S02E11 – Are These 3 Excuses Holding You Back? [M&M]

share this pageShare Page
Muslim Life Hackers

Channel: Muslim Life Hackers

Series:

Episode Notes

Maheen and Mifrah have a conversation about the 3 biggest excuses people make in their lives and how to move past them.

Highlights from the show:

  • What are excusists? [2:06 – Mifrah]
  • “The first kind of excusist is the health excusist, kind of using it as a way of preventing yourself from taking action”[2:49 – Maheen]
  • The story of the two diabetics [4-15 – Maheen]
  •  “Most people on the hospital bed have EII – emotionally induced illness” [11:05 – Mifrah]
  • “Intelligence excusists say they are just not smart enough to that…but it is not about your intelligence but the thinking that guides it” [11:43 – Mifrah]
  • “Are you going to use your mind to make history or to record history” [13:59 – Mifrah]
  • “You hear a lot of people saying they are passed the learning age?” [19:02 – Maheen]
  • “When you think about negative things more, the more the thinking, the stronger association and quicker it is retrieved” [23:50 – Maheen]

Episode Transcript

© No part of this transcript may be copied or referenced or transmitted in any way whatsoever. Transcripts are auto-generated and thus will be be inaccurate. We are working on a system to allow volunteers to edit transcripts in a controlled system.


00:00:00--> 00:00:02

season two episode 11

00:00:04--> 00:00:15

Welcome to the Muslim life hackers podcast, the weekly podcast providing you the knowledge, tools and connections to help you get ahead in life. And now your hosts Mithra maroof and mahane Malik

00:00:35--> 00:00:46

Assalamu alaikum Welcome to another episode from the Muslim life hackers podcast. This is we are here with Mohit and back guys. And we are back with another Eminem's.

00:00:48--> 00:01:29

We stand for yours truly rifra and Raheem. Putting it more into ourselves. Yeah. Anthony was segment of the show after hours after ourselves. And we're just sitting here in my backyard and out my porch thing and having some potato wedges and some dog which is like an Afghan yo get drink. Yeah, just chilling. And we thought we'd have a conversation about something that's been on our minds. Yeah. Recently, I was just reading a book, I was called the magic of thinking big. And that book was a book that Mike was mentioned in the last interview that I had in which many people were recommending it and I just kept seeing it. And I was like, You know what, I got to read this book. And I'm glad I

00:01:29--> 00:01:50

read it because it wasn't that recommended. Actually, he was in setas, 80s interview, and also a few times before that, I came across it as well. So humble, I read it. And so in the book, the author talks about this kind of mind deadening disease that I'm intrigued. Yeah, like successful people and unsuccessful unsuccessful people.

00:01:51--> 00:02:30

unsuccessful people actually go through this kind of my dead dead any disease, which he says let's call it excuses. Right. And we've touched on this before as well. We just haven't put like a label to it. Yeah. And I really liked how he just categorized it. Yeah, I just like addressed each one. I think it really appeals to our personalities. We need like a label. Yeah, like they say how there's two types of people in the world, the ones who put people in two types of people in the world and the ones who don't who don't? Yeah, so you can tell what type of people Yeah, yeah, just a little bit. Yeah. So yeah, so pretty much he was actually talking about how most average people have at

00:02:30--> 00:03:12

least a male have at least a mild case of cake case offered. So he is triggered at like, four kinds of ways. They make excuses. Yeah. And so we're going to go through three kinds. Yeah. And, you know, give our thoughts on it. Go through it. What, what do we think about them? And yeah, so the first kind is these health excuses. So they're kind of like people who use their health and quit and quit illnesses, sicknesses, to kind of put a barrier between themselves and like, you know, doing what matters kind of thing. Oh, you know, I'm not that fit. So I can't just go and do this business, or I can't like, go follow.

00:03:13--> 00:03:50

Take a class in the next day or something like that? I don't know. Yeah, so it's like different illnesses. But you know, I've also noticed, like, with illnesses, there's also like, physical illnesses. So it's like, Okay, I got this kind of issue and that kind of issue. And look, it's not to undermine these illnesses. It's just when you start using it as an excuse to stop you from doing something. That's what the author actually refers to, as this, this kind of disease, right? And, and I don't, I don't know if you have observed the same thing as Lama, he, but I've noticed a lot of people also make this thing of making excuse with, like, certain mental illnesses. And they haven't

00:03:50--> 00:04:05

been, they haven't been like, diagnosed or anything, but they just say, Oh, I must be so and so. Or I must be this type of illness, energy and all these labels to themselves. And they're like, Oh, you know, that's, that's why I can't learn well, or that's what I can't focus on this well, and

00:04:07--> 00:04:23

mine kind of thing. Yeah. You know what, like, even even if I have noticed that, yeah, but even if they had been diagnosed, I think it's really about what they what they making a bit how they thinking about it. Yeah, like, I think you mentioned earlier in the book, like there was

00:04:25--> 00:04:59

he was, the author was mentioning diabetic diabetic. Yeah, there was two diabetics, and the one with the more major case, he needed to take, like, 30 times more. Yeah, he was he was he was someone who was successful. Yeah, he was someone who's running a business. You know, he didn't see it as he was like, yeah, it's an inconvenience. But you know, so is I don't know, he mentioned like hair cuts or shavings like that inconveniences? Yeah, yes. Another thing. Yeah. And he who was saying about, it's so cool that the people who found these kind of like he was in order to be able to live life and stuff. Yeah, it's helped me kind of thing. Yeah, helping get on with his life. And then

00:05:00--> 00:05:05

On another note, he was also talking about someone who was unsuccessful thing, but how does it unsuccessful mine?

00:05:07--> 00:05:22

Actually, I can't say unsuccessful, but that doesn't make sense. unsuccessful in in his work yeah, in whatever he was doing and that kind of guy. He was also a diabetic as well. And all he did was just complain about his health. He just kept complaining. And then he was very

00:05:24--> 00:05:31

he was talking about like, how he was, like very careful about being the people who had like,

00:05:32--> 00:05:44

illnesses. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, yes. So what what kind of things does the author speak about in order to overcome this kind of excuse? excuses. Health excuses.

00:05:45--> 00:06:01

Yeah, just before we get into that also, like one I just like the female male thing as well. Like yet, like females don't think that this like strong enough to, you know, go out there and do study? Well. I don't know. Like, if you've come across this effect, what I pet teams.

00:06:03--> 00:06:44

So micro pro woman inside of Yeah, it's like, oh, I just like hear sound like girls. Like, oh, you know, that's kind of like a die thing. You know, I don't know if I could do that. Oh, it's like, it might be like a profession or something. Yeah, yeah. The kind of use that as an excuse. to not do it. Yeah. Not not kind of. Yeah, purpose word, although they clearly have talent for it. And it's Yes, for them, but they're using it as like a barrier. But going back to health. And off this tangent. Yeah. But again, I mean, you'd have a good point on that, because it is a kind of excuses. Although he doesn't mention it. But it's true. I mean, like, it's easy. Look, we it's not just to

00:06:44--> 00:06:54

pick on females as well. Like even guys can have that thing in which are you know, that's like he might do I'm not gonna get into that kind of thing. But yeah, that's, that's also food food for thought as well.

00:06:56--> 00:06:59

I don't want to get too deep. Yeah, cuz we're gonna get hate mail.

00:07:00--> 00:07:05

But like, I can actually read the expression your face, you have a lot to say. And so do I.

00:07:07--> 00:07:41

Episode, okay, let's get on with the health. One thing that you can do if you if you have this. And you're seeing this trend in yourself that you kind of using your health as an excuse to like, not do things and not progress and not contribute to creating the world. What you can do is really, first of all, you can acknowledge the good health that you have. Yes, okay, worse. Yeah. As this is how good it's gonna get. Yeah, yeah. Like, look at the people like underneath you and how, how much. Like, for example, in the book, he had this quote that I just skimmed in, it was,

00:07:42--> 00:07:49

it was a guy who was a psych psychiatry store. It was about the guy. His shoes were like, broken,

00:07:50--> 00:07:54

broken, and he saw someone without feet without feet. And he was like, he was he was not.

00:07:56--> 00:08:33

Yeah, yeah. But looking at what you do have is that okay? Or lacking? Oh, my health softening from doing this. So being grateful for what you have. Yeah. So that's one way to kind of get around this. Get around the health excuses about you. He He also spoke about the one that kind of resonated with me Was he said, Don't talk like refused to talk about your help. That's a good one. He said don't even talk about the common cold. Yeah. And the funny thing is, when when we're looking at that point, we also have an underside. tagit, which was also that you know, how students sorry, students.

00:08:34--> 00:08:35

We like the easy targets.

00:08:38--> 00:08:51

College students, university students, yes, sir. How complain about exams. So many assignments, as I say, life is just about exams. It's it's not to say exams are not you know,

00:08:53--> 00:08:53

yeah.

00:08:54--> 00:09:09

Yeah, look, even as I'm recording this with you, I have an exam tomorrow. Yeah, I've got a I've got a presentation to do on Tuesday. And today, Sunday, it's a Sunday. Yeah, I mean, the thing is, if that's what we're talking about, whether it's just stress ourselves out, and because I know

00:09:10--> 00:09:19

when I get home, it's gonna be like more focused work and stuff to study for the examine. Shall I pass? inshallah? Yeah, so. So where were we at the healthy so refused

00:09:21--> 00:09:37

to talk about it? I really like that. Yeah. Like, someone who like, they might have like a really severe code, but they're like, I don't have a code. It would have been that be bordering on like, like, come on. Okay. Okay. What they do is they don't like acknowledge it.

00:09:38--> 00:09:54

And I really, I think that can also be another extreme is, Oh, can I tell you that you have this kind of people so much paid and then they're like, I've already paid? I'm not talking about like, that's another case you're talking about, like, you know, like, you get bitten by a shark and you're just like, Oh, it's fine. You know, it's nothing.

00:09:55--> 00:09:59

I'm talking about like, you know, the you might have like something like a headache and stuff like

00:10:00--> 00:10:05

That dirt. Like, oh my god, you're a log nerd. You don't understand the headache better.

00:10:06--> 00:10:08

Like you've never had a headache like,

00:10:09--> 00:10:20

yeah. You know, who I really admire on this is my mom. It's like, Marsha, like, she's, she's very strongly than like she'd never sit down and complain about a health.

00:10:22--> 00:10:22

You know, it's

00:10:24--> 00:10:33

always like, what's wrong with you people like you so we inches like we were climbing mountains when I was your age? I'm like, Mom that that was your generation?

00:10:34--> 00:10:38

Wait, yeah, I think it's a generation problem as well. I'm

00:10:40--> 00:10:57

just gonna become it. Yeah. Like, it's like, um, it's like, it's like a weed, and then you putting fertilizer on it. And he mentions in the book is all like, yeah, it's gonna grow more into like, whatever it is that you know, you're focusing on? Yeah, he was also talking about how that

00:10:59--> 00:11:10

there wasn't, he was referring to another author about how to how to live 365 days of your life or something. And he wrote a book like that. The thing about most people on the hospital beta,

00:11:11--> 00:11:12

they have what's called an E I.

00:11:14--> 00:11:25

Which is, wait, I really can't say emotionally induced illness. Oh, yeah. So it's a kind of sickness that they've been thinking about it thinking about it thinking about it, that they eventually got it.

00:11:26--> 00:11:29

That that that's amazing, but that just shows you like

00:11:30--> 00:11:32

it's almost Yeah.

00:11:35--> 00:12:00

A lot more points. But I think those those ones kind of. So what's another kind of like, excuse excuses that excuse me, okay. He talked about he talked about intelligence excuses. Yeah. So the second one is intelligent excuses. And we're talking about how people say that people were like, Oh, I'm just not smart enough. I'm not smart enough for that. Or? Yeah, pretty. Yeah, pretty much. Yeah. Just Just

00:12:01--> 00:12:01

intelligence.

00:12:03--> 00:12:08

Yeah, so then he was just making that point about, it's not your intelligence. It's about the thinking that guides it.

00:12:10--> 00:12:51

And there are quite a few examples that you mentioned, like, we tried to resonate with you. I really liked the one I saw, excuse me, I really like the one where he mentioned, the author actually went to a reunion with his university. Colleagues, right? Yeah. And he wouldn't had a conversation with someone, a friend of his who was the top of his class, right. And this guy back in the day was always talking about running his own business. And he graduated with honors, and he was like, you know, the top top guy in the intelligence category, right. But when he went and talked to him, like many, many years later, this was the reason was, and he was like, you know, how's the business

00:12:51--> 00:13:13

going, that you wanted to run? And the guys like, I never like started it. Because I just kept thinking about, you know, what could go wrong? And this, you know, honestly, there's no way that our business could ever survive in this economy, blah, blah, blah. So his intelligence didn't predict predictive success. It actually like, led to his you know, you know, demise.

00:13:15--> 00:13:50

Yeah, like, yeah, yeah, I see where you're coming from. Pretty much. He he was you can say more intelligent in terms of the business than out of everything. Yeah. When it came, theoretically. But that intelligence didn't help him. Yeah. Take action. Yeah. And then he mentioned that classmates of his who were, you know, who didn't go to go so well? Yeah. And they didn't even go to Hollywood. Yeah. And they were running successful businesses. And he's like, look at the comparison. So wasn't the intelligence he was just about the thinking that's a mindset and the thinking that guides the intelligence

00:13:52--> 00:14:27

what what resonated with you? I'm quite the don't come comes to mind was how he was talking about our minds. Are you going to use it to make history or are you going to use it to record what has happened in history? So it's like record what has happened in history meaning record past facts and details and stuff like that. And, and then you mentioned that super like smart guy who you know, he never like get like a formal education. Yeah. And then yeah, he was like he had like an IQ of like,

00:14:28--> 00:14:33

um, he mentioned it wasn't in the hundreds Yeah, it was way Yeah, yeah. Okay. And then

00:14:36--> 00:14:55

I met this guy and he was like super super smart is that elite club of intellectuals they need to have like an IQ over 150 Okay, something like that. But this guy he's not married and because he cuz he's because he brings up the stats you know too many people get divorced. He doesn't work in a high paying job because like cuz he's afraid of responsibility, right?

00:14:56--> 00:14:59

You know, I was talking about the other example, though successful, but you're talking about the one who's

00:15:00--> 00:15:02

Successful. Okay, yeah, I get it, man.

00:15:03--> 00:15:24

Oh, no. Yeah. So that that guy like, you know, it just shows, you know, just because you're intelligent doesn't mean you're gonna be so he's making was wrong. Yeah, because he kept seeing it in the bad light. So he's intelligence, although he was IQ smart, it didn't get him anywhere. Yeah. So again, like, it just goes back to the whole thinking of unsuccessful people. And this was a type of

00:15:25--> 00:15:36

excuses, which was intelligence excuses. So how do you feel? Like what kind of ways do you fix it? Or, you know, I think the number one way to kind of fix this thing is intelligence lacking thing

00:15:38--> 00:15:47

is to recognize that, you know, people with whether you have like that super super, like awesome brain or not, it's about your application, and

00:15:48--> 00:16:26

it's about sticking to something going through with it. Yeah, you know, and not just not just cutting yourself short. Before you even get into it. Like, oh, I'm not smart enough. I'm not gonna try that. But it's about like, how you execute the work in your thinking and your perseverance and just keep going with it. You know? Yeah. He, He also mentioned about how Never underestimate your own intelligence and never overestimate the other thing. Yeah. Like, just knowing normally in everyday life, like we tend to think other people are smarter. Yeah. Right. And we tend to, like diminish our own intelligence. Yeah. Not to say that you should be like, Yeah, exactly. Like,

00:16:26--> 00:16:54

there's always a balance, but it's easy to find yourself in both of the extreme kind of thing. So I suppose in this case, if you're making excuses on intelligence, then most likely you'll be the type of person that thinks everyone else is smarter, and you understand your own intelligence and no forgetting that Allah spent Allah has blessed you with a lot. Mm hmm. So I think that that was also something that resonated as well. This is just salty. Your drink that you had. Yeah. It wasn't too salty. I liked it.

00:16:56--> 00:17:09

Okay, so the third one that he spoke about was age excuses. Yeah, he's always quite interesting. I really liked I resonated with this a bit. Yeah. Yeah. It's like when you use your, where you're like, Oh, I'm too old. Or I'm too young.

00:17:10--> 00:17:11

Okay, yeah.

00:17:14--> 00:17:15

I think that you and I struggle with this.

00:17:16--> 00:17:26

as well. We we didn't feel like we were too young to talk to people who are like, possibly older older than us. Yeah. Yeah. And this footpaths for a while.

00:17:27--> 00:17:55

We'll be using that as an age excuse. What what are your thoughts on that? I didn't think that we verbally acknowledge that. Yeah. Probably not sure. But of something that was there in the back of our heads, I suppose. But yeah, like I can relate to that. Because even in other situations in my life, I have found myself that the people around me were significantly older. Yeah. And yeah, it was like, and then they say, oh, maybe it's not right for me to step up now, because I'm too young.

00:17:57--> 00:18:33

And but I suppose one thing that kind of really puts it in perspective is the whole concept of what does it mean to be young or old for that matter? Because like, for example, if you say that, like, let's take an example of an 18 year old and someone who say 40 years old, right? Yeah, so maybe the one who's 40 years old can say, Okay, I don't want to do this, because I'm too old, like, my life is like nearing an end. And the 18 year old can be like, Hey, I'm too young. I don't want to do this, though. They're both qualified for whatever they want to do. Right? Yeah. So they both have the skills. It's not like we're saying that they don't know anything. Yeah. And they just like jumping

00:18:33--> 00:18:44

into the bottom. Yes, they got the means and everything. So but then what is what is the, like the 40? The 40 year old had 20 years to live? Yeah. And what is the 18 year old and he had two years to live.

00:18:45--> 00:18:52

So his older 18 year old? Yeah, the 18 year old, older. Yeah, so that means that excuse to not even true?

00:18:54--> 00:19:09

Sure. We can even go the other way. Like, you might be like a 40. And you might like be going after a new position in the workforce. And you know, you might think that is odd to me for young people kind of thing. Like I don't know if I could like mesh in with this new environment.

00:19:10--> 00:19:24

I passed the, you know, learning. Yeah, the learning. Oh my God, I hate that. I have a lot of adults. Yeah, this is my time for learning is God kind of thing. Yeah, they're only a few years older than me. And I'm just like, what do

00:19:25--> 00:19:26

you see? Yeah.

00:19:28--> 00:19:35

You're not like you have a bit. Like, you know, like wise old turtle and white vdv. Yeah, like a white beard.

00:19:38--> 00:19:40

Like, he's like that.

00:19:41--> 00:19:42

Melon.

00:19:43--> 00:19:44

That's what comes to my mind.

00:19:46--> 00:20:00

You can learn at any age of your life. Yeah, right. Whether it's going off to that new like, young, trendy job, like you can learn what's necessary for it. Don't like look away there's an advantage you're always like, it depends how you

00:20:01--> 00:20:21

Hey, look at it pretty much. If, for example, you carry on with this kind of like, Oh, I'm too old kind of thing like, well, I'm too young. I'm too young. And like, I'm too young and I have a life ahead of me. But is that true? Can you really have a life ahead of you that guaranteed? Yeah, I always say this to friends of mine, like, dislike how you creep in that break them out?

00:20:23--> 00:20:25

about death. I'm too young.

00:20:27--> 00:20:36

To have a personal message from God saying you're gonna live so like 100? And they're like, do you know what I mean? by the law? I'm like, No, I don't know what you mean. You're the second excuse.

00:20:37--> 00:20:39

A love like looks like hammering.

00:20:41--> 00:20:43

But then they do the same for me. Oh, good.

00:20:44--> 00:21:19

That's hilarious. But But using that excuse, even if you're older, and even if you're young. Yeah. But having that kind of mentality. You're already pushing away the opportunities. Yeah, true. And then you're like, Oh, where are they? There's no opportunities, but you've already pushed it away. Mentally. You could be looking the other way. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. Because once the the thing with excuses, is that once we give ourselves an excuse, our brain shuts off to that possibility. Because when we open ourselves to possibility our mind starts thinking and thinking and starts brainstorming. And you know how these ideas come about? It's because a person has opened themselves

00:21:19--> 00:21:29

to that possibility. Now when we close it off, and we've been saying this excuse for so long that we actually believe that and people like the traits of people who are unsuccessful that

00:21:30--> 00:21:36

say, these excuses all the time didn't actually believe they genuinely believe that. I don't have good enough health.

00:21:37--> 00:22:12

I'm not smart enough, or I'm not old enough. They generally believe that silly mind shuts off because their mind obviously wants to conserve energy. So it'd be like, Hey, what do you see me thinking about this? Yeah, I'm, let me just get up all the supporting facts, which is also something that he wasn't mentioned on this chapter, though. But it was book, he was actually talking about how your mind works with you. Right? So he's like, for example, which is awesome. Yeah. Which is awesome. But it was gonna be like, yeah, it can work against you. So I thought this example was hilarious. So say, that pretend pretend your mind is like a teller right? at a bank or something.

00:22:12--> 00:22:16

Yeah. And then after that, you you go up to the teller and you're like, hey,

00:22:18--> 00:22:27

you're like, Hey, I'm so dumb, and Miss tellers, like, Okay, so, let me let me pull out supporting facts, one.

00:22:32--> 00:22:51

That the teller would be like, okay, you remember the time when you said that stupid. Remember the title, I love it, love it, cuz it wants to support you. Right? Obviously, like, if you were to look at it from another way, like, you know, tell me why I can be successful. And he's like, hey, rue the time when you push through that project, when everybody everybody else says me for that fight.

00:22:53--> 00:22:58

Honestly, I thought was hilarious. What he said about like, the pot of that, you know, the ton of thing, let me see if

00:23:01--> 00:23:41

I can just imagine that like, this old lady with like, glosses like crazy hair. Let me just get that file for you. Like, tell me why I'm so socially awkward. Let me tell you why. But your copy blah, blah, blah. When he asked that stupid question, everyone looks at entity who How are you? Yeah, good times. Yeah, yeah. Well, I think I just withdrawal. So you know, on on that chapter, though, although we are kind of going on a tangent on that chapter. He does say, don't entertain bad thoughts. Because your your mind also wants to forget things that are bad as well. It also wants to pick it that are negative, and the more you hold on to it,

00:23:42--> 00:24:18

it supports you in it. Yeah. But it does want to push you away from it. So that was also another big surgery. And when you when you think about things more, you're the the bond and the connection between the thinking becomes stronger and becomes quicker. The more you think about something the more you like, associate Yes, there's a connection that can actually get stronger. And stuff like Yes, so so in this case, if you have that negative thought or you have that excuses, that this is this is my and the more you think like me that the more you think about it, every time you think about this opportunity, you'll be like hey, it's because of this and you push it away. I feel like

00:24:18--> 00:24:20

I'm like sloppy with my speaking face like

00:24:21--> 00:24:25

like I'm like waving my hands and my friends like Yeah, yeah.

00:24:26--> 00:24:30

Rivers calm cool. Now you know why? Because I'm actually quite cold out here. Good.

00:24:32--> 00:24:42

Let's start getting to that. Oh, that's another tip for a later time. Yeah. Whoa, cold showers ice baths. He's existed that kind of stuff lately. More experiments to come.

00:24:44--> 00:24:58

We're gonna do some like cool experiments for our listeners. Yeah, inshallah, we'll do something that will put you first. Yes, always the guinea pig. Always a guinea pig. Oh, so Jerry. More thoughts on excuses.

00:25:00--> 00:25:02

While he also does mention about,

00:25:04--> 00:25:21

like luck, x, excuses, but like on that, like what that actually reminds me of is how people, you see how they see someone in like a good position or someone or a former color or something like that. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, you know why I suppose they can get take it from that angle if you

00:25:22--> 00:25:28

think Yeah, yeah, exactly like I just didn't know how to word it. But what the way I was looking at this, like sometimes

00:25:29--> 00:25:42

I've noticed the way people speak is like they look at somebody else would be like, Hey, you know what? That that that person just went, like just got got through because of x y Zed reason, but they never acknowledged that it's because they actually worked hard.

00:25:43--> 00:25:50

I mean, you know, even even the way we come across like we talk about life hacking life hacking and, or cool and easy, but

00:25:51--> 00:25:58

I mean, there's a lot of work that goes behind the scenes, even even this whole, you know, producing our podcasts. There's a lot of work that goes behind the scenes.

00:25:59--> 00:26:07

I was actually writing down all the steps that it takes to create a podcast from the start to the end. I've got 54 steps. I think there's

00:26:08--> 00:26:14

I know I was being very precise. Okay. Yeah, mines will like, record, edit.

00:26:17--> 00:26:20

But you need you need the first step. So yeah, because

00:26:21--> 00:26:43

I mean, look, even even podcast aside, it's just this Did you always see like a small part of somebody else's success or something? You never see the hard work that goes behind it. But when you think that that's how it is, then you can fall into the hole. This kind of excuse that odd. They just got there because they got there kind of work hard. Yeah, they didn't work hard and work hard and

00:26:44--> 00:27:12

stuff like that. So look at that. The main thing to take away is that don't give excuses guys. Don't like for yourself. You're not doing yourself any favors. Yeah, look, your your life is not gonna get longer if you start giving yourself excuses. What look, we're all here. You know, the other day I heard that when you say look, you know how we say look? Yeah, it's like a very, like, it's a way of Australians that speak like that. Really? Yeah. I don't know that.

00:27:13--> 00:27:24

I don't know too, because like, I was just sort of on a YouTube video. And then they were like, if you speak Ozzy, then you say look in your language, I think. I haven't heard that. He's like, American podcaster.

00:27:26--> 00:27:37

I don't know. I should research that. But hey, guys, if you know anything about that, then let me know. Yeah, let us know. I'd be like, they're like Howdy, y'all. Howdy? Sir. Like, so stereotypical. Yeah.

00:27:38--> 00:27:47

Hey, I'm not gonna like you know, I'm not gonna cut myself short. Like, people make so much fun of Australian villa. Like, get a mate. You know? I don't know. I

00:27:48--> 00:27:52

don't even say that yet. I don't have kangaroos in the backyard.

00:27:54--> 00:28:03

Such a perception anyway. Oh, but who knows, some people could write kangaroos. I've heard that some people actually like, like, right kangaroos.

00:28:04--> 00:28:10

Like, know what? His kangaroo was that one of those natural parts.

00:28:12--> 00:28:43

But that's because we live in the burbs suburbs. So, yeah. So don't give excuses. And you know, you're here for a limited amount of time on this earth. And you're giving excuses. Well, you just be wasting your time pretty much. And so uncool to give excuses. Yeah. And like, yeah, if you want to get ahead, like, just stop, like cutting your legs off. You know, like, Yeah, that's true. You know, way in a way you are. You're cutting and limb off. Yeah. You're

00:28:44--> 00:29:03

not doing yourself any favors. You're not doing yourself any favors. Everyone wants to be successful in life. Right? Yeah. And we all have that in us. Yeah, I think we just think sometimes we just think other people have the best cards. Are the people have the best? Yeah. criteria? Yeah, that's sure everyone's on the same stuff. That might seem mind things like that. And yeah,

00:29:05--> 00:29:45

we've all got the same capacity to do. Yeah, and every single person has this set amount of experiences and limited amount of learning. And that would help them in witching away kind of what defines us is like how we think about it. Yeah, it's our it's our thinking that guides it. Yeah. So that's, that's how it is. Yeah, I love it. I love I love the saying in the book where he was talking about a he refers one of his he was consulting, consulting with someone and he's like, you should read this book by this doctor. It's called How to Live 365 days in a year. And I thought it was such a cool like, saying because most of us we don't live it because we're too busy. You know, stopping

00:29:45--> 00:29:59

ourselves from doing it with all these excuses. I'm not smart enough. I'm not good enough. I'm not healthy enough. Yeah. I'm too young. Yeah, you know. So I suppose if there's a take take home messages like you know, take take a step back and just think about are the excuses. You've been

00:30:00--> 00:30:23

Putting in your life because you know every single person, not every single person but you know if you if you find that then it's okay for you be making excuses. just acknowledge it and move on. I mean, and just like, see it see it in a funny light. Hey, I remember that time when I made this dumb excuse and now I'm like, Okay, look, I'm not gonna be like, oh my god hard on yourself. Yeah, there's that. There's gonna be another issue

00:30:24--> 00:30:50

that Tyler is gonna tell you all these supporting Facts About time and you wasted five years. There was a time when you stayed on Facebook for like 10 hours. You watching Gilmore Girls back to back. That's a hot Yeah, yeah, bad facts. Okay, so you got any more in this? Yeah, that's all. Yeah, that's that kind of wraps up our m&ms. Yeah. Let us know what you thought about this and tweet to us. Yeah. In life, hackers, and let us know your thoughts. Some

00:30:54--> 00:30:56

excuses. Yeah. What do you think about it? And

00:30:57--> 00:31:30

do they have any excuses that you're making here or any other types of, you know, excuses that we haven't covered? Yes. Like, for example, like we did say extras like the whole exam one and this one and that one. So like, there are different ones. So really good. Like the more and more we acknowledge it, the more and more we acknowledge that these are lethal, then that way we can avoid it. So taking away catching catching them out. Yeah, getting him for a group. Yeah. into a weed. Yeah, exactly. Speaking of waves, like we need to mow the lawn and like so. Before I like, I don't know why I like to put you outside.

00:31:32--> 00:31:53

It actually adds to our conversation. Yeah. Hey, guys, make sure you also sign up to our VIP list. That's where it's all happening. Yeah, that's it's all happening. If you're not there, then. I mean, look, you're missing out. You're missing out. I must say I must say you're missing out. Even I look forward to the email sent mahina Mitra looks forward to the emails that she writes herself.

00:31:54--> 00:31:57

Okay, I look forward to reverse email.

00:31:58--> 00:32:20

she confesses her like crazy stories and stuff like that. So there's a lot of stories from Rahim to come. Lots of life hacks, all of that good stuff. Yeah, all that good stuff. And of course, at the end of the day, it's not just about our stories about how it can add value to your life. And this is all about helping you get ahead in life. And check it [email protected] slash dx. And that's about it.