S01E15 – Life Lessons from Ice Skating

Episode 15 Welcome to the Muslim life hackers podcast, the weekly podcast providing you with tips and tricks on how to hack your life and maximize its potential. And now for your hosts Mithra maroof and maheen Malik.

As we said, the crisis see Assalamualaikum Muslim life back is, this is my name here, and I'm here with my friend, and we're going to be talking about life life three life lessons. Sorry, from ice skating, as usual. All the links and resources talked about in today's episode can be found in our show notes at Muslim life. hackers.com forward slash 15. That's one five the numbers, guys. Okay, so, three lessons from escaping me from Why did you pick this topic? Okay, interesting question. I mean, obviously, the interesting question of cuz you're asking it. So, pretty much. I mean, it just goes from that, that whole thing that in our life, everything that happens to us in our life,

there's a lesson that we can learn from it. And it's only when we stand back and think about it. And this was something that I spoke about in detail when we had the episode about journaling. I believe it was Episode Three, Episode Three. So

and we know that as as a Muslim, we believe that everything that happens in our life there is a lesson to be learned. Our last one is Allah says in the Quran of the lampshade on regime

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So pretty much what this is a it's this is found in Surah Al Imran and first one is Allah says indeed in the creation of the heavens and the earth, and the alternation of the night and the day of science for those of understanding who remember Allah while standing or sitting or lying on the sides, and give thought to the creation of the heavens and earth and saying, Our Lord you did not create this aimlessly Exalted are You then protect us from the punishment of the Fire? So before this sort of like really beautiful IR like, what what lessons can we gain from this ayah? What kind of insights are we looking for? Yeah, so pretty, pretty much from this verse in the Quran, we can

see that, within, like the alternation of the night and the day are Signs for those of an understanding and it's not just limited to the night in the day, but everything in our lives there are signs in which we can take out of it. But only for those who, who actually think about it to ponder upon to ponder upon Yeah, yes. So in in an effort to be able to practice that the other day. So this is where the whole ice skating comes in. Or I'd like to tell you guys about life skating.

Because life skating we have a little blooper incident before we started recording,

like skating, ice skating, same thing, right. Well, I'm not really sure what you're doing life skating.

Skate to life. Yeah. Life. I got like, yeah, mountain man with this, like, red ice skates or something. Anyway, like, that. We're taking lessons from ice skating. Yeah, what can you tell us? Okay, so I went with my family to ice skating. So we decided to go there and you know, have this like, pretty pretty pretty much for those who haven't heard about us getting in case you're from parts, the wilted which?

Yeah, I escaped us not not that common. for pretty much it's like this. I said, escape. Got it. I guess. In a way. It's like some little roll of Lady. Yeah. How there's some loads. Yes. It's very, very similar, but pretty much you're actually on ice. And yeah, I mean, in in Australia, we don't really have too much snowy places. So it's not like natural places we go to to to go skating. It's like we have to go to like a a rink. Yeah, like actual center and stuff. So okay. So to get to the point. What happened was like, when we went ice skating, there was something that I noticed when we opened I would say there were there were two people there. And what I noticed was that there were

these two individuals, it seems that it was their first time actually skating, coming to ice skating and noticing their struggles. I learned quite a few things. And this is where the whole life lessons coming. I guess we were observing like these people and picking lessons from them. Yeah, typically found looking for lessons everywhere.

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You're watching these people. And you're not look, I wasn't watching him the whole time Come on, and we just like had your binoculars.

Come on, I do have a lot,

of course, but to misstate, like, obviously,

I realized that when I went home, I thought about it.

The first lesson that I took from sincera was that if people witness you fail, then it's not the end of the world. Okay. And how I took took this was that when we were in the ice skating rink, one of the girls, she, she got on to the rink, and it was the first time and she immediately fell down. She tried skating, she fell down on the floor. And we do know that when you fall down, like immediately, you will be like, Oh, my God, well, I help people see me What are they gonna think, Oh, my God, they couldn't remember my life is over. You remember that for? But you know, the interesting thing, what happened then was that it wasn't that big of a deal. Because when she fell down, people try to help

her, like people were actually more concerned of her getting falling down. And concern for her well being, as opposed to, you know, laughing that she fell down. This actually reminds me of a story. Like back when I was in high school, I think was a micro seventh grade. You seven it was, and I was in library and there was like some kind of game. I don't want to mention, this is quite embarrassing. Anyway. So what happened was I stuck my head into a pole.

Okay, it was my It was g7. So it was a very impressionable year. And I had actually knocked myself unconscious On second thought that I set myself. And when I opened my eyes, I was like, lying on the floor. And my whole classes are on me, I'm like, mg, I'm ruined, but actually

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through the rest of them. I was like, oh my god for the rest of my years in high school, me known as the gal who slept ahead in the polls in the library. But actually, everyone was dead. Like, Michelle, I was okay. And, obviously, like, there's a few stickers here and there. But yeah, I want to remember that, like the next the next day, right? Yeah. And yeah, it was, it was, it wasn't the end of the world for him that kind of gave me this crazy self confidence that I've had for the rest of my life. Wow. That's actually a pretty worthwhile knocking. It hurt, but I think it was worthwhile. Yeah, so pretty, we're pretty much like exactly what you mentioned making like, when

that when that girl actually fell down after that, like people were concerned. Yeah, they could have been from far away that must definitely because they'll always be like a minority that or some sometimes this minority might be like a vocal minority but but they are minority doesn't represent everyone. So it wasn't a big deal. And And the thing is, the reality is that, you know, if people weakness, you make a slip up, and you make a mistake, you do whatever is needed to amend that, and you get on with it. Because at the end of the day, they give it some time, people are gonna forget about it like people would be. Well, well, now since you said it on the podcast, people won't

forgive me. But of course, I have to say that definitely. Like what you said there is a group of people like there will always be like, like I say, haters out there will always be people who I don't know, they just have this thing. And they just need to like, make a comment or something. Yeah, but everyone, like the majority, the majority were there to help me kind of thing. Yeah, yeah, exactly. And, and one, one thing that we can take from that in life is that relatives like these embarrassing moments are not just a mess, like mistakes you made, that people give it some time people forget about it and unsure like, like in this ice skating, instead of the people that were

around her, they will forget about him.

And like the only person who remember like most likely would would be the person herself herself or people that knew her. And that's it. And it's not a big deal. That's true. So it's not the end of the world is to make a mistake. And that was the first lesson that I took out. Okay, so great. first lesson. Tell us about lesson number two, I'm really curious. Now. The lesson number two that I took was obstacles will come your way. Like when in in life, whenever you want to do something you will face obstacles, because you see that in this incident in the ice skating rink, both of these first time, the struggles and they faced obstacles. So as I was saying earlier, one of them fell down. And

it was just really challenging to do something for the first time. But and it wasn't like a smooth journey. Until they got the hang of it. It was a rocky road. Yeah, but and this, this really reflects on the reality of life because we do know that any project, any task that we do, we will come across obstacles, and this is part of life. And I guess one thing that kind of, you know makes us run away when we find obstacles may be reflected in the kind of society we live in. Because we are right now living in like a fast food society. It's like everything is easy.

In the moment, it becomes hard. what we think is hard. It's never our fault. How like a fantasy world. I mean, if you think that you can go through life and there will never be challenges. I'm for you living in a dream world kind of thing. But there is definitely going to always be obstacles. Yeah, precisely. And what we see from that is that it's it's easy to think that all look, it's not my fault. It's the products fault, or, you know, it's because of the people I'm working with. Appreciate the world, it wasn't me. And that's, that's the thing, like, obstacles will come you will face obstacles, you will make mistakes. This is part and parcel of doing something that you want to

do or like in in everything in life. But the test here, the test here really is that, are you going to run away? Or are you going to like, persist are going to continue with what you're doing? Great. I just like, what you're saying these obstacles will come your way, like as a lesson. I mean, for us to think that, you know, like, just imagine like, imagine if you never faced any challenges in your life. There's no obstacles. I mean, you're born you live an easy, breezy life. It's going to tell us the end at what a boring life like nothing happens. you're faced with any challenges. You have any lessons, you didn't make any mistakes, no stories to tell others. That's like a bleak life. Right?

Yeah, that's really up the cliff. And how will you learn anything? If something goes wrong? Yeah, definitely, obstacles will come your way and think of them as a blessing in disguise. Yeah, because like, we do know that the ones that we learned most from is like, our personal experiences we learn most from when we make a mistake, and then we do something about it. And so like, whenever we come, we face these obstacles, say now what have whatever we're doing, or in anything in our life, we have to realize is that the best, best best thing to do about these obstacles is simply raise your hands and say, and ask Allah subhanaw taala ask God, your love make this easy for me, open up a way for me

to overcome this obstacle. Keep asking, keep asking, you will be surprised what the responses, okay? And I know that many, many times personally, when I run up, I come across an obstacle, I think to myself, okay, instead of complaining about something, somebody else, and don't get me wrong, I mean, I do have my fair share of common complaint that I might complain to my family and stuff about this and that problem. But the main thing to keep in mind is that whenever there's an obstacle that comes your way, as simply as almost $1 for help, and he will open up a way for you. Okay?

It's very simple, I guess, like, but obviously, like, in the moment, it might feel like you're facing Mount Everest. Yeah. But um, know that if you take like small little, just just take these small reminders to remind yourself that you know, this, you definitely take lessons from this leader and definitely ask us, ask us what to allow for help in the moment. Definitely. So that was number two. Tell us about lesson number three. Okay, so lesson number three is, which is the one that really sticks in my mind. Like, whenever whenever I think about going data, I skiing, I just remember this particular image that I saw is when when I was leaving, what what happened was that

like, towards towards the end, and when when I was leaving, like there was this comparison, I saw, like, I noted, the girl who felt that at the start, she was like, skating and she was actually skating me the middle my and like she she was having a good time. And you know, she obviously like she wasn't perfect, but she was actually managing her way. But the other person because as I mentioned earlier, there was there were two individuals. And the other person was that she was still holding on to the railings. Interesting she was still holding on to the other one was doing like flips and stuff and other moves to holding the railing Well, not technically. But she was like out

there. Like she didn't get off the regular she got out there. Yeah, cuz like when you're first getting cash, the rate, the safe thing to do is hold on to the ratings until you're comfortable, then you go, yeah, start skating towards middle. But the second person that I saw was that she was too holding on to the ratings from the start to the end. And the thing that never liquor. And the lesson I took at this was like let go of the railings and take the first step. Because to me, like what I thought was like the railings represented safety. And once you let go of safety, that's when the fear kicks in. And, and that's that that feeling of fear is what stops us from you know, even

trying, and because we have this fear that we're gonna fail, something's gonna happen to us. But really, when we don't try, we have already accepted failure. Because have we truly feared failure, then we'll try because at least there is a chance that we can succeed. Whereas if we didn't try then it's like, there's no chance no chance of succeeding. If you don't, you can be missing out on something wonderful, like an awesome experience that you could have like a great I don't know you could if you're scared of like,

striking up conversations you could potentially like miss out on awesome friends or you could be making, like, oh, because you want to stay safe, keep it safe. Keep it safe yet, like even in an in an example of like getting to know people and stuff like that in gatherings and whatnot like, stick staying stay safe and sticking around who you know, and stuff like that, obviously. Talk to like, scary people. Yeah. Yeah. Like if you're at a party, if you're at a gathering or a party, or, you know, like, you know,

how do you like to get some of the people here? Yeah, kind of like, always keep to yourself, like, just imagine all the good relationships. The good, like, good, good stuff, the good should be sharing about Yeah, yeah, definitely. You don't know what you're potentially missing out on. And we know that, you know, lead leaders and one one thing like when I when I refer to leaders, it doesn't mean that, you know, leaders of a country or something like we are all leaders, one way or another, whether it be world leaders in our world leaders in our home, whether we're leaders in, you know, in projects we're a part of, we always have some sort of responsibility. And, you know, for someone,

it can be as simple as being a leader in a sense that you're a role model for your younger siblings. Definitely. Yeah. So pretty much what I mean by leader so a leader is someone who isn't just someone that doesn't experience fear, rather, he he or she acts despite the fear. So everyone is everyone's going to skate like when you let go of the railing you're gonna feel scared? No, no doubt. I mean, I'm not like ignoring that emotion. It's inevitable human emotion. That what what? What differentiates between someone who takes action and someone who stays safe is is that will they act despite it pretty much and and eventually that fear goes away when you see that it's not as bad as

you thought it was? Because

most cases what you fear never happens. Great point, riffraff definitely what up? Wouldn't white never happen? Cool. Nice. Awesome, great lesson. So let's just recap what they were. So the first one was, the first one was if people witness you fail, it's not enough. Okay. So guys, it's a man's world. Just give me one. Okay, lesson number two. So like, lesson number two is obstacles will come your way. Whenever you start on something, you will find obstacles, even if that, like don't think that because because you start on something. I'm not passionate about it or something. But at the start, if you knew this is what you wanted, then know that you know obstacles will come your way.

Obstacles coming your way. Okay, and luckily, lesson number three is let go of the railings. Take the first step. Get out there Muslim Africa, you can do it. You can be an ice skater if you

like skate off landscape. Okay, so that wraps up our life lessons from ice skating. Okay, guys, I also want to speak to you about something else that we've got. Just set up an awesome life hackers website. It is voicemail. Now, this may not seem that exciting, but you know what, guys, we'd love to hear from you. We've got this new feature added to the website. Just go onto Mr. Mica cars.com. And on the sidebar, there's a pot that says ask a question, right? So if you do have a question, leave a leave a voicemail. And if your voicemail is chosen, it could it could be played and answered in the show. And you could become famous or not really but it could be answered in the upcoming

events and stuff like that. voicemails are free to leave so there's no charges there. All you need is a microphone and just hit the record button. Yeah, hit the record button. Because because we did it that we have now muscle like many, many listeners from different countries, and we really want to hear from you. Instead of shy. I mean, we put our voices I'm sure to you guys. Oh, yeah. Like you said like, this was in Kenya. That's crazy for a shout out to the ship in Kenya. Hi. Anyway, I guess that's voicemail me for Do you have an action point for us? Okay, so an action point you can take out pieces that if there's something you've always wanted to try a project you've been putting off

or you've been scared by the same people and take the first step to it, guys.

All right. So that wraps up today's episode of the Muslim life hackers podcast. As usual, everything mentioned in today's episode can be found in our show notes at whistle math hackers.com forward slash 15. That's the number 15. Until next time, aim high take action and be awesome.