Muslema Purmul – Self Hate

I'm

going to say something. I hope it blows your minds a little bit.

Self hate essentially comes from arrogance.

What? How did, how did self hate come from arrogance? Because

there's this perception deep down that you have to be perfect and

that you are perfect, and that you did something that is below

perfection. So then you hate yourself, and only Allah subhana

wa Taala is perfect. So accept yourself as being imperfect. All

of us are going to be imperfect. All of us are going to make

mistakes. And when we make those short, you know, fall into certain

shortcomings. Take it in stride. Laugh at yourself seriously. Be

like, oh my god, I did that, you know. But the point is not to get

stuck there. The point is to grow and get better, you know? And

yeah, we feel regret in the beginning, but don't hate

yourself. And you do not have to be perfect, and you were not

created to be perfect. And if you did not sin, Allah would have

replaced all of us. If all of us didn't sin, we would have been

replaced with people who did sin. So we were meant to be in this

human condition, and we need to embrace that human, that flawed,

Alhamdulillah, beautifully flawed human condition, and know that we

can make mistakes and we it shouldn't be a reason to have her

self loathing, self hate and sincerity and humility is found in

just turning back to Allah subhanaw taala. Our nephs is

designed, our lower enough is designed to hide our issues from

us. So it is like you, actually, if you, if you're sensitive, one

of the ways that you can find out that you are having a problem with

something is if you see it actually in someone else. If you

see a sister on social media that you think is being too flirtatious

and it really bothers you, you probably have a little bit of that

actually inside. So you have to, don't let and this actually helps

us with not being judgmental, because the fact that you noticed

it, and it like stung when you noticed it, it's, as our teachers

have taught us, this is something that indicates you have some of

that ignorance inside as well, even if it's 1% of it, you know,

even if it's, you know, maybe 10% of it, but your Nest has hidden it

from you, so it's kind of like, I don't know if you've had ever had

a huge library, and you put a book somewhere, and then you try to go

back and find the book, and you can't Find it. You actually have

to go searching, because you know it's there, you know what's in

there, but you have to go searching. You have to go opening

up places and being like, where did I hide this flaw from myself?

Because it does exist, and it's okay to have flaws. You.