Muslema Purmul – Our Body Is Not For Sale

When we look around the society, people are encouraging, especially

women, to reveal it all. They're encouraging women to show it off.

We are not show offs. Our bodies are not meant to be sold

or, you know, displayed for others. We have an understanding

of our body and our dress that is derived from our understanding of

God Himself and what he wants from us. It's not hard to dress in a

way that you think that, that we know that God will be pleased with

it's not hard to wear the hijab. It's not hard to wear loose

clothing. When we think about fitted clothing that defines the

form, we have to question, why? Why is it necessary that everyone

wears pants that exactly shows the shape of the legs or the or shirts

that show the shape of the arms and the waist and the chest and

whatnot? And subhanAllah, again, the fact that modesty is

distinctive for the Muslims, and that this is not a culture that is

compatible with Islam, this type, this type, this desire to reveal

it all. So when you get up in the morning and it's time to get

ready, don't just wear good clothing to the masjid for

tarawih, try to wear something. And I'm not saying you have to

wear JAL Bab I'm not saying you have to wear clothing from the

Middle East, wear clothing that's from America, from the stores here

in America. But just try to fulfill those conditions of being

loose such that it doesn't reveal your actual form and

and think about this concept that I heard a sheik saying once. He

said, When you get dressed in the morning, try to wear something

that you feel you could walk into, into the gates of paradise with.

Try to wear something that you can walk into the gates of paradise

with and external modesty itself is something that can only truly

be derived from internal modesty. And the Prophet Muhammad saw him,

he said that if you have no shame, then do whatever you want. And I

think this is a really important thing for us to reflect on, that

if we have no shame, we can easily do anything that Allah is

displeased with. But there's a story that affected me, and when

we're thinking about modesty, it's also important that we're humble

about it, that we're not judgmental about it. There was a

story of some young Muslims who were actually caught in a

conference in a hotel room. They were denying everything, and

finally, someone brought a Quran to them and said, swear on the

Quran that you know what you were doing was appropriate. And up

until that point, you know people who had witnessed the situation

said, you know, we just thought they were the worst people,

because look at what they're up to, and they're lying. And

everyone knows they're lying. But when they brought the Quran to

them and asked them, please swear on the Quran,

all parties refused to do so. Not a single one of them would dare

touch the Quran and swear to something that was a lie. And so

Subhanallah was this element, this shame that they still had, that

they still carried inside of them, that stopped them from doing that.

And at that point, the people dealing with them realized no

Everyone makes mistakes, but they're still good in these

people. So even if you're, if you're someone who makes mistakes

all the time, as all humans do, realize they're still good inside

of you. If you can look inside and realize that you do have some

shame in front of God that you wouldn't ever put your hand on the

Quran and swear to a lie, for example. You know that's something

to grow on. Take a moment to reflect on this sense of shame and

growing a sense of shame in front of God when you're leaving the

house. Try to feel that shame that you want to be humble in front of

him, that you know that you don't want to displease him, that you

want to dress in a way, that he would love you to dress, that you

would carry yourself in that way, and that ultimately, your self

esteem, your body image, whatever it is, it derives from your

relationship with him and no one else. And again, try to do it in

developing your relationship with him through modesty. Do.