Mustafa Abu Rayyan – 50 Tafseer Surah alBaqarah Verses 221222

Mustafa Abu Rayyan
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The speakers discuss the importance of the "unsure" signal in Islam, as it is a signal to not marry a woman who is not a believer. They stress the importance of faith in marriage, preserving it, and avoiding marriage to women who believe in Islam. The speakers also discuss the universal Christian guidance for marriage, the importance of avoiding intimacy during the middle of the cycle, and avoiding going near a woman during a period of sexual activity and avoiding going to physical sexual activity until they are purified.
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We are continuing our tafsir class, the tafsir

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of Surat Al Baqarah.

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Today, we are starting with ayah

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number

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221.

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Ayah number 221.

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We are now,

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as I like to say, the deep end

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of Surat Al Baqarah.

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We Surat Al Baqarah in the beginning

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was about

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telling you the stories of the people of

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the past, especially the Banu Israel.

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And

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the theme of Surat Al Baqarah is one

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where you are learning

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about

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the Ummam and the people that came before

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us,

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and it is a preparation

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for this.

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Do the good things that the people that

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came before you did,

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and avoid the mistakes and the errors that

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the people that before you fell into.

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And the ummah that Allah describes Zuzul Baqarah

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the most

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is Banu Israel.

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And Banu

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Israel's

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greatest error and mistake

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was their attitude

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and relationship

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with revelation and prophets.

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With revelation

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and prophets.

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So you've been told now

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that when they were told to do something,

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they refused to listen.

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They said, Samirna

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wa'asayina.

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We hear, but we disobey.

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They didn't follow the prophets.

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They

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were told by prophet Musa,

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Do as you are being commanded.

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But they didn't.

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And that resulted in them being a failed

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nation.

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A nation that that earned Allah's anger.

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Now after you've been told about that, you've

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also been told

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about the most successful

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people that has walked this earth.

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You've been told about Ibrahim and how he

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is an imam.

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Why is he an imam?

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Why is he someone that should be followed?

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Why did Allah honor him by saying Because

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of one thing.

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When his lord said to him, submit, he

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said I submit

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myself to the lord of the worlds. So

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after all of this introduction,

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your relationship with revelations

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and prophets should be what?

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The relationship you do have with your prophet

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should be one where you hear and you

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obey.

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The relationship between you and the revelation, the

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Quran should be one where you submit.

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Be like prophet Ibrahim.

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Be like his children, prophet Ismail and Ishaq

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and Yaqub and the people that would be

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like the sahab and the prophet when the

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was changed and they obeyed. Don't be like

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the.

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Now that all of that was covered, we

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entered into the,

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the rulings.

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Now that you understood that, you understood obedience,

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you understood submission,

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you are ready now you are ready now

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to hear the rulings,

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the do's and the don'ts, which is why

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we covered some axles to Hajj.

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Allah has made Hajj obligatory upon you.

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Complete the Hajj and Umrah for Allah. When

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you hear that now, you're not, okay. I

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need to be like prophet Ibrahim. I need

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to hear and obey. I need to be

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like prophet Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wa sallam. I

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need to be not like the Banu Israel,

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which means what you're gonna do, you're gonna

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save up money, you're gonna go to Hajar

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Umrah, you're gonna be an obedient servant to

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Allah

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Now in that

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comes certain prohibitions. Last week or last lesson,

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I should say, we had certain prohibitions that

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we covered. And when when when the when

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we spoke about the prohibition of consuming the

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wealth of the orphans that are under your

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care or the prohibition of alcohol and gambling,

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Tonight, we are talking about another prohibition, and

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this one has something to do with marriage.

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And when you hear about these prohibitions,

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the don'ts

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or the commandments, the do's, you have to

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do, you have to pray, you have to

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give zakat, then always keep in mind that

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that comes under the foundation that's already built,

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which is we hear and we obey, we

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submit to our creator Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.

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Allah

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says,

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And do not marry

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the Mushrikat

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until they believe

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and have faith.

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The prohibition is for us as believing men

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to not marry

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a woman that is not a believer.

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So it is haram.

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It is prohibited.

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And I give let me give you a

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general rule.

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Whenever

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you find

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a

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prohibition in the Quran,

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don't do something.

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Do not do this.

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Right? Then that means doing that act

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is not disliked. It's what? It's haram.

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Unless

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other,

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evidence proves otherwise.

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The the the default is haram. So now,

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when Allah says to us,

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do not marry

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the mushrikat,

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the disbelieving,

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idol worshiping,

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associating partners of Allah type of woman. Do

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not marry her. So you're not allowed to

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marry a woman that is Hindu, that is

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Buddhist, that is atheist, that is agnostic. You're

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not allowed to, according to this ayah, marry

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a woman that is a Christian or a

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Jew according to to this ayah, because they

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are also Mushriks. Right? According to this ayah.

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So meaning it's haram for us to marry

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them.

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Right? Until they believe.

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Now,

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I included the Christians and the and the

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Jewish women in this ayah

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because

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it is a generic general ayah. Every woman

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that falls under the category of being a

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mushrikah, you cannot marry.

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It is in another ayah, Surat Al Maidah,

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where an exception has been made.

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And the exception that has been made to

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the rule, the rule is you can't marry

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them,

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the exception is

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Right? The virtuous or chaste woman from the

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people of the book.

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So a woman from the people of the

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book, meaning a Christian woman and a Jewish

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woman, you can marry as an exception to

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the rule. So

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as a Muslim man, you can only marry

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3 types of woman, as it relates to

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their faith. She has to either be a

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believing woman, a mumina, Muslima,

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or

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a practicing Christian, or a practicing

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Jew. Anyone other than that, you're not allowed

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to marry Baeib.

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Now,

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then Allah gives us a example.

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It's important because sometimes, to to give you

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guys an example or a similitude,

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it,

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brings the message home.

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And indeed a slave woman

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who believes and has faith,

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is better than a free woman,

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who is a

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Now why this example? Because

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when there was such a time where you

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had people that were free and people that

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were enslaved,

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then the person that was in slavery,

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they were owned by another person. Right? This

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is why

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the the rule was you're not allowed to

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marry from them. You're not allowed to marry

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a woman who was enslaved. Why? Because,

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as long as she is the as long

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as this person

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is owned by someone else, any children you

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have with them will also be owned by

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them. So you were told don't do that.

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And there's only specific

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scenarios where you're allowed, where you were allowed

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in Islam. So even the sahab were encouraged

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to marry a woman that is free,

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and,

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if not, then have patience and wait until

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you can get married. And only very specific

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scenarios where you're allowed to do this at

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your own, parallel because your children will be

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part of that that that issue and a

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problem. But even then even then, let's say

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a man during the time of the Sahaba,

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during the time when there was such a

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thing as people,

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as slavery,

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a an enslaved believing woman

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is better for you

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than a free

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mushlik woman.

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Why?

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Because the faith in her

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has so much more value than anything that

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this person has.

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Faith gives you value.

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Faith and iman gives you value. We look

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at faith before anything else, and that is

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a reframing of the way we look into

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the world.

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So be

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the first thing that you look at is

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iman.

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What gives you value, what gives you honor,

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what gives you worth is the faith inside

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of you, the belief you have in Allah

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The moment that is removed, you are nothing.

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It is not your riches and your money.

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It is not your status and your family.

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It is not your job that gives you

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value. It is your faith.

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It is your faith, which is why the

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greatest king and the richest man, they are

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not as they don't have the same worth

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as even a homeless man, poor person who's

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outside, but he believes in Allah

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Right? Value what gives you value is iman.

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And this is what's being taught to the

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Sahaba here and to us as well. And

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also it will do not so also because

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you might be wondering, well, why can't I

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marry a a a woman that is a

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Hindu? Why can't I marry a woman that

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is a Buddhist? Why can't I marry an

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atheist woman? Why can't I marry this, that,

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or the other? Because

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of the importance that we put faith in.

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You're not allowed to bring into your home,

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create a home and children around

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a home where faith and iman

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is not a priority,

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where there's mixed messages. So we need to

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preserve that.

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So Allah said, indeed, a slave woman

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is better for you

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to marry than a free woman,

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even

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even if she pleases you and your family.

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Right? Now let's give an actual example because

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I keep we keep taking it back to

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the to the to the earlier times.

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But right now what happens a lot of

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times is young men who are not practicing,

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young men who are not serious about their

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religion will enter into relationships with people that

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are not Muslim.

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And all of a sudden they want to

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they fall in love because the heart is

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the what what the heart wants what the

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heart wants. And all of a sudden they're

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like, yeah, Sheikh, can I marry this woman?

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I I love her. I want to be

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with her.

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And

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you tell them, is she Muslim? No.

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Then, why is she? I don't know. She

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doesn't really believe anything.

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What's the answer? Can you marry her? You

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can't marry her. But now, fitna, my heart,

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I love this mushkilah, all of it because

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you never prioritized your deen to begin with.

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And now you're in this mess.

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You're not in this mess and this happens

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all the time. Right?

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And

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it it just causes issue. So we need

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to follow and be people that follow Allah

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and his messenger. It is not allowed for

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you to marry

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a mushrikah,

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a non believing woman.

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You can't marry her. You only are to

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marry a believing woman, and the exception was

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the the the Christians and the Jews. And

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even then, the exception comes with certain rules.

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So when can you marry a Christian or

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a Jewish woman? You can only marry her

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if there's 2 condition present. And even when

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those 2 conditions are present, it's still not

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encouraged.

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What are those 2 conditions? One,

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she must be from the people of the

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book. Not nominally.

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Not my great grandfather used

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to be a rabbi.

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Not my family used to be Christian, but

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I don't care. No no no no. She

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has to be someone that is from the

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people of the book that is serious about

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their Christianity

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and their Judaism. They have to be serious.

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Why? Why is that key? It's key because

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Allah said

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they are from the people of the book.

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Right? Not loosely affiliated to the people of

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the book. Right? But the other thing is

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the

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the Christians and the Jew the the Jewish,

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people, when they are practicing their faith, they

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actually have a lot in common.

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We actually have a lot in common when

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it comes to, like, values and what we

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have a lot in common, so it helps

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with the household.

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Right? You you will have subhan'Allah. I actually

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am aware of this this man. Again, I'm

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not I'm not encouraging this, but this was

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a brother. He was married to this Christian

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woman. May Allah guide her, but she was

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a proper Christian.

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Right? And

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she used to wake up her children for

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Fajr.

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She used to wake up her children for

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Fajr.

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Now

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this is of course, I would say a

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rarity.

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But,

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they have the same values of like values

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like modesty, values like what is a what's

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considered as a marriage, etcetera etcetera etcetera.

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That's why that's so she has to be

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an actual, Christian

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or or or serious about the faith serious

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about the faith. Secondly,

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she has to be a Afifa.

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What does an Afifa mean? Who can tell

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me?

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Yes?

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She's someone yes. It's a chastity. So this

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doesn't necessarily mean some people think that this

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means that they have to be virgins.

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No. That's not necessarily the case. The it

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it means that currently

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when the marriage proposal is being done, they

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are someone that is upholding

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their chastity and are being someone that is

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a,

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that has modesty and is not sleeping around.

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Things like this. This is what I mean

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is. Right? Bayib. If those conditions are fulfilled,

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you

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can. You can potentially marry them, but it

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is not encouraged because it is still difficult

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to maintain a household like that. It is

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still difficult to maintain a house like that.

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It's very confusing for the children. Right? My

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mother is not a believer. Allah, a promise

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can arise from that. So it's not encouraged

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but it is what?

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Allowed.

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And then Allah

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And do not give your daughters,

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do not marry them off

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to

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non believing mushrik men

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until they believe, accept the faith.

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And then Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala said,

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and indeed a believing slave

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man

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is better

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from

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a idol worshipping mushrik

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man even if he pleases you. So this

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is another message. Someone has a daughter, someone

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he's in charge of, and he wants to

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marry her off, and there's this rich man,

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successful man, but he's a mushrik.

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Or there's this man who is in servitude,

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who's a servant, who is but he's a

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believer. Which one is better for her? The

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believing one. Because faith trumps all.

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Faith trumps all. There's nothing more important than

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iman.

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Why? Why is that the case?

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Because the idol worshippers, the mushriks, the people

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that are not upon Islam, they are calling

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towards hellfire.

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These other faiths, they don't lead to Jannah.

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Only one faith leads to Jannah, that's Islam.

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So why would you want to marry your

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child

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or marry yourself

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or marry the one you are in charge

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with to, someone who is calling towards the

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fire?

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And Allah has calling you to Jannah and

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to forgiveness

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with his permission.

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Interesting point

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thing to point out here. Allah said in

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the beginning of the ayah,

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do not

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marry non believing Muslim women.

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Who's being spoken to right now?

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Who's being spoken to? Do not marry the

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woman that is not believing. Who's Allah speaking

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to?

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The the men. The men. Right? Taib. When

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Allah said, do not marry off

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your woman, folk, your daughters, and whoever you're

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in charge of to non believing men. Who's

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I speaking to?

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Men as well. What do you learn from

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there?

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That a man can marry,

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but a woman is married off.

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Very important. A man marries,

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but a woman is married off by her

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guardian. By her guardian. And this is something

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subhanahu wa'en is ancient in, like, even different

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faiths. You know when you see this whole

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concept in Christianity where the dad

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is walking his daughter

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on the aisle.

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This is this symbolizes

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a passing of the torch of responsibility.

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Right? This is not even Islam, in Christianity.

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Right? So he walks in the aisle and

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she does she's waiting. The father comes and

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he walks, and then he gives her to

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the and then, right, the the the ceremony

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happens. This concept that the woman is always

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under the guardianship of aiman,

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her father, and then from her father to

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her husband. It's a transfers

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of responsibility.

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Right. This is called wilayyah, guardianship.

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Right. Which is why Allah this is one

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of the evidences

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one of the evidences

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that a woman

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does not marry herself off, it is her

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guardian that marries her off, her wali that

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marries her off. And there's even more explicit

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evidences such as the prophet statement.

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There is no

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there is no marriage except with a guardian,

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a wali. Right? And

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Any woman that marries without a willi, then

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her marriage is invalid. Right? So all of

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evidences

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suggest

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that for a marriage to be, valid, for

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a marriage to be correct, for a marriage

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to be Islamic,

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then the guardian

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has to give the woman who's marrying away.

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And that could be the father,

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the grandfather,

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it could be the brother, it could be

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and there's a number and there's a list.

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But it always starts with the father and

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then whoever else is present.

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This is this is known as the wilayah.

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Who here

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has heard of the fact

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that

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certain scholars in the past or the present

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allow a marriage to happen

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without a willy? If you've heard of that

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concept, raise your hand.

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Without a willy. A marriage without a willy.

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Have you heard of that? Not that you

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agree with it, but have you heard that

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exists?

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Some people they conduct marriages without a wili.

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No? Allahu Akbar. Someone

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in the a few people

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heard. So,

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there's actually,

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this happens quite a lot

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in the Muslim

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world, where

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a marriage has taken place,

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without

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the willy's permission.

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Right? Without the willy's permission.

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And

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the reason for that is because

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Imam Abu Hanifa,

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Imam Abu Hanifa and the Hanafi school

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do not consider

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the the,

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guardian, the

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to be among the conditions

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of a valid marriage.

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So they say it is recommended,

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but it's not a condition.

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A marriage can happen,

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and it will be valid even without a

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a wali. This is the madhab of who?

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Imam?

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And did he just put it out of

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nowhere? No. He has some evidence for it

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as well. He has some evidence for it

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as well. But after analyzing

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all of the evidences and even what they

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use as evidence, right, for example in Surat

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Al Baqarah, we'll come across an ayah where

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Allah

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says,

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Because right now what did we say? We

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said,

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when Allah said, do not marry

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a mushrik woman, Allah was speaking to the

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men. And when he said do not marry

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off a woman to a mushrik man, Allah

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was also speaking to the men. So anytime

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a marriage is happening, it has to be

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in the presence of the guardian. Does that

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make sense? Clear cut.

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But in in another ayah, Allah

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is speaking to the woman. Allah

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says,

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until she marries another man.

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Now who is Allah talking to? To the

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woman, until she marries another man. So they

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said sometimes Allah speaks to the woman, and

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they bring evidences. But

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I don't wanna get into the, to the

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nitty gritty,

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khilaf. This is not a fiqh lesson. If

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you want a fiqh lesson, come here on

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Wednesdays, is it? I think it's Wednesdays. Yes.

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And, inshallah, I'm sure you'll see all the

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opinions.

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The great, scholar, ibn Ibarust. Ibarust,

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was this Andalusian scholar. He has a a

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book, where he talks about all the all

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the Manhab's views. He actually brings a lot

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of evidences,

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as a case for

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the Hanafi opinion, of the Hanafi position.

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And other scholars will, but but the majority

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of the scholars, so the shafi'i school, the

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Hanbalis, the shafi'i's, and the malikis, and many

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many other scholars,

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they were, upon the view that a marriage

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must have a willi or else it is

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invalid. Now that being said and that is

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the correct opinion.

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Is the majority opinion? Is this a stronger

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opinion? That being said, we respect

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any valid

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scholarly

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position that exists, which is why the scholars

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they said sometimes the ulama are asked, Sheikh,

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I live in Turkey

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or in the subcontinent

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or this that and where the predominant school

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is Hanafi

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and marriages are being taken place. And those

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marriages are being taken place without a guardian.

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So a woman will get married and her

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father might not be involved, etcetera etcetera.

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Are those marriages valid? What is the ruling

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of those marriages? Should they be broken apart?

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Are are are those houses not what's the

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deal there? And all of the ulama say

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as long as they those marriages happened

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with following

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the Hanafi madhab

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and the the scholarly views, then those marriages

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are valid.

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They are valid.

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The opinion is wrong, but the marriage is

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what?

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Valid.

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And if someone comes to me and says,

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someone comes to me and says, I wanna

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get married,

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and I am present, for example, and they

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say, okay,

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where is the willy? Is the first question

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we ask. No. No. No. We won't do

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that willy. I will say to them, I'm

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sorry. You can't do this. And I said

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to I will tell say to them, you

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have to bring your get your father involved

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or

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someone. I will also not tell them, you

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know what? Go to the local messengers over

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here. They'll do it without a willy. I

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wouldn't do that. Does that make sense? So

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the view is still incorrect,

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but if someone's

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marriage and they have 5 kids now, we're

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not gonna say, listen. Your marriage is never

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invalid. Your children are not legal. We're not

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gonna say that because it is based on

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a still a a scholarly

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view that the whole countries

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and judges hold. Does that make sense?

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Why did we go on this tangent?

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Because

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one of the evidences

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to suggest

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a male

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guardian is required to give away

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his daughter or

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sister in hands in marriage, is when Allah

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was speaking about marriage here,

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Allah adjusted men and said,

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give not your daughters or whoever you are

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responsible for

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to mushrik men. Do not marry them off.

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Even if those mushrik men please you and

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you are pleased with their their dunya,

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their akhla is more important. What is the

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moral of this ayah message

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that faith is the most important aspect that

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we look at when we are considering marriage?

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They are calling towards the Naar,

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and indeed Allah

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is calling

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inviting you to Jannah

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and forgiveness.

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And Allah makes his ayaat,

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proofs and evidences and lessons.

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See, Allah clarifies them

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and makes them clear

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so that they may remember

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and take heed and benefit.

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Now we enter into another ayah where Allah

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teaches us

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a this

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the next few tafsir lessons will be fiqh

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heavy,

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halal, haram, and rules. Why? Because all of

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these ayaats are related to to aham.

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Before I move on, what is the ruling

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you learned

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today in the previous aya? You learned that

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it is haram to marry who?

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A mushrik woman.

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Or a woman to marry a mushrik

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man.

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The exception for the men is that they

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can also marry who?

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From

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the Al Haktab, or the Jews and the

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Christians. And the two conditions are that they

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are from actually Christians and Jews, and also

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that they are a thief, and they are

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practicing and they are modest. Right?

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So what would be an exception to that

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would be so if someone says, I want

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to marry my girlfriend who I've been living

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with for 3 years

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and she is Christian,

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but they've been together and they didn't mind

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being together and living together and all that

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comes with. And this wouldn't be the type

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of person you would be allowed to marry

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as a Christian. Does that make sense?

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Unless she then

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atones and changes and all that.

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The other ruling that we learned is, of

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course, that it's also heavily disliked, if not

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not allowed to marry a slave person, a

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slave woman or man. You you shouldn't marry.

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And there's only and then, certainly, explains

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this further,

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but only in

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from a layaway. So only if you cannot,

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if and only if you cannot marry a

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free woman

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was the option available for you. Only if

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you cannot marry a free woman and you

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cannot afford it was the option allowed for

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you to marry someone that was in servitude.

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And then was only leiman hashal alanataminkum if

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you are fall fearful of falling into zina.

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So if you're not fearful of falling into

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zina

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and you can marry a free woman, then

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it was not allowed for you to marry

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a slave woman. But this is again these

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rules are for the when those rules when

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those rules apply, not now.

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Tawid.

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Yes.

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Yes.

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Of course they are Moshekin. There is no

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doubt about it.

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They are Moshekin.

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What great.

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This eye I put them out, the other

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eye I put them back in. That's how

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it works. Does that make sense? So it's

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like this, if I say if I say

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to you

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every man in this room must leave this

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building,

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that means everyone here has to what?

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Leave this building

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except if you're wearing a hat.

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Then that means a few of them would

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stay.

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Right? Now if you said, yes Sheikh, but

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they are also men.

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I would say to you, yes, they are

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but we make an we made an exception.

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The exception is that if they are wearing

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hats,

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do not marry the mushrikat

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except if they are Jews and Christian.

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So they are still Mushrikats

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but they are the exception to the

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to the rule. Does that make sense?

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They are the exception to the rule. We're

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not going to say the Christians Jews are

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not Mushrik because they are.

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They are, their Shirk is

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the fact that they worship Issa

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is enough for them to be Mushriks,

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but they are the exception to the rule.

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Does that make sense?

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They are the exception to the rule. Does

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that answer your question? Do you or do

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you have more?

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Do you do you understand the point?

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It was very simple. This maida came came

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lost because it was Surat Al Baqarah and

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Ma'ida was revealed later. We know that. Ma'ida

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was from the last chapters that were revealed.

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So that answers the question, doesn't it? Right.

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So Ma'ida was among the very good question

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because, what's your name, Aki?

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Mohammed asked asked a very good question. When

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2 ayahs

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are seemingly telling you different information,

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one of the question you have to ask

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yourself is which one came first to see

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which rule was abrogated?

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Now with Ma'idah, it's very simple. The rules

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of Ma'idah are stuff one of the and

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sultan Ma'idah is a surah that tells you

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that you're allowed to marry from the period

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of the book. Those are of the later

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revealed surahs.

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So that's that proves

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that that exception still stands. Does that make

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sense?

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What we call here is,

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a general every general rule has an has

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an exception. Every general rule has a well,

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not every general rule, but some general rules

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have exceptions, and this is this is one

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of them.

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Taib.

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This I is talking about hide. Hide is

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the menstrual cycle that the woman goes through.

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The fiqh of hide is very important.

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The, the, some of my sheikh used to

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say

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that

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the men don't experience hide

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and the women don't learn about hide. So

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we have a problem. Every time we're studying

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it, it's it is because,

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the fiqh of hide is extremely important, especially

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for the sisters.

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There's a lot that they need to know.

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There's a lot that they need to know.

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There's a lot of rules around Haifa.

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And young women are getting their their cycles

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early early.

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There's things related to fasting, things related to

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praying, things related to reading the Quran, things

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related to doing tawaf. A lot of rules

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that they need to know. And this is

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why it's important that the fiqh of hayd

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is studied especially by our sisters and also

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by the brothers so that they can teach

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it to their wives and daughters and sisters.

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Now

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the Sahaba asked about this,

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about the menstrual cycle.

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And they ask you concerning

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the menstrual cycle.

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Allah

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said, say,

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say,

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it is a harmful thing.

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What's harmful?

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Harmful being intimate during this time is harmful.

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Being intimate during this time is harmful. And

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Islam is wasat.

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Islam and I gave a few examples of

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the wasatiyah, the balanced middle path of Islam.

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Example I always like to remind myself all

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of you is the example of Aesah Alaihi

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Sam. The yahood

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they said Aesah is not a prophet.

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He is not a man or a man.

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He's even a child born out of wedlock.

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Ta'ala Allah. At

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this is a great great,

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a

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great statement to say about the great prophet.

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Right? To to to accuse him of this

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and to accuse Mariam of this.

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So they disregarded Issa completely.

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The Christians,

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they said he is the son of God.

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He is God.

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And they went overboard.

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Islam

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came and said

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no,

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he is not

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a god or the son of god,

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rather he is a prophet.

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He's a servant of Allah. He will not

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be worshipped.

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He's a messenger of Allah and he will

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not be

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disbelieved in. So Islam is middle.

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We didn't disregard the Isa alaihi salam like

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the yahood. We say he's a prophet of

00:32:03 --> 00:32:05

Allah. We didn't venerate him like that, the

00:32:05 --> 00:32:07

nazarah, and said that he we we kept

00:32:07 --> 00:32:09

him at where he where his actual station

00:32:09 --> 00:32:11

is. On him as a prophet,

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Madhurach eat him like a like a divine

00:32:14 --> 00:32:16

being. Similarly, even with this issue this issue,

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the hide issue,

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the yahood

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the tradition of the yahood was or is

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that that if a woman is on a

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cycle that she is almost quarantined.

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She doesn't eat with the family. She stays

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in her room. They have very strict rules

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regarding that.

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None.

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Whereas the nasaara, they had couldn't care less.

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Cycle, no cycle, it's all the same.

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Islam came in the middle. What did Allah

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say? It is a harmful thing to be

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intimate during this time so you avoid that.

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But anything beyond that is perfectly fine. Be

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around the family. Eat with the family. Cook

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for the family. So that shows you

00:32:50 --> 00:32:52

what? The the middle path of Islam.

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But Allah said fa'atazirun

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misaahfilmahid.

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Allah said, Allah said, therefore, keep away from

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the woman doing her menses.

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So what do you keep away from? You're

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not intimate with her during this time.

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Anything other than intimacy is allowed.

00:33:08 --> 00:33:09

Anything other than intimacy

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is allowed. Right? And the fuqaha, they differ

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over exactly where does the line end.

00:33:16 --> 00:33:17

Right?

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And the, the strongest or the or the

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the

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the is the opinion that you avoid between

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the navel and the knee. You avoid between

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the navel and the knee. Anything else is

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fine.

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So stay away from the from the woman

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folk during this time.

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And do not go near them

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until they are purified.

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So do not go near them until they

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are purified means until their menses end. So

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when the menstrual cycle ends,

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then what?

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And when they bathe,

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then go in onto them as Allah has

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ordained or commanded.

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Meaning, this is when you are allowed to

00:34:05 --> 00:34:08

be intimate. After so there's 2 tahara that

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I mentioned here. 2 times tahara is mentioned.

00:34:13 --> 00:34:15

Until they become pure,

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meaning until the cycle

00:34:17 --> 00:34:17

ends.

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When they bathe.

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So the cycle ends and they bathe,

00:34:25 --> 00:34:28

then relations can continue as they were before.

00:34:29 --> 00:34:31

Right? As they were before. If that happens,

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then

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go in onto them as Allah has commanded,

00:34:37 --> 00:34:39

meaning have jima' with them and

00:34:39 --> 00:34:40

and

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have relations with them.

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Allah loves those

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who Allah subhanahu wa'ala loves those who repent

00:34:51 --> 00:34:53

often, and Allah loves those who purify themselves

00:34:54 --> 00:34:57

by bathing and cleaning and staying pure and

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not

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involving

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in anything that is najis or filth. So

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purification.

00:35:02 --> 00:35:04

There's a lot of aham in this ayah.

00:35:05 --> 00:35:06

One of the rulings that we learned from

00:35:06 --> 00:35:08

this ayah, like I mentioned earlier, is is

00:35:08 --> 00:35:10

the rulings, that,

00:35:10 --> 00:35:11

the Sahaba

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were asking the prophet

00:35:14 --> 00:35:16

about the issues pertaining to their religion. And

00:35:16 --> 00:35:18

even the female Sahaba would come to the

00:35:18 --> 00:35:20

prophet and he would ask them very detailed

00:35:20 --> 00:35:20

question.

00:35:21 --> 00:35:23

How do I purify myself? What should I

00:35:23 --> 00:35:25

do? And they will not shy about masks

00:35:25 --> 00:35:27

related to their religion. And they would say

00:35:27 --> 00:35:28

to the prophet

00:35:28 --> 00:35:30

that Allah does not shy away from the

00:35:30 --> 00:35:31

truth. Tell us this and this and this

00:35:31 --> 00:35:32

and this and the prophet would tell

00:35:33 --> 00:35:34

them. You learn here

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that we are we everything

00:35:38 --> 00:35:40

during the cycle is fine.

00:35:41 --> 00:35:41

So,

00:35:42 --> 00:35:45

we don't isolate them like the yahoo did

00:35:45 --> 00:35:47

but we also know where the limits are.

00:35:47 --> 00:35:49

We're not allowed to be intimate with them

00:35:49 --> 00:35:51

during this period. And this period can last

00:35:51 --> 00:35:51

up to,

00:35:52 --> 00:35:55

this is another interesting point. How long can

00:35:55 --> 00:35:55

it last?

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Because they don't pray during this period. Who

00:35:58 --> 00:35:58

can tell

00:35:59 --> 00:36:02

me? If a woman's cycle, how long can

00:36:02 --> 00:36:04

it last before she starts praying? Let's say

00:36:04 --> 00:36:05

her cycle starts on the 1st of the

00:36:05 --> 00:36:06

month,

00:36:06 --> 00:36:08

2nd of the month, 3rd of the month,

00:36:08 --> 00:36:09

4th of the month. It continued. It continued.

00:36:09 --> 00:36:10

It continued.

00:36:11 --> 00:36:13

If it continues on, does she never pray?

00:36:13 --> 00:36:16

What's the rule? Let's say it continues and

00:36:16 --> 00:36:17

this doesn't stop.

00:36:17 --> 00:36:19

When does she stop praying?

00:36:19 --> 00:36:21

In other words, what is the most before

00:36:21 --> 00:36:22

she has to pray? Nam.

00:36:23 --> 00:36:23

Yes.

00:36:28 --> 00:36:31

Okay. If after her regular period. So if

00:36:31 --> 00:36:33

the period is 7 days usually,

00:36:34 --> 00:36:35

then she'll count those 7 days. What if

00:36:35 --> 00:36:36

she doesn't have a regular one? What if

00:36:36 --> 00:36:37

this is her first time?

00:36:44 --> 00:36:45

Very good.

00:36:46 --> 00:36:48

What is the most that we can consider

00:36:48 --> 00:36:49

at height?

00:36:52 --> 00:36:54

What is the number of the most we

00:36:54 --> 00:36:56

can consider the height? After that, when she

00:36:56 --> 00:36:57

has to stop praying?

00:36:59 --> 00:37:00

Close. 15 days.

00:37:00 --> 00:37:02

15 days. So any woman,

00:37:02 --> 00:37:04

if your cycle starts and it continues and

00:37:04 --> 00:37:05

continues and continues,

00:37:06 --> 00:37:07

if you get to 15 days and it's

00:37:07 --> 00:37:10

still going on, you shower and you pray

00:37:10 --> 00:37:10

anyway.

00:37:11 --> 00:37:12

You shower and you pray anyway. This is

00:37:12 --> 00:37:14

this is to do with the regular cycle.

00:37:15 --> 00:37:17

What I'm not talking about is the the

00:37:17 --> 00:37:17

post

00:37:18 --> 00:37:20

birth one. So after birth,

00:37:20 --> 00:37:23

then that one lasts up to 60 days.

00:37:23 --> 00:37:25

So when a woman gives birth and she

00:37:25 --> 00:37:28

has a flow up to 60 days, she

00:37:28 --> 00:37:29

doesn't pray. It

00:37:30 --> 00:37:31

what does that mean? If the flow is

00:37:31 --> 00:37:33

continues. So if it ends after 10 days,

00:37:33 --> 00:37:36

she showers and she prays. There's other rulings

00:37:36 --> 00:37:38

that, if I if I let me mention

00:37:38 --> 00:37:39

a few rules that maybe people are not

00:37:39 --> 00:37:40

aware of. Alright.

00:37:40 --> 00:37:42

Did you guys know that you cannot divorce

00:37:42 --> 00:37:44

a woman if she's on a cycle?

00:37:45 --> 00:37:46

It's not allowed.

00:37:46 --> 00:37:48

You're not allowed to divorce a woman when

00:37:48 --> 00:37:49

she's on a cycle.

00:37:50 --> 00:37:53

It's it's haram for you to issue a

00:37:53 --> 00:37:53

divorce

00:37:54 --> 00:37:56

while she's on her cycle. It is haram

00:37:56 --> 00:37:56

for.

00:37:58 --> 00:38:00

The scholars agree that it's not allowed. They

00:38:00 --> 00:38:02

differ over whether it counts or not.

00:38:03 --> 00:38:05

They differ over whether it counts or not,

00:38:05 --> 00:38:07

and majority of the scholars say it counts.

00:38:07 --> 00:38:09

Some say it doesn't. I don't want to

00:38:09 --> 00:38:10

get into the hilaf issues. But what I

00:38:10 --> 00:38:11

mean is you already

00:38:11 --> 00:38:13

see a lot of issues. Can she read

00:38:13 --> 00:38:14

Quran or not?

00:38:15 --> 00:38:16

Can, what does she do if she's on

00:38:16 --> 00:38:17

umrah

00:38:17 --> 00:38:18

and the cycle happens?

00:38:19 --> 00:38:21

Why I'm mentioning these things? Because although this

00:38:21 --> 00:38:23

is a testicular as and it's not the

00:38:23 --> 00:38:24

place to expand

00:38:24 --> 00:38:25

all these rules,

00:38:26 --> 00:38:28

but keep in mind your mothers, your sisters,

00:38:28 --> 00:38:29

your daughters,

00:38:29 --> 00:38:31

they have a lot to learn on this

00:38:31 --> 00:38:32

issue because it has something to do with

00:38:32 --> 00:38:33

their Quran reading,

00:38:33 --> 00:38:35

their prayer, their fasting,

00:38:35 --> 00:38:37

their Hajj, their Umrah.

00:38:37 --> 00:38:40

So it's something very important that the brothers

00:38:40 --> 00:38:42

and sisters learn about. I'll conclude here, inshaAllah

00:38:42 --> 00:38:44

ta'ala. Hatala'a 'otila'a alaykum so I don't take

00:38:44 --> 00:38:46

the lesson too long. We'll view this ayah

00:38:46 --> 00:38:48

over next week, and we'll continue from there,

00:38:48 --> 00:38:49

inshaAllah ta'ala.

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