Muslema Purmul – Self Hate

			I'm
		

			going to say something. I hope it
blows your minds a little bit.
		

			Self hate essentially comes from
arrogance.
		

			What? How did, how did self hate
come from arrogance? Because
		

			there's this perception deep down
that you have to be perfect and
		

			that you are perfect, and that you
did something that is below
		

			perfection. So then you hate
yourself, and only Allah subhana
		

			wa Taala is perfect. So accept
yourself as being imperfect. All
		

			of us are going to be imperfect.
All of us are going to make
		

			mistakes. And when we make those
short, you know, fall into certain
		

			shortcomings. Take it in stride.
Laugh at yourself seriously. Be
		

			like, oh my god, I did that, you
know. But the point is not to get
		

			stuck there. The point is to grow
and get better, you know? And
		

			yeah, we feel regret in the
beginning, but don't hate
		

			yourself. And you do not have to
be perfect, and you were not
		

			created to be perfect. And if you
did not sin, Allah would have
		

			replaced all of us. If all of us
didn't sin, we would have been
		

			replaced with people who did sin.
So we were meant to be in this
		

			human condition, and we need to
embrace that human, that flawed,
		

			Alhamdulillah, beautifully flawed
human condition, and know that we
		

			can make mistakes and we it
shouldn't be a reason to have her
		

			self loathing, self hate and
sincerity and humility is found in
		

			just turning back to Allah
subhanaw taala. Our nephs is
		

			designed, our lower enough is
designed to hide our issues from
		

			us. So it is like you, actually,
if you, if you're sensitive, one
		

			of the ways that you can find out
that you are having a problem with
		

			something is if you see it
actually in someone else. If you
		

			see a sister on social media that
you think is being too flirtatious
		

			and it really bothers you, you
probably have a little bit of that
		

			actually inside. So you have to,
don't let and this actually helps
		

			us with not being judgmental,
because the fact that you noticed
		

			it, and it like stung when you
noticed it, it's, as our teachers
		

			have taught us, this is something
that indicates you have some of
		

			that ignorance inside as well,
even if it's 1% of it, you know,
		

			even if it's, you know, maybe 10%
of it, but your Nest has hidden it
		

			from you, so it's kind of like, I
don't know if you've had ever had
		

			a huge library, and you put a book
somewhere, and then you try to go
		

			back and find the book, and you
can't Find it. You actually have
		

			to go searching, because you know
it's there, you know what's in
		

			there, but you have to go
searching. You have to go opening
		

			up places and being like, where
did I hide this flaw from myself?
		

			Because it does exist, and it's
okay to have flaws. You.