		
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			All praise is due to Allah
		
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			We praise him, and we seek his forgiveness
		
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			and assistance.
		
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			And we take refuge in him from the
		
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			evils of ourselves
		
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			and our shortcomings.
		
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			Whomever Allah guides, there is none to misguide
		
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			him. And whomever Allah leaves to go astray,
		
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			there is none to guide him.
		
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			We bear witness that there is none worthy
		
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			of our worship except Allah
		
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			the creator,
		
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			the sustainer, and the cherisher of this universe.
		
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			And we bear witness that Muhammad
		
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			is the seal of the prophets
		
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			and the final messenger to all humanity.
		
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			I greet you with the greeting of Islam.
		
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			Assalamu alaikum.
		
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			I'm honored and pleased to be here in
		
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			the city of Durham.
		
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			I like to be here. I like your
		
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			masjid. I like your sound system.
		
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			There's a lot of Islamic heritage and Arabic
		
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			heritage in this, city.
		
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			On the way I say, I I saw
		
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			the city of Salem, and Salem is an
		
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			Arabic word, which means safe,
		
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			and secure.
		
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			The word Durham,
		
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			some say, is taken from the Arabic word
		
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			dirham.
		
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			Dinar and dirham.
		
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			The word
		
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			is the plural of the word deek in
		
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			Arabic which is rooster.
		
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			So it's an Arabic word.
		
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			So the list can go on and on.
		
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			Why do we talk about
		
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			the concept of khilaf or disagreement
		
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			or difference in Islam?
		
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			In less than 2 weeks, we will have
		
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			the month of Ramadan. And Alhamdulillah, this is
		
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			the month of blessings and favors and grace
		
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			of of
		
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			Allah The month of the Quran, the month
		
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			of forgiveness, and so on and so forth.
		
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			But it is also the month
		
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			of disunity
		
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			amongst the Muslims.
		
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			You see some brothers in some masajid, and
		
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			I've heard about this. 1 One of the
		
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			brothers was visiting a masjid in Texas.
		
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			He's a member of our community. When he
		
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			came back, he said,
		
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			you know, brother, he went to bread to
		
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			pray tarawih and one of the masajid in
		
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			the first night of Ramadan.
		
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			But there was literally
		
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			a fight between the people and the Masjid.
		
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			Some say, Brother, we pray 20 rakats. Some
		
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			say, No. No. We pray 11. Brother, bitter
		
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			bitter, bitter. 20 is bit They had a
		
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			big
		
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			fight. They agreed to pray live in rakas.
		
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			No problem.
		
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			Then, they had another disagreement.
		
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			Some say, we need to finish the Quran
		
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			in Ramadan. Some say, no. No. No. No.
		
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			No. We just need to pray for rakas.
		
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			Aqaas, go home and call it a day,
		
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			take it easy.
		
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			There are differences.
		
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			In this situation,
		
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			the imam the only thing the imam, you
		
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			know, can do is to ask the people
		
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			by their love for our love,
		
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			their love for the Prophet,
		
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			their respect for the Masjid,
		
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			not to to bleed on the carpet of
		
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			the masjid, when they fight.
		
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			Because the imam can't do anything.
		
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			He will keep citing verses from the Quran,
		
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			Hadith from the Prophet, to respect the masjid,
		
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			and so on and so forth. Nobody is
		
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			listening.
		
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			Linguistically,
		
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			the word ishtilaf and khilaf are related. They
		
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			mean difference,
		
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			disagreement,
		
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			variation, and diversity.
		
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			We will not be talking about the difference
		
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			between what is right and what is wrong,
		
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			what is halal and what is haram, because
		
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			this is very clear to sound minds.
		
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			People of understanding would know this very easily.
		
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			So we'll not be talking, for example, if
		
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			Allah exists or doesn't exist.
		
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			Allah is 1 or Allah is 3.
		
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			We don't want to talk about this because
		
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			it is very clear.
		
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			We will be talking about,
		
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			you know, diversity
		
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			or variation in opinion,
		
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			and both opinions are acceptable in Islam.
		
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			We would not talk
		
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			for long about differences among scholars because this
		
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			needs a different, you know, lecture.
		
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			We will be basically be talking about, you
		
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			know, differences, like, everyday, you know, life differences.
		
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			Like, differences between a husband and wife, a
		
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			friend and his friend,
		
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			differences within the community
		
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			regarding different different issues.
		
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			But first, we start by citing a verse
		
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			from the Quran that talks
		
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			about variation
		
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			and diversity as being a blessing
		
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			from Allah.
		
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			In the variation,
		
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			the diversity of your tongues
		
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			and the diversity of your colors
		
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			is a sign from God. Indeed, in this,
		
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			there is a sign. This is a blessing
		
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			for the people who have sound understanding.
		
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			This is a blessing.
		
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			Imagine
		
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			if the whole world was uniform.
		
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			The people have the same color,
		
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			the people eat the same food every day,
		
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			the people have the same culture, they speak
		
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			the same language, and so on and so
		
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			forth. So there's no white, there's no black,
		
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			there is no
		
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			lovely Indian Pakistani food. You know, nothing. It's
		
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			only one culture.
		
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			Don't you think it will be a boring
		
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			world?
		
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			Alhamdulillah, it's a blessing that we have differences,
		
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			variations, diversity.
		
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			And Allah says in the Quran that the
		
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			differences of colors you have, the differences in
		
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			tongues, that you speak English, Arabic, German, French,
		
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			This is a blessing from Allah. We have
		
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			to cherish. We have to respect.
		
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			And also,
		
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			if you have one color, one food, one
		
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			language, you know, people eat, you know, Dunkin
		
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			Donuts every day, One culture.
		
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			Some businesses will run out of business, like
		
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			tourism, for example.
		
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			Translation,
		
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			money exchange,
		
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			and of course, tourism, go where, see what.
		
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			There's nothing to say, there's only one kashr.
		
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			So again, variation is something,
		
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			good. It's a blessing from Allah
		
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			We read in the books of Fird, for
		
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			example, if you read the introduction to, the
		
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			book of fiqh sunnah by Sheikh Saeed Saba.
		
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			He will say, for example, that at some
		
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			point in the Muslim history,
		
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			some scholars,
		
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			you know, used to focus
		
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			on fine details of fiqh, and they used
		
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			to have a lot of differences. All the
		
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			way
		
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			I mean, it got so ugly. At some
		
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			point,
		
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			some of the scholars say that it is
		
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			not allowed
		
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			for someone who follows the Shafi'i Mazha
		
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			to marry a sister who follows the Hanafi
		
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			Madha.
		
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			Allah, it's in the in the book of
		
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			Sayed Saba. They say because the it is
		
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			acceptable in the Madha of Imam Shafi'i to
		
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			say,
		
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			ana muminun insha'allah. Whereas,
		
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			in the opinion of Abu Hanifa, you know,
		
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			Shafi'i, you know, in the Shafi'i opinion, he
		
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			can say, I will be a believer insha'allah.
		
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			Whereas, this is not acceptable in the Hanafi
		
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			school, so they should not get married.
		
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			This is nonsense.
		
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			So people should not be, you know, stooping
		
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			to this level of thinking and understanding.
		
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			Of course, we see brothers, you know, bro
		
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			this brother who's sitting next to me in
		
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			the salaat
		
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			is, you know, is making me lose my
		
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			focus in the salaat. Why? He is moving
		
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			his finger too much in the the shahood.
		
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			I can't focus.
		
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			He will have to do something about his
		
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			finger.
		
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			Okay.
		
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			Don't move your finger too much.
		
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			Brother, you know,
		
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			I I ain't gonna I'm not gonna pray
		
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			in this message again. Why? You know, the
		
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			brother, when after the salah, he raises his
		
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			hand in the dua'a like this. I can't
		
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			focus with people's hands raised up like this
		
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			in Dua'a.
		
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			What do you want him to do? To
		
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			put down his hands and pray, you know,
		
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			to make Dua'a in his heart?
		
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			Okay.
		
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			SubhanAllah.
		
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			When we read the sunnah of the Prophet
		
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			sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, we see
		
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			that some of the Sahaba had different opinions,
		
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			you know, from one another. There was an
		
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			opinion, one Sahabi would say something different, and
		
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			both of them were acceptable.
		
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			And And even the prophet
		
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			himself
		
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			would have an opinion,
		
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			and one of the sahaba would come with
		
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			a different opinion,
		
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			and the prophet
		
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			would leave his own opinion and take the
		
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			opinion of the sahaba.