Mustafa Khattab – A Muslims Regrets
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The speakers discuss the loss of worship and the tragic accidents of the previous weekend. They emphasize the importance of thinking about the possibility of death and the importance of fasting and praying before death. They also mention various narratives and stories about death, including the haroff and belief that everyone has a haroof. The importance of understanding the process of death and not counting days is emphasized. regret-related questions are discussed, including one related to a belief that someone should not be killed before they die, and multiple regret lists. The transcript emphasizes the importance of spending time in the washroom and not counting days when people may not answer the question.
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I bear witness that there is none worthy
of our worship except Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
and I bear witness that Muhammad sallallahu alaihi
wa sallam is the seed of the prophets.
So
as we mentioned in the last Khutba, in
a few weeks inshallah the month of Ramadan
will begin
Shaban
started on Tuesday
so before you know it the month of
Ramadan will be here and
you believe in Ramadan
Ahab has baptized me at Laylat Al Qadr.
The reason why Laylat Al Qadr is called
Laylat Al Qadr according to Abdullah ibn Abbas
radiAllahu language
was Zafih al Arzahat wa Tuktabuffih al Akdar.
Your Qadr is written during Laylat Ibn Pan
So he says that maybe
it was written for you last Ramadan that
before the next Ramadan you will die
and you don't know about it. Right? Because
it was written for you as your Qadr
This idea came to my mind
this, Saturday. I was driving to Niagara Falls.
There was,
a family conference there, Muslim conference.
And I was on the way and you
know what happened? The freezing rain and the
storm. It was one of the most horrible
days I've seen here in Canada. Right?
So I drove Saturday and I I came
back on, like, Sunday morning,
and I've seen with my own eyes 10
accidents on the road,
QEW. It was terrible.
The roads were very slippery, and it was
horrible.
And subhanAllah, I saw accident after accident, and
I saw death with my eyes.
And I didn't have winter tires and, you
know, you have this. Okay what if it
is my time and what if it's gonna
go now? Right?
So I saw a van involved in an
accident, I saw a truck, and I saw
a boat
on Guilidhau.
Like a boat was on the back of
a truck and it got into an accident
And I said, okay. A car, a truck,
a van, a boat.
So what else to expect? Maybe a Boeing,
a 747?
Like, I don't know.
And I'm thinking about this, SubhanAllah. And they
said on 6:8:8 news, more than 1,600,
600
accidents happened over Saturday, Sunday. 1,600
accidents.
So I thought maybe what what happens if
I'm involved in an accident like all those
100 or
1,600
people who got into accents?
And what if it is my day and
I leave this world? So I think this
is something that we need to think about
before Ramadan.
If it is our Qadr that we're gonna
go before Ramadan or before next Ramadan, who
knows?
Sometimes SubhanAllah we get
overwhelmed with dunya, we forget about this question
and Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala calls death Al
Yaqeen in the Quran this is the certainty
this is certain
whether someone is gonna get married, they will
get laid off, they will get a job,
they will go to school is not certain
in this world the only thing that Allah
calls certain in the Quran is Al Yaqeen
And despite all of this
that no one is gonna, you know, escape
death
it never crosses people's minds
they typically say in English there's 2 things
that you cannot
avoid in dunya
death and taxes.
However, some people find a way to get
around taxes, but you cannot have a way
around death. Once your time comes, you just
go. Bye bye. Finished.
So here's the thing, sometimes we reach the
stage of Rafla
in this dunya death never crosses our mind
although subhanAllah they say that every time you
see Janaza or someone dies you should think
maybe I'm next, you never know
because as I always say, it is as
if all of us are on a bus
or a chain, whenever your bus stop comes,
you get off. You get off the bus.
Doesn't matter if you're old, young, man, woman,
rich, poor, it doesn't really matter. When your
bus stop comes, you get off the bus.
Some people think
for you to die,
Mashallah, you have to have like, you know,
gray hair,
falling teeth,
and a cane, you know, like this mezkim,
and you die. They don't know, like
death itself is the reason you don't need
a reason to die once your time comes
Qadarullah you just leave right?
Uh-uh, there is a narration Dawud alaihis salam
asked Malek and Maude
okay you know before people die they expect
some signs like the gray hair the teeth
and the cane
so Malik and Mote said okay we have
been sending signs all the time where is
your dad he said died gone where is
your mom gone your cousin gone your neighbor
gone
He said this is the sign
If the Angel of death
skips you today to take someone else the
day will come when he skips someone else
to take you, right? So you should always
keep this in your mind but SubhanAllah
they have this story
about the haroof
So what happened?
They bought the haroof for Eid ul Adha,
a sheep with big horns so they bought
the haroof for Korbani
2 months before Eid ul Adha
and they kept the haroof in the house
it was like in a city so they
put the haroof in the house
and the kids took care of the haroof
Masha'Allah they gave the haroof a shower with
shampoo
shampoo and Masha'Allah, they brushed the teeth of
the haruf
and, they put, fyunka and all the nice
decorations on the haruf and they put a
chair for the haruf on the dinner table
they treated him like one of their own
So much love, so much, you know, compassion
and care.
Until one day, Eid ul Adha came, Korbani
came, and the kids were standing with the
Khuruf on the balcony,
and they saw people taking the haruf for,
you know, for sacrifice
and the haruf said
so he said everyone got a haruf,
sheep for sacrifice except us
except us this is the haroof the sheep
speaking
because he felt so comfortable
and he was well treated he felt like
he took life for granted I'm a member
of the family but we don't have a
haroof for sacrifice well you are the haroof
right?
And sometimes we get the same feeling that
we are here to stay
and we're not gonna die, right? So this
is the feeling that some people have because
while lying if someone has this feeling that
one day I'm gonna die and stand before
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala for judgment
we will not have all the musharrafs, all
the Mubaraks, and all the saliaks, and all
the all that nonsense.
If they keep this in their mind, that
one day I'm gonna die, Allah will hold
me accountable,
they will fix their ways.
So what if it is
Saturday, you're on the highway, the freezing rain,
and you see
accident after accident, and this is your day,
you're gonna go now.
So the question is, are you ready or
not? Like, if it is my day,
am I ready or not?
You know, I think this a very legitimate
question we should ask ourselves. If it is
my day,
am I ready to go?
And a lot of people, if you ask
them this question, they say no, I can't
go because
I have a lot of unfinished business,
you know.
My wife, my kids, my house, my kid,
you know, my job, my work.
This world will collapse if I die.
I can't die. So my answer is you
have to can.
I'm not sure if this is grammatically correct
you have to can I just made it
up but it makes a lot of sense?
The reason is
forget about your wife and kids because your
kids will be fighting over your inheritance
They will forget totally about you. They they'll
be fighting on who's gonna take the house,
the store, who's gonna take the money.
Your wife, mashallah, in 2 2 years she
is gonna get married or if if, the
sister dies your husband Insha'Allah will get married
like in 2 weeks.
You know, miskeen. And so on and so
forth. And and, you know, the the job
your boss will lie, he would be dancing
in the street.
You think he would be crying? No. He
would be happy
because
after he left, they're gonna get a guy,
better qualifications,
will do double the work, get half of
the pay. So your your boss will be
making dua, You Allah, why didn't you take
him like 10 years ago?
You know, so don't worry about what would
happen. Oh, the sun and the moon and
the stars, they're gonna be falling down. The
world will be in destruction. Everything will no.
Don't worry about it. Nothing would happen because
if the sun and the moon and the
stars will fall down because of someone's death
this would have happened 1400 years ago when
Muhammad
died, but nothing happened.
Allah told him
You Muhammad will die, everyone else will die,
we're not here to stay. So I use
saying
life is very short. Right?
Life is very short. We are not here
to stay. And they said
He said Nuh
Yes, he spent 950 years in Dawah
but he actually lived
1500
years
1500 years this is his life but he
spent 950 in Dawah
They said Nuh
was asked before he died, he was on
his deathbed, he was about to die he
was asked you lived a long life, how
do you see your life? He said, Wallahi,
it is as if
I entered my house through the front door,
and I left from the back door.
Very short, could you? Very short, short life.
He is talking about 1500
years. Well, what about me and you? Like,
40, 50, 60 years on this planet? You
didn't make it to the back door, you
died in the living room
very short
yeah, so typically a sister would live sister's
life expectancy is a little bit longer, they
live like 70 years, brother 60, they are
10 years less
imams 40, 45,
heart attacks, blood pressure, and they die. So
even if you live 200, 300 years, eventually
we are going to leave this world.
So before Ramadan, InshaAllah, we have to keep
asking questions about namaz, salah, about people, how
you treat the people,
the
rights of Allah, the rights of the people.
We have to have some questions
for these legitimate questions.
So, basically,
last year, I gave an example. It's it's
a very good example.
How we spend our lives in this world.
If you live 60 years let's say that
you're going to live 60
years, right? You will die at the age
of 60
I said that you spend 1 third of
your life on bed because you spend a
lot you sleep like 8 hours a day
from the 24 hours, so this is 1
third of your day you're just nodding on
your bed, you're not doing anything beneficial.
Then, if you spend half an hour or
40 minutes in the washroom taking shower, you
know, and, you know, relieving yourself, making woodoo,
so on and so forth. I know people,
they like to stay in the washroom, they
read books, and they sing
because of the echo. Marshall, I have a
beautiful voice, although they sound like Donald Duck,
but anyway.
So if you spend half an hour, 40
minutes every day in the washroom that's 3
4 years of your life gone, you spend
in the washroom.
Facebook, goodness gracious 7 years of your life
gone. Phones, watching TV, video games, another 7
years
gone. Going to school, going to work, another
10 years gone. So at the end, what
is left?
What is left is basically less than 1
year that you spend in namaz, in salah,
fasting Ramadan, doing Hajjat that's it and this
1 year or less is what will give
you Jannah anything else the video games, the
sleeping, the watching movies it's not gonna benefit
you at all in Akhil
so if it is gonna be one year
or less that will give you Jannah at
least it should be quality time
it should be quality time, right? So when
you fast Ramadan make the days of Ramadan
count
because some of us what we do we
count the days
7 days are gone, 10 days off, when
is 8th.
Now don't count the days as Muhammad Ali,
the boxer said, don't count the days, make
the days count.
Right? Because it's a short time. When you
pray in namaz,
some people they pray faster than light, jaldi
jaldi that that they do it very fast,
you know. It's only 4 minutes your habibi
that you spend in salah. Right? You have
24 hours in the day, Allah is asking
for like 20 minutes.
You spend like 4 minutes in every salah
and make it count
because of Allah it is not fair if
you are watching movies
video games you never blink
and if it is time for salah like
3 4 minutes
you start
like, you wanna fall asleep. It's not quality
time with Allah
Right? We'll talk about salah one day, Khushu,
and showing respect to Allah
in salah. So don't count the days, make
the days count. In the second Subba inshaAllah,
we'll talk about some regrets
that people have at the end of their
life. We're talking about Muslims showing regret at
the time of their death based on what
Allah says in the Quran and the Sunnah
So in the last 5 7 minutes in
the life of this Khutba,
InshaAllah we'll talk about these regrets in the
Quran. One of the regrets,
when it is time for someone to die,
one request that a lot of people would
have
In another Surah
When it is time to die people would
be crying You Allah we don't want to
die we want to go back to fix
to clean the mess
and in Surah Khattur Allah must say
Allah will say we have given you enough
time already don't ask for more time
we have given you 60 years 70 years
on the planet what did you do?
How much time does it take you to
say Allah forgive me?
To do a khalas? It doesn't take a
lot of time. 60, 78 years, and it
was not enough? Are you kidding me?
But some people, because of gafla, they forget.
And this is why we're giving this Khubba
to remind you
of this crucial question before our time comes
and we show regret.
So people will ask to go back and
clean the mess before they die. Why? Because
according to the Ayah, Abusarnahu Wa Simere'na we
have seen it all
now. We see the reward for good, we
see the punishment for evil, we know it
is haqq, we want to go back because
now we see it to Ayn Al Yaqeen
with our own eyes, but in the past
it was like, you know, word-of-mouth and we're
not sure but now we're very sure.
Another regret, the Prophet
passed by a grave and he said kabru
manhadah whose grave is this? They say
fulalimnu fulalimnu fulalimthis is the grave of this
person and the Prophet said rakatanilihatha
ahabu ilayhimimbaqiyatidunyaq
he said basically if this person
were to come back to life he opens
his eyes the first thing that he will
do as soon as he comes to life
is to pray Turakanamas
why? Because now he knows the importance of
Salah right? He will not play video games,
he's not gonna go to the movies,
he's not gonna go and play cricket and
soccer. No. He would pray namaz. This is
the only thing that he will do. Now
because they know the value of Salahil Haar.
Another regret, the prophet says
and SubhanAllah if you look at the Ayat
this is the only Ayat that talks about
this concept delay me so I give sadaqa
in the verse of Hadith Hadith
Mu'adhi Allahu Anhu
Salatunu was sadaqa to Quran Salat is more
for you on the Sirat and the grave
in
Adra but sadaqa zakah
is a proof of your iman because everyone
claims to be a believer they can fast,
pray, no problem but when it comes to
giving
no man, shoot me first right? So the
prophet sadaqa
Sadakal Zakah
is a proof of your iman and sincerity
and SubhanAllah this Ayah that talks about You
Allah give me more time so I can
give my Zakah
at the end of Surah
the people who don't have Iman or sincerity
so isn't that something? So Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala put this Ayat there in a reason
for a reason
that people will be crying You Allah
give me time like a few minutes I'll
just give my Zakah I'm gonna do a
transfer I need a few minutes will you
have 60 70 years to do it? Why
didn't you do it? Khala is too late
Allah will not Wa Laniu Akhir Allah will
not send Iida Jaa Aja Aja Khala is
too late
the last regret for today that a lot
of people have when Yomirkiyama
according to Surah Fortan
You wailata
laitaniilam
attakhiffulanan
khalilah
the person will cry to Allah on Youmuktiyama
and say I wish I never took this
evil person as a friend
they keep me away from the way of
Allah
Every time I wanted to do namaz and
pray and fast the right way they said
no, don't worry about it every time I
wanted to do something Haram they said oh
let's go man Jalde, let's go, let's do
it. Right?
So the person will be crying, Oryama Al
Qiyama, I never had I wish I never
had this as a friend.
Right?
So
choosing what friends will keep you on the
Salatul Mustaqim.
If you want to go right or left
they will keep you on the Surah Al
Mustaqim
this is good for us adults and it's
good for our kids
I'll tell you this story, Falas and we'll
finish Binaillayahu Ta'ala
One brother
came to me last year around October, late
October, it was getting cold,
and the brother said I've been sleeping in
my car in the parking lot for about
a week now. And I said okay, what
happened?
He said my son when he was young,
I used to take him to an Islamic
school,
Hebdul Quran, and so on and so forth.
He was a good kid.
Then when he went to high school, a
public school,
and he started to hang out with
bad kids, you know.
So there are good there is good and
bad. So he was hanging around with the
bad ones in Toronto. Right? The some of
them, they did like drugs and
gang members and stuff. 16, 17 years old,
you know. So he said at some point
my son was coming late from the Masjid,
forget about Sala Khilas. But he was coming
late,
like 10:11
at night, and I was not happy, but
he was out of control.
Then another time he was coming like 1
in the morning, 2 in the morning, and
3 in the morning. And I was very
mad, and at some point I yelled at
him, I pushed him, or pulled him, he
called the police on me. They came and
they kicked me out. And I'm not allowed
anywhere near my house. Right? And I've been
sleeping for a week now. And he said
now it's even worse because now I'm not
home. He's not coming home at all now
for us.
Right? He's not coming home.
Few days later the brother came back and
he said my son, 17 years old, has
been shot and he's dying in the hospital.
And I'm not sure if he died or
he made it. Right? So make sure you
have the good friends,
make sure your kids hang out with good
friends because you are good or as bad
as your friends. Right? You're good at it
or as bad at it, especially before Ramadan.
You need to keep a good company
Make sure you have good friends, people who
keep you on the Surahat of Mustaqim.
You always need friends who push you up,
not those who pull you down.
And also your kids, they will decide if
your kids will be good or bad. We
ask Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala to keep us
on the salatul mustaqim.
We ask Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala to
give us the best in this life and
the best in the life to come. And
we ask Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala to give
us sincerity in everything you say you can
do. Waktamu salah shazakumah