Mustafa Abu Rayyan – 55 Tafseer Surah alBaqarah Verses 230232
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The speakers discuss the importance of finding a new husband before divorce, avoiding sin, and finding a genuine marriage. They stress the benefits of divorce, including the ability to have a wily marriage and privacy. The speakers also stress the importance of not rushing into divorce and not giving anyone personal information. They stress the importance of belief in Allah's laws and following his commands. The importance of speaking to people and following Allah's laws is emphasized.
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We are continuing
the,
tafsir class, the tafsir of Surud Al Baqarah.
And we last left off at I number
230.
We were speaking about the rulings related to
divorce and talaq.
And the last ayat that we read were
about a type of talaq, if you will,
which is when the woman
initiates
the,
the need to separate.
And we mentioned this is called hulaq
and that, in Islam
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has given marriage importance,
has given marriage sanctity, and it's something that
should be protected.
And it is, something that we should strive
our best and try our hardest
to keep our homes from breaking apart.
But at the same time that,
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has given a solution,
a way out.
If all other means fail and there are
several means that are mentioned in the Quran
and the Sunnah. If the couple are struggling
to be together for whatever reason
and often it is unmet expectations,
it is rights and responsibilities that are not
being fulfilled.
If this happens,
then
they should fear Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
They should admonish each other. They should advise
each other.
They should escalate it to other family members
to become an arbiter. They should try their
best to ensure that their family and this
home stays intact.
And Allah mentions in the Quran in Surat
Al Nisa
that that there should be an arbiter from
his side and and and her side. And
if they want reconciliation Allah will bring it
so and Allah will bring their hearts together.
And,
sometimes it doesn't work out and if it
doesn't work out and these are the options.
Sometimes a person is stuck in a marriage
and it is better that they
after it becomes toxic or their rights are
not being fulfilled or whatever the case is
that there's an option out for the man
which is a dalaq
and sometimes the woman needs an option out
and that is where the khulah comes in.
Khulah is when the woman
offers
something
in exchange for divorce,
either
returning the dowry that was given to her
or whatever they agree upon,
wealth wise.
Almost buying herself out of the of the
marriage. And then we also have a third
type which is called and this is where
the judge separates them. So So you have
talaq, which is initiated by the man,
hulaq, which is initiated by the woman,
and then fasihq, which is done by the
ruler.
Then Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala in ayah number
230 says,
If he divorces her, so now a divorce
has happened,
and this divorce here is talking about the
3rd time. As we mentioned in previous lessons
that the man has 2 divorces.
He's about to divorce his wife his wife
once
and then when he divorces her and says,
I divorce you or antitalik
or talak toki or any variation of those
that there is a waiting period
and in that waiting period he has the
ability to take her back,
the rajah.
And during that period, she should stay in
the house.
If
he takes her back, they are husband and
wife and everything goes back to normal but
they wasted how many dalqas?
1. After a while something happened and then
he did talaq again,
then there's a waiting period. By the way,
if the waiting period finishes which is 3
cycles,
3 miniature cycles, if that finishes
he just he can't just take her back.
She becomes
from him. She becomes a strange woman
and because the he hasn't finished his talaqas,
to marry her he will have to approach
her as a and he has approached her
and her family and try and get her
marry again. That's allowed because the talqas are
not finished. That is if the waiting period
ends but within the waiting period he could
take her back and if he does that
second time,
the third time he divorces her there's no
more taking her back, it's over. So here
Allah is talking about what happens afterwards.
And if he divorces her the 3rd time,
then she is not lawful unto him
thereafter.
It's over.
It's over.
Until she has married another
husband. So
here Allah is telling us,
Is there ever a way back for these
exes?
A man divorced his wife the 3rd time,
is there ever a way that they can
get back together?
And no,
until
she marries another man
and then that man divorces her.
Until she marries another man.
This
new husband now, if he divorces her,
then afterwards, there
is no sin on both of them
to reunite provided they feel that they can
keep the limits set by Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala.
So there's a lot to unpack here.
Can they ever get together? Yes. But first
what needs to happen? She needs to find
a new husband first.
Can that be orchestrated?
Can that be planned? Can he say to
her, okay we can't Listen, let me find
a guy, he marries you for a few
days. Can that can they orchestrate it? They
cannot.
And there are strict prohibitions around this.
So it has to happen naturally.
Meaning what? Meaning,
after the 3rd divorce,
she finishes
her cycle, her idah period. After she finishes
her idah period, other men approach her. These
men when they approach her, she finds one
that she likes then she gets married. This
could take months, years, doesn't matter. And it
should be a genuine marriage.
Then after that marriage, it should be a
genuine divorce. It can't be the old
the the old ex coming back saying, let
me see the kids. Let me help you
out now. All of a sudden super helpful,
trying to now she's a new she's so
his ex wife and another another man married
her and he's roaming around the house visiting
all the time and trying to get her
back. He's not allowed to do that. This
is sometimes people because you're married Achi was
married for 15 years. I can't see her
with this other man. Well, then you shouldn't
have used up your divorces.
But you have to fear Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala and this marriage, this new marriage should
be respected.
Now,
if then for some reason
that doesn't work
out, then she waits for her idah.
Then afterwards,
they can marry
but he has to approach her willies again,
her
guardians. He has to propose to her. He
has to give her a new dowry and
then they can be together.
This husband that he marries after him, that
marriage must be genuine and
also they must consummate the marriage.
So what's not allowed
is that she finds a husband,
marries him, but they don't consummate. She waits
around, waits around
and then says, listen I want a divorce.
And then goes back to old husband. This
is not allowed. So they have to consummate
the marriage. There was a hadith, there was
an incident during the time of the prophet
where a woman came to the prophet
complaining about her husband. The husband she's complaining
about is the new one. So she had
a divorce with her ex, he divorced her
and then she came off complaining about his
ability to
to perform.
You Rasool Allah, I this husband, he's no
good for me. Right? She said this.
And the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam figured out
and he asked her,
do you want to go back to your
old husband?
And the prophet said, no. Until
your new husband consummates marriage with you.
So from this we learn
that
you cannot just
do anyka on paper
and then annul it on paper and then
go back to your old husband.
One of the varieties scholars mentioned, the benefits
scholars mentioned is that they say that men,
they have,
this jealousy over their woman folk, over their
wives, this protectiveness over them.
So
when
you know
if I divorce her a third time, I
cannot another man has to marry her, this
will will prevent you from divorcing her to
begin with. So this is one of the
benefits of it. Right? It is almost appealing
to your nature. Like, I can't have my
my wife, and it hurts. A lot of
people say that when they divorce their wife
the 3rd time, they say listen it's very
difficult to see her with another man. Well,
you ended the marriage. You ended the marriage.
So here Allah is teaching us if he
divorced at her time
for him
until she marries another husband.
This is one of the evidences that the
Hanafi school has used
for
not
having the willi as a condition.
Not having according to the majority scholars, a
woman cannot marry without the permission of her
guardian, her father, her brother, etcetera. He has
to give her hand in marriage. Right? She
needs a wily.
The Hanafi school among the ever zed is
this ayah because here Allah says,
if he'd if the first husband divorced her
time,
she is not halal for him, she's unlawful
for him,
until she marries.
So they say it doesn't say until she
is married off, it's until she marries. So
Allah attributed some agency towards her. So this
is one of the evidence that they use
but that's not necessarily the case because
in language sometimes you you you can say,
a woman will say I got married
but the implication is that she was married
off. So just because she says I got
married doesn't mean it doesn't necessarily have to
imply that she got married without Willie. But
anyway,
I digress.
Taib.
So they can come together.
There is 2 narrations that mention that the
person,
there's the the practice
of being the
the second husband.
That there's there was a practice
or that one, let me halalify
your ex wife for you by marrying her
for a period of time. Let me be
that man in between that's being talked about
here. She has to marry a new husband.
Some people would would maybe be incentivized. Listen,
I'm gonna give you some money. I divorced
my wife three times. Why don't you go
and marry her for a while?
If you have to consummate, you have to
consummate and then afterwards could you please divorce
her so I can marry her? So they're
orchestrating this. Right? What is the hukum of
this?
The curse of Allah is upon those people.
Prophet hadith in the say in Trmidi,
May the curse of Allah be upon the
one that will do this and try and
make the ex wife halal for him by
marrying her for the purpose of divorcing her.
This is not allowed. So the curse of
Allah has upon those people. In another hadith,
the prophet said,
This person is a rented goat.
A a rented goat and, and,
so heavily heavily
discouraged and heavily criticized to do this. Right?
This should not be
done. However, the 'olama' they discuss not just
whether it is done or not. If it
is done,
what is the ruling of that nikah
and the subsequent nikah? So let's say some
people they know it's a sin, they know
it's not allowed, they do it anyway. They're
like okay, listen, I just want to get
back to my wife so I did this
what is the sheikh? I
I asked a man or I paid a
man to marry my ex and then divorce
her so that I can marry her because
otherwise she would not have had that for
me.
Now he married her, then he divorced her,
then I married her. What is the hukum
of Danica and what is the hukum of
Meinica?
Is it all false? Is it all written
off or to the are they I understand
that you are sinful but are they valid?
Or is that erynica invalid and then this
meaning and then also your nikah also invalid?
And does that mean that they have to
separate now? Because some people do this.
The fuqa
and scholars and the Jewish they say that
generally speaking
this is haram to do. But
when we wanna address whether anyqa is valid
or not, we look at the conditions and
the pillars at the present. So we would
say
in this in this person,
in the prophet prophet's word, this person that
you've rented to do this for you,
doing that did he did did he
propose to her to marry? Was there a
dowry given? Was there permission from the guardian
taken? Were there witnesses?
And was there an acceptance and an offer?
Were the conditions of marriage met in that
instance? If it's yes, yes, yes, yes, yes,
then they are what? Legally?
Married.
So it stands. Did they consummate? Yes, they
consummate. Okay. So that would mean that that
marriage legally, Islamically, it's the marriage is valid
but they're both extremely sinful. Not only sinful,
they are cursed by
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. And then when he
divorced her again, we would check, were the
condition of divorce met? Yes, they were. Then
then if that person that ends up marrying
them we're not going to say they must
be separated. We're going to say,
the marriage is valid but you're all sinful
and you need to repent. And this is
not open season all of a sudden just
because something is valid and people do this
often and we need to fear Allah Subhanahu
Wa Ta'ala because someone that is cursed by
Allah, what what kind of life would you
live? People are wondering, Sheikh, what happened to
my business? What happened to my children?
We are, this one is ill and my
business is not working out and,
my life is yeah. Actually, you invoked a
curse of Allah upon yourself. If you ever
come across a hadith or an ayah, whoever
does such and such, the curse of Allah
is upon them, don't rush into doing something
like that and think it's a sin that
will prevent from it later because you do
not want to be because what is the
curse of Allah? The word laan, what is
it?
Means
It is to be removed and to be
taken far away from the mercy of Allah.
Will we be without the mercy of Allah
Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala?
But so what did we learn in this
ayah? Number 1,
if a man divorces his wife 3 times,
her last is over. What has to happen?
She has to marry another man and this
there has to be a genuine marriage
and they have to also consummate. If you
don't consummate, you can't go back. If it's
not genuine marriage, they are all sinful. This
is not allowed. And the prophet will curse
those that facilitate this.
Then afterwards
and it I these things do happen. Sometimes
you'll see,
a marriage ends and then the woman goes
on with her life and she marries another
man and there's a 10 year marriage.
And then after that somehow it doesn't work
out and they separate and then she looks
for her old husband 10 years ago. You
Now let me see if he's still around.
And they end up together. It it can
happen. Right? And if it happens if that's
what you wanted.
But you cannot engineer these things. And if
you run and stay together so badly, then
do not use up your divorces to begin
with.
Then Allah said,
if
the new husband divorces her, the other husband
divorces her,
there's no sin on both of them, the
2 excess
to reunite.
If they feel that they can keep the
limits of the Allah and live together with
harmony, peace, fulfilling each other's rights and responsibilities.
Then Allah reminds us
and these are the limits of Allah.
All of these rules should not be broken.
These are what? The limits. Allah
makes them plain and clear for those people
who have knowledge.
Meaning, you know the rules now, do not
transgress upon them.
Then Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says,
This is I number 231.
Here Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala is talking about
when you've divorced your wife
and this is not the 3rd divorce, this
could be the first or the second, where
there is scope for you what to take
her back.
When you have divorced your woman,
and they have so the word
means to reach and they have reached
the term, the prescribed term meaning the 3
cycles
but in this ayah it doesn't mean to
reach, it means when they get close to
it. When they get close to it, faba
lakona aifaqaarabna.
When the idah period is about to finish,
it's time to make a decision.
Am I gonna take her back
or am I not gonna take her back?
Because what happens,
my, beloved brothers and sisters, what happens is,
if a man
well, how long is the idah for a
divorced woman, Masin?
3 cycles. Very good. So a man devotes
his wife for the first time.
Those three cycles, let's say she waited for
10 days and then her menstrual cycle started
and it lasted for 6 days, that's 16
days. After that, it took another 3 weeks,
and then another cycle happened and then another
3
let's say for a period of 3 months.
It took 3 months
for the 3 menstrual cycles to finish and
then what happens if it ends?
It's only 1 divorce, right? What happens if
it ends? If the period ends and the
husband doesn't take her back, she's a free
woman.
She said she can he can say then
he has to propose to her.
Then he has to what? Say, I would
like to take you back and she can
say yes but I don't want to. She
and she can go and marry someone else
if she wants to.
Now
here Allah is saying,
and when you divorce the woman, the first
or the second one,
and the time period is about to finish.
Let's say it was 3 months, you know,
2 months 3 weeks.
There's
little time left.
Then make the decision.
Allah
subhanahu wa'ala is saying then either take them
back within kindness and reason.
Take them back or
set them free within kindness and reason.
Right. So be sensible.
The time is about to finish. Either make
a decision, take her back and live together
in harmony
and solve other problems
or let her go and be done with
it.
And then Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala said,
and do not take them back to hurt
them.
What would that mean, do not take them
back? Sometimes
this would happen in the past and it
may still happen today, The man will wait.
So she doesn't know, is he going to
take him back? Is he going what's going
on? The idiopul is about and and if
when the idiopul is about to end he
says, I take you back. And they are
now married again. But then he treats her
not in the right way. He doesn't feel
right responsibilities. He keeps her just because he
wants to keep her. And sometimes they would
say, listen, I won't divorce you and you
won't have a good marriage
and you're stuck with me until your hair
goes gray And then she stuck in the
marriage, I will never divorce you. This is
the wrath. This is harming the woman. What
is Allah teaching us? If you're gonna keep
her, if you're gonna keep the relationship intact,
then do it in ma'aruf, within reason and
kindness.
And if you're not gonna do that, sarri'uwona
ima'aruf, let her go in in in reason
and kindness.
And do not take them back
to harm them and to hurt them.
So that you can transgress upon them.
And whoever does that
whoever does that fakadwalamaalifsah
who he has first and foremost wronged himself
by incurring all this sin, by doing this
to the woman. So Allah is teaching us
here when you are married, whether you want
to divorce your wife, keep your wife, let
her go, do it all within righteousness,
kindness
and and
and be reasonable.
And do not treat the laws of Allah,
the ayaats of Allah, the Quran, and these
rules and these commandments, do not treat them
as a jest and a joke.
One time,
Abdulai ibn Abbas, the companion, a man came
to him and said,
I divorced my wife a 100 times.
And then he said to her,
you had only the right to divorce her
3 times,
and these 3 times they count.
As for the 97 times,
you took the ayat of Allah as a
jest and a joke. This ayat applies to
you.
And
we have to be very careful.
When we gained
access
to these women
that came from their father and mother's homes.
And they were put under our care
and under our responsibility
and in our homes
and they're bearing our children,
raising our children, doing this all this for
us. This is all sanctioned by the book
of Allah
and these laws and commandments they deserve respect.
So this is why you cannot be playing
around with them and at the fair law
Subhanahu wa ta'ala in that regard.
And do not take the laws of Allah
and the ayahs of Allah as something that
is a joke, as something that can be
taken lightly.
An interesting point to remember,
divorce is among the things
that
you cannot
joke about.
Three things,
if they are mentioned
as a joke
or if they are mentioned
not as a joke but for real, it
doesn't matter, it will happen. Among them was
Talaq.
So if you date your wife, I divorce
you.
And they say, I was joking, it doesn't
matter. She's divorced.
You can't say it as a joke. You
can't say it as a joke.
It's
If you say it If you come to
the judge yesterday So what did you say?
And the judge What did you say? I
said you are divorced
but judge, Sheikh, imam, I didn't mean it.
I was just messing with her. Doesn't matter.
Did you say it? Yes. It counts. You
don't joke about these things. You do not
joke about these things.
And,
the the other thing is giving someone away
in marriage as well. You don't joke about
these things either.
So,
you this is something very sensitive and important
so you can't take it as lighting. The
raka is not something that is light.
Similarly anger.
Anger is something that is often over exaggerated.
My devotion count why I was angry.
I was angry. And people they will abuse
this. They'll say, You sheikh, I was angry
so it shouldn't count.
And then the anger that the scholars
would the the type of anger that the
scholars would say,
your divorce doesn't count because you are so
angry,
is a type of anger where you do
not know what you're doing.
Where you are so angry you are unaware
of what you're doing. So if someone comes
and says,
I divorced my wife in in a state
of anger
and you say, okay. Do you know what
time it was? Oh, yeah. It was at
9:32.
Okay. And what happened? This happened, that happened.
And then what? And then this happened, that
happened. And then how did you feel this
way and this way? This is someone that
is very lucid, someone that is aware of
what's happening. It's not someone that is seeing
red.
There is levels of anger
that once you reach that level of anger,
you have no idea what's going on. This
is the type that is forgiven. Does that
make sense? Some people they stretch it. They
may he might he might have been just
upset and but that's the thing.
Get into the habit of not using the
word talaq, divorce as something you threaten your
wife with or use it. Don't have it.
Have it off the table
and let it be something that only brings
comes up in an actual sitting down where
witnesses are present and you're serious about it.
If not then no mention it and no
use it like that. It's not something to
joke about.
It's a serious matter and Allah is saying
do not take the ayat of Allah as
something that is a joke. May Allah forgive
us.
With kuru and mention and remember niyamatallahu
alaykum the many blessings of Allah upon you.
The ulema say the blessings that are being
mentioned here is how Allah is clarifying to
us all these rules.
Among the blessings that we have is that
we have a creator that cares for us
and loves us so much that he's giving
us an manual for our life.
To the point where we are being told
this is how you divorce, this is how
you were married, this is how the rules
follow and they're all in our benefit.
Here Allah is saying do not harm the
woman. Do not do this. Do not this
is all niyama from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
that we have this guidance. Without this guidance,
imagine we had to make this up ourselves.
This is a blessing of Allah. The knowledge
that we get have from the Quran in
itself is a niyama.
So mention and remember the name that Allah
has given you.
And that which Allah has sent down upon
you from the book and the hikmah, the
prophetic sunnah.
The book and the hikmah, the prophetic sunnah.
This is one of the ayaats that clearly
mentions that
something has been revealed by Allah. There are
some people that refuse
the sunnah to be a thing. Have you
guys heard of the Quran alone people?
People that say I only follow the Quran,
I don't care about the sunnah. Hadith, I
don't care about it. The prophet said Bukhari,
I don't care about it. I just want
the Quran. Those people,
first I would love to see how they
pray
because
Allah says in the Quran establish the prayer
but you know how many salahs we pray
in? When we pray that's not in the
Quran, that's in the sunnah. So we need
the sunnah. We need the sunnah.
And,
there are ayaats, so like this one, that
they struggle with. The The Quran own people
say, Okay, I have a question for you.
Here Allah says,
and that which Allah has sent down. Allah
has sent down, right, revealed
from the book,
the Quran,
and
the hikmah.
The word and implies something separate. If I
say to you Muhammad and Ali came in,
Muhammad and Ali are 2 separate things. Right?
Okay. So we get to the Quran, as
the book is, what's this hikmah?
What is this thing? That we what is
it's a sunnah of the prophet
And there's other ayahs that clearly indicate this
as well. Such as when Allah says
and we have sent upon you the the
the the remembrance of the dhikr
so that you can clarify to people that
which they have has been revealed upon them.
So there is something that's been sent down
to clarify that which has been revealed.
So what is that thing? What is this
clarifying thing that has been sent as the
sunnah of the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam?
So the sunnah is also a revelation. A
lot of people don't realize this. They say
the Quran is from Allah and the sunnah
is from the prophet. Where is the prophet
getting the sunnah from? That's also a revelation
because everything the prophet did was divinely inspired
by Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
So, Allah is telling us that, we should
remember the blessings of Allah upon us and
among those blessings of the book and the
wisdom which is the sunnah.
Allah
is instructing us and reminding us and admonishing
us through the book and the sunnah.
And
some is putting fear in you. Fear Allah
for there are consequences for,
transgressing these limits.
All is the initial instruction in the ayah.
If you're going to divorce a woman
then, or when you have divorced her and
the 8 day period is about to end
make a decision either keep her
in kindness and righteousness and and and reason
or let her go. And do not keep
them to
hurt them. Hear Allah saying,
in
every single thing
is all aware. So Allah knows your intention
when you're saying I'm keeping you. So, fair
Allah that when there's a reason why Allah
has mentioned us that he's
Allah knows everything. Meaning, Allah saying I know
your intention.
When you're saying I take you back and
you're taking your wife back but your intention
is to harm her, to hurt her, to
prolong this
this thing and to then Allah knows what
you're doing. Fair Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala in
this regard.
And this is item of 232.
And when you divorce your woman,
and they have now finished their term.
The 3 menstrual cycles have finished now. The
earlier aya, it was about to finish and
what you were told make a decision. Now
it's over.
Do not prevent them.
Do not prevent who?
The couple that just divorced. So there's a
back around,
story for for this. So what would happen
was let me tell you the some of
the the
stories behind this.
There was a companion called Ma'akal, Ma'akal ibnei
Isar,
and his cousin approached him and he said,
let me marry,
your, your daughter.
And
he he was protective of her. Or was
it his sister? Anyway, it was one of
his friends. He said, can I marry this
person?
And he was protective over her and he
refused many men and he said okay, I
trust you, you're a good man, you can
marry her
As long as you honor her and they
got married. After a while,
they couldn't get along.
So, he divorced her. Just once, he divorced
her and then the period finished. She went
on her way back to her, back to
Merkel.
Then,
how many divorce did he
do? 1. Is there an option for them
to get back together?
What has to happen?
He has to remarry her. Who who does
he have to go to first?
Her willy.
So he went back to Michael and before
that,
he spoke to her and said, listen, we're
gonna get back together. Are you happy with
it? She was happy with it. She was
happy to get back together to her old
husband. He's happy with it as well. They
came to Markle. Markle said, never.
I've honored you,
you divorced her, what you did? Get out
of here.
And then
the prophet Faina wasallallahu alaihi wasallam.
This ayah was revealed.
This ayah was revealed on this issue which
is
that family members,
the guardian, the oliya or omur, the people
that are in charge, they cannot and should
not prevent
they should not prevent
the couple that wants to be together. Even
if their divorce happened and they wanna get
back together, they shouldn't prevent that from happening.
So Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala is saying,
we need to force the woman.
And they have finished their period.
Do not prevent them for them to marry.
Their former husbands, their exes.
If they mutually agree
within reason, if they agree and there's a
there's a,
joy and they want to be together, husband
and wife, then do not prevent that from
happening.
Because they they've been they were married a
month ago, 2 months ago, whatever. They know
what's best for them. Let them have another
go at it and do not prevent them
from it.
That is an admonishment,
from Allah Subhanahu Manqar, umibillahi
waliomil Akhir,
whoever believes in Allah and the last day.
So Allah is reminding us,
those of you that are preventing
the woman folk that you're in charge of,
your daughters, your sisters, whoever the case is
that you're in charge of, from getting back
to the husbands that they were married to
before? You're preventing them? No, I refuse, I'm
not gonna let you. Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
is telling us don't do this,
don't exert this authority over them. Let them,
let them get back. Do not prevent them
if they mutually agree and it is within
Ma'awuf. Can there be certain circumstances where it's
a really bad idea and you want to
veto it? Maybe.
But the vast, vast, vast majority of time
we should let this happen.
Allah then says, Indeed, this is more virtuous
and purer for you. Allah admonishes us with
2 things, belief in Allah and belief in
the last day.
Why? Because when you believe in Allah, you
believe in the one that will hold you
accountable.
And when you believe in the last day,
you believe in the day you will be
held accountable. So there's a very strong reminders.
Fear Allah in that regard. And this is
more virtuous and pure.
The word
means that there's more
in this, meaning
more blessing,
purer,
better,
more purer for you
and Allah knows.
Allah knows what's best. Allah knows what's better.
Allah knows
and you do not know. So follow Allah's
laws, follow Allah's commandments, and this is better
for the couple, for the family.
I wanna summarize some of the rulings we
learned today and conclude there.
In eye number 230,
we learned that if a man divorces his
wife a third time then that marriage is
over
And then, that she must find a new
husband.
And that new husband, that marriage has to
be genuine.
And after they are married for a long
time or for a period of time, doesn't
have to be long but as long as
it's genuine, if he then ends up divorcing
her then she's allowed to get back to
her old husband.
And when that happens
there's no harm in them coming together, Allah
says. And Allah tells us these are the
hud of Allah.
Here we learned that those that do thaleel,
those that facilitate this, those that allow orchestrate
this that they are cursed by Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala.
And what did the prophet call the man
that facilitates this?
What do you call him?
Taysun Musta'ar.
Then the following ayah talks about
those that when they divorce their wives,
she is still in the period.
And Allah is telling us when it becomes
close and it's time and her id is
about to be finished you need to make
a decision.
What I mentioned is Are you gonna keep
her or you're gonna let her go? Are
you not allowed to just keep her to
harm her? You're allowed to keep her to
harm her,
and to just prolong this
without any intention of being married to her,
a proper marriage.
Now Allah mentioned that this is a dulm
and that this is taking Allah's ayat as
something that is to be played with. May
Allah protect us from that.
And then the following ayat, Allah talks about
those that divorced a woman folk but their
idah has finished and now she's technically
a strange woman. But they still have some
dalaks left and they can get back together
and that requires a proposal and for them
to remarry.
And then that the aliyal or the people
in charge are not allowed to prevent them
from doing so and you mentioned the story
of Maq and Nasr.
Insha'Allah I conclude here. Next week we'll be
speaking about the ayahs related to
breastfeeding the child, how long should it be
done, how is it done this ayah and
inshaAllah also
what happens when a woman is not is
not divorced or her husband dies and what
are the rules related to that?
Just from there.
Okay. So this person is asking, how do
you read your istihara? So there is an
istihara prayer where you pray you pay 2
rakat and then you read a dua, the
dua that the most popular prophet sallallahu alaihi
wa sallam. I advise this person if you
go to the Quran Masjid YouTube channel there
is a video how to pray istihara
and in it, it is explained in detail
how do you pray your Istihara and that
you can find the dua there as well.
Please go there.
How do you know your thoughts on decisions
are not from shaitan and are genuine?
Once we start, thinking that our thoughts are
from shaitan, this can lead to waswas,
and you're going to start doubting every single
thing. If you
are thinking about things rationally
and clearly
and seeking consultation
and not keeping in your head but speaking
to people. As long as you are making
rational decisions based on reason and things that
are good for you, then inshallah ta'ala this
is not from shaitan. And always
say And,
if you have genuine opinions on something, it
doesn't mean that it's from Shaitan. And don't
let the Shaitan trick you into this so
that you get get the.
Is there an after? We covered all of
things related in the previous episode. If you
can watch that.
What if the husband claims his anger
was
real anger, but the wife disagrees?
Do we go with the husband's view or
with
Okay.
So divorce is in the hand of the
husband
and
is in the hand of the husband. Now,
if you're saying he's complying and he wasn't
even angry, so let's say,
a husband a husband debosses wife and after
he debosses wife,
he says I was
angry beyond measure and I wasn't controlling of
my mind so this there was an account.
The judge would have to take his word
for it. If the wife said he is
a so there's 2 options, either the wife
says he was angry but not that angry,
then the judge would rule
the husband because he knows his own personal
experience. Right?
Now,
and that's what he would rule. But I
think this is not a fatwa question. So,
the people I think it's his own sisters.
Certain,
issues and questions are more qada and fatwa.
So fatwa is a ruling that I can
give general wisdom such and such, but a
is a particular scenario, and that requires
really speaking to the people and and speaking
to the husband, speaking to the wife and
seeing exactly what is going on. I cannot
say that,
so
the wife so this person is saying what
if the wife believes that he's lying or
that she doesn't agree that he was angry?
How does she know she's right? Is she
a homo sapien right? Is she a homo
sapien right? Is she causing her doubt? If
that's the case then,
we go with the Assal. We go with
Assal that, he's being truthful. But I think
this
would be ruled by whoever they go to
as the imam, the sheikh, the judge that
they go to will look at the situation
and hear them both out and then give
them a ruling. Any other questions that you
have, we'll cover them in next week's class.