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S01E24 – Punctuality (Part 2) – How to be Early for Your Next Commitment!

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Have you ever wondered WHY you can’t kick the bad habit of being late? You may have the best intention to be on time and even believe that you have everything under control but you still end up late!

In this Podcast, I explain why you may be having difficulties being on time and I will provide you with 8 neat tips to help you be early for your next commitment.

In This Episode, you will learn:
– The WHY behind your late habits!
– Tips on how to be early.

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Episode 24 Welcome to the Muslim life hackers podcast, the weekly podcast providing you with tips and tricks on how to hack your life and maximize its potential. And now for your hosts Mithra maroof and maheen Malik.

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As we said, across the sea

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Assalamu alaikum Muslim life hackers, this is Mr. Murphy with the 24th episode of the Muslim life hackers podcast. In this podcast, I'm going to be speaking to you about how to be on time. This episode is the second pot of a podcast that I did earlier about punctuality. In that podcast, I spoke about why it's important to be on time, and gave some reasons, including some reasons that would, is actually applicable as a Muslim. So if you haven't listened to that episode, you can find that by going to Muslim life hackers.com slash 22. Or if you have subscribed to our podcast via iTunes, or you have our Android or Apple mobile app, then you can look out for Episode 22. And find

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that there. Before we get into today's episode. Did you know that Muslim life hackers has just released the race the top ebook, the guide to maximizing your Ramadan Muslim life hacker style. So if you haven't heard of this book, then you can check it out by going to Muslim life hackers.com slash Ramadan. And it's a free guide. And we've just released it at the start of June. And you can download it until July the 30th 2014. And we've got some really good feedback on it. So don't miss out. And let us know what you think about it. So moving on to today's episode. Last time in our last episode about punctuality, after listing all the reasons about why it's important to be on time, we

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ended off by asking that question, why is it that people still be late after knowing it's wrong? And so I started reading up on this and I came across this author of a book, she wrote a book called never be late again. And her name was Diana de Lorenzo. And pretty much she was saying how lateness is a is a really commonly misunderstood problem. And she goes on commenting about her own research about people that are continuously Laden, I quote her, she, she says, It's, yes, it's a rude act. But I've interviewed hundreds of people. And the vast majority of late people really dislike being late. They try to be on time. But this is something that has plagued them throughout their lives.

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Telling a chronic late person to be on time is like telling a diner, don't eat so much. For many It started in childhood, and they're late for not only things that they have to do with other people, but things that will hurt themselves as well. Another interesting thing that this author mentioned was that people that are late normally, they continuously perceive time differently. Now, what this meant is that, like how she came to this was that she did this test, and part of her research was that she wanted to measure the time differences in how timely people and late people perceive the passage of time. So

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she actually chose three to four pages in a book. And she told the, you know, the people that were late and people that were early to mark the time to start reading, and then stop reading when they think 90 seconds has finished. So what happened was that she found that the people that were early birds almost without fail, stop reading before 90 seconds passed. But the people that were late, they put their down there, they put their books down well after the 92nd mark. And she also can continue to say that try this yourself and see how accurate they are. So I'm actually quite interested to try this out myself. And she further states that the researchers at Cleveland State

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University also had a time perception test in this study. And this time, they were using stopwatches and interestingly, the result was also similar to what she came. She arrived at as well so that people that are like consistently under estimate passages of time so that was quite interesting, I'll share with you but more of the focus on today's episode is that I want to give you some tips on how you can be on time. Now many of these tips I have tried myself personally So shall I hope you find it helpful as well. So first of all, the first tip is that before you you have your commitment, prepare your clothes, pack your bag in advance so you can do it the night before you can do it like

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some hours before and you should know exactly what you need. So for example, if it if you are going to a place in which your clothes needs to be owned, for example,

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Then you should get that done beforehand and have already for the meeting or the place that you have to go to. The second tip is that estimate the time it will take for you to get to your destination, and include the waiting the walking and the time. And you know, the transmitting and things that happen in between. And if you're driving, then check to see that, that time, time of the day, there's traffic as well. Because these things are these things, these little things is what causes us to be late. So if you're going to catch public transport, and check the timetables, don't expect the train to just show up and round off the time. Instead of like, if it would take you say 27

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minutes to get to a place instead of scheduling it. You know, putting aside travel time is 27 minutes, then rounded off to 30 minutes. The third thing is estimate the time in which you will take for you to get ready. Now, keep in mind, what part of the day the commitment is and what type of commitment it is. So what I mean by this is that if it's a morning commitment, say a Sunday morning, then you need to you need to put aside time to get out of bed freshen up, eat breakfast, and these things take time, especially if you normally don't go out early in the morning. And another thing is that if it's safe, the place that you have to go to is a formal event or it's a wedding, then you

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also have to keep in mind time on dressing up. Because you know, going to a wedding isn't the same as just going in, say going to work or going to school, there is time that takes there is that time of preparation. And if we don't keep this in mind, then this can cause you to be late for that particular place as well. Now, you need to be realistic with yourself again here because if you're a person that generally takes a long time to get ready, or maybe it's that you have to take kids out with you or you need to make sure that you lock all the doors because you'll be You're the last one that's leaving from the house and just be honest with yourself and be more generous. And again,

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round off. Like don't just make it like 13 minutes, it takes me to get ready. Instead, have it like if it's 13 minutes, and I'm gonna round it off to 15 minutes. Okay. So now the fourth tip is that keep commonly used items in the same place. Now, people get late because they lost their keys or, you know, they forgot something, or they left something behind. And now we've commonly used items, what I do with my car keys is I have a hook just just when I leave the house. And so I'll take that and go out. And when I come back, I'll make sure I put in the same place as well. And also with wallets have it in the same place. And you know, some people can have for example, I also have my

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phone, and it's with a wallet as well. So there's my driver's license and everything in and so anytime I have to leave, I can just take my phone and the keys, and I'm out. So the above though like these tips that I just these four tips that I just covered right now, you won't really matter if your meeting is an online meeting. But this will, this will of course matter if it's offline meeting like in person, I mean, but the next tips that I'm going to give you will apply for both online and offline. So the fifth tip, the fifth tip, and this is one of the best tips I can tell you is aim to be at a place 10 minutes earlier. You see, no matter how much time you plan, something can

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get out of control and no traffic. Or if you're driving there can be an accident that happens in between your drive or public transports can get delayed. And so he be at a place 10 minutes earlier so that if you're few minutes late, then you still be early. And this is by far the best tip. Honestly, if it's just district you take out this podcast in humbler I'm happy, you will notice that you'll be more on time. And of course, you should adjust the timing according to the meeting itself. So for example, for a job interview, you probably wouldn't want to be there just 10 minutes earlier, like leave aside some accom even earlier so that you make sure that you're there on time and VC

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gives a good impression to the company that you want to work for. So now going to tip number six. Tip number six is schedule your commitments in your calendar from the time you need to start getting ready. So what do I mean by that? So pretty much it's just putting all these tips together. So I'll give you an example.

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So say that you need to get to classes at 9am. So as our first tip was you, you packed your bags and clothing the night before. And then the place normally takes about 12 minutes to get to but since there's morning traffic you need to park it takes say 23 minutes so what we're going to do is round off so we ran it off to 25 minutes and since you've

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Already woken up and ate breakfast. So getting ready would only take 15 minutes. Let's go back a step what are we have so far. So we just

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realized that our travel time between my place and that place is 25 minutes, it will take me 15 minutes to get ready. And now I need an aim to get to the class, if it's at 9am, I'm going to aim to get there at 8:50am. So pretty much 25 minutes plus 15 minutes is 40 minutes. Okay, got that right. And so 850 takeaway 40 minutes is 810. So that means that your schedule, instead of saying that your class is at 9am, it should say it should start at 8:10am. And in brackets, you can of course, put in the actual time. So you can be like class and in brackets, right 9am. But if say you you have like a calendar in which you can plan our two hour, then start this commitment at 810. So that that would

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actually cover your whole, you know, you have time to dress up, you have time to drive there or take public transport there. And you're there by 850. And the way I schedule my commitments is that I use Google calendars. And what I do is I have a separate calendar for like meetings that are that are not like regular meetings, like classes, because I know I have to be there. But say like,

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certain meetings in which they just one off, then I have another calendar for that. And what that calendar does is automatically when I put the timing for that, I have reminders set as well. So there's like reminders, like send me two emails before the event, send me text messages as well. And it's actually scheduled like, I think some of them were like few hours before the event and also like 24 hours before the event, just so I don't miss out because I know that sometimes, you know, you can just be totally into the week. And then you didn't know that you were scheduled to be at a place at a certain time. So that's actually been really helpful for me, I must say, because even if

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I don't check my email,

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I still get a text message on my phone saying that I have to be here. So humbler and you know, if you are using an electronic schedule or like, sorry, not electronic, federal, you're actually using something like Google calendars or you're using your mobile phone, then also like a normal paper Scheduler. So while I'm sure you can do this, like under each commitment, write down what exactly you need. So for example, if let's say, a Qur'an class you're going to go to, then what you will need in your back would be your core, and of course, and some pins, book maybe, and some items so that you know exactly what you need. So that when you pack your bag, you know what you need, and

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there's very little chance of missing out on something. also say that you need to go to the gym or have to play sports or something, then have all the things that you need for that commitment, reading as well. I think this would be a bit tedious for say paper schedulers. But you would work for things like electronic, and like Google calendars and stuff. Because what happens is, when you write in the description area, and you can write something like apply for reoccurring events, then automatically, you would, you would kind of update all the future events as well, safe. It's like a continuous event. But if it's something one off, then you can easily figure something out with this

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even with like a paper schedule or something. So that's been really helpful. And the seventh thing is, while it's it's actually a continuation from tip six, is avoid back to back meetings. Now, what I mean by back to back meetings is that, for example, there is like a meeting you scheduled from 11am to 12pm. And then another one you scheduled on like 12pm to 1pm. So even if they're at the same locations, avoid this because what happens is say something happens and it's outside your control in your first meeting, then your second meeting gets delayed automatically. Even if you did that, you know, it's very close to like it's it's very close and you can get there in time. And what if I

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speak from experience here? Just funny story.

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Right after I recorded part one of the episode on why you have to be early. I was late The next day, I was late for lunch and I was like, Oh my god, I recorded an episode about why it's important to be late and I'm the first one to be late for lunch and I thought what happened so I did something wrong and it's pretty very sick, but I'm learning

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Because you know what, we all make mistakes. And the main thing is that when we make a mistake, and then we fix it, then that's it. I mean, there's nothing to I mean, it's, it's inevitable, we're all gonna make mistakes, we're human. So pretty much what I realized what I did wrong was that I scheduled a back to back meeting. And what happened was that, like, there were two things that were happening, like in the same location, and pretty, pretty much like in the morning, we're actually shooting a video for the Race to the Top guide. So you can find that, by the way, quick plug in, you can find that on our website at Wilson life hackers.com slash rubber duck, it's already finished.

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But what happened was that on that, on that morning, we decided that, okay, we're gonna film The that actual video, and it was in a park nearby the place that I was supposed to be for my next commitment for lunch. But things got, like, things happened beyond my control. And it turned out that park was unavailable that day. So we had to drive to another Park. And what happened was that when we came back, like, by the time we finished, and by the time we were scheduled to finish, like, I arrived late for the next lunch, so avoid it. And if you have set clear, like, if, if something did happen like that, then what you need to do is set clear times on when you need to leave so so

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that, you know, you need to wrap up your first meeting, and you need to be off for the second one. So that was my little story. And don't try it at home. Okay, so keep saying so a lot, okay, let me go to my eighth, tip eight, okay, the eighth tip is create a time filler. So what's going to happen is that when you start being more on time, and you're going to be early, you're going to be having more waiting time. So you'll have times in which you'll be sitting down and, or standing somewhere and waiting for the meeting to arrive, because most likely other people are going to be late now. So now you would have changed to be like, you know, a super early person doing the right thing. And

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then a lot of other people are not, you know, being on time. So what you need to do is create a time filler. So, you know, the really good thing about waiting times is that for some reason, I get so many like productive things done, I mean, just that waiting period, even if it's five minutes,

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you know, you can do different things. For example, if it's like before a meeting, then what you can do, I mean, most of us have smartphones, so what you can do is like prepare for the meeting, you know, outline what's what's going to be happening in today's meeting safe second important work related or something. But if it was, say, like, just like a meet up with friends, or whatever, and you're waiting there, then take take out your phone, and get your core an app, read a few pages, you get your Kindle or your PDF reader, read some books, read some articles, and try to get on social media because you know, you're not really using that time well. But anyway, you get something that's

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a time filler and make it something that's productive. And what you can do on your phone, even if you know how you can like create different folders. And you can have a folder called time feel and feel that folder up with different things you can do when you're waiting. So you can have an app there. You can have like a, like a book reading app there and things like that. Also, I know that some people say that, you know, they feel really awkward to sit alone. That's why they don't want to go early to places and stuff because no one turns off. But if, if that happens to you, then well, this, there's nothing to be skipped. Like, there's nothing to be embarrassed about if you're sitting

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alone in a cafe or something. But as long as you're in a safe place, of course, but if that's really an issue, then you can always wait waiting your car or something. If you have a lot of time and you know where the location is, it's just close by and you've got some good parking, then Okay, you can do do that as well. But just don't get into the habit of compromising on time. And this is something unless it's an event or something that you know, that's going to start later on. Everyone's agreed on it. And, and these are some of the tips. So try them out and see what works for you and wish you all the best with it. And finally, one thing I wanted to ask you was how would you deal with a

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situation which other people are delaying you say you were you had to take a family or a friend or someone out with you to a place and you were on time but they had they continually keep delaying you. So I'm interested in I'm interested to know how you tackle this situation. Comment at the show notes which is Muslim life hackers.com slash 24. Also, we want to give us the lamps to our listeners and this week at Learn living in sorry, Dubai, United Arab Emirates now who doesn't know Dubai, it's a beautiful place and you

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The home to the tallest tower, which is 128 meters, 2717 feet

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and 163 floors. And that stands is the tallest tower in the world since 2010. So there's some facts for you. Now, I have been to Dubai once but I haven't been there

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when the tower was built because I was a few years before it was built, but let me tell you, the light to Sydney to Dubai is really long. I had a 16 hour flight and every time I'd wake up throughout that flight, I was still flying. So I mean, the country is beautiful, but I don't know if I'm ready to jump on a 16 hour flight again. Maybe I can do more transits in between and that would be better. But that's about it for today's episode. Make sure you also check out the Ramadan guide which I spoke about earlier. And and especially since Ramadan is a few weeks away, make sure you prepare for it. You can get that guide at Muslim life hackers.com slash Ramadan. Finally, if you've

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