Mustafa Abu Rayyan – 55 Tafseer Surah alBaqarah Verses 230232

Mustafa Abu Rayyan
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The speakers discuss the importance of finding a new husband before divorce, avoiding sin, and finding a genuine marriage. They stress the benefits of divorce, including the ability to have a wily marriage and privacy. The speakers also stress the importance of not rushing into divorce and not giving anyone personal information. They stress the importance of belief in Allah's laws and following his commands. The importance of speaking to people and following Allah's laws is emphasized.
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We are continuing

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the,

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tafsir class, the tafsir of Surud Al Baqarah.

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And we last left off at I number

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230.

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We were speaking about the rulings related to

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divorce and talaq.

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And the last ayat that we read were

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about a type of talaq, if you will,

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which is when the woman

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initiates

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the,

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the need to separate.

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And we mentioned this is called hulaq

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and that, in Islam

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Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has given marriage importance,

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has given marriage sanctity, and it's something that

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should be protected.

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And it is, something that we should strive

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our best and try our hardest

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to keep our homes from breaking apart.

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But at the same time that,

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Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has given a solution,

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a way out.

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If all other means fail and there are

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several means that are mentioned in the Quran

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and the Sunnah. If the couple are struggling

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to be together for whatever reason

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and often it is unmet expectations,

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it is rights and responsibilities that are not

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being fulfilled.

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If this happens,

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then

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they should fear Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.

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They should admonish each other. They should advise

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each other.

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They should escalate it to other family members

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to become an arbiter. They should try their

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best to ensure that their family and this

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home stays intact.

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And Allah mentions in the Quran in Surat

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Al Nisa

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that that there should be an arbiter from

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his side and and and her side. And

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if they want reconciliation Allah will bring it

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so and Allah will bring their hearts together.

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And,

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sometimes it doesn't work out and if it

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doesn't work out and these are the options.

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Sometimes a person is stuck in a marriage

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and it is better that they

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after it becomes toxic or their rights are

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not being fulfilled or whatever the case is

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that there's an option out for the man

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which is a dalaq

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and sometimes the woman needs an option out

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and that is where the khulah comes in.

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Khulah is when the woman

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offers

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something

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in exchange for divorce,

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either

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returning the dowry that was given to her

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or whatever they agree upon,

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wealth wise.

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Almost buying herself out of the of the

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marriage. And then we also have a third

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type which is called and this is where

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the judge separates them. So So you have

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talaq, which is initiated by the man,

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hulaq, which is initiated by the woman,

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and then fasihq, which is done by the

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ruler.

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Then Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala in ayah number

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230 says,

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If he divorces her, so now a divorce

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has happened,

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and this divorce here is talking about the

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3rd time. As we mentioned in previous lessons

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that the man has 2 divorces.

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He's about to divorce his wife his wife

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once

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and then when he divorces her and says,

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I divorce you or antitalik

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or talak toki or any variation of those

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that there is a waiting period

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and in that waiting period he has the

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ability to take her back,

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the rajah.

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And during that period, she should stay in

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the house.

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If

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he takes her back, they are husband and

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wife and everything goes back to normal but

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they wasted how many dalqas?

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1. After a while something happened and then

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he did talaq again,

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then there's a waiting period. By the way,

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if the waiting period finishes which is 3

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cycles,

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3 miniature cycles, if that finishes

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he just he can't just take her back.

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She becomes

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from him. She becomes a strange woman

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and because the he hasn't finished his talaqas,

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to marry her he will have to approach

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her as a and he has approached her

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and her family and try and get her

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marry again. That's allowed because the talqas are

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not finished. That is if the waiting period

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ends but within the waiting period he could

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take her back and if he does that

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second time,

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the third time he divorces her there's no

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more taking her back, it's over. So here

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Allah is talking about what happens afterwards.

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And if he divorces her the 3rd time,

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then she is not lawful unto him

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thereafter.

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It's over.

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It's over.

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Until she has married another

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husband. So

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here Allah is telling us,

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Is there ever a way back for these

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exes?

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A man divorced his wife the 3rd time,

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is there ever a way that they can

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get back together?

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And no,

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until

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she marries another man

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and then that man divorces her.

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Until she marries another man.

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This

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new husband now, if he divorces her,

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then afterwards, there

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is no sin on both of them

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to reunite provided they feel that they can

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keep the limits set by Allah Subhanahu Wa

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Ta'ala.

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So there's a lot to unpack here.

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Can they ever get together? Yes. But first

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what needs to happen? She needs to find

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a new husband first.

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Can that be orchestrated?

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Can that be planned? Can he say to

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her, okay we can't Listen, let me find

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a guy, he marries you for a few

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days. Can that can they orchestrate it? They

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cannot.

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And there are strict prohibitions around this.

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So it has to happen naturally.

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Meaning what? Meaning,

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after the 3rd divorce,

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she finishes

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her cycle, her idah period. After she finishes

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her idah period, other men approach her. These

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men when they approach her, she finds one

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that she likes then she gets married. This

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could take months, years, doesn't matter. And it

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should be a genuine marriage.

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Then after that marriage, it should be a

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genuine divorce. It can't be the old

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the the old ex coming back saying, let

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me see the kids. Let me help you

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out now. All of a sudden super helpful,

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trying to now she's a new she's so

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his ex wife and another another man married

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her and he's roaming around the house visiting

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all the time and trying to get her

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back. He's not allowed to do that. This

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is sometimes people because you're married Achi was

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married for 15 years. I can't see her

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with this other man. Well, then you shouldn't

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have used up your divorces.

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But you have to fear Allah subhanahu wa

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ta'ala and this marriage, this new marriage should

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be respected.

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Now,

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if then for some reason

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that doesn't work

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out, then she waits for her idah.

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Then afterwards,

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they can marry

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but he has to approach her willies again,

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her

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guardians. He has to propose to her. He

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has to give her a new dowry and

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then they can be together.

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This husband that he marries after him, that

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marriage must be genuine and

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also they must consummate the marriage.

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So what's not allowed

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is that she finds a husband,

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marries him, but they don't consummate. She waits

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around, waits around

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and then says, listen I want a divorce.

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And then goes back to old husband. This

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is not allowed. So they have to consummate

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the marriage. There was a hadith, there was

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an incident during the time of the prophet

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where a woman came to the prophet

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complaining about her husband. The husband she's complaining

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about is the new one. So she had

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a divorce with her ex, he divorced her

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and then she came off complaining about his

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ability to

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to perform.

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You Rasool Allah, I this husband, he's no

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good for me. Right? She said this.

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And the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam figured out

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and he asked her,

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do you want to go back to your

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old husband?

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And the prophet said, no. Until

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your new husband consummates marriage with you.

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So from this we learn

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that

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you cannot just

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do anyka on paper

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and then annul it on paper and then

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go back to your old husband.

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One of the varieties scholars mentioned, the benefits

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scholars mentioned is that they say that men,

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they have,

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this jealousy over their woman folk, over their

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wives, this protectiveness over them.

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So

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when

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you know

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if I divorce her a third time, I

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cannot another man has to marry her, this

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will will prevent you from divorcing her to

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begin with. So this is one of the

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benefits of it. Right? It is almost appealing

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to your nature. Like, I can't have my

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my wife, and it hurts. A lot of

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people say that when they divorce their wife

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the 3rd time, they say listen it's very

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difficult to see her with another man. Well,

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you ended the marriage. You ended the marriage.

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So here Allah is teaching us if he

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divorced at her time

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for him

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until she marries another husband.

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This is one of the evidences that the

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Hanafi school has used

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for

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not

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having the willi as a condition.

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Not having according to the majority scholars, a

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woman cannot marry without the permission of her

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guardian, her father, her brother, etcetera. He has

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to give her hand in marriage. Right? She

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needs a wily.

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The Hanafi school among the ever zed is

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this ayah because here Allah says,

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if he'd if the first husband divorced her

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time,

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she is not halal for him, she's unlawful

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for him,

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until she marries.

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So they say it doesn't say until she

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is married off, it's until she marries. So

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Allah attributed some agency towards her. So this

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is one of the evidence that they use

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but that's not necessarily the case because

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in language sometimes you you you can say,

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a woman will say I got married

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but the implication is that she was married

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off. So just because she says I got

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married doesn't mean it doesn't necessarily have to

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imply that she got married without Willie. But

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anyway,

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I digress.

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Taib.

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So they can come together.

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There is 2 narrations that mention that the

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person,

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there's the the practice

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of being the

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the second husband.

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That there's there was a practice

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or that one, let me halalify

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your ex wife for you by marrying her

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for a period of time. Let me be

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that man in between that's being talked about

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here. She has to marry a new husband.

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Some people would would maybe be incentivized. Listen,

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I'm gonna give you some money. I divorced

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my wife three times. Why don't you go

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and marry her for a while?

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If you have to consummate, you have to

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consummate and then afterwards could you please divorce

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her so I can marry her? So they're

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orchestrating this. Right? What is the hukum of

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this?

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The curse of Allah is upon those people.

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Prophet hadith in the say in Trmidi,

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May the curse of Allah be upon the

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one that will do this and try and

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make the ex wife halal for him by

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marrying her for the purpose of divorcing her.

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This is not allowed. So the curse of

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Allah has upon those people. In another hadith,

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the prophet said,

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This person is a rented goat.

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A a rented goat and, and,

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so heavily heavily

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discouraged and heavily criticized to do this. Right?

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This should not be

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done. However, the 'olama' they discuss not just

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whether it is done or not. If it

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is done,

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what is the ruling of that nikah

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and the subsequent nikah? So let's say some

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people they know it's a sin, they know

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it's not allowed, they do it anyway. They're

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like okay, listen, I just want to get

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back to my wife so I did this

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what is the sheikh? I

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I asked a man or I paid a

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man to marry my ex and then divorce

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her so that I can marry her because

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otherwise she would not have had that for

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me.

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Now he married her, then he divorced her,

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then I married her. What is the hukum

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of Danica and what is the hukum of

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Meinica?

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Is it all false? Is it all written

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off or to the are they I understand

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that you are sinful but are they valid?

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Or is that erynica invalid and then this

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meaning and then also your nikah also invalid?

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And does that mean that they have to

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separate now? Because some people do this.

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The fuqa

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and scholars and the Jewish they say that

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generally speaking

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this is haram to do. But

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when we wanna address whether anyqa is valid

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or not, we look at the conditions and

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the pillars at the present. So we would

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say

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in this in this person,

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in the prophet prophet's word, this person that

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you've rented to do this for you,

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doing that did he did did he

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propose to her to marry? Was there a

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dowry given? Was there permission from the guardian

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taken? Were there witnesses?

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And was there an acceptance and an offer?

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Were the conditions of marriage met in that

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instance? If it's yes, yes, yes, yes, yes,

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then they are what? Legally?

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Married.

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So it stands. Did they consummate? Yes, they

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consummate. Okay. So that would mean that that

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marriage legally, Islamically, it's the marriage is valid

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but they're both extremely sinful. Not only sinful,

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they are cursed by

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Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. And then when he

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divorced her again, we would check, were the

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condition of divorce met? Yes, they were. Then

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then if that person that ends up marrying

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them we're not going to say they must

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be separated. We're going to say,

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the marriage is valid but you're all sinful

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and you need to repent. And this is

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not open season all of a sudden just

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because something is valid and people do this

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often and we need to fear Allah Subhanahu

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Wa Ta'ala because someone that is cursed by

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Allah, what what kind of life would you

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live? People are wondering, Sheikh, what happened to

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my business? What happened to my children?

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We are, this one is ill and my

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business is not working out and,

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my life is yeah. Actually, you invoked a

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curse of Allah upon yourself. If you ever

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come across a hadith or an ayah, whoever

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does such and such, the curse of Allah

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is upon them, don't rush into doing something

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like that and think it's a sin that

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will prevent from it later because you do

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not want to be because what is the

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curse of Allah? The word laan, what is

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it?

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Means

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It is to be removed and to be

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taken far away from the mercy of Allah.

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Will we be without the mercy of Allah

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Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala?

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But so what did we learn in this

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ayah? Number 1,

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if a man divorces his wife 3 times,

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her last is over. What has to happen?

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She has to marry another man and this

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there has to be a genuine marriage

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and they have to also consummate. If you

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don't consummate, you can't go back. If it's

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not genuine marriage, they are all sinful. This

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is not allowed. And the prophet will curse

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those that facilitate this.

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Then afterwards

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and it I these things do happen. Sometimes

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you'll see,

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a marriage ends and then the woman goes

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on with her life and she marries another

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man and there's a 10 year marriage.

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And then after that somehow it doesn't work

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out and they separate and then she looks

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for her old husband 10 years ago. You

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Now let me see if he's still around.

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And they end up together. It it can

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happen. Right? And if it happens if that's

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what you wanted.

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But you cannot engineer these things. And if

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you run and stay together so badly, then

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do not use up your divorces to begin

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with.

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Then Allah said,

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if

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the new husband divorces her, the other husband

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divorces her,

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there's no sin on both of them, the

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2 excess

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to reunite.

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If they feel that they can keep the

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limits of the Allah and live together with

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harmony, peace, fulfilling each other's rights and responsibilities.

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Then Allah reminds us

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and these are the limits of Allah.

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All of these rules should not be broken.

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These are what? The limits. Allah

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makes them plain and clear for those people

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who have knowledge.

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Meaning, you know the rules now, do not

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transgress upon them.

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Then Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says,

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This is I number 231.

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Here Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala is talking about

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when you've divorced your wife

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and this is not the 3rd divorce, this

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could be the first or the second, where

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there is scope for you what to take

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her back.

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When you have divorced your woman,

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and they have so the word

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means to reach and they have reached

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the term, the prescribed term meaning the 3

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cycles

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but in this ayah it doesn't mean to

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reach, it means when they get close to

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it. When they get close to it, faba

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lakona aifaqaarabna.

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When the idah period is about to finish,

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it's time to make a decision.

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Am I gonna take her back

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or am I not gonna take her back?

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Because what happens,

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my, beloved brothers and sisters, what happens is,

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if a man

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well, how long is the idah for a

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divorced woman, Masin?

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3 cycles. Very good. So a man devotes

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his wife for the first time.

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Those three cycles, let's say she waited for

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10 days and then her menstrual cycle started

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and it lasted for 6 days, that's 16

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days. After that, it took another 3 weeks,

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and then another cycle happened and then another

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3

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let's say for a period of 3 months.

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It took 3 months

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for the 3 menstrual cycles to finish and

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then what happens if it ends?

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It's only 1 divorce, right? What happens if

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it ends? If the period ends and the

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husband doesn't take her back, she's a free

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woman.

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She said she can he can say then

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he has to propose to her.

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Then he has to what? Say, I would

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like to take you back and she can

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say yes but I don't want to. She

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and she can go and marry someone else

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if she wants to.

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Now

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here Allah is saying,

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and when you divorce the woman, the first

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or the second one,

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and the time period is about to finish.

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Let's say it was 3 months, you know,

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2 months 3 weeks.

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There's

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little time left.

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Then make the decision.

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Allah

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subhanahu wa'ala is saying then either take them

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back within kindness and reason.

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Take them back or

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set them free within kindness and reason.

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Right. So be sensible.

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The time is about to finish. Either make

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a decision, take her back and live together

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in harmony

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and solve other problems

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or let her go and be done with

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it.

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And then Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala said,

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and do not take them back to hurt

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them.

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What would that mean, do not take them

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back? Sometimes

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this would happen in the past and it

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may still happen today, The man will wait.

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So she doesn't know, is he going to

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take him back? Is he going what's going

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on? The idiopul is about and and if

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when the idiopul is about to end he

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says, I take you back. And they are

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now married again. But then he treats her

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not in the right way. He doesn't feel

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right responsibilities. He keeps her just because he

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wants to keep her. And sometimes they would

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say, listen, I won't divorce you and you

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won't have a good marriage

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and you're stuck with me until your hair

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goes gray And then she stuck in the

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marriage, I will never divorce you. This is

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the wrath. This is harming the woman. What

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is Allah teaching us? If you're gonna keep

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her, if you're gonna keep the relationship intact,

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then do it in ma'aruf, within reason and

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kindness.

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And if you're not gonna do that, sarri'uwona

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ima'aruf, let her go in in in reason

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and kindness.

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And do not take them back

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to harm them and to hurt them.

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So that you can transgress upon them.

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And whoever does that

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whoever does that fakadwalamaalifsah

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who he has first and foremost wronged himself

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by incurring all this sin, by doing this

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to the woman. So Allah is teaching us

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here when you are married, whether you want

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to divorce your wife, keep your wife, let

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her go, do it all within righteousness,

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kindness

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and and

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and be reasonable.

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And do not treat the laws of Allah,

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the ayaats of Allah, the Quran, and these

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rules and these commandments, do not treat them

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as a jest and a joke.

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One time,

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Abdulai ibn Abbas, the companion, a man came

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to him and said,

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I divorced my wife a 100 times.

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And then he said to her,

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you had only the right to divorce her

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3 times,

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and these 3 times they count.

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As for the 97 times,

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you took the ayat of Allah as a

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jest and a joke. This ayat applies to

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you.

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And

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we have to be very careful.

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When we gained

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access

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to these women

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that came from their father and mother's homes.

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And they were put under our care

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and under our responsibility

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and in our homes

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and they're bearing our children,

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raising our children, doing this all this for

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us. This is all sanctioned by the book

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of Allah

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and these laws and commandments they deserve respect.

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So this is why you cannot be playing

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around with them and at the fair law

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Subhanahu wa ta'ala in that regard.

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And do not take the laws of Allah

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and the ayahs of Allah as something that

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is a joke, as something that can be

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taken lightly.

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An interesting point to remember,

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divorce is among the things

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that

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you cannot

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joke about.

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Three things,

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if they are mentioned

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as a joke

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or if they are mentioned

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not as a joke but for real, it

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doesn't matter, it will happen. Among them was

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Talaq.

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So if you date your wife, I divorce

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you.

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And they say, I was joking, it doesn't

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matter. She's divorced.

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You can't say it as a joke. You

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can't say it as a joke.

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It's

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If you say it If you come to

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the judge yesterday So what did you say?

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And the judge What did you say? I

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said you are divorced

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but judge, Sheikh, imam, I didn't mean it.

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I was just messing with her. Doesn't matter.

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Did you say it? Yes. It counts. You

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don't joke about these things. You do not

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joke about these things.

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And,

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the the other thing is giving someone away

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in marriage as well. You don't joke about

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these things either.

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So,

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you this is something very sensitive and important

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so you can't take it as lighting. The

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raka is not something that is light.

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Similarly anger.

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Anger is something that is often over exaggerated.

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My devotion count why I was angry.

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I was angry. And people they will abuse

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this. They'll say, You sheikh, I was angry

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so it shouldn't count.

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And then the anger that the scholars

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would the the type of anger that the

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scholars would say,

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your divorce doesn't count because you are so

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angry,

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is a type of anger where you do

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not know what you're doing.

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Where you are so angry you are unaware

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of what you're doing. So if someone comes

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and says,

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I divorced my wife in in a state

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of anger

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and you say, okay. Do you know what

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time it was? Oh, yeah. It was at

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9:32.

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Okay. And what happened? This happened, that happened.

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And then what? And then this happened, that

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happened. And then how did you feel this

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way and this way? This is someone that

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is very lucid, someone that is aware of

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what's happening. It's not someone that is seeing

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red.

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There is levels of anger

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that once you reach that level of anger,

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you have no idea what's going on. This

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is the type that is forgiven. Does that

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make sense? Some people they stretch it. They

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may he might he might have been just

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upset and but that's the thing.

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Get into the habit of not using the

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word talaq, divorce as something you threaten your

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wife with or use it. Don't have it.

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Have it off the table

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and let it be something that only brings

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comes up in an actual sitting down where

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witnesses are present and you're serious about it.

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If not then no mention it and no

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use it like that. It's not something to

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joke about.

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It's a serious matter and Allah is saying

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do not take the ayat of Allah as

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something that is a joke. May Allah forgive

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us.

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With kuru and mention and remember niyamatallahu

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alaykum the many blessings of Allah upon you.

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The ulema say the blessings that are being

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mentioned here is how Allah is clarifying to

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us all these rules.

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Among the blessings that we have is that

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we have a creator that cares for us

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and loves us so much that he's giving

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us an manual for our life.

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To the point where we are being told

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this is how you divorce, this is how

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you were married, this is how the rules

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follow and they're all in our benefit.

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Here Allah is saying do not harm the

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woman. Do not do this. Do not this

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is all niyama from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala

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that we have this guidance. Without this guidance,

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imagine we had to make this up ourselves.

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This is a blessing of Allah. The knowledge

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that we get have from the Quran in

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itself is a niyama.

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So mention and remember the name that Allah

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has given you.

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And that which Allah has sent down upon

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you from the book and the hikmah, the

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prophetic sunnah.

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The book and the hikmah, the prophetic sunnah.

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This is one of the ayaats that clearly

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mentions that

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something has been revealed by Allah. There are

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some people that refuse

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the sunnah to be a thing. Have you

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guys heard of the Quran alone people?

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People that say I only follow the Quran,

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I don't care about the sunnah. Hadith, I

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don't care about it. The prophet said Bukhari,

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I don't care about it. I just want

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the Quran. Those people,

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first I would love to see how they

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pray

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because

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Allah says in the Quran establish the prayer

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but you know how many salahs we pray

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in? When we pray that's not in the

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Quran, that's in the sunnah. So we need

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the sunnah. We need the sunnah.

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And,

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there are ayaats, so like this one, that

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they struggle with. The The Quran own people

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say, Okay, I have a question for you.

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Here Allah says,

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and that which Allah has sent down. Allah

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has sent down, right, revealed

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from the book,

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the Quran,

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and

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the hikmah.

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The word and implies something separate. If I

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say to you Muhammad and Ali came in,

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Muhammad and Ali are 2 separate things. Right?

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Okay. So we get to the Quran, as

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the book is, what's this hikmah?

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What is this thing? That we what is

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it's a sunnah of the prophet

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And there's other ayahs that clearly indicate this

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as well. Such as when Allah says

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and we have sent upon you the the

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the the remembrance of the dhikr

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so that you can clarify to people that

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which they have has been revealed upon them.

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So there is something that's been sent down

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to clarify that which has been revealed.

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So what is that thing? What is this

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clarifying thing that has been sent as the

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sunnah of the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam?

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So the sunnah is also a revelation. A

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lot of people don't realize this. They say

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the Quran is from Allah and the sunnah

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is from the prophet. Where is the prophet

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getting the sunnah from? That's also a revelation

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because everything the prophet did was divinely inspired

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by Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.

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So, Allah is telling us that, we should

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remember the blessings of Allah upon us and

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among those blessings of the book and the

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wisdom which is the sunnah.

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Allah

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is instructing us and reminding us and admonishing

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us through the book and the sunnah.

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And

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some is putting fear in you. Fear Allah

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for there are consequences for,

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transgressing these limits.

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All is the initial instruction in the ayah.

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If you're going to divorce a woman

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then, or when you have divorced her and

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the 8 day period is about to end

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make a decision either keep her

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in kindness and righteousness and and and reason

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or let her go. And do not keep

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them to

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hurt them. Hear Allah saying,

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in

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every single thing

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is all aware. So Allah knows your intention

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when you're saying I'm keeping you. So, fair

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Allah that when there's a reason why Allah

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has mentioned us that he's

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Allah knows everything. Meaning, Allah saying I know

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your intention.

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When you're saying I take you back and

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you're taking your wife back but your intention

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is to harm her, to hurt her, to

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prolong this

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this thing and to then Allah knows what

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you're doing. Fair Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala in

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this regard.

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And this is item of 232.

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And when you divorce your woman,

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and they have now finished their term.

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The 3 menstrual cycles have finished now. The

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earlier aya, it was about to finish and

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what you were told make a decision. Now

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it's over.

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Do not prevent them.

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Do not prevent who?

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The couple that just divorced. So there's a

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back around,

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story for for this. So what would happen

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was let me tell you the some of

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the the

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stories behind this.

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There was a companion called Ma'akal, Ma'akal ibnei

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Isar,

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and his cousin approached him and he said,

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let me marry,

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your, your daughter.

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And

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he he was protective of her. Or was

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it his sister? Anyway, it was one of

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his friends. He said, can I marry this

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person?

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And he was protective over her and he

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refused many men and he said okay, I

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trust you, you're a good man, you can

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marry her

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As long as you honor her and they

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got married. After a while,

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they couldn't get along.

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So, he divorced her. Just once, he divorced

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her and then the period finished. She went

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on her way back to her, back to

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Merkel.

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Then,

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how many divorce did he

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do? 1. Is there an option for them

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to get back together?

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What has to happen?

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He has to remarry her. Who who does

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he have to go to first?

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Her willy.

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So he went back to Michael and before

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that,

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he spoke to her and said, listen, we're

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gonna get back together. Are you happy with

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it? She was happy with it. She was

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happy to get back together to her old

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husband. He's happy with it as well. They

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came to Markle. Markle said, never.

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I've honored you,

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you divorced her, what you did? Get out

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of here.

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And then

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the prophet Faina wasallallahu alaihi wasallam.

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This ayah was revealed.

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This ayah was revealed on this issue which

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is

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that family members,

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the guardian, the oliya or omur, the people

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that are in charge, they cannot and should

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not prevent

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they should not prevent

00:31:06 --> 00:31:08

the couple that wants to be together. Even

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if their divorce happened and they wanna get

00:31:09 --> 00:31:11

back together, they shouldn't prevent that from happening.

00:31:12 --> 00:31:13

So Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala is saying,

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we need to force the woman.

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And they have finished their period.

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Do not prevent them for them to marry.

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Their former husbands, their exes.

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If they mutually agree

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within reason, if they agree and there's a

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there's a,

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joy and they want to be together, husband

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and wife, then do not prevent that from

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happening.

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Because they they've been they were married a

00:31:42 --> 00:31:44

month ago, 2 months ago, whatever. They know

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what's best for them. Let them have another

00:31:46 --> 00:31:47

go at it and do not prevent them

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from it.

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That is an admonishment,

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from Allah Subhanahu Manqar, umibillahi

00:32:01 --> 00:32:02

waliomil Akhir,

00:32:02 --> 00:32:05

whoever believes in Allah and the last day.

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So Allah is reminding us,

00:32:08 --> 00:32:10

those of you that are preventing

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the woman folk that you're in charge of,

00:32:13 --> 00:32:15

your daughters, your sisters, whoever the case is

00:32:15 --> 00:32:17

that you're in charge of, from getting back

00:32:17 --> 00:32:19

to the husbands that they were married to

00:32:19 --> 00:32:22

before? You're preventing them? No, I refuse, I'm

00:32:22 --> 00:32:23

not gonna let you. Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala

00:32:23 --> 00:32:25

is telling us don't do this,

00:32:26 --> 00:32:29

don't exert this authority over them. Let them,

00:32:29 --> 00:32:31

let them get back. Do not prevent them

00:32:31 --> 00:32:34

if they mutually agree and it is within

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Ma'awuf. Can there be certain circumstances where it's

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a really bad idea and you want to

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veto it? Maybe.

00:32:41 --> 00:32:43

But the vast, vast, vast majority of time

00:32:43 --> 00:32:45

we should let this happen.

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Allah then says, Indeed, this is more virtuous

00:32:52 --> 00:32:55

and purer for you. Allah admonishes us with

00:32:55 --> 00:32:57

2 things, belief in Allah and belief in

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the last day.

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Why? Because when you believe in Allah, you

00:33:02 --> 00:33:03

believe in the one that will hold you

00:33:03 --> 00:33:04

accountable.

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And when you believe in the last day,

00:33:07 --> 00:33:08

you believe in the day you will be

00:33:08 --> 00:33:11

held accountable. So there's a very strong reminders.

00:33:11 --> 00:33:13

Fear Allah in that regard. And this is

00:33:13 --> 00:33:15

more virtuous and pure.

00:33:16 --> 00:33:17

The word

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means that there's more

00:33:19 --> 00:33:20

in this, meaning

00:33:21 --> 00:33:22

more blessing,

00:33:23 --> 00:33:23

purer,

00:33:24 --> 00:33:24

better,

00:33:25 --> 00:33:26

more purer for you

00:33:28 --> 00:33:29

and Allah knows.

00:33:30 --> 00:33:33

Allah knows what's best. Allah knows what's better.

00:33:33 --> 00:33:34

Allah knows

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and you do not know. So follow Allah's

00:33:38 --> 00:33:41

laws, follow Allah's commandments, and this is better

00:33:41 --> 00:33:42

for the couple, for the family.

00:33:43 --> 00:33:45

I wanna summarize some of the rulings we

00:33:45 --> 00:33:46

learned today and conclude there.

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In eye number 230,

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we learned that if a man divorces his

00:33:50 --> 00:33:52

wife a third time then that marriage is

00:33:52 --> 00:33:53

over

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And then, that she must find a new

00:33:56 --> 00:33:56

husband.

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And that new husband, that marriage has to

00:33:58 --> 00:33:59

be genuine.

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And after they are married for a long

00:34:01 --> 00:34:03

time or for a period of time, doesn't

00:34:03 --> 00:34:04

have to be long but as long as

00:34:04 --> 00:34:06

it's genuine, if he then ends up divorcing

00:34:06 --> 00:34:08

her then she's allowed to get back to

00:34:08 --> 00:34:09

her old husband.

00:34:10 --> 00:34:11

And when that happens

00:34:12 --> 00:34:14

there's no harm in them coming together, Allah

00:34:14 --> 00:34:16

says. And Allah tells us these are the

00:34:16 --> 00:34:17

hud of Allah.

00:34:17 --> 00:34:19

Here we learned that those that do thaleel,

00:34:19 --> 00:34:22

those that facilitate this, those that allow orchestrate

00:34:22 --> 00:34:24

this that they are cursed by Allah subhanahu

00:34:24 --> 00:34:25

wa ta'ala.

00:34:26 --> 00:34:28

And what did the prophet call the man

00:34:28 --> 00:34:29

that facilitates this?

00:34:29 --> 00:34:30

What do you call him?

00:34:31 --> 00:34:32

Taysun Musta'ar.

00:34:33 --> 00:34:35

Then the following ayah talks about

00:34:36 --> 00:34:38

those that when they divorce their wives,

00:34:39 --> 00:34:40

she is still in the period.

00:34:41 --> 00:34:43

And Allah is telling us when it becomes

00:34:43 --> 00:34:45

close and it's time and her id is

00:34:45 --> 00:34:46

about to be finished you need to make

00:34:46 --> 00:34:47

a decision.

00:34:47 --> 00:34:49

What I mentioned is Are you gonna keep

00:34:49 --> 00:34:51

her or you're gonna let her go? Are

00:34:51 --> 00:34:53

you not allowed to just keep her to

00:34:53 --> 00:34:55

harm her? You're allowed to keep her to

00:34:55 --> 00:34:55

harm her,

00:34:56 --> 00:34:58

and to just prolong this

00:34:58 --> 00:35:00

without any intention of being married to her,

00:35:00 --> 00:35:01

a proper marriage.

00:35:02 --> 00:35:04

Now Allah mentioned that this is a dulm

00:35:04 --> 00:35:07

and that this is taking Allah's ayat as

00:35:07 --> 00:35:08

something that is to be played with. May

00:35:08 --> 00:35:10

Allah protect us from that.

00:35:10 --> 00:35:12

And then the following ayat, Allah talks about

00:35:12 --> 00:35:14

those that divorced a woman folk but their

00:35:14 --> 00:35:16

idah has finished and now she's technically

00:35:17 --> 00:35:18

a strange woman. But they still have some

00:35:18 --> 00:35:20

dalaks left and they can get back together

00:35:20 --> 00:35:22

and that requires a proposal and for them

00:35:22 --> 00:35:23

to remarry.

00:35:24 --> 00:35:26

And then that the aliyal or the people

00:35:26 --> 00:35:27

in charge are not allowed to prevent them

00:35:27 --> 00:35:29

from doing so and you mentioned the story

00:35:29 --> 00:35:30

of Maq and Nasr.

00:35:31 --> 00:35:33

Insha'Allah I conclude here. Next week we'll be

00:35:33 --> 00:35:36

speaking about the ayahs related to

00:35:37 --> 00:35:39

breastfeeding the child, how long should it be

00:35:39 --> 00:35:40

done, how is it done this ayah and

00:35:40 --> 00:35:41

inshaAllah also

00:35:42 --> 00:35:44

what happens when a woman is not is

00:35:44 --> 00:35:45

not divorced or her husband dies and what

00:35:45 --> 00:35:47

are the rules related to that?

00:35:53 --> 00:35:54

Just from there.

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Okay. So this person is asking, how do

00:36:23 --> 00:36:25

you read your istihara? So there is an

00:36:25 --> 00:36:27

istihara prayer where you pray you pay 2

00:36:27 --> 00:36:30

rakat and then you read a dua, the

00:36:30 --> 00:36:31

dua that the most popular prophet sallallahu alaihi

00:36:31 --> 00:36:34

wa sallam. I advise this person if you

00:36:34 --> 00:36:36

go to the Quran Masjid YouTube channel there

00:36:36 --> 00:36:37

is a video how to pray istihara

00:36:38 --> 00:36:39

and in it, it is explained in detail

00:36:39 --> 00:36:41

how do you pray your Istihara and that

00:36:41 --> 00:36:42

you can find the dua there as well.

00:36:42 --> 00:36:43

Please go there.

00:36:47 --> 00:36:48

How do you know your thoughts on decisions

00:36:48 --> 00:36:50

are not from shaitan and are genuine?

00:36:51 --> 00:36:53

Once we start, thinking that our thoughts are

00:36:53 --> 00:36:56

from shaitan, this can lead to waswas,

00:36:56 --> 00:36:58

and you're going to start doubting every single

00:36:58 --> 00:36:59

thing. If you

00:37:00 --> 00:37:02

are thinking about things rationally

00:37:02 --> 00:37:03

and clearly

00:37:04 --> 00:37:05

and seeking consultation

00:37:05 --> 00:37:07

and not keeping in your head but speaking

00:37:07 --> 00:37:09

to people. As long as you are making

00:37:09 --> 00:37:12

rational decisions based on reason and things that

00:37:12 --> 00:37:14

are good for you, then inshallah ta'ala this

00:37:14 --> 00:37:16

is not from shaitan. And always

00:37:18 --> 00:37:19

say And,

00:37:19 --> 00:37:22

if you have genuine opinions on something, it

00:37:22 --> 00:37:24

doesn't mean that it's from Shaitan. And don't

00:37:24 --> 00:37:26

let the Shaitan trick you into this so

00:37:26 --> 00:37:28

that you get get the.

00:37:35 --> 00:37:37

Is there an after? We covered all of

00:37:37 --> 00:37:39

things related in the previous episode. If you

00:37:39 --> 00:37:40

can watch that.

00:37:46 --> 00:37:48

What if the husband claims his anger

00:37:48 --> 00:37:49

was

00:37:50 --> 00:37:52

real anger, but the wife disagrees?

00:37:53 --> 00:37:55

Do we go with the husband's view or

00:37:55 --> 00:37:55

with

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Okay.

00:38:00 --> 00:38:01

So divorce is in the hand of the

00:38:01 --> 00:38:01

husband

00:38:02 --> 00:38:02

and

00:38:03 --> 00:38:05

is in the hand of the husband. Now,

00:38:05 --> 00:38:06

if you're saying he's complying and he wasn't

00:38:06 --> 00:38:08

even angry, so let's say,

00:38:08 --> 00:38:11

a husband a husband debosses wife and after

00:38:11 --> 00:38:12

he debosses wife,

00:38:12 --> 00:38:13

he says I was

00:38:13 --> 00:38:16

angry beyond measure and I wasn't controlling of

00:38:16 --> 00:38:18

my mind so this there was an account.

00:38:18 --> 00:38:20

The judge would have to take his word

00:38:20 --> 00:38:22

for it. If the wife said he is

00:38:22 --> 00:38:23

a so there's 2 options, either the wife

00:38:23 --> 00:38:25

says he was angry but not that angry,

00:38:26 --> 00:38:27

then the judge would rule

00:38:28 --> 00:38:30

the husband because he knows his own personal

00:38:30 --> 00:38:31

experience. Right?

00:38:32 --> 00:38:32

Now,

00:38:32 --> 00:38:35

and that's what he would rule. But I

00:38:35 --> 00:38:37

think this is not a fatwa question. So,

00:38:38 --> 00:38:40

the people I think it's his own sisters.

00:38:40 --> 00:38:41

Certain,

00:38:42 --> 00:38:44

issues and questions are more qada and fatwa.

00:38:44 --> 00:38:46

So fatwa is a ruling that I can

00:38:46 --> 00:38:49

give general wisdom such and such, but a

00:38:49 --> 00:38:51

is a particular scenario, and that requires

00:38:52 --> 00:38:54

really speaking to the people and and speaking

00:38:54 --> 00:38:55

to the husband, speaking to the wife and

00:38:55 --> 00:38:58

seeing exactly what is going on. I cannot

00:38:58 --> 00:38:58

say that,

00:39:00 --> 00:39:00

so

00:39:01 --> 00:39:02

the wife so this person is saying what

00:39:02 --> 00:39:04

if the wife believes that he's lying or

00:39:04 --> 00:39:06

that she doesn't agree that he was angry?

00:39:07 --> 00:39:09

How does she know she's right? Is she

00:39:09 --> 00:39:10

a homo sapien right? Is she a homo

00:39:10 --> 00:39:12

sapien right? Is she causing her doubt? If

00:39:12 --> 00:39:13

that's the case then,

00:39:14 --> 00:39:15

we go with the Assal. We go with

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Assal that, he's being truthful. But I think

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this

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would be ruled by whoever they go to

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as the imam, the sheikh, the judge that

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they go to will look at the situation

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and hear them both out and then give

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them a ruling. Any other questions that you

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have, we'll cover them in next week's class.

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