Mustafa Abu Rayyan – 57 Tafseer Surah alBaqarah Verses 235237

Mustafa Abu Rayyan
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The speakers discuss the benefits of reading B disclose the rules to protect the family, including divorce and the length of the waiting period. They stress the importance of not touching the woman until after the waiting period and advise against approaching her until the next day. The legal framework for marriage is also discussed, including the possibility of marriage and the importance of practice. The importance of avoiding these types of failure and avoiding fear is emphasized.
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Salam Alaikum salam rockauto Al hamdu lillahi rabbil aalameen

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obedience to Allah Allah dunya our deen will occur with remoter,

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advanta Illa Allah Valentin, wa salam, wa salam ala Nabina

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Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi Jemaine, we are continuing to the

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seer of sutra Baqarah. And we are still in the ayat related to

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talaaq.

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One of the benefits that you see in reading sort of Bacara is the

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importance Allah subhanaw taala has put into the family law, and

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the outcome related to the marriage and the law and how much

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importance Allah Almighty has put into this. So it's not a a matter

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that is to be taken lightly. issues related to divorce issues

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related to marriage, Allah subhanaw taala emphasize on these

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rules to protect both husband and wife to preserve the family. And

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to ensure that if there is separation, it is done in the best

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and most amicable, amicable way possible.

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Last time, we spoke about the woman who loses her husband and he

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dies, and what are some of the rulings related to that? And we've

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covered that her eight day period is different than the eight day

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period of the woman who is divorced. So the divorcee

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will we will look at her situation, if she was pregnant.

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How long is her ADA? Until she gives birth? If she wasn't

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pregnant? How and how long is it three menstrual cycles, if she is

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not menstruating due to old age or anything similar to that. Then how

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long does she have her ADA?

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Sorry, three months very good and salatu salam ala mentioned as well

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as terminal Mahube.

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Those that have lost hope in hierdoor. In romances, then that

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there is the period the waiting period is three months.

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What about the person then who whose husband passes away?

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That is how long? Four months N and 10 days bar coffee comes? So

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that's a rule that is different than the rest by Allah subhanaw

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taala and spoke about

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the rulings related to that. Does anyone remember what that is?

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So if a woman is in the mourning period, what does she not to?

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Sorry, she doesn't adorn herself, and she is in the mourning period.

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And how long does that last?

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The four months and 10 days? Yes, very good. Anyone that is not a

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spouse, how long can you mourn for them? Three days, three days.

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And then life continues then life continues type.

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Today it's all about Allah. We are reading the IR it's related to if

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one is interested in marrying a woman that has been divorced, how

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do you go about it? So a woman was divorced? Can you propose to her?

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Or can you not propose to Allah subhanaw taala says, Well, I do

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not have Alikum and there is no sin on you. There is no sin on

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you. Female rock to be human hit. But in Nisa, if you make a hint of

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betrothal or proposal,

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Oracle conceal it in your hearts are working in comfy and fuzzy

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calm. So what are you learning here?

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Let's say a woman. Her husband died. And she is in the waiting

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period. Or her husband divorced her. And she is in the waiting

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period. Let's start with the one that has been divorced these two

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cases, either she is the de la paz de la Raji or the de la costa

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Allah Akbar in what is the luck, Roger I mean, a revocable divorce

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meaning, meaning her husband divorced her once, and he can

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potentially take her back. This type of woman you can never

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propose to her. She's still tied to her husband. Anytime you can

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say here, my wife and I together, she still lives with him. So a

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woman whose husband divorced her and in this period, you don't go

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near her. You don't think of her you don't propose to her. She's

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still patented, because he can still make a decision tomorrow. I

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take you back in your wife again. So you completely avoid the

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situation. Is that Well, they now what if? What if

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she he or she is locked back in what's the last one in a revocable

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divorce. He divorced so once took her back. After a while he

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divorced. So again, then took her back. By the third time when he

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divorces her, can you take her back? No, that's an irrevocable

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divorce. When that happens, she enters into a waiting period. And

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depending on the situation, whether she was pregnant or not,

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it could be mtgs birth, it could be three months it could be three

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menstrual cycles. In any case during this time, what are you

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allowed to do it? Let's say you interested in her, let's say

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interested in her

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or in the

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Time where she is waiting. Can you tell her inshallah one year is

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over? I'm gonna marry you? Can you tell her that? No, you cannot. So,

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let's say a woman and Okay, what about if he dies? Same thing. So a

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woman dies for four months and 10 days for four months and 10 days,

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you're not allowed to directly approach her or propose to her.

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But afterwards you can why? Why would Allah subhanaw taala tell us

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to not do this? The reason is that it is very possible that once you

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express interest, that she lies about her menstrual cycle, she

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shortens the time is these are all possibilities. And because you

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express interest and instead of waiting all the time, she may just

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hurry or shorten the time that she's meant to wait, because you

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have no idea. And because of this to avoid this problem, Allah

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Subhana Allah says do not approach them and directly propose to them

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until after the morning. So what are you allowed to do? What are

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you allowed to do your whole life as? Well? I do not have a comfy

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Rafa was fantastic, and there's no sin on you, if you make a hint. So

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what you're allowed to do, you can make a hint that you're interested

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in as mentioned that Obama said that he should mention something

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like, I am looking for marriage, or, but not particularly her? Or I

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wish there was a someone that I could you can you can hint around

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the topic that's allowed. But what isn't allowed a direct proposal?

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Does that make sense?

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Because there's two types of there's two types of proposals.

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The three,

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three is direct target, or Kenai is indirect. And you're not

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allowed to be direct when a woman is on her on the on the divorcing

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waiting period, but you are allowed to be in the last month,

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Allah says, you can make a hint or you can conceal it in yourself,

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meaning you're allowed to think about it a lot of planet, you

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could be thinking, Okay, I think I'm gonna kind of go for that

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sister. And then we're going to marry that woman. I know, she's

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got the divorce recently. And honestly, it's quite interesting

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that someone can be thinking of marrying a woman that is recently

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married, but this is halal, right. And it also shows you the

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importance of marriage. Think about this. We often the mentality

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might be she just went through a divorce. She just went through a

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divorce. Maybe she's not looking for a man right now. Spend some

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year, two years, three years travel, go back to your studies.

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This isn't that like a lot of time what you hear, but from the, from

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the messaging of the Quran, Allah is telling us if a woman just has

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been divorced, or her husband just died, and she's in this waiting

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period, don't directly ask her, but you're allowed to hint. And

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the moment that the time is over, you can work directly propose,

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meaning the amount of time someone's supposed to be single

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shouldn't be long. The amount of time that someone is supposed to

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be single isn't a law. So it's not from the Sunnah, that a woman even

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if she's divorced, right, that she just stays unmarried, is not from

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the Sunnah for a brother. So you know what? I'm taking a break from

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marriage right now, you know, I'm gonna take five years, six years

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to myself, this is not necessarily the right way is it allowed? This

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is allowed. In fact, someone wants asked me, Chef, is it worth it for

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me to get married? I said, No, it's not worth it for you to get

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married. And the reason he asked is so simple, and this actually

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happened to me twice. Once he was a sister. I was a brother, that

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maybe they should meet. Because it was just I once asked me, Chef, is

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it wise for me to get married? No, it's not why it's not like this.

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Haha, it's not like, you know, you're the kind of like hedge is

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not from the five pillars. You don't have to get married. But it

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is highly, highly, highly, highly encouraged. Right? And it is

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almost an odd thing. But for some, maybe they won't get married. And

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that's okay.

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But we of course, highly encourage it. And here you learn. Allah

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subhanaw taala saying, don't directly proposed to the woman

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that is on her ADA. But you're allowed to conceive in yourself,

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you can plan it. And you can also hint. Another lesson you learn

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from this is that this idea that a divorced woman is good study has

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it's done know from here, you clearly see that they are

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prospects and you can marry them. And there's nothing wrong with

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that. Rasool Allah married woman that have been divorced or married

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woman that her husband passed away. So this idea, this cultural

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thing that we have where the if a woman is divorced and callous,

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that she shouldn't get married, or it's an odd thing in a brother

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proposals to a woman that has been divorced recently was an odd thing

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for you to go for a woman who lost her husband has been previously

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married before. It's not this is not necessarily the case. It

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depends on the circumstances. And if

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Person ticks your boxes, and you think they're good for you and

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they can raise children with you and have a good family with you.

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And there's nothing wrong with that. Does that make sense? Of

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course you have the ideal pot, but we need to get rid of the stigma

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that around marrying someone that was previously married. There's

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nothing wrong with that. As you can see, clearly Allah subhanaw

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taala speaks about it by now what Subhana Allah said I Lima Allahu

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Allah Who knows.

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And according to the Quran know we're lucky not to worry to Hona

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sera that you will remember them but do not make a promise of

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contract with them in secret, so do not seek at least proposed to

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her.

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I wanted to Atlanta who will call on my roofer, except if you say

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good and honorable speech, which is what that you hinted that you

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don't directly speak to them. While at Azimo rather than mica I

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had to block it our agenda and do not consummate the marriage until

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the term prescribed has been fulfilled. So you it is what is

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the outcome of marrying a woman isn't?

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What is the outcome that Nikka is fancied? You cannot marry a woman

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that is still in the waiting period. Does that make sense? By

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what Allah mu and no. And Allah Allah OMA mafia and Allah knows

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what's in your hearts and minds for how the rules are fair him

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while Mo and no and Allah indeed Allah is our forum, the oft

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forgiving halimun The Most Forbearing then Allah subhanaw

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taala says, Laguna ha they come in collected on this. There is no sin

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on you. If you divorce your woman folk. Here we learn the ruling of

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divorce. What is the ruling of divorce in Islam? The ruling of

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divorce was it? Is it haram to divorce settlement? Is it Mr. hob?

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Is it why deep? Is it what is the outcome of divorce. And the writer

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might say the problem of divorce depends on the circumstances.

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Sometimes it is haram for you to divorce your your your wife, for

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example, It's haram for you to divorce her. When she's on her

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menstrual cycle. You can't issue a divorce, the look of that there

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must be a hallelujah juice. It's haram. You can't divorce a woman

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just to harm her weight because harming a borrower is not allowed.

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Sometimes it is disliked to divorce a woman disliked if she's

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a good pious woman that has some shortcomings. It's material to

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divorce her is not it's disliked. Sometimes it's allowed. If there

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are areas, reconcilable differences, and you guys are not

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a good match, then it is allowed for you to divorce her. Sometimes

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it's Musa have to divorce her if she's detriment to your children,

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or to your self or theirs, then it's sometimes it's mazahub.

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Right? So it fits all the five rulings of Islam. But one thing is

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for sure. And this is where Islam is more superior than other

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faiths, for example, in certain faiths, divorce is not an option.

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until death do not do us apart. That's not Islamic concept. Right?

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Right, through sickness and whatever, whatever else that they

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recite, and then they say, until death do us apart. Like, No,

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you're not buying forever like this. You should aim to, you

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should aim to inshallah to Allah be husband, wife and Jana. That's

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your aim. That's your goal, that's your hope. But if you're in a

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marriage, that is toxic, that is difficult, that is stressful, that

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is harming you harming the husband, harming the wife, how

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many children that we're not going to say stay together, because

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we're not gonna say this. And too often we see that sometimes

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culture will overpower the person and we have seen cases where a

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woman is saying I am stuck in a horrible marriage. And the man is

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saying yes, it is definitely horrible. And I feel it too. And

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you're wondering, okay, if you guys cannot make it work. What is

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the law say? Inside can be my Wolfin Oh, the cerebrum BSN. Hold

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her, be with her in goodness. I want to see you on BSN, or let her

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go and goodness and righteousness let her go. So what you can't do

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is Mr. Cohen Beshara. You know, hold it, but it's all that's

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that's what she cannot do an Al Hamdulillah Islam is a practical

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religion. So it's divorce encouraged? Absolutely not. It is

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heavily discouraged. Is it an option for those that need it? It

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is an option. What does Allah Almighty say? While I do not have

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a comb or legend Aha. Interlock to me is that there's no such thing

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if you divorce the woman here particularly, it is talking about

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a particular type of divorce. And what is that? Latin American Dr.

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Melissa mallam Tamotsu Hoonah our tuffrey doula who not friable so

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there's no sin on you if you divorce a woman while yet not

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having touched her, meaning having relations with her, nor appointed

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a mayor to her. Right. So a few things that must be clarified.

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What is the ruling of giving your spouse Mr. It's why did the mirror

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is her hack, right in every single marriage. The bride

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Omani the mayor the dowry must be promised to her right now, this,

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this is something that needs to be very well answered the moment they

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become a couple, she earns a right for a dowry. Now, sometimes the

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dowry is not named or even agreed upon with marriage be correct. So,

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if I describe how Annika should be done,

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for a car to be valid, you need a person being married and a person

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marry right the bride to be and the groom, right? You need those

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two of course. Then you also need the Wali which is the, the

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Guardian, the male guardian of the of the bride, who can that be the

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father if the father present? It can be the grandfather or the

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uncle or the brother, there are several people here right? There

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must be already how many people do you have so far? We have the

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bride, the groom and the Wali. Then you also need two witnesses

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lanica in Abilene, Shaheed and two witnesses right so now how many

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people you have five then after this, you also need the alarm

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Stan, the an offer and an acceptance because in end of the

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day, it's a deal being made an offer I offer you my daughter in

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marriage to you accept and that's the offer. And then the person

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says Carville too I accept. So there needs to be that right now.

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They also this is the CFO that needs to be present as well. Then

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there is the dowry. The dowry, if it's not mentioned or named, is by

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the way, that's that's how simple of a marriage is. Everything else

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is Sunda you know, reading the whole Hydra in Alhamdulillah and

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Amadou having an imam there. It's not required. A lot of people

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think that having an imam may have been given secrets away here.

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Because do you need an imam for Annika? Not necessarily so let's

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say I may Allah bless my daughter Ryan. Let's say I was how many of

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you thought Rihanna was a boy when you hear a young boy name or girl

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name?

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Sorry Alexandra boy name.

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You want to have the conversation before did you think

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it is one of those names? That's confusing isn't it can be both.

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Anyway. Let's say I wanted to give away or let's say Hamza, you had a

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daughter. What would you name your daughter?

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Leila Masha, Allah has a nice name. So let's say some you

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someone approached and they want to marry Leila, right. And what

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Missy present right number one we have Lena and we have the brother

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that approached her. Let's call him Abdurrahman. The man came for

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Leila, right. The man says to you Hamza. Hamza. Dr. Hamza. I'm

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interested in your daughter, Leila. Can I marry her and you

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make a long interview afterwards? You're like, okay, he passed

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everything by what these three present your the Willie. She's

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there. He's there in it. How many witnesses? Two witnesses. Let's

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say your brother and his father. Are there? Yeah, what's left?

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Honestly, is this simple. Is this simple?

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What do you say?

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Yes. Then Hamza says, I offer you my daughter to marry according to

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the book of Allah Azza wa sallam Do you accept? He says I accept

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BarakAllahu Kuma or Baraka a comment with Mr. Murphy higher

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than it has done. That's it. There are other things that are

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recommended to do walima you invite people you let them know

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the marriage happened. The dowry is her Huck was already mentioned

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right now, this is talking about a woman who's called a mail

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forwarder for Nikka homophobe, which is a woman that got married,

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who has not been given a dowry. So this is a could be a problem. Is

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the Nikka valid? Yes. But then they have to agree a dowry? And

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what is it that we're going to be ideally the dowry should be agreed

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upon. But if they argue amongst each other 5000 2000 3000 1500

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Whatever the case is, then if they if they if they argue over it,

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then they bring it to an imam or a judge. And they look at what is a

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woman like Leila, who is the daughter of a doctor what kind of

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mayhem she gets, right and roughly, let's say Oh, this kind

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of girl she gets 5000 Then we're gonna say 5000 Does that make

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sense? But

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let's say and this is what this is talking about. At the man decided

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to divorce Leila. I'm very sorry, Hamza. He decided to divorce Leila

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before they consummate it before they consummated what is her right

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gonna be?

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Allah subhanaw taala says is the is the analogy. Everyone

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understands it. Larger now. There is no sin on you. In the lagoon

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Nisa, if you divorce woman marlim Tommaso Hoonah while you have not

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touched them, meaning consummated

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out afraid Hola.

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Oh never either nor appointed to them Amen.

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Now what happens then? What happens? What does she get? He

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divorced her. There was no matter agreed and they never met each

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other. So it could so what happened is there then

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Allah subhanaw taala said that because there was no agreement of

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a mirror, she gets what is called a Mata. What is that? Allah

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Samantha said I was one that will material who are more serious, I

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don't know who I am. I don't know how much I'm in my roof. I was

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fantastic. But this toll on them a suitable gift. So he will give her

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something something suitable. It doesn't have to be like a dowry

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level. But because he inconvenienced them, because he

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may have broken her heart, because he was indecisive. What he has to

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give her something. But it's not going to be a man because a man

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was never agreed before. Allah says, bestow on them a suitable

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gift. I'll mostly record the rich one according to his means, while

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material and the poor one according to his means, so we're

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not gonna make the rich man pay the same as the poor man. Right?

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So what is the what are we talking about? What is this gift? A woman

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who has been married? There was no bridal money or no dowry, named or

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agreed, and he divorced her without concentrating. What is her

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right? Does she get a full dowry? No. Does she get nothing? No. What

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does she get a suitable gift? And how much is that? That depends on

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who? The person if he's rich, then according to his means, if he's

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poor, and according to his means, is that wild everyone, by then

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Allah subhanaw taala set her con Albertson in. This is a duty on

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those two good anonymous examples. He gives us something right is

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worship, that He gives us something by then, what about what

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about if they did agree, if they did agree a dowry? If during the

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murder, Hamza said, I gave you Leila or the demonic give you my

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daughter, Leila, and to marry her with the agreed upon dowry that is

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how much should we say

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5000 Gela 5000. By now what the brighter money is agreed Allah

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Subhana Allah says we're in Turlock to Munna and if you

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divorce them in probably entoma sunnah before you have had

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relations with them. So this one also no relation was different

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though. The man was a different Nam. Look at ferok Camilla Hoonah

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forever and you have appointed onto them a Mahara a dowry by IP.

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How much do you give for this format for up to half of what you

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have agreed? How much is that going to be? 2500 In this case,

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2500 type? They This is how much her right is because he divorced

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her without without

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having consummated the marriage.

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Does she ever ADA

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does she have a woman that has been divorced? The woman that has

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been divorced before consummation? Does she have ADA? This is Aveda.

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Normalization from Allahu Allah Hindemith, the thin Tata dunya

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Allah talks about it by soil. What if the husband dies does she have

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she does how long?

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Four months and four months and 10 days because the I was um was

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mutlak will let the NATO phone I mean, Camilla Luna is what you're

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talking about Serbia unforeseen. A shooting mashallah the ayah that

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talks about a woman al matzah, and her the one who her husband dies,

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even if they never consummated it's me going to our booty she

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says she has to go through that mourning period. Right? Does that

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make sense? But if she if he divorced her, then there is no

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ADA. Is that clear? By

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so he divorced her. But he never consummated the main house.

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However, how much does he get?

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For this format for bottom half of what they agreed half of what they

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appointed by Illa? And yeah, foon Illa. And yeah, unless the woman

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agrees to forego and forgive, unless she lets go. Allah says,

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give her half. Except if she what? says don't worry about it. Don't

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worry about it. I want nothing. Right? That's an option. Oh, yeah,

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we will let it be Eddie he recorded on Nika. Or if the one

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whose hands the marriage was in, meaning the husband, let's go How

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does he let go? He has to pay them on how does he let go?

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Anyone? He gives the full amount. So there's three options here.

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There's three options, option one, you follow the either she gets

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half

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2500 Correct. Option two, she rise above it and says, You know what?

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BarakAllahu li i will not inform you go leave it. She gets nothing.

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She forgave. Right? Option three. He says, No, I divorced you this

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quickly. Apology. You know what, instead of giving you half, I'll

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give you the full amount that's him doing. So how many options? Do

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we have? Three options? What's the last 100? Allah say? What an awful

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Acropolis? And for you to forego is closer to piety? Who's going to

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hear both the man and the woman? So what's the better for the

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woman? Yeah, I don't want anything from you. What's better for the

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man? Give her the, the full amount one tactful accountability.

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Because in Islam, you're always encouraged to do that, which is

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better. There are three types of people when it comes to more I'm

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at Walmart, transactions, any type of transaction, buying a house,

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renting a house, buying items, you know, making a business, any type

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of transaction is happening. There's three types of people, the

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person that will oppress others, right? He will he when he when he

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has to give something, he'll skim off of the top or he'll try and do

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something and be fraudulent and never gives other people that hug.

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And when he wants something, he never forgives it. I want full.

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Right? That's one type of person. We don't want that person right?

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When it's when it's you, your your wants to, to hold back the work of

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others. But when it's time for you, you're like Allah I'm not

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going to forgive you if you let me pay you back. 80% will lie 100%

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You know that kind of person? That's then you have the kind of

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person just when he has to pay something, you will pay it in

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full. When you have to pay him he asked for full. That's justice.

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Then you have Ehsaan right that which we should strive for. And

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that is when you have to give something you go on top even you

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give that zyada right. Isn't that river isn't the only one if not

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seen? If not seeing gives me i Brother marks and gives me

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500 pound because I need and that's exactly why for borrowing

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this money. After two months. I went three Harry's five for Japan.

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You know what, here's six on Japan. Is that?

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Why is there not ever?

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Murphy sort of higher cola? He never asked for it. Right? Me

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doing this is high. It's like it's me doing your son? Does that make

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sense? By

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if he says

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Just give me 300?

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How about that. There's also their son he gave me if the 200 will be

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sadaqa for him. By the way. This is a sunnah that is forgotten.

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Allah Hey, brothers, there is great, great reward in taking it

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easy on the people that owe you money. There is a great deal more

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than it. If you borrow someone money. If you can forgive it,

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forgive it. If you can tell them you can take your time will lie.

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You can have an end you don't need it. That is Hi Kathy. And this.

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There is a Hadith with a man the prophecy when a man went to Ghana.

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He went to Ghana, although he was one of the most

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extreme centers, builder dysfunctions. Let me yeah. Hi,

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Ron. Kathy never done anything good. Ilana, who can you accept

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that he would, he would

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accept that he would give

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people money, he will borrow people money. And as he would

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borrow the money, he will take it easy on them. He will say to his

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column, his servant, if they can pay it, and hamdulillah if they

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can't pay it, if they can pay it, if they can't pay it, then leave

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them. Perhaps Allah will forgive me and leave me and Allah Subhana

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Allah forgive him, Allah forgive him. So there's a great reward in

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this type. How do we end up here? The whole cost of doing Hassan

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here Allah subhanaw taala. See, there's two options there. Option

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one, you take your full right, what is her full right half of the

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dowry, but Allah Allah and says, oh yeah iPhone or you let her go.

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And the other way as well. If the man he forgoes by, instead of

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taking the option of giving half what does he do? He gives her the

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full amount. Then Allah subhanaw taala said, while tennis or will

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Fogra Beynac whom Allah do not forgive, forget the good that was

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between the good and the virtuous. Don't forget divorce can be messy.

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divorce can be messy and Allah saying don't forget the goodness

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that was in vain. In Allaha Bhima, Tama guna Darcy, ALLAH SubhanA wa

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Tada. Allah is the all seer of what you Allah seeing what you're

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doing? Allah and I say this all the time. It is very important.

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Whenever you hear that Allah is bossy gleiss Me, Allah is Ali.

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Allah knows everything that you have to Allah knows that what's in

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your heart yeah Allah Most welfare

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He knows a secret and that which is even beyond, Allah sees

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everything. Allah hears everything. When you hear this, it

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should put fear in you. It should put fear in you because Allah sees

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you sinning. Allah sees you lying. Allah sees you doing things that

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you're not supposed to thinking about things they're not supposed

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to write. They should put fear in your heart, but it should also put

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hope in your heart. Allah says, Allah, here's your DUA. Allah sees

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your worship. Allah sees your sadaqa Allah sees the kindness to

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you due to his children. So Allah sees that you're forgiving each

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other, that you're taking ease in your marriage, that your divorce

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was a divorce that was done properly. So when we hear the word

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bossy, you should instill in us yes fear but also what hope hope

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by

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then Allah subhanho wa Taala said, come back from the oven.

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Oh yeah, also Allah hungry.

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And Allah Subhana Allah della said Hi Fi though I lost to Allah wa T

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was Salah till Gustavo UMO Lila, he carnitine and God strictly and

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preserve and observe. All the prayers are solo up.

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Here, the Salawat or the five daily prayers

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was Salah till Wooster, and the middle prayer, the middle prayer,

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the middle salah, which is the middle salah

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or some

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other Alma have other opinions, but the strongest view is acid.

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Why? Because the Prophet called the salah Serato star during the

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Battle of hammock or Azad, the Prophet SAW Selim said, matter

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Allahu Kaluga home.

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Cobra home naran Sharona and his Salah till Wooster cursed may be

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the Godfather attacking them and may Allah fill their graves with

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fire. They made us too busy from two to remember the middle prayer

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the Sultan Musa philosophy, and this is one of the evidences to

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teach you that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam forgot

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to pray. The Prophet SAW Selim forgot to pray also because he was

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busy digging digging in the trenches, so he forgot to pray us

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her and he prayed Marie, then he made a syrup then he prediction.

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So you learn a lot of lessons from the number one is that it is

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possible for someone to forget and they have reasons what are the

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reasons that you're allowed to be not praying? Ima audio delay a

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prayer from time immemorial Jimmy you can delay a prayer if you

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combine it with another prayer such as when you are what?

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Traveling so combat What excuses to delay your prayer number one,

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combining number two, if you're sleeping. If you're sleeping you

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can delay the prayer buts but that means you overslept. If there is

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no sin on you, if you overslept, there's no sin on you. If you

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overslept, as long as you are, you go to sleep. And then when you

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wake up, the salon has passed. Mana Ancelotti, I want to see how

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for you Salia either

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let him pray when he remembers it. Forgetfulness if you forget, like

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what happens the prophets Allah syndrome, so you can delay the

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prayer. If you are combined, you can delay that you can delay the

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prayer if you were sleeping you can delay the prayer if you are

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forgetful and you can delay the prayer if you're forced some holds

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a gun to your head or forces you or you know you're stopped from

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praying and under Salah anything outside of that you have to pay on

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time.

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What if you don't have to do you don't have to and the salah time

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is coming then you do time but you cannot just let the next Salah

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enter without praying May Allah forgive us and protect us by happy

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to Allah Salah Wati wa salatu start Baku medulla hiya concertina

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sun before Allah with obedience and without speaking Elcano three

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Salah will be incarnate in slight means I do not speak in the

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beginning you are allowed to speak in your Salah. There's a Hadith of

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the Prophet sallallaahu Sahara mentioned that before it was

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legislated to be quiet in the Salah, they would enter the Salah

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and they will still speak to each other. So it wouldn't be Allahu

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Akbar and if someone would stand next to them they would be how are

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the kids they will speak to each other this is something very

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strange to us. But then when it was legislated this it was

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revealed it was a big it became obligatory to stay silent during

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the during the Salah by

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speaking of

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I think there's a lot of cam that needs to be discussed here. So I'm

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gonna stop yes the next week inshallah we can delve into more

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issues relate to the Salah and also to what is known as Serato

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hope, which is the prayer of fear and how do you pray that and there

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are some few more outcomes left of the rock before the end into the

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story of dilute and dilute or David and Goliath battle of equal

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the reliable enemy

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